I've been getting depressed lately, I feel out of control, I have some crazy thoughts in my head that I don't even want to talk about here. I am unhappy, very much and I do not see how to emerge from the sea of depression ... I need love, but obviously I do not get it in the way I want it, I want tenderness, kindness, attention, I want to mean something special to someone. .. Sometimes I think that no one likes me, and all my acquaintances constantly talk about how I probably can not get rid of fans, how unique I am, etc., etc. I can not even share with anyone how I feel, because they will think I am totally crazy because they have the wrong impression that I am courted and very wanted ... Yes, but I am not, even when I say that and they start laughing at me and thinking that I am joking or pretending to be too modest ...
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I think everyone needs the things you listed. Honestly, I want to get in touch. And a few questions from me: Are you sure that if you get the things you listed, the man (in your case a man) will not get bored? Are you sure you want a man next to you who can shower you with love, kind words, tenderness, hugs, etc. every day? I ask, are you sure, because quite often men with such a description are rejected by their halves - because they were very kind, gentle, caring, etc. So ... are you sure? M25
You need to grow a little. Neither mom and dad, nor one sex will make you feel full ...
How things look and how they really are can be very different things. If you want love, I suggest you start going to places where people socialize and which include mixed groups in which men and women do something together and demonstrate openness and a desire to get closer to a man you like.
And why have your acquaintances made such an impression on you, have you thought about it? Very desirable, courted, but inaccessible? If you have a constant circle of admirers, but nothing else happens, then you are in a closed cycle. For example, while looking for love, tenderness, special treatment from someone, but something you do not like in him, even if small. At the same time, you know that you have 5 more options, one of which may be perfect for you. You cut the first one in the hope that the others will be better ... that's clear. This behavior and unwinding can kill all feelings and emotions in the other. Act bolder and go with the flow, the love you are looking for is somewhere out there, but it will not come alone and without a price.
Hello again, to number 2 to be sure what I want of course, I'm not a child ... I do not think I'm inaccessible, rather something in my behavior makes men afraid of me ... I do not know what it is, however . Probably because I'm not a muffin and a woman, and I can handle everything on my own. Maybe there are those who try, a note from far away, but somehow they are purely sexual in my opinion, and I'm not looking for just one sex. I want intimacy and intimacy in the relationship, but obviously I do not predispose to such an attitude. Apparently I don't know how to flirt in this purely feminine way with flirting and sweet giggling .. To number 1 - I'm from Sofia. Until number 6 I do not have such a circle of suitors, at least I can not recognize if there is someone with more serious intentions. In general, men somehow accept me as equal to them, girlfriend, good company,
Number 2 really very nice of you, but you are very young, I turned 30 a few years ago ...
I'm number 2. I, on the other hand, like women who are real, valuable, not a muffin type. I'm sure that both I and you can afford sex - the thing is that I'm also not just looking for one sex, but more - respect, sincerity, trust and of course love. True and unconditional, but given the times we live in - maybe I want too much. The fact that I am "very young" I think does not prevent us from communicating, of course, if you would like. Taa ... if you want we can try to contact :)
I don't know if you're beautiful and intelligent enough at all for people to think you have crowds of fans. But you certainly miss what they call empathy. Demanding things speaks more of a cool and raw calculation. Apart from the fact that in order for someone close to you to feel you, you have to see your vulnerabilities - at least some sometimes. And I don't know why, but I'm somehow convinced that you're played by a strong, problem-free "modern" woman. In general, this is most likely the reason why the orientation is only sexual, from those who liked you and were afraid. The "perfect ones" are perfect for a trophy, but no one wants to deal with them. So if you expect intimacy and intimacy, it is normal to approach them, not to demand them. And don't play it perfect. Naturally then there is a risk of someone taking advantage or feeling betrayed,
You have to get rid of the idea that your happiness depends on someone else. You have to be ok with your life at first, and the boyfriend will come as a nice addition.
I'm number 6. I think you answered the question yourself. As you go with the presumption that everyone is looking for just one quick sex and that's it ... well, you may never find what you're looking for. Overcome this uncertainty and you think that everyone is sexual from above and is with you only once. After all, you are over 30, no one will sit and wait for you to go to bed for months. Sex is a mutual pleasure, and without it it will be difficult to get the things you want. This does not mean going to bed with everyone on the 2nd date, of course. This closeness and intimacy and the special attitude you are looking for will not come out of nowhere without its price. A relationship is built over time, but if you keep cool and cut well, you will never be perceived as anything more than good company. And such behavior would definitely kill any more serious intentions, even the most insane. :) Good luck!
well meet someone ...
Well, that's how it is in Sofia
I'm like you too. I am liked by men, but I feel alone. I am in a complete impasse in terms of money and work, and there is no one next to me to whom I can share and complain, and my parents do not want to burden them. I can not trust a man because they lied to me enough to to unlock the fear in me. For me, people also think that I am good in every aspect of my life. When I go out in the morning I look perfect, I support myself and dress well and I always try to be friendly and smiling. But every day I am with a lump in my throat and every night I ruin myself to cry. However, in the morning I get up and continue with new hope. So just keep going with full force, no matter how hard it is.
Author, you remind me a lot of an acquaintance we dated for a while. I will write down what prevented me from doing more. From the other point of view, I hope it is useful to you. Basically the same story, she was quite traumatized and depressed by the past and the present, looking for attention and special treatment ... BUT she just demanded them without moisture anything from her. He just accepted that I (and other people in other respects) were a given that would always be there when needed. In the same way, she was the woman who seemed to take care of everything on her own, and this fed her ego and allowed herself a slightly naughty attitude towards others. And she was never guilty of anything, even though she did a lot of stupid things in the relatively short time we went out. There was always someone else to blame. Still, she liked me, and I liked her. What really refused me to do, however. In a more intimate way, well, in 2 months we only got to push in the car and that's it. For me, this is not normal for people aged 25. But that wasn't the most important thing ... he just didn't know what he wanted. He both wanted to get out of the depression and the hustle and bustle of one place, and he didn't want to leave his current relatively comfortable zone. Apparently he had some expectations, and he thought about everything too much, and he never relaxed and didn't let things happen (or not) on their own. At one point I got tired of doing it, and later I realized that other acquaintances had tried it ... the same story. But that wasn't the most important thing ... he just didn't know what he wanted. He both wanted to get out of the depression and the hustle and bustle of one place, and he didn't want to leave his current relatively comfortable zone. Apparently he had some expectations, and he thought about everything too much, and he never relaxed and didn't let things happen (or not) on their own. At one point I got tired of doing it, and later I realized that other acquaintances had tried it ... the same story. But that wasn't the most important thing ... he just didn't know what he wanted. He both wanted to get out of the depression and the hustle and bustle of one place, and he didn't want to leave his current relatively comfortable zone. Apparently he had some expectations, and he thought about everything too much, and he never relaxed and didn't let things happen (or not) on their own. At one point I got tired of doing it, and later I realized that other acquaintances had tried it ... the same story.
Author: Maybe the problem is that I give a lot, but I try not to show vulnerability. I pretend to be stronger than I am, happier than I am, and more restless, when in fact I am too sensitive and emotional.
From number 4 - author, one is not good to play and put on masks, so things can not be authentic. If you want attention, show that you want attention and appreciate it, you also appreciate the person who gives it to you. Given that you radiate self-sufficiency, it is normal for people to let you be self-sufficient and stay away.
18, You will get used to it. Summer is a bad season. It's warm, people go out, walk ... it's nice. Those who are alone are naughty, watching how everything boils around them, and they are alone like lalugers at home ... They get used to it. I no longer have the strength to go out or walk. I'm waiting for things to happen on their own, but even that can't happen. From home to work and so on. There's no way something can happen ... Except for a miracle, but ... miracles happen so rarely that ... I'm trying to get used to it ... That's it. Another lonely summer ... It's ... :)
Until 17 You were quite capricious - as soon as someone lets you go, otherwise you will dump her - you are hardly such a great loss for humanity
To number 21, number 17 is right and I am so and this is not a whim. A woman who allows herself to play some games is not worth dealing with. And what kind of thinking is that - if she had let him go? If a woman thinks in a similar way, I don't want to have anything to do with her, her thinking is not right, she is at the level of petty bullshit, letting and taking, calculating, what I will take, what he will get and such elementary nonsense. Thanks for the relationship with such a person but no.