I will never be the girl with the perfect nails, hair, skin, clothes, body. I take care of myself, I use expensive cosmetics, I buy nice clothes, I give so much money for my hair - to no avail. What's wrong with me My nails are breaking, my hair is not healthy. It's not about eating - I eat well, more than well, I exercise. There are girls my age who wash their hair with regular shampoo, wash their faces with soap and look perfect without pimples, smooth, healthy hair. But I have something, I don't understand .. (I'm 17 years old) .. I had a friend a year ago - he dumped me because of a model, I don't even know how he went with me, he was nice, and I'm ... I wear braces .. And and this hair - puffy, curly .. I'm definitely not one of the liked girls, yes the fact is I don't know how many pimples - but I still have (as I said I take a lot of care of my skin, it doesn't make sense to have pimples). Not only am I not pretty, but I'm pretty crazy, peculiar, I'm weird. I study a lot, and this is definitely not relevant and liked at the moment. I look at the girls with my boyfriends my age and I think "what's wrong with me?", "Why don't they like me?" ... When I put on make-up to hide my imperfections, but I look even more bad, I don't feel comfortable with make-up, I don't think young girls should wear make-up. The fact that I'm not one of the girls I like blows me away a lot. And it's not just because of my appearance. I'm not cocky, I'm crazy. with my mother, she told me that in time my hormones will balance, I will stop having pimples, it reassures me that once I am purposeful and study, it will pay off, I know it is, but ... How to deal with low self-esteem and the fact that everyone is making fun of me?
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Darling, the first thing I will tell you is that I also have curly hair and all my boyfriends adored it! You can use expensive cosmetics, but if it is not natural / organic it will not have much effect on your skin and hair, it may even be the opposite, you need to pay attention to what you put in and on your body.
Very unpleasant situation. I was arrogant at school, so I couldn't stand ridicule, but I was fat. I think your mother is right. As you grow older, you are unlikely to change. That's what happened to me. I lost weight and beautified myself. There was no sign of the fat girl at school. Now that my old classmates see me and can't recognize me. You can straighten your hair with a straightener (for curling or straightening) Almost all women do it every day. And the pimples are probably teenage and will soon be gone. You are right that putting on a mask is not a solution. Have a little patience and I'm sure you'll be fine. F26
I'm exactly the same as you! Expensive cosmetics, creams, shampoos, masks, conditioners, sports and in the end what? !! - Nothing! My hair doesn't want to grow, the pimples are on my face, I feel like garbage, but in the end I resigned myself to being alone while all the girls around me are liked and happy. I've been taking so much care of myself for years, and my rotten body never manages to "think" about it. Otherwise, if I stop worrying - it becomes hell! Anyway, I'll try to help you as much as I can. For pimples, I recommend you go to a dermatologist. Mandatory. Otherwise, it will not get better. You can also try to find a good beautician who cleans the face with real organic oils. I visited such a beautician several times and my skin changed a lot. For your hair I will recommend an unconventional but effective method - Indian henna powder. I use Eagles. It nourishes a lot, but it takes time. My hair was very oily and after a few henna normalized. It should have a similar effect on dry hair, if not - at least you will have healthy hair. I recommend Bulgarian shampoos and hair masks, and before you put shampoo in your hair, dissolve it in another tube, because this will reduce its strong effect. I have heard good reviews about the Argan Rain shampoo, but I don't think it is available in Bulgaria. I read about amla shampoo, shikakai and soap nuts. I plan to do it soon, but be careful, because one of the ingredients dries my hair. There are recipes for cooking on YouTube. Visit a hairdresser regularly to pluck your tips. Raise your self-esteem because it doesn't make sense to be low. At the moment in which they mock them, scold them with a sharp remark, gnash their teeth or just insult them. It sounds extreme, but I know from personal experience that there is no other way. Watch them and you will see that each of them has a weak spot and when they insult you, attack there. Otherwise, continue with sports and good nutrition! And knowing that having curly hair is nice. It is exotic and you have a natural volume. My straight hair misses these things. Black Sabbath
Honey, your mother is right. You are still old enough to grow up. Not everything shiny is wonderful, be yourself and most of all strive to get rich and develop. You will find a standing style and you will blossom. There are people to whom the gene has simply played a good role, but this should not oppress you. I'm sure you have traits both visually and in character that make you great.
Your problem is not in appearance and you seem to know it. From your post, it looks like you hate yourself. If they make fun of you, it's because they see that you care. There is no recipe against this, I would say that time heals best, but you just have to learn to see the good things in yourself. Stop comparing and criticizing. Even the girls you envy so much have things in them that they don't like. The reason you don't have a boyfriend is because you don't like yourself and that's felt. Not your appearance and character. When you accept yourself, things will get better. Just stop looking at others, set goals, find things worth working for. Concentrate on yourself.
so e-your mother is right :)
I'm the same .. It's terribly difficult. For my advice, try my technique, I don't guarantee that it helps 100%, but at least it helped me a LITTLE, still better than before. 1. I started yoga for mental balance 2. I emphasized my good features, I try to ignore the shortcomings because everyone has them, but we are obsessed with our own and really not everyone sees them 3. Wear comfortable clothes 4. Buy a guide for teenagers ", unique development internally completely change your point of view over things 5. Never compare yourself to others * advice that I myself can not follow yet *
Visit a dermatologist regularly. I also have very problematic skin, so a visit to a dermatologist is a must if you want to keep your skin clean and hydrated. Ordinary masks and gels at home will not help you. I have given money for expensive cosmetics and I can confirm that cleaning with a dermatologist is a hundred times better solution and investment than cosmetics, from which there is no particularly visible result. So .. Here is your first step - a regular visit to a dermatologist; Second - light makeup that suits you and emphasizes the beautiful features of your face; Third - make yourself a gift - buy a new straightener to straighten your hair for a long time, since your curly hair bothers you so much. And fourth - start liking yourself.
Здравей :) Докато четях историята ти... разбрах само едно, че ти се самосъжаляваш, твърде фокусирана си върху негативите в себе си... Трябва да знаеш, че всеки е красив по свой собствен начин, грозни хора няма, всеки има своя чар. Не се сравнявай с, другите, не се опитвай да приличаш на някого! Бъди себе си изцяло, без притеснения и колебания, обичай се такава, каквато си и един ден ще дойде човекът, който също ще те обикне! Относоно характера, може би тези черти са породени от ниското ти самочувствие и са един вид като защита, опитай се да првмахнеш това, вярвай в себе си, само фактът, че си съзнателна и учиш, трябва да те кара да се гордееш със себе си, защото живеем в общество, в такъв период, в който ученето е последната опция! Продължавай да учиш, прави го за себе си, не за другите. А за гримът, може би ти се струва, че не ти стои добре, защото не си свикнала да се гледаш с грим, но... можеш да го избегнеш, несъвършенствата не винаги трябва да се прикриват, в това ти е чара! Надявам се да съм помогнала! Бъди себе си! Вярвай в себе си! Обичай себе си и спри да се комплексираш и самосъжаляваш! Успех! :))
Hello :) While reading your story ... I realized only one thing that you feel sorry for yourself, you are too focused on the negatives in yourself ... You should know that everyone is beautiful in their own way, there are no ugly people, everyone has their own charm. Don't compare yourself to others, don't try to look like someone! Be yourself completely, without worries and hesitations, love yourself as you are and one day the person who will also love you will come! Regarding the character, maybe these traits are caused by your low self-esteem and are a kind of protection, try to remove this, believe in yourself, only the fact that you are conscious and learning should make you proud of yourself. because we live in a society at a time when learning is the last option! Keep learning, do it for yourself, not for others. And for makeup, you may not feel good, because you are not used to looking at yourself with make-up, but ... you can avoid it, imperfections don't always have to be hidden, that's your charm! I hope I was helpful! Be yourself! Believe in yourself! Love yourself and stop being complex and self-pitying! Success! :))
Let me tell you about the pimples that you describe, which are quite likely to be from food. I also have this problem and it turned out that milk (lactose), sugar and nuts provoke some type of acne ... I definitely have an improvement after washing them. Think about it. Food is the basis of many things that we do not even think about;) success
Think carefully about the following: You don't have to be one that everyone enjoys. You are interested in those who like people like you. The women who are most popular are because the "masses" like them. Mediators like naughty lustrous and brainless young women. Mediators are the majority, so being one of the most liked means being liked by them. In high school, it is this mediocrity that takes over. Believe me, it's not like that in real life. This is largely the case, but not so much. And the difference is significant. Almost everyone who did not fit into the simplicity and simplicity of high school life finds a great environment at the university and feels great. Be such that you like quality, not most. Be yourself, but without going to the other extreme - to accept the expression "be yourself" as an excuse not to improve. Always try to become a better person. But it is a better person, not one in which more batki run the leagues. Be kind, smiling and cheerful and those who matter will like you.