Hello. This is not a story, but rather a question, and I do not know who I can turn to. I want to end my sex life, as well as my sexual attraction to any gender. I do not want you to misunderstand me, I am a boy of 20 years, I have a serious girlfriend of 3 years, for me she is the most beautiful, we have gone through all sorts of periods, problems and happiness, do not misunderstand me is not because of her or whatever any other. Until now we had sex with her 2-3 times a day. I tried everything myself and before that I also had a rich sex life. I have not had sexual attraction to something unnatural or off-topic that I would feel terrible about, looking for extremes, no. The decision is mine, I'm not ugly or annoying, I want to become something else, and I feel that sexual attraction and sexual hunger fail the mind. I want to be a different person, but that can't happen in a life involving sexual urges. Lately, it seems to me that the act is banal in general, people do it to get this physical satisfaction, which is completely unnecessary, and what keeps me is temptation, excitement. I believe, in fact, I know that no one will understand me, but I want to follow the path of wisdom, I do not want to be just another ordinary person. I want to be out of this system and I think this is the last barrier. but I want to follow the path of wisdom, I don't want to be just another ordinary person. I want to be out of this system and I think this is the last barrier. but I want to follow the path of wisdom, I don't want to be just another ordinary person. I want to be out of this system and I think this is the last barrier.
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Go to a monastery. Seriously - what's your problem, I don't understand? But still - you can suppress your sexual desire with hormones and medications, but the side effects are terrible - from depression, through testicular cancer, prostate cancer, suicide. The methods were used in prisons and the army - today they are banned. Castrate otherwise, remove your testicles. However, expect a change in the direction of femininity. Or continue to live like a normal man and enjoy every day. When you die, you won't have sex, don't worry.
I think you're to blame for arousing other women (or men) and not your girlfriend. Even worse - you know that whichever one you catch - it will always appear more tempting after that and everything somehow loses its meaning. This inevitability fills you with despair and you want to end everything now. But calm down, around the age of 30, your hormones will drop to a level that allows you to control your thoughts, emotions and reactions, and then you will slowly move towards asexuality. So what you want now will happen anyway.
And I'm like you, only 35 years old, I solve my problem with a lot of sports, fitness or something where I can spend my energy. However, do not give up sex once you have a permanent partner.
I understand you, as incredible as it may seem to you - I had such a period between my 19th and 23rd birthday - then I said to myself that if sex is the most important thing for everyone, I will dedicate myself to other things - just against society (still I still do such things, for example I said that I will not register on Facebook and I still am not). I started training, listening only to classical music, but I did not deprive myself of masturbation, alas. After nearly 4 years of abstinence, I went with a girl and started again. I think it will pass with you, as it came. Sorry.
You know, I understand you, I've been in love with a monk for 5 years and we've talked about it many times. People use sex to get closer, but not to be real and your relationship to be real to others requires full communication, but most people nowadays are not personalities and this is impossible to achieve with them.
Christiana: Go get treated ... best. I recommend you a large building, painted yellow, almost without windows .. everyone inside is very smiling and friendly :))))
I fully understand you, I know what you mean - you want to tell us that your physical shell limits you and hinders your spiritual development. That's right, but it's inevitable because you're an earthly person. Besides, everyone needs love. Some people are lonely and can't find love, but you have it and you want to run away from it. Understand me, while you are on the earthly world, in a human body, there is no way to ignore it, because it sustains your existence here. And the act is not banal, when feelings, emotions, when energy is exchanged. It depends on how you do it ...
You can be wise and without becoming a eunuch, apologize for the expression. You are a completely normal 20 year old boy, what do you want to be? Is it abnormal? You don't have a problem, you don't have anything wrong, I find your kind of boredom, a kind of late puberty. They used to pour bromine into the tea of the soldiers in the barracks, I wasn't there when I was there, but the jokes were still there ... two old men met and one of them shouted, do you remember when we were soldiers how they poured bromine into our tea? The other answered - they poured us ... they caught us an hour now. Do not look under the ox calf, at 20 it is normal to have sex many times, and I did 3 times a day, even when there is no repetition I polished the cane then. Over time, it will decrease to 1 time per day :). Dare, have fun and don't think nonsense. Are you serious about that all day? Tighten up, almost there to learn something,
Well, stop it, well, let someone bother you !!? It's like saying - I won't drink alcohol - well, you stop drinking and that's it !? Why should anyone understand you !? Do you need approval !?
Go to a monastery 4 km away. You're sick was a man sought help from a psychologist.
Agree with №1, this is salvation, a monastery, but often there they turn the thread, think carefully what exactly you want. If it weren't for a moment, you'd want something else tomorrow. If you cut the saddlebags, there is no going back - think carefully!
I understand very well what you mean. I think that if you concentrate on your spiritual growth, you regularly engage in spiritual practices, as you see fit, the attraction to sex, which is quite normal, because you have a body and a body, will disappear quite naturally. You just won't feel the need for it. You have nothing to think about how it will happen and do something special. A matter of inner attitude.
If you have to deny the flesh in order to develop your spirit, do it. Perhaps, so far you have spent more time on the matter and it is time for compensation. Honor a little Nietzsche to clarify your position as a superman. Balance and harmony in nature, however, give us another pattern of behavior - looking for synchronicity between mind and body.
I understand the author's torments, because sometimes I have fallen into similar thoughts about sex and life, but for me the most accurate truth on the subject has long been told, and it sounds like this: If you tighten the string too much - I will break if leave it loose - it will not play. To learn means to change. The line of enlightenment is the Middle Way - the line between opposite extremes - Buddha man at 33
Hi, 20 year old boy! I understand what you are talking about - the energy in us is the same and depends on what it will be used for. Too much sex exhausts you and makes you addicted, and that's how you feel - that you can't control yourself. Complete abstinence without awareness will not lead to a lasting change in you, ie it is important to realize who you are and what you want through understanding, not through your will. Because the successes achieved through the will are short-lived. Sex is not wrong, nor is it exhausting when done with the right person, with measure and awareness. During sex we exchange emotions, but mostly wounds with our partner and if, for example, we have some bad thoughts towards him or him towards us, it exhausts us emotionally and makes us weak. And vice versa - if there is complete trust, acceptance, understanding, sex heals us. Watch the movie 'Samsara', I think that it will help you to some extent to clarify what is tormenting you now. Also enter forums for spiritual development, yoga and similar groups on Facebook. Success! Soul
I understand you completely at the moment I am in this situation .. 8 months ago I had a boyfriend and we had sex almost every day several times a day we went for 9 months. I finally found out that I was addicted to it and that he was falling in love, and I used him and left him. Now I have abstained for 9 months and I feel good, I feel that I lead a more spiritual life. I like it, you're really right that sex drinks the brain. But there is something else .. Sex with the right person sometimes enriches and energizes you. If you have a strong spiritual connection with someone, then your act of merging may be rare, but it will have a much stronger emotional and physical effect. God bless everyone! And I'm still looking for this prince!