Hello, I am 31 years old and I am married to several. We have been trying for a baby for almost 2 years, but apart from the fact that it does not work, a problem constantly appears, which further distances me from the dream of a baby. I have two younger sisters who are not married but live with their friends and have children. My relatives don't understand me and I even get insults for being selfish and obviously I don't want children if I don't have them yet. And my husband and I go to checkups non-stop. Not only that, but all sorts of people put their noses in our things with stupid questions "What are you waiting for", "When are you ???", "Why did you get married and you don't have children", I have the feeling that I live among idiots. However, my main problem is that I am constantly getting sick. It just reinforces one, another comes. I already have thyroid disease, which is difficult to bring to decent levels. I'm treating an allergy now, bacteria and cystitis. I was told at least 2-3 months of treatment, and until recently I was treated differently :( Yesterday I had an appointment for a reproductive clinic (the 3rd we were going to visit), instead I went to a nephrologist :( I feel desperate now, is it just me ?
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I hate such insolent reptiles the most - they can't see beyond their noses and think that once you find a mate, the child automatically falls from the sky. They don't care if you don't have a health / financial problem or just don't want children. I am one of those who do not want to create a generation, I have decided that this is good for me and I consider my comfort the most important, so I do not pay attention to other people's grunts and expectations. I answer rudely, sharply and impudently, they become uncomfortable and do not raise the issue a second time. It's probably a lot harder for you, because you want to, you try, but you don't succeed, and impudence doesn't stop pouring oil on the fire. Such people do not understand explanations, and you are not obliged to give them an account. The more you defend yourself in front of them, the more fiercely they will impose their opinion and claims on your body. If you tell them that you cannot have children, behind your back they will call you barren, inferior and crippled. Fixing such vultures is the direct and rude approach. They need to understand that you are stronger than them and they have no right to jump on your head. You sniff them if you have to, and get on with it, but right now, they're the last thing you need. A child is not made with nerves and rage. They are a tumor that you need to cut to help your personal recovery and the creation of a child. Do it for your own good, for the sake of your marriage, because these problems are certainly reflected, and for the sake of your future child. These people are a poison you don't need now or ever. They look at you as an incubator whose human value is measured in how much you can give birth to. Know that a woman has not been measured by this criterion for a long time. Separately think about what individuals your environment consists of and whether it is worth maintaining a relationship with them. Even my mother, who is from the old and conservative generation, never allowed herself to insult, criticize and ridicule her friends, who for one reason or another failed to start a family. Think very well about this, about your values as a person and what these "relatives" of yours have. Success!