I don't know what to do anymore, my story is quite confused and I have no one to share it with. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 5 months. Half a year ago he asked us to have a child and I was very happy, we started trying and 3 and a half months ago I got pregnant. Until now, neither I knew theirs, nor he mine, I told my mother (I live at home) and he told theirs. I want to clarify that I am 22 and he is 28. They were well received by them, but we still do not live together. He doesn't tell me, he insulted me when he's crying, he's never by my side, he walks around with his friends (obviously he prefers them to me). He tells me that he loves me, that he would do anything for me and the baby, but I don't feel it. I wonder if it's from hormones or now I'm looking at things from a different angle. Even our money is not common, he doesn't want us to get married and I don't know what's going on. I can't tell my mother, she asks me where we will live, and I told her that after my session I will move in with them. It's too late for an abortion (it's been 12 years), and I don't even want to think about it, but I'm not sure I'll manage on my own. I am a child of divorced parents and I do not want to doom my child to the same thing. Please give me advice on how to fix things and create a healthy family. Thanks!
1 walterrussell answered
There is no recipe for a healthy family. The fact that you don't have money in common shouldn't bother you either, I've been with my husband for over 20 years and we've never had money in common, mine is mine, and supporting your family is his job. But wandering with friends is disturbing. I can't tell you to try, because it's too late to give you advice, you should have discussed all the details when you decide to get pregnant. But no matter what happens, I hope you are a good mother and everything is fine.