I'm Afraid For My Friend ...

   enjoy your relationship, once you understand and love, then everything is fine. you can only rejoice in his ambition, and I can't stand people who just live and wait for one day to pass and another to come. maybe because I am also ambitious, I would enjoy such a man next to me. know that this is not something you can change in it. if someone told me to just stay at home or sit at a desk all my life, collecting 2 columns of numbers, I would explode. and no, the issue is not just about money, although they are an indicator, such people are simply not satisfied with what they have, they are not interested. up to a year at most, each job is exhausted as a source of challenge and they start looking for something new. the person is just like that, or accept it, or look for someone, who goes to work from 9 to 5 for a fixed salary and is happy with life. for me there is no real problem in your relationship - the boy is obviously smart, intelligent, loves you, what more do you want? worrying about whether and how it will change is ridiculous, we all change, you too. there is no way to know what you will be like in 10 years, for example. live now, enjoy life and don't think about it that much :-) F42

   Oh dear, I went this way .. I am 28 years old and I have been married since I was 4. His father is a Russian businessman, the situation there is very complicated ... So, accordingly, it is assumed that the son will be like that, he will judge people by money, he will look for a rich woman .. Yes but no ... He was super decent, we met in Moscow (I studied there). From there we started seeing each other over coffee, at a restaurant and they assumed that things had happened. In the beginning, he told me that he was dealing with his father's companies and would soon head one of them. That meant working until the middle of the night. No housekeeping until 3-4 o'clock. I started to worry because what a connection that is. He comes home at 4 and leaves at 9 in the morning. But one day I sat down and we talked. I explained to him that this is not the way to work and if he wants us to continue the relationship, it is not just like that "here's your money, do what you want". He understood me and from this conversation, things changed completely. He started coming home at a decent time, there was time to go to dinners, vacations, breakfast together, etc. So after 2 years he offered me marriage and we got married. Two years later, our son was born ... And I want to say that I am happier than ever. I can't say that we are a normal family living in common, but we are a completely normal family. I have time to take care of my child, and we don't have to burden my parents or his parents. We come to Bulgaria every summer, Christmas ... It doesn't matter that we celebrate two Christmases (because the Russian one is on January 7). I want to tell you that you shouldn't worry at all. It's a little difficult at first, but then when you have a child or marriage, things are better. Don't think badly, if you leave the boy, another will take him. Because what you describe is a perfect life. You clearly want a simpler way of life, but in these times, in Bulgaria it is pure suicide :) Good luck, darling ...!

   My husband is similar. Workaholic, ambitious. Sometimes it is difficult to live with him - he works late, more nervous / communicates with many people /, but this is the price of success. I am happy, he cares a lot about our family, our children are in nice private schools. I am always by his side, supporting him and helping him / my specialty is such that I take part of his work /. Why is someone a mold to you - to work for a salary, to pay off a lifelong loan for a miserable home, to be almost unable to stick your nose out and to be forever dependent on someone else, especially an employer. I think you're very lucky with this boy, if he's really decent.

   Look, whoever tells you anything, you will have to decide in the end whether you want this person or not. It's not bad to be ambitious, I also consider myself ambitious, but I'm not materialistic. Yes, I work a lot and make good money, but they are not leading for me, at least not anymore. I say already because I come from a poor family and I had to work hard until I got here. At first I really wanted to make money, but then I more or less needed it. I personally don't like material people, I'm just suffocated by someone constantly talking to me about money, about buying this or that. I had a friend like this for a while and I know what she is. She was also from a wealthy family, she had everything, but she never stopped wanting more and more. If your friend really loves money and, as you say, has no conscience towards people who are not close to him, that is not good. For me, you have correctly oriented yourself to the normal way of life, without unnecessary luxury. A lot of money definitely does not bring happiness.

   I'm also ambitious and I don't like to leave things unfinished. Years ago I sold the counterfeit for original goods on the foreign market. The markups were from 1000% upwards. I quickly raised money and opened a store. He is currently trying to enter another type of business. There is a lot of tension. Now I understand my wife who at least 5 times a month tells me she has no cheekbones. We just needed to talk about it. Advice to all in similar situations. Talk about it.

   I'm also ambitious and I don't like to leave things unfinished. Years ago I sold the counterfeit for original goods on the foreign market. The markups were from 1000% upwards. I quickly raised money and opened a store. He is currently trying to enter another type of business. There is a lot of tension. Now I understand my wife who at least 5 times a month tells me she has no cheekbones. We just needed to talk about it. Advice to all in similar situations. Talk about it.

   Number 3, I see how smart you are! The ones you call molders are actually people who also work and earn their salaries honestly! Are you the richest people? People have to work everywhere for the state to move! We are not thought of by the common people and we rejoice, love and laugh, as well as cry sometimes, but no matter how much we have, we support each other and move forward! And you, dear girl, rejoice in your friend, because there is nothing better than being loved, and with no one you will have no guarantees how you will live in the future! Go forward, love and be loved and I hope you respect us - the people!

   Nobody can tell you how things will change ... I would share my personal experience and you make whatever conclusions you want, I will not give you advice. I'm a little older than you and I'm from a family with opportunities. We also have a lot of friendly families who are like us, so I have an observation of how money changes people. What happened to my family in two sentences. Years ago, when "democracy" began, my father started a business (before that we were with the capabilities of almost all normal people) so what happened, with each passing year my father's business grew more and more and it is known, more money is spent, bought more things, then come the houses and cars ... And so we all thought that he would always remain the same normal person ... yes but no ... The last 1-2 years we all understood him ... this was no longer the same person even 10-15 years ago. At the moment I'm so disgusted with him that I don't even want to look at him, and we used to talk about how I would take over the business. To date, I'm glad that I decided to start working like all normal people, and not like my boss's slimy son, who I don't know what's going on, but it doesn't seem like much for this job, anyway. in my opinion, it is that money changes and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! At the moment I'm so disgusted with him that I don't even want to look at him, and we used to talk about how I would take over the business. To date, I'm glad that I decided to start working like all normal people, and not like my boss's slimy son, who I don't know what it's about, but it doesn't seem like much for this job, anyway. in my opinion, it is that money changes and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! At the moment I'm so disgusted with him that I don't even want to look at him, and we used to talk about how I would take over the business. To date, I'm glad that I decided to start working like all normal people, and not like my boss's slimy son, who I don't know what's going on, but it doesn't seem like much for this job, anyway. in my opinion, it is that money changes and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! that I decided to start working like all normal people, and not like my boss's slimy son, who I don't know what's going on, but it doesn't seem like much for this job, anyway. The conclusion, in my opinion, is that money change and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! that I decided to start working like all normal people, not like my boss's slimy son, who I don't know what's going on, but it doesn't seem like much for this job, anyway. The conclusion, in my opinion, is that money change and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! is that money changes and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck! is that money changes and unfortunately only for the worse (or in most cases) and I personally have not seen happy wealthy people so far. Everyone I know with money is unhappy and most with broken families. I hope this doesn't happen to you, as you generally do. And don't forget that the man can be the head, but the woman is the neck and wherever she turns, so is the head - the man ... Good luck!

   But didn't you understand that the author is not worried about coming from a rich family and that he is ambitious, but that he is mercantile and able to fuck other people for his own benefit? Which, on the other hand, can lead to other problems ... at least that's what I learned from her post. I'm a pass and I don't know what advice to give you. My father also has his own business, quite well developed, he has achieved a lot, what we asked his two wives we have - a beautiful and large apartment, a beautiful villa, a nice car, and for me an expensive and prestigious education, but what I have seen and am learned from him - everything is achieved with a lot of work! Indeed, I have never seen my father come home after work and sit with the Shopska salad and brandy in front of the TV - he comes, eats and continues to work for the next day. And he is honest ... as I said about him, everything is work and he does not tolerate injustice, he does not tolerate people who use their relationships or influence simply to get maximum benefits. He is also very smart and alert, he managed to condemn several huge companies that took advantage of his various connections there. As long as I've praised my father, he's alive and well, but I don't know about your man ... maybe you should talk to him, question him, explain your fears to him ... talk to him more deeply on these topics without interfering with your families, just ... a little more philosophical conversation :) Good luck!

   In my opinion, you are afraid that he is better than you, that he is ambitious and succeeds, while obviously you are not one of these people. Maybe you're afraid that one day he'll just get tired of being with a girl whose ambitions are too small or just not there. That he will think that he does not want to be with an ordinary girl who dreams of starting a family and living peacefully, he obviously wants much more than life, he wants everything, I understand him, I am like that, I always chase the maximum, I always want more a lot because I know I can. And I'm not telling you that he's one of the richest, and you're not or anything like that. As you say, he never teases you about these things or flaunts them or is proud of them. He obviously wants to succeed on his own, not to use his parents' money. Because many times this is exactly what happens to all these ankle and rich children. They have no ambitions for anything, they do not need to know or learn anything, because they know that their parents have money and support them, but they do not realize that at some point their parents will no longer be with them and even if they leave the business or whatever they do, they just won't have the knowledge and skills to support it. That is why I respect such ambitious, capable and knowledgeable people who know what they want and how to achieve it. So you can only rejoice in your friend's success and only you are expected to support him and have at least a little of his ambition, not to envy him for the fact that he can, that he wants and most importantly, that he succeeds . that at some point their parents will no longer be with them and even if they leave their business or whatever they do, they simply will not have the knowledge and skills to maintain it. That is why I respect such ambitious, capable and knowledgeable people who know what they want and how to achieve it. So you can only rejoice in your friend's success and only you are expected to support him and have at least a little of his ambition, not to envy him for being able, wanting and most importantly, succeeding . that at some point their parents will no longer be with them and even if they leave their business or whatever they do, they simply will not have the knowledge and skills to maintain it. That is why I respect such ambitious, capable and knowledgeable people who know what they want and how to achieve it. So you can only rejoice in your friend's success and only you are expected to support him and have at least a little of his ambition, not to envy him for the fact that he can, that he wants and most importantly, that he succeeds .

   Really no one can predict your future with him, but ... I would be careful in your place. I have unpleasant memories of my father's ambition - earning money led to inhuman self-esteem, arrogance even in his own family, and alienation from the "common people", and staying up late and meeting different people in the middle of the night led to a mistress and so on. divorce, despite the wife's several-month-old baby. You know that the thrill goes away, and with it many other things can go away, including good behavior and respect for you. If he is able to fuck almost everyone, don't let him fuck you if you get tired of him .... Besides, money and positions offer much more temptations, as well as many more "brains" or "advisors" who "very much they care " for the person with the money and according to many of them you will be inappropriate or a user. However, it depends on the person - on his genetic character, "innate" conscience and tolerance. I hope you came across your man. My advice, however, is not to rush with weddings and children. Success!

   From the Author: 1. I do not envy him, I sincerely rejoice in his success, I also struggle, although I am not as successful as him - we accept that we are one, and what he won - we win, I pulled away from it in the beginning, but he insists, he wants us to be a kind of family, even though our money is not entirely common. 2. I'm really worried, he doesn't bother to fuck someone who is not close to him for his own benefit - where there was a story - don't trust a lawyer - I see where he comes from ... well, I'm not on the wrong side. 3. I know that there is no way to predict what will happen to this man in 10 years, my question is how the wives of richer men feel, amidst all this malice from others, etc., etc. - you know what I mean, and I also ask, do these people smell? After 45 years - clear, smell, but at least a little? Is it so important for men to have "power", to know who the people are, to hear their name that they are very capable, etc., because mine is mainly looking for and striving for Chinese garbage for today for tomorrow, as much as some money comes in, mainly looking for a name? !! Did he know the name in the city that he could? I notice this among his colleagues at the university, all of them from the Faculty of Law consider themselves almost anointed by God, they always want their name to be known, and that they can do this and that, as they are a mafia ... This is also my concern, I have read stories here in which the men after the wedding are struck by a radical change from good to bad ... Chinese junk for from today to tomorrow, how much to enter any money, mainly looking for a name? !! Did he know the name in the city that he could? I notice this among his colleagues at the university, all of them from the Faculty of Law consider themselves almost anointed by God, they always want their name to be known, and that they can do this and that, as they are a mafia ... This is also my concern, I have read stories here in which the men after the wedding are struck by a radical change from good to bad ... Chinese junk for from today to tomorrow, enough to enter any money, mainly looking for a name? !! Did he know the name in the city that he could? I notice this among his colleagues at the university, all of them from the Faculty of Law consider themselves almost anointed by God, they always want their name to be known, and that they can do this and that, as they are a mafia ... This is also my concern, I have read stories here in which the men after the wedding are struck by a radical change from good to bad ...

   No one can say what will happen to him in the future and how he will develop as a character. It is a little disturbing that he is deprived of conscience towards other people and willingly fucks others as long as he is well ... It is not known in the future how this will affect your relationship. Only time will tell. However, you can talk to him and tell him what worries you. It is unknown at this time what he will do after leaving the post. One thing is for sure, however - with a man who is ambitious financially you will be fine and you will not have to take care of your livelihood. As he wants to be independent, I hope he does not allow interference in his family by his parents. They may look down on you and you and your family are not up to par, for example.

   I do not understand you. The man just doesn't want to be poor and is dependent on a boss. All this is yours and for him you are more important than these things.

   If you've been in a family that has worked all their lives for their money, through a standard job, it's normal to feel that way. The trader is never honest, especially for the end user. Some time ago I was selling my work left and right, but I soon realized that this was not the way, because it didn't cost me much. I specialized, read books, became a programmer. The salary was three times, the work was twice less. I went abroad. After a while I started working in a different way, I met the right people (other professionals in the field, people who know how, when and where to make money). It took me a while, but I reached a satisfactory level, even though there is room to grow. For a month I earned as much as some friends, with prestigious professions (bankers, doctors, but at the beginning of their careers), earned for almost a year. But even then, I didn't get the satisfaction I was looking for in life. Then I started selling smarter. Now I earn as much as my mother and father earned for years, only for a few months, and I come from a family that was "wealthy". When I look back, I can't help but feel weird that my first real job paid me only 650 leva for a month, and now these are out of pocket. It seems to some people that I am cheating and lying, but the truth is that I was just lucky to have the right talents and to develop the right skills, to meet the right people. I had a girlfriend from a normal family, and when I took her to a restaurant where the 3rd course menu is 200 leva (abroad), she thought I was a mobster and almost a thief. It also took me a long time to accept the fact that I had just arranged things that way. She has a good profession (finance and management), but decided that she wants to be in Bulgaria and that a salary of BGN 1,000 is a good start. After a while, she just accepted the fact that I make more and that I do all this for myself and after we met for her. I want it to have the best that can be taken with money, to make sure that even if everything fails, we will have enough money, to continue to lead a comfortable life without killing ourselves from work, and to be able to let's start over. I just refuse to live on credit, to be trampled by a fat boss who has read two books in addition to what he needs to become a department head who will ask me if I felt worthy of my salary and if I worked hard enough. hard to throw me the crumbs of the bread I baked for him. What he's doing is for you two, if you don't appreciate him, let him move in his own way. So you will both be free to seek your happiness.

   I understand your worries. You have the right to worry, these types of people are painfully familiar to me. If this person is not scrupulous and does not hesitate to fuck someone, it is very likely that in the future he will start fucking his loved ones. Judging by my observations, I can definitely say that such people rarely have a happy and long-lasting marriage for the simple reason that they are used to everyone playing their whistle, they are powerful, they are despots. If he loves you now and gives you freedom, then in time if you feel under a slipper and you are not happy with it, you will have problems and you will see how another person will stand in front of you, especially since this thirst for power intensifies over time and is also transferred to the family. And God forbid, something should go in your marriage in a direction he does not want, then life can make your life miserable. And if you persevere and come to terms with being a woman under a slipper and carrying out your orders, then I don't know how satisfied you will be at all, and he will have you for nothing, you will not have the right to vote, if he cheats on you, you must be you endure (and such people almost always cheat, because for them it is adrenaline and a sign of courage), everything will be teased and believe me, material security can come out through ... not to mention where, because every lev you get he will tease you if he is such a materialist. I say all this because I have observations of several such families and these are my conclusions in general. I think try to change it from now on, talk to him, because it will be harder in the future. BUT such people are hard to change. I personally would not deal with such a man - yes, I may be secured (although I am not convinced that it will be), but overall my life will be hell and not worth it at all, judging by some girlfriends. Because now these girlfriends are either divorced or super resigned, they last, they don't dare to say a word, because they have nowhere to go, nor will they be able to have the same standard, and also because of the children. However, they are accustomed to a standard, and over the years they have become accustomed to it and are not given the opportunity to develop in order to be able to support themselves.

   And what happened? Come on, did you get married?