I Want A Child

   And then when your child asks who his father is and what do you say to him, "I'm the one who liked him and offered to make you"?

   You do not think soberly. :) See that you yourself are aware. My advice is to wait. Someday you will meet true love and then you will be infinitely happy. :)

   Well, I understand you, I just don't understand why you have to notify the donor in advance? Tell him you're taking steps not to worry. Then, if he does, tell him he will become a father if he wants to stay with you. At least to recognize the child. Do what you decide. But you will startle every man if, instead of saying hello, you ask him about the indicators of his spermogram.

   This child will need a father. Don't think only of yourself, but of him.

   Author: First of all, thank you for the answers. I want to add some important things related to them. What the first comment said is a little nasty I admit. In fact, I think it's a better option than not having a child at all. And I would tell him the truth to my child. And it is that I wanted a child, but I have not met the right man for a father. It will be served in the most delicate way possible. I am also worried that I will get pregnant very slowly, for some reason. That's why I want to start trying earlier. Regarding true love, the situation is also a little different. I grew up in a family that was like the war in Syria. I'm not sure I want to raise a child with another person. As for the comment that the child will need a father, I agree. Although when I think of mine ... anyway. He will certainly miss his father, but looking at the alternative is not to give birth at all, and that will be the only reason. I also forgot to say that I have enough money. I was a little sad, to be honest, from your comments, but I know they are sincere, and I don't want that to be clear.

   What is the reason for the author to perceive men as sperm donors? Do you think that these children do not want or that they are not full parents?

   I am a 34 year old man. I feel more or less like you. I feel it's time for a child, but like you, I haven't found the woman to take this step with. Honestly, it gives me a lot of thoughts and unpleasant feelings, but I don't think that an irresponsible hasty decision will make your life better. I have a friend who did this. He caught up with a woman who also already felt that she must have a child. Literally in the 2nd month she got pregnant and a year later they were happy parents. But in this rush it turned out that they had forgotten to get to know each other. So they separated in the second year and he can now see his child very rarely. So we have another child who hardly sees his father and a mother who cannot replace the father in any way. I grew up without a father at the time and I know how much there was a male presence around me. I know how badly confused a mother is, who lacks a stable husband to take care of a child. Personally, I would wait, even if it means that I risk never doing what I want most than catching some unknown and unpleasant woman to break up with and then this child going through everything I went through. A child needs a father and a mother, although many people will immediately start telling me that this is not the case in the 21st century.

   Make an in vitro with donor sperm. There they are selected and genetically tested in advance. Also, the chances of getting pregnant will be higher.

   Author: I apologize if I offended anyone. I don't see men as sperm donors. Let them be their full parents. And I told her the reason for my fears. Honestly, number 8 influenced me a lot with his comment - the man who grew up without a father. But it's different with him. Usually men his age catch 20-year-old girls as mothers of their children. While I can't get to 20, but I will definitely get to 30 and 40. This is also an option for in vitro, but again in this case the child will grow up without a father. So I think my version is better. And dear people, let me not forget to say that I am waiting for my love. And that if I met her, it was after I gave birth to the child and I'm sure that with this person we could raise the child, I even think it would be better.

   Only 28 years old. you are. I don't see why you despaired so much. I also don't understand why you prefer a random man to an in vitro from an anonymous donor. It's not fair, not even to the man. Because you will actually use it. And when you get pregnant, then what? "It was nice!" And you will explain to the child a bang. You are financially good today, but will you be tomorrow? And what will you do? You will sue the father for maintenance ... I know what you will tell me, but believe me, it is very difficult when you cannot afford to buy chips, for example, for the child. This is about your desire to choose a male for breeding. And about the love that you might eventually meet after giving birth, I also want to tell you something. This is very difficult to do. Because you will have priorities. And in the first place (I hope) will be your child. Then it will be difficult for you to spend time with anyone else. At the beginning of a relationship you need to get to know each other well. And this happens with time spent together. Where is your child in this situation? Or do you plan to introduce him to any man who seems right to you? Or after two or three meetings you live together. After two months, it turns out that he is not who you thought he was. And the story repeats itself at first, but with another man. The responsibility to the child is by no means small. You should not underestimate the children either, because they absorb everything. You yourself mention your fears: "I'm not sure I want to raise a child with another person." Why? Is this what you want to instill in your child? To design your own fears? Or do you want to give him a secure, stable family? The choice is yours. But I don't think your idea is reasonable. Try to change the environment you are in a bit. Start going to places where you meet people (men) ... For example, if you have a hobby ... painting, photography, dancing or whatever. In this different atmosphere you will meet people close to your interests. Even if you meet women, they will probably have unattached friends in their company, etc. And stop thinking only about wanting a child. I think everything will happen by itself ... Believe and be happy! :) they, in turn, are likely to have unrelated friends in their company, and so on. And stop thinking only about wanting a child. I think everything will happen by itself ... Believe and be happy! :) they, in turn, are likely to have unrelated friends in their company, and so on. And stop thinking only about wanting a child. I think everything will happen by itself ... Believe and be happy! :)

   I'm sorry to be rude, but I have the feeling that you can't read in this forum, but on the other hand you do very well with writing and nonsense. When I say I have money, I mean. I have had, I have and I will have to the grave. So I hope it's clearer. What nonsense shines for alimony and chips? I already liked the man. Lives abroad. I'm sure he'll agree because he's wanted to have sex for a long time. Well, now he will get his, I mine. He looks perfect and I would like to know who the father of my child is. He has a perfect figure, eyes, hair, he is smart, in general I want him to be the father of my child. So the child will be proud of him only to see him in a photo. Besides, I want to have sex with him, is that what you wanted to hear? In addition, I want to make sure that there are no genetic diseases, so that I can be calm. I was going to take some men to introduce them to the child. You need not only an examination, but also treatment, ma'am. You made me a sex machine, or what? As I have written, it is not easy for me with men and from where to where I will invite sulo and pullo at home to my child. "another man" - yes, but another time. I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author You need not only an examination, but also treatment, ma'am. You made me a sex machine, or what? As I have written, it is not easy for me with men and from where to where I will invite sulo and pullo at home to my child. "another man" - yes, but another time. I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author You need not only an examination, but also treatment, ma'am. You made me a sex machine, or what? As I have written, it is not easy for me with men and from where to where I will invite sulo and pullo at home to my child. "another man" - yes, but another time. I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author or what? As I have written, it is not easy for me with men and from where to where I will invite sulo and pullo at home to my child. "another man" - yes, but another time. I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author or what? As I wrote, it is not easy for me with men and from where to where I will invite sulo and pullo at home to my child. "another man" - yes, but another time. I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author I'm not 5 years old so you can recommend my hobbies and tell me where I will meet love. I guess you are a woman and you are aged 40-45, in general you still live in socialism, so you go to a BSP club to find a suitable audience. I'm not sorry for the rude tone. And I don't need more opinions, because tomorrow I'll catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author because tomorrow I'm going to catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author because tomorrow I'm going to catch the plane and have sex with this man until I faint. If I have to, I won't let him leave the hotel room for 2 weeks until I conceive. So thank you for the feedback. the author

   "Well, what do you think, or am I no longer thinking soberly about it?" - did you ask anything? "If the child only sees it in a photo, he will be proud of it." - commendable! "" Another man "- yes, but another time." - well, so we have a nun :) Why do you want to be born at all, I ask? To throw it at babysitters and in gardens, because you will hardly put on your robe ...

   I have never understood women who stare at having a child at any cost. Why - because it has to either fill your emotional gaps or both? If you have to have a child, it will happen without such efforts. And so it is right. Eli

   Author, calm down. I understand you and I support you. Don't bother, here half hate sports. As for your question, I will tell you that I do not understand only one thing. Why, after you have decided it, do you write here and seek an opinion instead of acting? 1 / You want a child and you are ready for a child 2 / Your age is right 3 / You have found the perfect man 4 / You are convinced that this is the way 5 / You are financially secure I also decided if I do not find the right one by 30 and a few years to act this way. However, I found it and things changed. And you, once you're sure, think about how you're going to play your part. Because this man wants sex with you, what kind of man doesn't want sex, but most of them, when they hear about a child, either fall and disappear, or lift their pants before he falls and disappear again. So think about how much you can predict his reaction. If you think you will get scared or, that he will never want to play his father's role for your child, just save him the details of your goal, just go and have fun. You can tell him you're taking birth control pills, it's even nice to take some that you can throw away a few pills to make more reliable. Show him the blister so your plans don't fail. The other thing that is important is to be in or around ovulation. There are tests that determine if you are ovulating. For the research you want to do for him, you better give up, you will most likely startle him. This is my advice to you, the decision is yours. Come on, and brag later, if there is good news :) of which to throw away a few pills for more reliable. Show him the blister so your plans don't fail. The other important thing is to be in or around ovulation. There are tests that determine if you are ovulating. For the research you want to do for him, you better give up, you will most likely startle him. This is my advice to you, the decision is yours. Come on, and brag later, if there is good news :) of which to throw away a few pills for more reliable. Show him the blister so your plans don't fail. The other thing that is important is to be in or around ovulation. There are tests that determine if you are ovulating. For the research you want to do for him, you better give up, you will most likely startle him. This is my advice to you, the decision is yours. Come on, and brag later, if there is good news :)

   Not that anything but if there is no work with your man I am curled up to try to become the father of your child, meaning if you are beautiful I will have sex with you as much as you want while you conceive. I just don't know how you will contact me, that they won't let me post a contact, but you can ask the administrator if you want, after all you are the author of the topic and you are not a minor.

   Apparently you don't really think sober! You are young and it makes no sense sooner or later you will find a man who is suitable for the father of the child! And even if you don't have a child, it's not that bad! Sounds awful, but I know a lot of women like that and they don't have a problem with that, they say they have time and I'm not in a hurry !! Good luck finding a mate !!

   You yourself are aware that you do not think soberly;) Wait ... the best things happen unexpectedly !! ... or if you want a child so much and there is no one (the option is a "donor") but this is only a last resort and I do not recommend it !! Good luck

   I am 45 and I want to have children! and maybe a family,

   He who desires something very strongly receives it. Human opinion is not important - do what it takes to achieve your goal.

   The young lady is 28 years old and thinks she graduated from high school. I am not at all surprised by how many children are born out of interests. The sad truth, but true.

   I read the comments quite carefully. What I would like to advise you is to look for the man in your life with him will come the father not your child. Success Happily married man 43 years. with two wonderful sons.

   there is nothing more frightening than for a child to grow up without a father

   Hi, I found your story and it became interesting to me. Is there a development around your desire for a child? I am M29 from Sf and I don't see anything wrong with finding an inseminator without consequences and claims ... Write to me here or on ****. I don't see anything wrong with your wishes ...

   I can help

   Okay, and why on this site, and in general, when a woman / or a man / says that she wants a child, they start to dissuade her, that she should be the way she is, that she had time, that she can't eat what you are, it would not to be nice and not what you're talking about .. And in the opposite case, when someone / someone says that he does not want a child, then begins a mega intervention of the kind that somewhere ahead of time theoretically could / a regret his decision almost, but it would be too late and that the most important thing in a person's life was to reproduce but mater wat .. I am writing this comment not to explain to someone, but to think about the people who are from one way or the other ... and just don't care what the ideal thinkers are blabbering on about.

   I wonder what happened ...

   I looked at the simplicity for today thank you

   If someone agrees to become a donor, he will also want to become the father of that child, if it is done naturally. If she is going to do these tricks, it is better for the author not to share her plan, but to do it cautiously. Best with a few men in a few days, and she won't know who the father is.

   What comments only !!! Horror! Author, aren't you a princess to have men to order? And in five years you should be 33. What happened? Did you manage to lie to a man to impregnate you? Not that anything, just ask. If you have a beautiful body and a nice face, you will not have a problem with men for sex. But becoming a father will be quite difficult for you. Today's men don't want to get married and most don't want children. Emancipation also relieved them of their obligations. And, without condoms, few men have sex, because then the consequences remain for them, and with a positive paternity test, the court punishes them immediately. Today, with the famous women's rights, which were equal to men's rights, women are much more equal in every way, protected by law. You can easily accuse the man you liked of rape (he has no say and presumably in court, he is always guilty if you accuse him of anything you can think of), and if he does not want to go to prison he will have to admit the child, or live with you on a family basis if he does not want to marry. If you are not pregnant yet, act that after 35 it will be difficult for you to lie to someone to have sex with you!