I Was Raped And Now I Want To Be In Pain

   This is another hoax! Why are you sharing here? There are notebooks, you turn the page and write something that worries you, so you unload or talk on the four walls to "complain" to them. Talk to GOD, he also hears the prayers. There are psychiatrists, and you don't want to file a lawsuit, you don't want to complain to the police, it's a clear sign that, in fact, it wasn't rape, how can you write like that here and you can't say or write elsewhere either. I respect the site, but I think there are too many creatures who make fun of rapes, beatings and murders!

   Be sure to go to a psychologist. You have an injury that needs to be treated. Share with someone close. You can also file a complaint with the police. You can post his picture on the Internet and write that he is a rapist. Do something, react in some way. Don't hide it in yourself.

   Isn't that why the site is called Share? I'm sorry if I messed up the place to share what happened to me ....

   Well, it's more useful to think about how to hurt him, not yourself ...

   I am very sorry that you experienced something like this. Who did it, did you know it? I think you should at least tell your family and the people who know the person in question, because if you keep quiet, he can hurt other girls, would you like that?

   Girl ... how old are you? Age depends on how old you are, because if you're around 14, you're shy in adolescence, not confident enough, and you don't know what to think, that is, what's right and what's wrong, that's normal for teenagers. But something terrible has happened to you that has ruined your psyche and continues to ruin you, with the thought of remembering this horrible event. Someone raped you. Do you know this freak? Do you have a picture of him? Somewhere, if he has a registration on social networks, you can see his photos of what he looks like and how he acts. You can't and shouldn't keep quiet about this thing, no matter how much you worry. I'm sure if you tell one of your parents, they'll take action on you right away! And if you do not share with someone close and no measures are taken it will not be good for you. You will be totally ruined mentally and you will not have self-confidence, it will be difficult for you to share anything with anyone, you will have dark thoughts and you will feel very sorry for yourself. You are an innocent victim of guilty garbage! Don't afford it! Don't let this garbage sleep and hover in peace. Author, answer at least how old you are so that I know what else to write and help you as much as possible.

   You can try several psychologists and psychotherapists. It is not said that you will find your man the first time. See and talk.

   How they raped you, what you were doing there, I can't understand you women, normally if you were drunk and gave false signals.

   Come on now, raped, but didn't want to complain !? She was rather abandoned by the boy and that's why she talks about rape, that she also felt pain !? You pretend to be great saints, you have sex since you were 13, then you were raped !? When you feel pain (rather mental), dip it and it will be relieved!

   Now 10,000 men will line up to tell her she's guilty. Gentlemen, no one wants to be raped, you know. The perverted thoughts of a freak speak ill of him, not of the victim, and here various people have set out to defend the rapist and to spit on the victim. You are worse than animals.

   I don't understand either, you are both raped and you don't file a complaint, women still roar, but there is no complaint in the police, because if you don't care, by filing a complaint, you will be able to protect other girls ... if there was rape in the true sense of the word.

   Give a single reason why you did not report to the police or maybe under rape you accept, as mentioned above, that the person you had sex with told you that he no longer wants to meet and you probably use the word raped in figurative meaning, i.e. my soul is hurt that there is no reciprocity between you and the man. In this case, out of 10 people, 9 were raped, both men and women.

   I am 18. He is 4 years older. We know each other. No, I wasn't drunk, we weren't at a party. We went out in a friendly way, to get to know each other. He didn't behave badly, he was normal for a while. Then suddenly something happened to him and he attacked me. And please spare yourself the questions, "Did you try to close your legs? Are you pulling?" And so on, because it's disgusting to go through your mind at all. (I say it only for those who pass by). I went to the doctor and he asked me this - doctor! I did not complain to the police because I do not want anyone to understand that I was raped at all. But to you men, this cannot be made clear to you. It's not so easy to say face to face, "I was raped." If a man raped you, would you be able to tell anyone? It was hard for me to even tell this oligophrenic gynecologist. I don't want to hurt other girls, but understand me, I can't go around and say something like that! It's not that easy! The author

   Number 12, is this reason (described in comment 13, also by me) enough for you? The author

   I'm number 6. So you're 18 and I'm a year younger than you. I assumed it was written by a girl who is even smaller than me, I explained in my comment above. You know him ... and suddenly it happened, right, in a public place, as far as I understand from your explanation? I quote - "No, I wasn't drunk, we weren't at a party. We went out in a friendly way, to get to know each other. He didn't behave badly, he was normal for a while. Then suddenly something happened to him and he attacked me." he wants to rape you, it usually happens in the rapist's house, because if he has that intention, he won't want it to be public, in front of everyone, so that they don't understand what a freak he really is. Well, unless he's a psychopath, he rapes you in public ... or the story is made up. Was he a doctor (gynecologist)? "I went to the doctor and he asked me this - doctor!" It was hard for me to even tell this oligophrenic gynecologist. "You didn't tell him you were raped, of course you can't tell him unless you're a close friend of his, but he asked you if you were raped? Strange. Things don't work out somehow. Gynecologists don't ask their patients if they're raped. are raped, and about whether they have sex and things related to the girl - how M is doing, whether they are in pain, whether they are taking any medication, etc. I apologize if the story is true and the author is affected, although there is nothing, because everyone has a different way of thinking, for example I think the story is made up! I wrote what makes me think it is made up! Things don't connect somehow, or you don't express yourself well, or it's made up. The second makes me think! of course you can't tell him unless you're a close friend of his, but he asked you if you were raped? Strange. Things don't connect somehow. Gynecologists do not ask their patients if they have been raped, but about whether they have sex and things related to the girl - how M is doing, whether they are in pain, whether they are taking any medications, etc. I apologize if the story is true and the author is affected, although there is nothing, because everyone has a different mindset, for example, I think the story is fictional! I wrote what makes me think it's made up! Things don't connect in any way, or you don't express yourself well, or it's made up. The second makes me think! of course you can't tell him unless you're a close friend of his, but he asked you if you were raped? Strange. Things don't connect somehow. Gynecologists do not ask their patients if they have been raped, but about whether they have sex and things related to the girl - how M is doing, whether they are in pain, whether they are taking any medications, etc. I apologize if the story is true and the author is affected, although there is nothing, because everyone has a different mindset, for example, I think the story is fictional! I wrote what makes me think it's made up! Things don't connect in any way, or you don't express yourself well, or it's made up. The second makes me think! and about whether they have sex and things related to the girl - how M is doing, whether they are in pain, whether they are taking any medications, etc. I apologize if the story is true and the author is affected, although there is nothing, because everyone has a different mindset, for example, I think the story is fictional! I wrote what makes me think it's made up! Things don't connect in any way, or you don't express yourself well, or it's made up. The second makes me think! and about whether they have sex and things related to the girl - how M is doing, whether they are in pain, whether they are taking any medications, etc. I apologize if the story is true and the author is affected, although there is nothing, because everyone has a different mindset, for example, I think the story is made up! I wrote what makes me think it's made up! Things don't connect in any way, or you don't express yourself well, or it's made up. The second makes me think!

   To the author - Not all comments are written by men, I also commented in your topic and I do not defend you, I will argue. I also had troubles in the same direction as yours, but I was a minor and scared, I did not complain, like you ... if I was raped, not only would I judge him, but I would personally take revenge on him, but you did not experience anything because you knew him and wanted to go out with him, this is a conclusion that you are alone, you were looking for him. At the age of 18 you are an adult, you can condemn him, you can share with a psychologist, with your mother ... parents are always a support, and now instead of sharing with someone close you explain to strangers who don't care about you. I don't think there was rape!

   I'm number 12, this is not a reason for the Author, because I'm ashamed, it's absurd, you ask if I am raped if I go, I'm a man and if they say so I will file a complaint because I am against aggression. Where did they rape you, at their place or in the car, did he have time to put on a condom, if there is no biological material left and the other worse is a probable infection with sexually transmitted diseases. I keep saying that you are not raped in the true sense of the word. You were voluntarily with him, but you were disappointed with his attitude towards him, which did not live up to expectations, so you are obviously angry and you make a sacrifice. If you are raped, it is not written on websites, but you go to the police, they will take the measures provided by law, but you yourself obviously know that rape in the sense that is embedded in the word did not take place.

   Apparently people are right ... As they say, "until it happens to you, you can't know what it is." There's just no way ... I didn't know that girls think that way either - "once you went out with him, you looked for him". Can't a girl go out with a boy WITHOUT any sexual intentions? With nothing in the background? How many guys I've seen in a friendly way, no one attacked me, no one treated me like a rag. Don't you think that after I said "NO" to him and he continued, it is considered rape? (In force) I don't understand how you think that way - you went out with him, so you wanted sex. Well, just a moment, is it all about sex? Is this it? Sex and sex, nothing else? Number 15, what's wrong with you somehow? That he didn't do it at home? I'm not that stupid, that I should go to his house when I only wanted to get to know him. On a first date, where would you prefer to be with the boy? At his house or at coffee? I preferred coffee. We left because it was evening and the neighborhood where I live is not very bright and full of geeks and there was no one to help me. What do you do if you don't expect the person to attack you? What, tell me? A man who does not give the appearance of such a monster! How would I have understood ?? Your other question was about the gynecologist. Okay, you've been to a checkup before, I understand. He did not ask me if I had been raped. I told him. Because, if you didn't understand, I went for an examination because of what happened. Because this one didn't put on a condom, and if you're not familiar, he may have caused me an infection. You know? I went to the doctor (gynecologist), I told him what happened, he examined me and prescribed me medication. If you have other questions or something else you do not understand you can ask me. But to say that my story is made up is, to put it mildly, stupid. What am I wasting my time on? For what? Until 16 - I say again. Isn't that what the site is for? !? After all, other people share problems and expect some support / advice, etc. What the hell did I do. What does the word "share" mean to you? "Tell me what happened to make us spit on you"? Is that it? Don't talk better about your parents. There are shortcomings in this respect for me. And by shortcomings I mean precisely shortcomings - absence. And for a psychologist, I don't have enough money to "look for the right one" or to pay for permanent treatment at all. Also, when I was younger, I was a psychologist once and it was awful. Once I decided to share something and some people somehow managed to make me feel even worse. Thanks anyway. The author ...

   And I will ask no one to comment anymore. I understood what I understood. That was it. thank you

   No, darling, don't pay attention to the people who blame you, because you're not to blame for what happened. You expected the person you went out with to behave like a human, not an animal. Read "Men Who Hate Women" and notice how Lisbeth Salander treats her rapist. It is very sad that even women now blame women. No empathy. Everyone thinks it's a special snowflake and that he or she can't happen to come across a freak who doesn't look like one.

   Everyone who defends the author's rapist is a potential rapist. Bad work.

   I can't understand what strange reactions there are here from most of the commenters and, to put it mildly, inadequate. Of course, a person who has been abused, no matter what it is, is ashamed, especially if it is so intimate. Just pray that you don't go through it to understand how difficult it is to publicize something like that. Honey, since you have such a desire after the experience, it is obvious that you have post-traumatic shock, depression or something like that. You need a lot of love and treatment. Share with a person you feel close to and who would give you love and comfort. Seek psychological help if necessary.

   In my opinion, it is not good for the topic to end like this - so far almost nothing decent has been written - everyone just attacked the author and made her justify herself and explain herself, which was not fair. We are here to share, to help each other, to consult. From what the author wrote, I learned that she is very intelligent, sensitive and I would say mature for her age. To the author - I advise you to look for a way to share with a loved one - you will be relieved, you will understand that you are not alone with your pain. YOU ARE NOT GUILTY once you have said "No", no one has the right to disobey your will. I think you have to come together and experience this pain - everything disappears with time. I recommend that you surround yourself with people with whom you can be really close, so that your soul is warm and you do not think about self-harm. I don't know what you went through, but I know that you can handle it. I sincerely wish you success and happiness.

   I'm number 6 again. Okay, you just didn't explain it completely, and that's how things looked differently, so it made me think the story was made up. But when you explained it completely clear to me, I understood you. You're right that we should go out for coffee when we're on a first date. But it's also best during the day, or at least to know where you're going, whether it is lit and full of people. My parents always told me to go to the light when I was walking. That's right, it happens that you didn't expect this person to be rubbish. He may have behaved well enough not to see what he really was, even if you didn't feel him. He is a good hypocrite. Yes, and again it is right to go to a gynecologist when you have been raped, when it has been without a condom, that rapists do it for sure. I've never been raped, and if I was small and I would just be totally ruined and ... sooner or later I would tell one of my parents, because I can't imagine this - to be silent about this thing for an eternity, it won't endures if you are small and depends on what psyche you have. For now, when I grow up, this will simply not be rape for me, but unwanted sex with an unwanted freak, and I would immediately tell our people, if I know this freak, because the rapist deserves to be caught, to know what garbage is and what he does to them! It should happen to a stranger the most, because we know enough with our friends what we are aiming for. You don't want to betray him because you don't want them to know you were raped. This is not a mockery, nor a gossip that you have been raped. You didn't want sex with him. You never know what might happen to a person. But it is not right for you, the innocent, to sleep in anxiety and fear, and for the guilty to be calm! No, the culprits must bear the consequences! Yes, it is not easy to say that you have been raped. You need to gradually start thinking about how and to whom you will tell it, so that they can help you later for your health and for the rapist to bear the consequences! There are many topics on the Internet on this topic and you can read everything, their opinions, how and when they decided to tell their loved ones, do they cope with psychologists and more.

   If you do not file a complaint with the police and other girls will be harmed, think carefully about whether to remain silent and expect advice on the sites or to actually act.

   Hello again. I am the author. First of all, I want to thank the right people for their right comments. It's good to see that there are sane ones. Thank you. :) And the other thing - today I went out with a pretty mouthy girl and told her that this one is not normal and be careful with it. I did not say the exact reason, but that was enough. In a few days, everyone will know and have one thing in mind if they come across it. I don't want to do anything else at this stage. And I will decide whether to take revenge on him in some way or to forgive him while I take revenge on him. Because sooner or later I will forgive myself and him. To continue my life in peace. In any case, I will do something about it. It may not be right now, but I think you're right - I can't stay awake because of recurring nightmares and he can't sleep peacefully ... I didn't think I could feel such resentment, but now the most terrible things come to my mind. As a castration, for example, or to tell a friend to arrange it nicely. I will always invent something. I also shared with a terribly kind and truly honest and good person! A good friend of mine for almost two and a half years. Whom I love deep in my heart. He is like a father to me, I think and feel that I only need him. But we are too far away - both age and environment ... almost everything. It is enough for me to see him. One puts up with some things. :) Thanks again to everyone! Even to those who are on the side of the perpetrator! You gave me an idea of ​​what I would face if I had complained to the police. There would certainly be such opinions and comments. And with my psyche shaken at the moment, I would only show weakness, be a victim. I'm not that kind of person, that's why I tried to manage on my own. Good night to all. Or a good day, it depends ... :) The author

   Hello Author! I don't know what to tell you ... I know what you went through, from personal experience ... I am 26 years old, about 3 years ago I was in Varna, at first I went to see my niece, but then I stayed and looked for myself work. I decided it was a great opportunity to succeed in the big city. I found a job as well as accommodation. Almost every night I went to my sister's for dinner or to play with the little one. One night I was returning to the apartment, of course on foot, I was not afraid to walk the dark streets ... until then ... So tonight, I was walking and two men were walking on the other side. They asked me in English where a summer disco was ... the moment I showed them the way and explained, one grabbed me and covered my mouth, and the other grabbed my legs and dragged me to a much darker place between the blocks .... and so no matter how hard I fought and screamed, no one came and no one stopped this horrible act ... and I was a virgin then ... I managed to get home, but I never remembered "how?". I stood in the room in the corner and cried. Luckily for me, my best friend was there and heard me ... I won't tell you what happened after tonight, because it's too long to explain. But I can say something else, I closed myself in, I didn't talk, I didn't sleep, I had nightmares, I started drinking every night and during the day. We returned to our hometown, I continued to drink, quarreled with ours, drove out of the house, slept in the car, my friend sheltered me ... I tried to commit suicide ... and finally my friend told my family what it was it happened to me ... I was very angry with her .... but then she took my hands and said something "you are strong, you are innocent, I talked first with my psychologist and then with my family. I can tell you that if you don't talk, you won't be able to do it alone .... It's good that you shared it with at least one person. You don't have to tell everyone what happened to you, not even the police. All I know is that if it weren't for my girlfriend, I wouldn't be here and living now, even in another country. I wish you one day to find the right person for you, who will show you what it is to be special and to understand you. I wish you an amazing life from now on full of laughter and love :) I apologize for the long comment !!! I talked first with my psychologist and then with my family. I can tell you that if you don't talk, you won't be able to do it alone .... It's good that you shared it with at least one person. You don't have to tell everyone what happened to you, not even the police. All I know is that if it weren't for my girlfriend, I wouldn't be here and living now, even in another country. I wish you one day to find the right person for you, who will show you what it is to be special and to understand you. I wish you an amazing life from now on full of laughter and love :) I apologize for the long comment !!! now I would not be here and live, even in another country. I wish you one day to find the right person for you, who will show you what it is to be special and to understand you. I wish you an amazing life from now on full of laughter and love :) I apologize for the long comment !!! now I would not be here and live, even in another country. I wish you one day to find the right person for you, who will show you what it is to be special and to understand you. I wish you an amazing life from now on full of laughter and love :) I apologize for the long comment !!!

   Hello, number 28 !! :) I'm so sorry for what happened to you! It's just that these creatures are disgusting, there's nothing to lie about ... I'm glad there are people like your girlfriend! And that you are better! Thank you for the long comment - these are the ones I like the most. And for the wishes too !!! :) I wish you to live in peace and be truly happy in the new country !! :) The author

   Author, you obviously like to have some drama around you. I know a girl who was raped and she immediately told the police. Really raped, by a man who has known for 2 days. The man was convicted and is in prison. With you, things are a little different and you get into the movie, obviously out of boredom. In fact, your very desire for drama led to this event. You write that you have a psychological problem, but you do not want to go to a psychologist, because YOU think that the psychologist will not get into your situation. That these psychologists specialize in such cases, darling, but YOU think something. That is, YOU are the omniscient, the most important. Things always happen to you, the most dramatic things. You know best whether a psychologist will help you or not, although you hardly know enough psychologists to draw this conclusion. You even write how YOU will decide the fate of the "rapist" - whether you will forgive him or take revenge. YOU are number one, the most important star in the sky! You have an extremely strong ego (for a girl) and this, although it gives you high intelligence, actually prevents you from seeing the world objectively. That's why they attacked the people.

   You don't need a psychologist, just someone you can talk to openly about what's bothering you. If he's a man, even better. There are 2 things that should not be done after such events - to isolate yourself from the world and to blame yourself. Most victims make both mistakes. And if you don't have someone you can trust, share the problem on similar sites or anonymous chats. Even if most of you are burdened, often only one person is needed to give you the comfort you need. The other thing to realize is that the sense of control is deceptive - especially when it comes to other people's thoughts and actions. Everyone is responsible only for their own thoughts and actions. See if you flirted with him all night and rely on "definitely not" and you have a guilt you can think about. But if it was just coffee enough to talk about various things, as you say - it's all the boy's fault. Then you can do something about it - bear whatever you decide, whether it will be a court and the police, whether something else, your job. Otherwise, you leave the event in the past and move on. If you expect only good things to happen to you in this life, without encountering difficulties and all sorts of filth and nonsense, someone has lied to you for less than 18 years. And if you know that bad things happen in this life, there is only one thing to do when they happen to you - to draw the appropriate conclusions and continue to live with them. It is no secret that all kinds of idiots live among people. But this is no reason to isolate yourself and condemn them all as such. It is unlikely that because of one (and several) bitter chocolate (whatever you like to eat), you will stop eating chocolate at all. So stop giving him the meaning he doesn't deserve and continue living your life.

   Number 30, I think I have every right to decide what to do about it. Once my body has been raped, at least (!) I have the moral right to decide. Your girlfriend did it too (well done!), But the difference with us is not that I "get into dramas", but that I feel ashamed precisely because I have low self-esteem. Extremely low. My ego is not developed - to put it mildly. The fact that I didn't have the courage to publicize what happened doesn't in any way get me into movies. I am not at all of the opinion that only the worst things happen to me, that I still suffer the most ... in fact, I am grateful that my case is not like that of many other victims of something like this. I will give some examples: a woman, a former soldier, attacked in her home, beaten, raped and doused with acid on her genitals to cover up the rape; woman, she went to a party with a friend, got drunk, it was time to leave and got into a taxi. The driver drove to an empty spot, forcibly removed the woman from the car, and, putting a knife to her throat, told her to keep quiet or kill her. During the time he raped her, she cried and repeated, "I want to see my mother." She did not report to the police and only 10 years later she wrote an article in which she revealed everything. I will give a third and final example - a girl (about 16) was walking her dog in the evening, she saw two boys talking, attacked her, one held her hands while the other took off her underwear ... she didn't tell anyone except her most trusted friend . Will you accuse them of being puppets flying in the clouds and looking for drama? Or will you try to understand why they were silent? I don't expect anything. If someone beats you (for example), won't you feel the urge to punish them? to take revenge on him, to give him back the pain and humiliation he caused you? Or will you just pat him on the shoulder and say, "Well done! Thank you!"? Think about it, the difference is not huge. Only the consequences maybe. I kindly ask the moderators to post this comment despite its content. Thanks in advance. :)