I'm 15 and now I'm finishing 8th grade. Two days ago something happened to me that made me think about myself and my attitude towards other people. It was me and a friend, we were going to a boy I didn't know, but they both like each other. There were only three of us, and I don't really know what exactly I have to say, but the boy was behaving terribly badly with me. We don't know each other and I haven't told him anything bad, so it's clear that he's just like that. He makes remarks, expresses a negative opinion, which does not need to be shared (in this case at my address). So he made me uncomfortable in his company for the simple reason that I didn't like it and our very stay together was for no purpose. The only person I've ever met in my life is my uncle (and I). After much deliberation, I came to the conclusion that this type of people (if I may call them that) get nervous because they start imagining that something is happening too slowly and they start behaving more harshly with others (or with a certain person). Also, if someone is unpleasant to them, they show it quite clearly; if something seems meaningless, pointless, useless to themselves, they also begin to behave in this way. I am one of those people. I had spent a week with my uncle before and it was a terrible period :) After I came back and we were no longer together, I started to remember things (as I always do) and some aspects of his character (the ones I was talking about) fit exactly with my demeanor. I was really shocked then, but I didn't take him so badly, obviously because I was deluded that given that he's a big man, something is still different (and I can't explain it, but I just did not come to the conclusion that I need to change something - I accepted it rather with a smile and a big surprise, accompanied by a lot of thought :)) Now, however, seeing my "I" in the role of another teenager, really I was startled. Because I saw what he was causing. It is true that there are people I feel speak more cautiously when they are in my company (they are not my friends, but just classmates, for example). It is true that I tell people who think they are doing a great job that they are not. It's true that I get nervous if I think something is happening too slowly. It is true that I annoy the teachers and tell them in their eyes. But I do not understand such an attitude towards myself. And what turns out - I can not. Maybe I'm still very young, but I can't make anyone stop treating me like that (I'm talking about the boy in question and my uncle, for example) This attitude just makes people shut up, not oppose you (or at least they can't do it in a civilized way). What I felt in the week I was with my uncle and in that one hour with that boy was a huge helplessness, I don't know how to stop them. I do the same thing, but when it comes out against me, it falls asleep in me and wakes up when the situation disappears and I can't wake it up, damn it, I don't know how. I see how I behave, my brain doesn't even think about putting that disgusting behavior into action and shutting up this idiot, making him stop behaving like that. Well, I just can't. It's so unfortunate. I'm so pathetic. People don't deserve it, I have no right to treat them like that. And on top of that, I can't use it when I have to. And I'm of the opinion that when you do something, you have to do it right. I CAN'T TURN OFF THIS MECHANISM. It's possible to get used to it, it's possible to turn it over, to do it right, I just need a little more experience. Right? Have you met such people? (Some of you may think I'm deluding myself, but even my best friends have confirmed it - I'm like that) And what can I do about it? I can only dream of a psychologist to visit my topic and post a comment. Thank you all. but even my best friends have confirmed it-I'm like that) And what can I do about it? I can only dream of a psychologist to visit my topic and post a comment. Thank you all. but even my best friends have confirmed it-I'm like that) And what can I do about it? I can only dream of a psychologist to visit my topic and post a comment. Thank you all.
1 leahmariepipes10 answered
Yes, I know such people. The important thing is that you are aware of your problem. But it is quite ugly to treat people like that and when someone treats you like that, you do not react. For me it is a kind of complex, because the people who treated you like that (your uncle), now you're trying to get it back in some way to other people who didn't deserve it. And obviously, everything comes back. As you treat others, so they will reciprocate. But my advice is to try to eradicate this. It is important to say everything as it is, but do not overdo it with your sincerity, because you will suffer; )