Hello. My problem is the following. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and something, we love and understand each other a lot. As for sex, everything is fine for me, I'm happy, I feel satisfied, but he's obviously not very happy, because I'm not very relaxed, and he likes that. By "this" I do not mean any perversions, but the fact that he wants me to take some initiative in bed, to be the person to approach first, to be complacent in front of him, to mess around in the holes so to call him and so on. To have the behavior of a real slut as they say ... I understand that he obviously likes it and I want to please him so to speak, but it's as if I have some invisible barrier in me that stops me from behaving or acting. in this so to speak attractive dirty way .. How to relax and I do not know .. Please
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Your friend has gone too far with porn and has some strange ideas about what healthy and useful intimacy is. You don't have to mess with the holes - that's his job.
Apparently you are very bored in bed, if you consider this a perversion, I imagine how you will react to real perversions ... Relax, caress your kitten / it is yours, what is disgusting to pet it, etc./ sex, don't stand like a tree ..
Apparently you are the next one I meet, the boys as such, I tell you from experience that this is normal for them. The reason is that after a while, conventional sex gets tired or at least has to diversify a bit with something like that. Another problem is that most don't say all girls only have standard sex and think it's okay for boys and that they satisfy them. Fulfill his wishes, and yours can come true later
With us it is the opposite. He doesn't let me be content with myself and he has no idea what he is doing. After all, we are together because we love each other and in sex I prefer him to satisfy me than to satisfy myself. Why don't you try some poses in which you control and not him? I've taken his strengths this way several times already. Try different poses and so on.
Don't feel obligated. It will be very tuned, and therefore unattractive. Either you come from inside to be a slut with someone, or you don't. Women who learn and learn to be filthy are prostitutes because that's why they get paid. Your relationship in this scheme will not last long - he will want more and more "dirt", and he will start looking around, and you, option A - will be unhappy, you will start blaming yourself and eventually you will you force yourself to be a slut, but you won't like it, and option B - you'll break up with him, remaining an extremely nice and good girl waiting for the prince on a white horse who doesn't care about sluts. Good luck, whatever you decide, and don't underestimate your sexual inconsistencies - they become more visible and unpleasant over time
Hello! A 23-year-old woman who used to have the same problem writes to you. My advice is to relax in front of him, to show him that you want him. Don't be shy, there are no limits to sex. Be relaxed to have fun. When you do, I assure you that you will both be much happier. But a lot depends on the relationship itself, whether there is harmony between you. How old? And how often do you meet? I will be happy if you answer. I hope I helped!
From the author to number 6: I am 24, he is one year older than me. In principle, we saw each other almost every day, but now due to our various work commitments a little less often in a few days. As I said, our relationship is harmonious and we love each other. , we trust each other, etc., at least for now, I trust him, because it is clear to me that he will always cheat on me like any man who does not find what he wants in a relationship and looks for it elsewhere ...
There was a saying that a woman should be: "a housewife in the kitchen, a slut in bed and a lady in society." If it is not one of the things, it always risks being replaced by another with all three qualities available. What to do. Have a drink. Didn't you do it? Now is the time to start. Quite a bit. How exactly - you will have to check. As you are alone. Drink a little (maybe up to 20-30 g of concentrate) and observe yourself. How do you feel, how do you move, what do you think. Do it again yourself to solidify your conclusions. Then with your friend. Your restraints must fall. Then you won't have to drink anymore, I hope. I suppose you won't like my advice, but a woman's initiative is needed! A woman "stump" in bed is a burden for the man.
But at least do you undress while having sex or does something dirty come to you to relax so much? Otherwise this is not learned. You are either sexier or you are not. If you generally like 'messing around' and have various sexual fantasies, but for some reason you are ashamed of yours - it is a strange problem that can be worked on. But if you don't feel any cravings for spicy sex, and you're completely happy with 'a few minutes of shaking and letting off steam', you're obviously very different sexually. Then you may strain to do things you don't enjoy, but it shows anyway. And in the end, even if you stay together, you will seek to satisfy your sexual needs with other women sooner or later. You need to know if you won't have much trouble with this.