I'm 21 And He's 30. I Think He's Lying To Me.

The Story

Hello! I am a 21 year old girl and my story is as follows. I haven't been engaged for 2 years, and since my relationship was very toxic at the time and I decided to give myself some time to recover, I maintain a friendly relationship with the boys, without intimacy. I am focused on my student life, my professional realization and I spend time on my hobbies, and also the superficial relationships make me nervous. In the past year, men aged 30-40 wrote to me on Facebook - some were family-oriented, others were looking for an intimate partner or just a joke. They made proposals for meetings that did not materialize because I had no interest and refused. I often ask myself the question "why" - why does a man not mind having a relationship with a girl (or as some will say - 20-year-old girls are not " TV series, music, our dreams, we share ideas, we like to spend our free time equally; for topics such as health, family, children, education we have the same or complementary opinions. I can't ignore the fact that we live in a city, we haven't met yet, and it will soon be 6 months since we wrote to each other. That's half a year. To be more precise, he actually offered to meet - in a month. And in a month - it will be half a year. I admit that I did not expect it, because usually the meetings happen earlier. I could not take the initiative precisely because of the communication problem I felt. At first it managed to attract my attention, but at one point I began to hesitate and doubt it, and I really wanted to get to know it more ... Now I have an interest, perhaps in affection, in the fact that I managed to write with him, even on days when we just exchange a few remarks, but I don't want to be fooled and invest in vague relationships. I didn't ask him why he was offering this after so long, but I asked him why he wanted to see me in a month, not sooner. He told me that he wanted to meet earlier, but he was busy with work, after he finished his main commitments he would be able to take time for me, and he also wanted to prepare mentally - whatever that means. Besides, he knows which university I study at and I know that he went there ... According to him, he is not engaged, married or divorced. He wants to have a family and a good partner by his side. He presents himself as a sincere and responsible person, trust is important to him, etc. He knows that I have some doubts, but according to him I have nothing to worry about. I need to share because I feel confused, with conflicting feelings and I can't handle the situation. I would be happy if I could build a serious relationship, but it would hardly happen. Only my closest friends know about this man, who assume that there is another girl or woman. I beg for your opinion and advice! Thanks!

Last Updated
November 09, 2020
Author:
ohiohotwife11

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