Well, my story is completely plausible, even though there are elements of drama/novel, there are unfortunately things going on in life, and there are people who can only love themselves. I'm a 26-year-old man. I was introduced to the woman in question by her brother, who is a close friend of mine. He's a year older than her, I'm a year younger, if it matters. When we met, she was in the hospital after a car accident her ex had done after a drunken driving. It wasn't enough that he was guilty, he had only got rid of a broken arm and something smaller, she had two broken heels and was disabled straight, and he had cut her off after seeing the situation because he was almost fine and "had needs", and it would take her a long time. She had become a bone-like skeleton, I had seen pictures before and she was a very beautiful woman. I didn't want to bother her, but her brother insisted that at that point she needed support, and I was studying psychology and I could help her. We bonded when I'd seen her worst moments - how she didn't want to eat, her hysteria and outbursts against the family, another superficially thinking man would turn her head or look with regret. But I saw some sad blue eyes full of pain. And I fell in love with them. I was there for her as a friend when a lot of people left her, I was by her side when she walked, and that was the first time I saw the joy in her eyes. By the time he recovered fully, it would take six months, then until he regained his previous form. I did not hide that I was in love with her, she also responded to my feelings, not exactly with love, but with mutual liking. He told me he didn't know if he'd love him again because he loved him so much, and he betrayed her. That it's not like other women to forgive every pain and believe as a blind man in love that once she fell out and went. Eventually, he decided to "try," move on with a new relationship. A year and a half later (September) our problems began. We've already lived together, and she hid from me that she had added it to her ex on social media, and I didn't feel very comfortable finding out. I'm not the kind of guy who makes trouble for this kind of thing, but what's wrong with that kind of? If only he was another ex, he was a part of her life, ok. On top of that, she had added it, not him. I never checked her phone, but she never hid it, and that's when it started. Accordingly, I started checking, too. I didn't have secrets. And of course, I read their conversation, which she had started - how are you, who are you. That kind of thing. And that's what I swallowed, but we had brutal tremors, and she swore to me that she chose me because he betrayed her and I didn't. And I was there for her when he left her. And that's what I forgave. I loved her very much and I still love her and does a man really love being blind to mistakes. We were together as a family. Hers likes me, her brother and I are very close, as I mentioned, unlike the one they hate. And January what to hear, doubting my feelings, our relationship was forced, and I kind of was an outlet (she didn't say it, but I figured it out). She broke up with me, and I was so humiliated. And I would have forgiven her. I largely made a woman from her, and all the people who supported her, and she hurt me. I didn't blackmail her before she was with me, I was patient, and she decided it herself. Now I find out he's going out in a mutual friend company with his ex, maybe they'il sleep together, and it's only a matter of time before they get together. I can't describe my pain. For a few days I was banging, crying, screaming, now I'm like pop for a month. Her brother and I are in the same relationship, he can't believe what she did and doesn't talk to her either. I don't have a problem with him, he's like my brother. But by force, beauty doesn't work. And the irony is, I'll forgive her if she comes back and I don't want her to hurt, I love her very much. I'm a jerk, yes, but love doesn't ask. My question is, why can a man do what she does? What's that guy doing? It's not financial, because she's not that kind of person, she's got money. Outwardly, it's a little nicer, but only in my opinion at least. In sex, I've never been selfish, and in life, obviously even less so. How can you love someone who betrayed you and betray the person who loves you? I gave everything to her. What kind of masochists are we both? Please post and give me some advice, because I'm going to freak out. I think I'm going to need a psychologist soon.
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jehfromnc answered · June 11, 2020
It's horror. I'm so sorry. I think you should break her legs now to leave her ex again, but this time you left her too. Let them grieve again her blue eyes.
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kathleencruz_ answered · June 11, 2020
The ex acted like a tomboy - don't you get it? He dumps her because he can't let go and goes hunting for someone else. And you acted like a subject because you didn't seem to have a choice. It's very clear he's going to pick the man again. One understands, they move their instincts, for them the word betrayal does not exist. Only in your eyes is the ex a traitor. In hers, she's a hunter and a better father for her children.
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_sexy_hot_couple_ answered · June 11, 2020
In a relationship, it's not enough just one to love. I think she tried and retaliated against your feelings just because you helped her so much. But those feelings have never been as strong as they were to this ex. Forget it, you'il find another one. It's still fresh now, but when it's time, you won't want her back to you. Just don't look for her anymore and forget her.
Separately, she broke up with you first, like normal people. My guy was going out on a date with another boy behind my back, and the next day she told me that "things are not going well between us." There are worse cases, author.
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thenshedid answered · June 11, 2020
Look, in this life, nobody owes anybody anything.
You were by her side. Super. It's your decision, and you were there of your own free will, weren't you? You gave her a lot when she needed it. This is not a use.
If he doesn't love you, what do you want him to do? To come back to you and magically love you?
Maybe she was fooled by the fact that you offered her something that the ex wasn't, namely security and the ability to read, but if she loved him... well, if you say you're blind and forgive everything, then you should know very accurately that if she loved him in the same way, she would also forgive everything, even that betrayal.
Now I'm going to tell you something, I don't know if you're going to see it, but a lot of people like you who are good at their core need to hear it.
"Life doesn't have to fight you back with good just because you're doing good"
Extract the benefits, for yourself, from the whole relationship and move on. Our life paths are not always a pleasant walk in the park.
It's Bratan.
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emilifox answered · June 11, 2020
She's been honest with you, you better not live a lie. You were used by the brother, too. If I were you, I'd cut off contact with him and her, and I'm moving on with my life.
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ben22aus answered · June 11, 2020
Well, that's exactly what it was like, as she told you: you were also an "outlet"...
It is normal that a person in distress - crushed and motionless in hospital - needs closeness. It's normal for him to accept yours after you've proposed it. And yes, it's normal for him to go back to the ex when you're no longer needed.
Mind your life, the best remedy against suffering from a broken relationship is a new relationship. Get a girlfriend, enjoy it, and forget this one. and the ex who crushed her is probably going to ruin her again anyway.
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chaikitty answered · June 12, 2020
Now don't start writing again that the subject is fake.
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11inchesbigass answered · June 12, 2020
You're a good man, bro, keep going! As hard as it is, don't go back. Once it happened, it doesn't make sense. Maybe as a person, she's not a bad person, but she just held on to you like a straw drowner. I don't justify it at all, even the other way around. Somebody's going to appreciate you!
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roiahamidi answered · June 12, 2020
Love is not given by mercy and gratitude. Yes, you're the sensible choice, yes, she's going to break her head with the traitor, but that's her choice. Let him make his mistakes. It's important for you to learn a lesson - don't give a chance to a relationship you only love.
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amanda_colin answered · June 13, 2020
Love must be unconditional. When you give, you don't have to do it because you have to or to tie it to you for life. If you're just giving to get, it's not love. It's love to give and be ready to get nothing in return. Yes, it's disappointing, but... that's love.
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charlothe_white answered · June 13, 2020
Yes, Bratane, life doesn't have to fight you back with good. I would also add that it does not mean that you should not do good. You just have to do it from the heart and never expect to get anything to come.
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karinalotus answered · June 13, 2020
She must be your wife forever. That's not fair to her. She's been grateful to you, and she'il probably be for the rest of her life, but does that make her obligated to be your wife? Maybe she was with you out of gratitude. Her brother is also wrong to be angry with her when you do good to someone, you should not expect that for the rest of your life you will have some kind of power over that person. This man has his own way, let her go after him.
And what the other guy's superior to you doesn't think at all. There may be chemistry between them and it is not explained by appearance or financial possibilities.
Stop thinking about being there for her because you did it voluntarily.
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musclete answered · June 14, 2020
Dude, mine dumped me after four surgeries and a proven mental disorder from 30 psychiatrists independent of each other. I was there for her during that time, taking care of her, doing everything for her. I've endured all the scandals, the jealousies, the insults of my friends and my parents. As you write yourself, I made her a man and eventually moved out quietly. It's very bad when you've given heart, soul, time for one person and you've dumped everything else, in the end, just a bump and that guy's gone. But I'm sure everything good is coming up and we just had to go through those moments to be more familiar with the life that lies ahead, so that we can live it happily.
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sofi_mora answered · June 14, 2020
Like you said number#1, he walked and broke both legs, fell back to bed and this time she couldn't get up and see if he'd call you.
Women, man, women... Amman! I don't want to tell you what stories I had with them. It's a good thing I met at least one magpie years ago. We split up later, but I can tell she was my greatest love and a true woman of all her qualities. Oh, not like everyone else or the miss in question you're telling. Only beating, rough sex and pain deserves every woman. It is no coincidence that in any religion they are not equal to men and never will be, and that with feminism,
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little__sweetie_ answered · June 15, 2020
You can't be logical and expect life to be a straight relationship-by-effort and necessarily get a good result for yourself. Here, you love her, too, but she doesn't.
You could say you took advantage of her emotionally when she was in a hole-in-one, sick, and abandoned. yes, you've done everything for her, but you're not who that fly is.
You'il love again.
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motanul2018 answered · June 15, 2020
Male comment number 2 what works. What instincts, what masculinity, what father's children, what instincts. Don't do that, you're going to give me up completely.
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stunning_none_touch_beauty answered · June 16, 2020
Author: I don't think I took advantage because many times I asked her if she wanted it. She chose it herself. She told me she wanted a relationship, I left her knowing about my feelings. I'd still be there for her, whether it was mine or not. But this year and a half together she fought back, our relationship wasn't forced. All of a sudden he showed up in her life and she got crazy, I don't know. I understand she doesn't have to love me, but what's the one who took everything from her? If I were her, I'd hate him. I was going to find out for another new guy to leave me.
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x_0 answered · June 16, 2020
I don't know what to tell you... If you love her and she doesn't love you, there's nothing you can do... If she left you for him, she might come back after another disappointment with him, but i don't think it's going to be out of love with you. There are some feelings that are close to love, and some people think they love - these are feelings of gratitude, respect, closeness, kindness and selfishness. In this case, she saw a crutch in you, not an outlet.
But apparently all those feelings didn't lead to her falling in love. I guess she couldn't get over it from the beginning, so she got better quicker so she could be with him sooner. Unfortunately, you've wasted a lot on her.
Girl, 18
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chauddard answered · June 16, 2020
Unfortunately, most women don't know what they want. The man must be stable, serious and hard-working, responsible and generous, and be romantic, good, with a sense of humor and a cavalier. He's a macho tomboy, and he can cut himself for everything. There's no hugo.
Di
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_nyanja answered · June 16, 2020
You know to pain well the types of behavior and investigative relationships of any one, if you're a psychologist. And in that situation, you were just like that. Yes, it hurts, yes, you'il part with a lot of your trust. Yes, giving so much we have no idea that, despite its size, it can go unnoticed. Suffer it your way, gather yourself, and move on. I, as a very young philosopher, will tell you that everything sooner or later comes back, as Kant said, do to others only what you want them to do to you. You did. She will return to you. Probably not from this woman. But because your life makes a mess, and it can put you next time in her place-- don't add it on social media, and don't hide your phone from your next love.
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afanasia answered · June 17, 2020
Keep your dignity and retire, no matter how much you love her. It doesn't work! At least she was honest with you and confessed to you about her feelings and didn't cheat on you behind your back.
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zoebabyhot answered · June 17, 2020
When all your attention is focused on her, not your stuff, she thinks it's all hers and that there's no thrill, it's boring, and the one who doesn't care- he's interesting.
This is usually also a childhood trauma of girls whose fathers did not care for them. I had a very cold father, until 23 years he never told me he loved me. He rarely made gestures to me to show concern.. and for a long time I liked a boy who didn't pay any attention to me and made me crazy.... until I started thinking about why I couldn't get it out of my mind, since I didn't want it for a relationship anymore... After a while, I realized... But it took me years to discover that I actually had a confused idea of love and didn't need to suffer on someone I didn't care about.
There are women who would appreciate you, but look for women who are very good with their fathers.
And she doesn't mean it. She's in her own way. Her ex will show her she was wrong about you.
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ferdinad2020 answered · June 17, 2020
Very sad, really, but she lost, not you. You're a good guy.
My advice is to find a romantic, pure good girl between the ages of 16 and 22. (You can have sex with those from 14 up, according to the law.) Only such a sweet creature can respond to your feelings, and besides, girls at that age are the most beautiful, the purest and the best. Maybe you can find a virgin. Listen to me and you won't regret it. Success.
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babegirlangel answered · June 17, 2020
Yes, you invested in the wrong company... Other times, don't over-re-make yourself and try to diversify your investments.
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watchifuwant88 answered · June 17, 2020
As mean as he did to her, she still loves him because she has put a lot of herself into this relationship, and her "investments" pull her that way.
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sluttifanny2 answered · June 18, 2020
Even if he cheated on her, she'il still accept it, because he's her man, and you, a barber with his love, are kind of a servant... Thus, the woman in the sultan's harem waits her turn while he loves his other wives, for he is her bender.
Leave, three from everywhere - from memory, from face, etc. no contacts, with her brother too! You've lied, don't lie again.
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darlingnikki6969 answered · June 18, 2020
The majority of women, he wrote, are into primates. If he can even be more primitive than themselves, and you're not. You're not attractive and you'il never be.
They can't love. They're interested in them. What they think is love is actually affection. A child's primal affection, in which two selfish people are in a race, who is better. With you, she doesn't have a chance to stand out as better, but he attracts her for that. She wants to be in front of someone and one day tell him she's a book, and he wants to tell her. There's a reason this is happening now. He wants to apply, you know? It doesn't apply to you... She's not good with you. You make her feel bad that she's taking from your attention and help, and she can't give you back with the same thing.
They don't give a about someone like you. You're too strong and too good for them. They're even squeamish about your kindness. Subconsciously, they know they don't deserve you, and they don't even know how to treat people like you. They get scared, that's why when they meet people like that, they kill them on aggression.
When a primary being cannot love(binds) it hates. She must have hated you already, or at least tried to keep her conscience. He's artificially creating a bubble of reasons to hate you. Her mind will even subconsciously turn off all the memories you've helped her. It's a burden she couldn't live with.
In fact, it is with men. It's full of freaks like her ex. That's why everyone gets away with it. The good guys always get caught up in bad guys.
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broganswann answered · June 18, 2020
I've had this kind of thing happen to me, and I admit that I used to really think about you and felt like an idiot. After my last relationship, something changed about me. I realized that I had done everything I felt and thought was right, so I was clean in front of me. No one has ever asked me to give anything, I give my own time, my attention, my love, my care. They were evaluated shortly after the moment they were forgotten. Why should I stand there and feel stupid that someone you're there didn't appreciate me and didn't love me the way I loved it? Why are you doing this? A man either loves you with every part of himself or he doesn't. This woman actually warned you that she wasn't sure she was ready for a relationship. She showed you a big red light, and you should have had one in mind. Not that I'm judging you, I'm no better than you. All I'm saying is that you take a risk in every relationship to stay with a broken heart, but that shouldn't stop you, because you might be pleasantly surprised to experience a fairy tale. Your conscience is clear- you fell in love with a woman and did everything you could to make her feel good. So much of you, there's no need for more. She loved you briefly, and then she passed and asked you to split up. There's no drama. You don't fit in, and you're better off splitting up, because the other option was to stay with you and lie to you that she loves you, that she's in love, that she feels you as a part of herself.
There's no one like that that.
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babygirlsquirrel420 answered · June 18, 2020
Man, there are people who know how to use others, and that's just who he is! There are those who like to be used, and your ex is just like that!
As they said above, the woman's mental state is such that she aspires to be used and thrown away like a handkerchief, and your mistake is that you did not insult, give slaps, did not hard like the last... And you'il know that's true, given what you'd do now if you could? The same thing I listed! But the point is, you can't - you missed... and now you hurt
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naiadi9_8 answered · June 19, 2020
You wanted it to be yours? You had to serve her in the hospital room on a good occasion, and she dreamed of the same thing anyway. Then you dump her," he said. Then she'd look for you, even though you both dumped her, at least you had the humanity to scratch her and take care of her. Here's how the score would have been 2-1 for you. But you're an idealist. in the end, the idealists suck it, and the garbage. Now cut the screw and the whole to the bone and move on boldly.
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al_vi answered · June 19, 2020
Let's try to sum up: a woman loves not when she has received much, much from someone, but when she has given much, much to someone.
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bulgingdick answered · June 19, 2020
Author: I don't think I took advantage because many times I asked her if she was sure, does she want it ...
- You were behaving wrongly. You've been too consulted on her. The man has to be sure of himself. If you doubted her feelings for you so much, how can she be sure? You've obviously instilled doubts on her, are you worthy of her?
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robloveslingerie answered · June 19, 2020
I'm a woman, and I've been in a similar position.
They preferred the other one, much older than me and with a child (not him). But everyone has their head on their shoulders to make judgment and live their lives as they want.
It's hard, it sucks, it's grief, and I know how the world goes down for a moment when you realize you've been used and betrayed... But love is to let the person you love be happy with someone else.
Every subsequent love is stronger than the last one! Don't lose faith!
Me
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peachy_butt answered · June 19, 2020
Listen to number 27 and really find yourself a very young girl. I'm 28, almost 29, and my girlfriend is 18. We've been together for two years, and i just... there is no such pure and strong love elsewhere. Even my parents didn't love me as much as this innocent little girl loved me. I wish every man to meet such a "little" angel with a big heart.
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fieryirishsub answered · June 20, 2020
But there's no guarantee of anything in this life. But to go back to the bastard. And the author, pull yourself together, it's hard, but don't regret it.
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redcutevi answered · June 20, 2020
up to 4
No one owes anyone - and the mother, when she gives birth to the child, doesn't owe him??? He leaves him at the door to take care of himself! And the father doesn't owe his child?
What kind of are you talking about? You're a little kid...
If you're taking responsibility for someone, you owe it to them!
Clearly! She's been in a relationship with him for a long time, and all of a sudden she forgets him and runs like a glam at the scumbag....
You don't need that shit! Unfortunately, there's one of her breed, but they don't feel sorry for them if they're going to cross over their...
Can you imagine that this one doesn't have an ounce of brains in your brain... and you're sitting down to love her! Come on, please...
And upstairs, they wrote you the impossible nonsense about the primacy of a woman's character... Is that "woman" Aboriginal?
If she's so retarded to go to that guy, then you can check on how much it costs...
Look ahead for a few times a smarter, more modern woman - not a woman-dob...
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tomiko_eros_ answered · June 20, 2020
There are many injured and dejected people on this site. I felt sad for you, too, but also for them. We're all bitter about the opposite sex, and I think no one cares about the other anymore. I'm really sorry about you, but like a girl said, you gave what you could. You loved and your conscience is clear, you can love and you shouldn't feel guilty. And she loves, just like you, but the other one. I also know how bad it is that I've been through this. Look, you know about him, she didn't serve it to you afterwards, I don't excuse it. Move on because it doesn't make sense. What do you need a woman who loves someone else? Trust me!
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londoner84 answered · June 20, 2020
She tried to replace him with you, and she saw it wasn't working. It's better for you. You deserve better than being someone's consolation prize. I know this is hard for you, but I believe it's going to get better.
27, 39, your advice is a bit of a boost to paedophilia.
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persiancdinbayarea answered · June 21, 2020
The art of giving is not to expect anything in return!
You love her blindly, so she obviously loves her ex. You should understand it. Love is not a giver and a take, it is not measured by what I did. Notice me! There's only you. Something you forgot... that's what I did for her, that's what I did for her. You're pointing out how much you've done. There's someone to appreciate... the good always comes back, sooner or later.
Success!
Maggie
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sasha9481 answered · June 21, 2020
Number 47 wrote it well in theory, but I don't think she speaks from personal experience. When you find yourself in a similar situation as the author, then I will ask you if you will wear your or her face so proudly and preach what love is.