Hello. At the end of June this year, I broke up with my friend, with whom I dated for 1 year. During our relationship, he broke up with me twice, without explaining why ... he just said "we're breaking up". He said he didn't want to commit yet, so he left me. When this happened, I always ran after him and begged him to come together, tried a thousand things and of course I succeeded and we got together. But last time it was different, last time I broke up with him because he didn't pay any attention to me and I just couldn't stand that neglect. And so for 4 months we stopped having any contact, we neither heard nor saw each other. Until October, when everything changed. One day a friend of mine wrote on Facebook that my lover in question had sent her an invitation for friendship and started asking her about me. Then I decided to write to him and find out why I was interested in him again after so long. However, he did not answer me, I tried for days to contact him. He finally responded to my messages. We agreed to go out and talk. A few days passed and we went out.
When he saw me, he just changed, his eyes were shining, he couldn't stand it and he hugged me, told me that he missed me, told me that he still had feelings for me. We spent a great night together. A few days later we went out again, I decided to ask him if there was a girl next to him at the moment because while we were separated I had heard something like that. Then he said he had but ended the relationship with her after we first saw each other, the next day we also went out and he told me that he hadn't actually ended the relationship with her, but he didn't want to hurt me by telling me that there was one and that he was dating me at the same time. I asked him if he was in love with her but he said he wasn't in love and didn't even want to commit to anyone because he felt he wanted to be a little freer. He claimed that he loved me, that I was his favorite girl, his first. love and that he can't forget me. We went out for a few more days, but suddenly he stopped writing. 3 days did not respond to my messages. I thought I had done something wrong and insulted him. One night he decided to answer me and said that he was already engaged to that girl and wanted us not to see each other again. I was devastated. The whole week I spent with him was the best in my life. I thought that in time everything would be fine and we would get back together, simply because we both love each other terribly much. He told me that during this year we were together he hurt me a lot and he doesn't want this to happen again. Then I realized that he didn't want to be with me because of that. Maybe he knows he's capable of hurting me again, and that's why he doesn't want us to get together. Please help me. Give me some advice. This boy loves me but something stops him from reuniting with me. What to do???? I love him terribly.
1 flickhockey answered
Uh, of course he doesn't love you. If he loved you, he wouldn't play with you and he would be with you. Don't you have a little self-esteem? Nothing stops him from being with you, he just doesn't care about you and is a womanizer and a narcissist / sociopath. Like his other beating jester, he will still remember how much he "loves" you. Don't write to him.