Hello. I would very much like to consult the experience of thousands of users on this great site. In general, I have always considered myself earthy and sober. I look at every situation sensibly and try to accept it philosophically. But here I am at the age of 29, and I still feel the biggest loneliness. I have a relationship that should be serious. But again, he is not the person I would like to start a family with. And I'm so scared to be alone again. I had never felt this way before and it was unfamiliar to me. Until now, as something did not work in my relations, one of the two parties terminated them and I continued to move forward. I have not fallen into extreme dramas. Before I started my current relationship, I was alone for a long time. Where by choice, where because I did not meet anyone. I have self-confidence, I have an interest in the opposite sex, but I never wanted to commit to anyone at any cost .... if only I wasn't alone. Don't get me wrong, I don't have any unrealistic or super criteria. And now I do not end my current relationship precisely for fear that years will pass again and I will be in this "hole" again like some prostitute alone. How do I know when I will meet a person again, how do I know if we will not be disappointed with him ...
Before, when I was younger, I imagined life without starting a family. I even looked at my bound friends a little ironically. But now I'm afraid of being alone again. I want to get out of this depression and be the old cheerful girl, to have self-confidence and self-confidence again. I no longer know if I have to come to terms with my current relationship, with the fact that I'm not happy ... To look at the positive sides ... I read here how many people tolerate situations that do not satisfy them and I begin to wonder if this is not right. I am the age I want to be, to have peace and a stable person next to me, to create a home, to have a child. To be loved and I to love.
Well, I have no peace of mind, I don't know if we will ever create our own home with the person next to me, because he is too attached to his mother and mother's home ... Dear people, do we have to make such big compromises with ourselves and our understandings? Should we be so humble and bow our heads so often, or should I continue boldly and seek my happiness, at least close to what I imagine? to have a child. To be loved and I to love. Well, I have no peace of mind, I don't know if we will ever create our own home with the person next to me, because he is too attached to his mother and mother's home ...
Dear people, do we have to make such big compromises with ourselves and our understandings? Should we be so humble and bow our heads so often, or should I continue boldly and seek my happiness, at least close to what I imagine? to have a child. To be loved and I to love. Well, I have no peace of mind, I don't know if we will ever create our own home with the person next to me, because he is too attached to his mother and mother's home ... Dear people, do we have to make such big compromises with ourselves and our understandings? Should we be so humble and bow our heads so often, or should I continue boldly and seek my happiness, at least close to what I imagine?
1 dominaholliewoods answered
No! When you give up something that does not satisfy you completely, something else that is better comes. But you have to be categorical. I don't like it, I want something better and that's it. Without sitting and being afraid, you have to throw yourself deep and look for what makes you truly happy. Imagine that you start a family with this person and you are unhappy all your life, and at the same time after 2 years you are destined to meet your true love. What do you think is the worst option - a lifetime in an unhappy relationship for fear of being left alone, or to wait a few years until you meet a person with whom you will then be happy. It is not right to put up with bad situations for fear or disbelief that something better will happen to you. Decide emphatically that you will not put up with crumbs, clarify exactly what you want and act to get it. There was a saying - " How strange is life when we refuse to be satisfied with less, we are given exactly what we want. "I was convinced by experience that when I refused to put up with crumbs, and I preferred to be without anything but compromise, the things I wanted happened to me.