I Think I Lost It.

   He can't be alone and he is looking for you to have someone around him. He was in love with you, now he is in love with the other, if he wins it he will remove you, then he will fall in love with a third, which he will change for a fourth ... There is no stopping, toxic man. Most likely and incapable of love, at least he doesn't love you, for sure, if he ignores you like that, he treats you like a sex friend. And now you are pumping his ego because you are in a lower position. Start dating other men in order to fall in love with one of them and do not return to this one, no matter how strong the thrill is, it is caused by the fact that you feel inaccessible to him. Meet on a conveyor belt, you will always find someone to like, even though he is not as 'colorful' as the gentleman in question with obvious pathology.

   The problem is that these are toxic, unbalanced relationships in which you only received attention, love and did not return them. You don't understand how to behave, you didn't make an effort for the relationship, you were an object and not a subject. In fact, he had to do everything to move and maintain this connection, and now he can direct them elsewhere, because you did not develop this connection anyway, only he acted. Now the interest is elsewhere and you fall into a hole and you don't know what to do because you have never made an effort and the only thing you know and can do is sulk, but it doesn't work because he is no longer asleep. In order for a relationship to be balanced, both parties must make equal efforts, if he compliments you, you do not say thank you, but you also compliment him if he is looking for you and you are looking for him, etc. He was supposed to "chase" you, so now you are at a dead end, you do not know how to develop and maintain a relationship, but you are just a consumer. To me, any quality man would refuse to have anything to do with you in the first or second refusal on your part because of your attitude. This leaves you with the option to leave the whole job of developing relationships in the hands of men without self-confidence and self-esteem who tend to tolerate your stupidity, rejection and insecurity, insulting and passive attitude and "chase" you and when they get tired of passing. of the next. To me, any quality man would refuse to have anything to do with you in the first or second refusal on your part because of your attitude. This leaves you with the option to leave the whole job of developing relationships in the hands of men without self-confidence and self-esteem who tend to tolerate your stupidity, rejection and insecurity, insulting and passive attitude and "chase" you and when they get tired of passing. on the next. For me, any quality man would refuse to have anything to do with you in the first or second refusal on your part because of your attitude. This leaves you with the option to leave the whole job of developing relationships in the hands of men without self-confidence and self-esteem who tend to tolerate your stupidity, rejection and insecurity, insulting and passive attitude and "chase" you and when they get tired of passing. on the next.

   Well, act like him. He caught another one, two, three ... and you will be adequate to his behavior.

   Complete ignore even if you pray ... and you will have results soon ....

   You don't know anything, you just think you know what to do. Don't you have a husband, children, and you do nonsense. Don't you understand that you're tired of him? Most likely, he is also married and is looking for women just to fuck, if he loved you he would not bite the line after the new colleague. Get rid of it and find a valuable person or pay attention to your husband and children. These women are very stupid creatures. A whore man begins to enchant you with sweet talk and hop in bed, and we think he loves you. Not only words are needed in love, but also deeds. Get rid of it, you can't live with a whore, as well as with a whore ... M39

   Your boyfriend is a womanizer type. Today you are, tomorrow your colleague, another day the new intern. You, in order to agree only to a sexual relationship without any degree of seriousness, showed him what your goods are, and this type of man dies for ladies like you until noon. And it is clear that you are a serious girl who falls for him and I don't understand why you let yourself get here Get your confidence back and find a real boyfriend to wait for you after work, to go on trips together and rub the nose of this jerk

   In my opinion, he is a hunter and now he has identified his new victim, she may not pay attention to him and at such moments he seeks contact with you. For an open sexual relationship, in my opinion, it will not work in your favor, because he will waste his energy with it and you will not get anything. And if she wants it too, you'll stay away. What you want to offer him is to be online and he will use you when it is convenient for him. Maybe he'll use you when she doesn't let him. But if she wants him too, he will not come to you and you will suffer. Stop humiliating yourself and running after him. For us women, this number passes, but for men it gives the opposite results. As bad as it sucks, this is the situation, find someone else.

   I don't think he's dealing with him anymore. She will play with the new colleague, then an even better one will appear and so on. Apparently he is not serious in his relationship and is only looking for flirtations and new things. If he was serious, he wouldn't start flirting with the other one once he chose you. Look for someone else, no matter how hard it may seem to you now, then you will be happier instead of continuing with this frivolous guy. She will always be nicer, more attractive, but if she has feelings for you, she will not pay such attention to others. It's as if a new colleague better than him is coming now and you immediately jump in and don't pay attention to the previous one. I think he was looking for love somewhere outside the office. Good luck and don't regret it, you will find much better.

   She said it herself - an open sexual relationship and with that you got the answer

   It all depends on how much and when the new colleague will give in. since she is so amazing, surely she is not without other options. My advice is to step back and ignore him, not to look at him pitifully like a puppy. At least don't expose yourself, it's clear you can't get it back with a magic wand. Keep your dignity, don't bother him, so that if the other one cuts him off, he can come back to you. But it's a big game of nerves, and when you have feelings, it can be very painful to play it. Think about what you want and get in such a relationship. Here, you see, you're OK, it's open, but it turns out you're not.

   Thank you very much for everyone's feedback. It is very difficult to maintain such a relationship, especially when you have lower self-esteem. I am fully aware that it is not for me. I can't stand it, but he keeps me on the carousel all the time. Until yesterday, I had decided to visit a psychotherapist because I obviously have a problem with myself, as I can't end this relationship, which brings me more tears. But today he is wonderful again and I am the happiest. Until a few days later, when he starts ignoring me again. You are absolutely right that I should break this connection, but I can't. I love him with all his quirks. To number 2 - you have identified the problem very precisely. I also think I'm a little passive and that's why our relationship is not complete. But I am passive in terms of demand. He always looks for me first. Maybe I should stop worrying, that I could get annoyed with him and start talking first. In terms of compliments, he gets as much as I get from him. Sometimes I even overdo it with them and "I love you". But in the end, I like telling him. But I definitely have a communication problem. It often happens that I get burned. I really hate myself for that. What it really means to be an object and to move a relationship

   Hi, I'm number 2. Being an object means that you are not an active party, that you leave it "stationary" until it does something. You are "waiting" for him to do something, you yourself are in the process of waiting. If he undertakes something, there is development, if he does not undertake, there is no development. This creates an imbalance in the relationship because one side is making an effort, it is active and the other side is just waiting and is passive. So the relationship is moving on one side only. This is very tiring and frankly disrespectful to the active party. Why? Because if we have a man who likes a woman and does not have any mean intentions towards her, but is sincere, he will make a gesture and show his intentions. From there, the woman must respond with the same, that is, she must be active, then he, then she, etc. However, if the woman remains passive and he makes one, two, three gestures and she does not respond or worse - she pretends to be inaccessible, cuts him, etc. he feels it as a lack of reciprocity, insulting attitude, ingratitude for the attitude shown by him, etc. Because he does not want nothing from her but he wants a good, good relationship for both of them, he will withdraw and leave because he feels invaluable and offended. However, if in this situation there is a man who is mainly interested in his own needs and does not sleep for her, who sees her as an object, that is, the relationship as the realization of his own desires and fantasies, as nourishing his own ego, such a person tends to he suffers bad treatment, refusals, lack of reciprocity, etc., because he does not sleep for the woman as a person, as a human being. He sees it as an object that he uses to fulfill his personal desires. Therefore, he does not care how she behaves, because he does not respect her, for him her actions are irrelevant and have no value because in his eyes she does not have such. He can keep insisting until he achieves his goal. Women who are passive, who prefer the man to do all the courtship work, who tend to procrastinate, cut, keep at a distance, who are insecure about their behavior repel quality men who would not tolerate abusive treatment and attract users and men who they don't care about them. They mistakenly think that if the man is chasing them, then he is in love, he really cares about them, etc. Later they are disappointed. On the other hand, being active and moving the relationship means that you are not waiting for the man to take you down, you are not behaving badly and disrespectfully, but you are trying to predispose him, to facilitate it, to seek it, to make gestures as well, etc. Such an attitude attracts quality men who seek precisely this reciprocity and a sense of being valued. When you do this and make the same effort for the relationship as he does to balance the relationship, that relationship is no longer because he was a "hunter" and you are a "victim" but because you have both built something together. You have made a mutual effort, you have made sacrifices, compromises, etc. in the name of this relationship and it is not just his work but in general, the two of you. Such a relationship is balanced and very stable, because it is built on reciprocity, it is not built on the principle that one gives and the other takes, and on the principle that both give and both receive from this relationship. If you or any other woman wants a nice, stable,

   The author Hello number 2! Thank you very much for your time for me. You are absolutely right about passivity. Until now, I hadn't thought that I was actually acting a bit like a princess waiting for the prince to organize everything - messages, calls, meetings, surprises. The strange thing is that I'm the only one with him. In my previous relationship I was equally active with my previous partner, but then I knew that he loved me and I was 100% relaxed myself. It's very different now. He only wants me for sex. He doesn't love me the way I would like to, and I react clearly in a protective way, keeping myself reserved and passive. Apparently my behavior is not productive because he is annoyed and I am more hurt than ever. You are also right that he forgives me all the fuss. I thought it was because he loved me, but the truth is, he doesn't seem to care. It hurts to tell you the truth and realize it, but I needed it. Many thanks to everyone for the comments!

   That it hurts is clear. But don't close your eyes to what is even more crystal clear than your pain - it's time to retire. And no, no, because you have no chance against her! There will always be someone who is PO - !!! from us in some respects, but we are always PO - !!! in another respect. It's time to retire, because HE is not your man, he didn't want anything serious from you, and now he doesn't want it seriously. You're just safe and comfortable for him. He knows that you are there to feed his self-confidence and you are an option if the colleague does not tie. This is his game - to "hunt" and receive. Now the "game" is different. But he is still used to being adored by you. He doesn't want to release the tame one yet, but that will probably happen at some point. I know it sounds rude and hurtful, but open your eyes to the facts. And believe me - there are always others, who would appreciate YOU with dignity! Yes, they may not be as "cute" and they don't play like Don Juan, but that's Juan's "job." Go back to reality and look for someone who will truly love you !!! G30

   Hello author again, I am number 2. I am glad that you benefit from my posts and that the time I took to write them was worth it. To correct you, I am not "she" but "he". These things that I wrote to you could hardly be told to you by a woman simply because she does not understand the psychology of a man. As a man can not put himself in the place of a woman and understand psychology in depth and vice versa is true. There are many women who claim to understand men, but this is their delusion. Their understanding is very superficial and elementary and usually comes down to sex. If something is wrong in the relationship, usually their comment is more or less the following: "uses you for sex", "cheats on you with another", "wants a quick sex" or something just as primitive.

   I support the commenter with number 2, because I am also a man, and it is a world secret that we are in solidarity, nothing that we do not know each other. If a valuable, self-respecting man feels disrespect on the part of the woman, he should leave. If it's just another piece - then he doesn't care much about the woman's personality and attitude towards him and can play the bagpipe for a while to get his regular dose of blowjobs, for example

   The author Hello again. You are very kind. Thank you for the advice and opinions. Thanks also to number 2. I really needed a male point of view. I ended once again, but this time it is final. He already has a relationship with the 20-year-old secretary, who is very beautiful, fresh and fun. And he's crazy about her. They see each other every night. He takes her to all sorts of places and even spends the night with her. He had never done all this for me because he was married. This is something I had not shared. But apparently it was not his wife who was the cause, but his lack of desire. This sobered me up and I realized that he never had any feelings for me. It hurts a lot to understand that the person you love madly sees in you just an inflatable doll. I'm just crushed. Anyway, I decided to tell him that we were leaving friends and wished him happiness. The next day he wrote to me, as if I had said nothing - "good morning, my love". This time I held back and told him I hadn't changed my mind. He stopped looking for me, but wrote to me again a few days later. This time as friends, but suddenly as we wrote to each other and deleted all his messages and fell silent. I was very sad. He doesn't even want me as a friend. He stopped writing to me and came to the office. Until today, when he came and started talking to me in a very friendly and cheerful way. I was nice, but still at a distance. He looked happy. She also. He doesn't care about me at all anymore. I had just resigned myself. With your help, I had accepted things, and today, when I saw that he was no longer fighting for me and continued with his love, I collapsed again. Maybe I still had some hope that he would miss me, but I was obviously very ugly. I realize that I have never meant anything and will never mean anything to this man, and yet, apparently, I subconsciously still hope. Poor picture. The other problem is that I don't know how to deal with it when I see it. He talks to me, and instead of chatting happily with him, I can barely keep from crying and say something stupid and try to run away. What should I do - try to be cheerful and relaxed or just skip it?

   Hi again, I'm number 2. I know it's hard and I sympathize with you. Go past him and keep your distance, this person has treated you incorrectly. You have a right to be offended and upset that he has replaced you so easily after all these years. If you are close to him, you will only suffer by watching him with his new mistress.

   Do you want a male opinion? Here's mine. I feel for you. First, for a very long time your relationship was sexual (empty and meaningless). You have allowed yourself to be treated as an oasis that you always enter freely for sex. She was. you are "at hand". In my opinion, the meaning of a relationship is marriage, children responsibilities. Well, in a word, to develop. You pretended to be inaccessible for two years ... Then it comes back to you. What to say. You came across a complete jerk, but you allowed him to put you under emotional dependence. You have deceived each other. You tortured him for too long, instead of getting to know him if he became a husband, if you wanted to have a child with this man, if you wanted to raise a child with him ... Instead, you pretended to be an impregnable fortress and finally let him in. . Just because he wrote you a heart and nonsense for so long, doesn't mean he loved you, but that he is surprisingly consistent and consistent in achieving his goals. You say that was the only way I could be with him. Why? What do you think he did for two years? Do you think he was complacent while he was waiting for you? You didn't know a lot of things, and you don't know about him yet. This is my opinion. He sent a heart to other women. When someone disappears and doesn't write, when he doesn't care if you see each other or not, when he is silent and smart. It's clear as day. Man has a place to go to have fun. If you think she's just the new colleague in sight, I think there are more "surprises". Such guys have several sure options. They are never allowed to keep "eggs in a basket". They always have a plan B, C, D, E ... etc. Don't think that if you divert him, he will start polishing the cane. No. He'll just go to one of the spare. You should see these things. You didn't know him well. You looked at other things than the important ones. If the only option to be with him is sex, what did you expect more? Your man has been dictating his terms to you all along. Above, someone wrote to you to start connections on a pipeline, ignoring, etc etc ... Now, if starting indiscriminate relationships because of him, it will be another great simplicity. You're going to hurt yourself, you're going to hurt unsuspecting people ... It's stupid and cruel. Other men aren't to blame for being a jerk. Someone can fall in love, love you, and you use it for revenge. This is not done with people. And they are human and they have dignity. One must enter into a relationship when one has overcome one's previous mistakes and when one meets one with whom one can sincerely fall in love. Many people lately have no idea why they get in touch or come in to forget the previous one ... Nonsense and mistakes multiply. One should not be the first to signal and "take revenge" on the opposite sex just because they have hurt him and allowed himself, to a large extent, to be fucked. One mistake is not corrected by another. A wound does not heal by injuring the innocent. My advice is, get the guy out of your head. He wasn't your man. Then go to work to make it work. It will not be easy. It will hurt like hell, but that's the price. When we do nonsense, the bill comes. Everyone loves to eat and drink, but when it's time to pay, we cry ... You haven't asked about the price before. You didn't have enough to pay the bill. Get rid of him. Relax. Go out, relax, and rest. Dont do anything. When you calm down, then look around for something readable. I sincerely sympathize with you. I hope you recover an hour sooner and shake off all this. Agree with me that to a large extent she made many mistakes on her own. It's no coincidence that people have said, "Where you get your bread, you don't get that job." He, of course. As a man, I tell you he's a jerk. See options to change the office, even the job, if it's hard for you to see it. From everything you've written in your story, I see one, at least. This is not your man. You have made many mistakes too. I want you to find a real man. They are few, but there are. Keep your head up. I hope you find true happiness one day. I want you to find a real man. They are few, but there are. Keep your head up. I hope you find true happiness one day. I want you to find a real man. They are few, but there are. Keep your head up. I hope you find true happiness one day.

   First of all, if I were more sensitive, I would cry over this story. It is very sad that they "take over" you and then abandon you ... Further - some in the previous comments allow themselves to mentor you, even to blame you ... nothing like that! From the way you express yourself, I can very easily sense (I am a writer) what kind of person is behind the text. You are just a MAN with big letters, and quite naturally you have discovered, after a reasonable enough time, the otherwise flawless courtship of a man. He may have believed in himself (most likely), but this "love" of his was not bound by a sense of responsibility, commitment, and notion of consequences. Having changed his attitude so drastically, this undoubtedly indicates such a "diagnosis". He currently has "access" to you, because your love is devoted and deep and, as far as I can see, abuses it, hurting you even more deeply. He may not be a bad person - he may just be stupid or another victim of our perverted times. But this is separate - you should retire FOREVER - no matter what it costs you. Personally, I recently found myself in a relationship in which illogical things were evident from the very beginning: lack of reciprocity, "pushing" correspondence, lack of replies to letters, closing the phone, excuses, etc. When I tried to clarify, however , I was warmly convinced that I was "very important" in her life, and I was asked to continue writing to her. However, her "failures" continued until the moment came to cut like a sword. It hurts right now - there have been nights when I can't blink, but I know I did the right thing, and posts like yours only reassure me of the correctness of the decision. The person in question made an attempt at rapprochement after two months of silence on my part, but I very kindly made it clear that things were over. The attempts continue, in a much more delicate form, but after all that has happened, I do not see any possibility of recovery, no matter how much the feelings push me towards it. The good news for me is that there was no sex. They bind the woman emotionally a lot - that's why I am a supporter of such ONLY after marriage. Otherwise, the woman is in danger of jumping from partner to partner forever and losing the ability to trust - especially you, who have tested the colleague in question for two years. It turns out there are men, ready to wait two years to conquer the woman, and after feeling victorious, to abandon her! Change your life circumstances so that you do not see him, and if you can, do not look at his profile on social networks. It will fade away - very slowly and painfully, but it will fade away. And at least for a while, don't think about a new relationship - even if they're courting you. You need peace of mind - your nerves are not ready for a new relationship. Just tell the possible new candidate that you have no intention of a relationship. ... There is also the possibility of being left alone. After the experience, you would hardly start a relationship, just to not be left alone, or to "not miss the chance" because "time is running out and will not return." In this situation, you should get used to living alone little by little - it's not so scary, and man is offered countless opportunities for self-development and charity. Courage and ... a brotherly embrace, sister!

   Hello! Many thanks to everyone who got involved in my topic. Special thanks to the male part (up to numbers 2 and 19). I needed a masculine point of view. I also appreciate the support you give me. You have no idea how good it is to share and have someone understand you without reproaching you and quite intelligently and elegantly help you look away, point out your mistakes and give you advice. I haven't been in contact with him for a month now. He called me 3 times and stopped. Not asking me to come back. I am tempted to look for him every day, but I remember that he does not have the feelings that I have and has already forgotten me. He is already in love with the young colleague and seems to be different. Maybe it was good for things to happen so I realized I didn't mean anything to him. In the end, it's my fault. I knew he was a womanizer and I knew that it was only a matter of time before he cheated on me. I also knew that I had parallel relationships with other women, but it didn't bother me because I didn't know who they were, where they were, and I didn't see them. I had come to terms with sexual relations and never hoped for anything more because he was married and because he had cheated on all his wives. He also had his positives, nothing that insulted him all the time. He has always been a good friend of mine. There was not a day when we didn't hear each other, we shared, I always received help from him, he was always positive and with a sense of humor ... I'm trying to say that I wasn't with him because of sex. By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. I accepted him as he was, but I was not prepared that he could truly fall in love with another and change his attitude towards me so drastically. He stopped looking for me so often, he started looking for flaws, to pick on retail, not to answer my messages .... In the end, only sex remained. That's all he was looking for. I told him that I understood him, that he was happily in love and I did not want to disturb him with my jealousy and I would like to remain friends, but he did not want to. He stopped all contact with me. This showed me that he never really cared about me. It was always just sex. But how can you keep in touch on a daily basis just for sex for a few years, surprising me until the end and we had even started to communicate more freely and friendly. And suddenly he became obsessed with her. What do you think - did he still love me at least a little, even in his own way? It is important for me to understand it so that I can continue without it. I've been dumped before, but I always knew I was loved, but for one reason or another things didn't work out and they told me the end and we didn't look for each other anymore. It's awful for me to find out after so many years that I haven't been loved at all. I did not seek or hope for crazy and true love on his part, but I felt that he held on to me in some way and that was enough for me. It is very painful for me to understand that he played theater all the time and I was nothing to him. I both realize it's over and I miss it. I want to know how he is, to see him, to smile at me and to hug him .... Lately I am more and more tempted to look for him, but so far I am succeeding because I know it doesn't make sense, because he is in love with another and nothing will be the same anymore. So I'm asking for your opinion - do men with sexual relations have any feelings for their sex girlfriends and can they really fall in love with a woman, on which to look with different eyes. Keep in mind that he never says end and "loves" you to the last. As far as I know, he has been in a relationship with a woman older than him for 10 years. I know she's very important to him, and he always suffered when she got mad at him. He suffered for me only in the beginning. He hadn't cared lately that he was losing me. In general, I let him see if he would look for me, but he didn't look for me.

   From the author to number 20. Thank you for the story you shared. Apparently there are women who know that they can manipulate it. I think I need to improve my self-esteem so that I can learn to choose the men in my life and not them me. I hope you find the right woman for you who is in love with you as much as you are. I give you back my hug

   Hello, I am number 2. For me there is no doubt that he was attached to you and had / has feelings. They, unfortunately, were not strong enough, the very fact that he has different girlfriends proves it. A man who is in love, I mean really in love with one woman, does not think about another and has no desire for another. Of course, this is a rarity, and it is even more rare to be reciprocal. He is obviously in love with his new girlfriend and has eyes only for her. In general, such a relationship in which you are one of the many lovers are not very good and appropriate. The best option is to have a relationship with an unmarried man without any third or fourth parties involved in the scenario. It happened to you because he was patient and persistent, but it's better for you to be active and approach a man you like instead of waiting for him to approach, because otherwise you attract people like him. However, I have the feeling that not much time will pass and his new love will break his heart and then he will come to you. Then it is good that you have made a decision and given him the answer he deserves.

   From the author to number 2 The strange thing about him is that he did not want to stop our meetings even while he was with her. My problem was that since then he has lost his friendly attitude towards me and only the sec remains, and that is not enough for me. He didn't want us to break up, but I insisted because it was too painful for me. In addition, he has not stopped his relationship with the older woman. On the other hand, he seems madly in love with his younger colleague. I don't understand how he can maintain relationships with so many women and "love" them all. Otherwise, I don't think she will break his heart because she is small and so in love with him. She follows him like a puppy and now she is happy, now she falls into depression. Just like I was while I was with him. Apparently these hot and cold showers drive women crazy. We still want to save the man. To tame him. In fact, I struggled with windmills all the time. Now that you think about it, what attracts him so irresistibly is the contrast between passion and at the same time great care. This leads to addiction. I often wonder why I can't just use it, just like he did me. But I can't. I don't have that confidence. Otherwise I don't think he'll look for me anymore. He usually lasts a week looking for me, and now a month has passed. He came to the office today. Do not talk to me. As if I'm gone. I am a closed page for him. I'm afraid I won't look for him, because then I'll be very wrong. I don't wish it on anyone. There is no worse addiction than addiction to a person. I often wonder why I can't just use it, just like he did me. But I can't. I don't have that confidence. Otherwise I don't think he'll look for me anymore. He usually lasts a week looking for me, and now a month has passed. He came to the office today. Do not talk to me. As if I'm gone. I am a closed page for him. I'm afraid I won't look for him, because then I'll be very wrong. I don't wish it on anyone. There is no worse addiction than addiction to a person. I often wonder why I can't just use it, just like he did me. But I can't. I don't have that confidence. Otherwise I don't think he'll look for me anymore. He usually lasts a week looking for me, and now a month has passed. He came to the office today. Do not talk to me. As if I'm gone. I am a closed page for him. I'm afraid I won't look for him, because then I'll be very wrong. I don't wish it on anyone. There is no worse addiction than addiction to a person.

   Number 19, I will venture to say that I really fell in love with your way of thinking. I've been so frustrated with men lately that your comment impressed me and made me think I was hoping I wouldn't become some kind of vicious male hater. You know, as weird as it sounds while reading what you wrote, I had the feeling that I wrote it at certain moments. Admiration that you have restored my faith in men and that maybe there is someone out there who could make me feel happy!

   Number 19, I will venture to say that I really fell in love with your way of thinking. I've been so frustrated with men lately that your comment impressed me and made me think I was hoping I wouldn't become some kind of vicious male hater. You know, as weird as it sounds while reading what you wrote, I had the feeling that I wrote it at certain moments. Admiration that you have restored my faith in men and that maybe there is someone out there who could make me feel happy! Mia

   Hi again, I'm number 2. It's all very annoying, but so far I don't see what can be done. You will experience it slowly. Keep me posted :-)

   Hello 25-26 I am the 19th. I recently experienced a difficult separation from a wonderful woman, two months ago ... I wrote a topic here and poured out all my grief. My heart is completely devastated. I miss him so much. I've been here before out of curiosity, but I've been reading and commenting for a few weeks ... I'm looking for comfort. My friends can't stand me and can't stand to see me because I'm constantly sad ... I vowed not to write or read here anymore, but I'm damn lonely and ... I'm sorry. For you, for me, for so much wounded and broken hearts that just want ... Love. Anyone can give advice. But not everyone can "enter" you and feel the pain ... be rejected ... agonize alone at home and cry in pain. The other one just says goodbye ... and that's it. Very nice of you to be in love with my way of thinking ... That's a big compliment ... Thank you. Many people I have helped have told me. This is part of my job. To think correctly and to help. But ... there is no one to help me. Always after a severe life crash, when I am overthrown, I am left alone. I lie bloodied, humiliated and lonely, I wait, I cry and I wait again ... To pass. Then I get up. I barely ... and I keep going. There are few beautiful souls in this world ... they are too few and too lonely. The vulgarity has started to flood and disfigure everyone, but ... someone still dares to oppose it. I don't stop doing it ... I fell in love with the most beautiful woman in the world ... But she didn't believe me. He left me without explanation. He disappeared ... He called me a fraud and a hypocrite, he told me that he felt with his heart that I was a hypocrite ... Yesterday he wrote it to me on Viber. He has been silent for a month and a half. Yesterday I tried to write something to her. I couldn't stand it. It hurt me to leave me like that, suddenly ... Yesterday he told me why. Because I'm a hypocrite. Tolkoz. There was nothing to say just ... I forgive her. Let her be alone with her advice ... She is so hurt that she just can't ... she just can't believe she can meet someone who will accept her with all its shortcomings and to adore it ... It's good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such spiritual beauty that ... there is no room for fear, no place for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone. .. Do not despair of people. There are people of all kinds. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... insane. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. There was nothing to say just ... I forgive her. Let her be alone with her advice ... She is so hurt that she just can't ... she just can't believe she can meet someone who will accept her with all its shortcomings and to adore it ... It's good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such spiritual beauty that ... there is no room for fear, no place for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone. .. Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... insane. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. There was nothing to say just ... I forgive her. Let her be alone with her advice ... She is so hurt that she just can't ... she just can't believe she can meet someone who will accept her with all its shortcomings and to adore it ... It's good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such spiritual beauty that ... there is no room for fear, no place for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone. .. Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... to the point of insanity. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. She is so hurt that she just can't ... she just can't believe that she can meet a person who will accept her with all her flaws and adore her ... It's good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such spiritual beauty that ... there is no room for fear , there is no room for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone ... Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... insane. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. She is so hurt that she just can't ... she just can't believe that she can meet a person who will accept her with all her flaws and adore her ... It's nice when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such spiritual beauty that ... there is no room for fear , there is no room for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone ... Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... insane. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. It is good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such a spiritual beauty that ... there is no place for fear, no place for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone ... Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... to the point of insanity. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. It is good when you see someone's thoughts ... when they touch you, when you feel that unique delight that someone thinks like you ... that you are not alone ... you dissolve in front of him and you are not ashamed because you are united in such a spiritual beauty that ... there is no place for fear, no place for doubt ... trust is light ... you breathe and enjoy that you are not alone ... you are not alone ... Do not despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... to the point of insanity. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. Don't despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... insane. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you. Don't despair of people. There are all kinds of people. It's not up to a man or a woman. Gender doesn't matter. It's important to be honest ... to the point of insanity. This is the secret, dear Mia. Here I told you.

   Author, you made a big mistake by getting married to a married man in the beginning. If he has established a relationship with you, then he is a person with the attitude to cheat and it is logical that he went to the next one. Your other mistake is that this is a colleague at work. If you haven't worked together, you may have experienced it by now. You broke up with him - a worthy deed. But what good is it if you continue to experience this passion and hope - but will it change, but today he was very nice, but not yesterday. And if he whistles at you again, you will run after him again. Abe, have more dignity and self-respect, what are you clinging to a pathetic reptile and howling like a completely immature teenager? !!

   A banal and mediocre story, with mediocre characters. I apologize if anyone is offended but it is so. The classic story of the eternally awaiting woman who is perceived as someone's reward for which men have to fight with teeth and nails. The eternal womanizer who comes down to anyone who smiles at him. And the eternal poisoned muffin who thinks that this life's highest goal is to have fun.

   Hi number 19, I'm really sorry that you're going through such a period in your life. As hard as it is for you to accept parting with the woman you love, believe me, it's better to be told they don't want you than to be ignorant for years and use you. Because that is exactly my case. I want to believe that everything that happens in our lives is for the better, or at least that it makes us stronger. My experience so far, however, has made me doubt that sincerity is the way ... I have always been an open and sincere person and almost all people important to me have betrayed me in one way or another. Maybe I was naive and looked at life with pink glasses, I don't know, but it's not true that what you give you get in return. My heart is broken and I think I will never be able to fully surrender my feelings and emotions to another person. Or maybe that was the lesson I needed to learn. I have always been told that I am a person with a strong intuition about things and people, and despite everything, things get to the point where I am disappointed and hurt. Despite everything I have experienced, however, I do not think I will change, I am like that and I like myself like that - emotional, giving, open and compassionate. The bad thing is that I'm a person of habits, I have a hard time with the changes in my personal life and I guess I have a low sense of self-preservation - I still hope that something will change and things remain the same. In my case, I have to choose between my own dignity and pride and another person, which ruins me mentally, because it is difficult to choose between reason and feelings, especially when you are a person who is guided mainly by the latter ... I can't say for myself that I'm a stupid person, but with the man in question I met, I went out just like that, because I forgave him everything ... I got to the point where I wanted to never love anyone again, to be able to to be selfish and to always put myself in front of others, to stop conforming to anything and to look at myself as well - but I can't ... I probably haven't matured enough in terms of emotional intelligence, no knowing. I often feel different and somehow out of place in a world where everyone wears a mask, in which hypocrisy, lies and use are tolerated ... It makes it easier for me to write and read on this site, somehow I feel less lonely and misunderstood. Mia that I want to never love anyone again, to be able to be selfish and always put myself in front of others, to stop conforming to anything and to look at myself to be well - but I can't ... I probably haven't matured enough in terms of emotional intelligence, I don't know. I often feel different and somehow out of place in such a world where everyone wears a mask, in which hypocrisy, lies and use are tolerated ... It makes it easier for me to write and read on this site, somehow I feel less lonely and misunderstood. Mia that I want to never love anyone again, to be able to be selfish and always put myself in front of others, to stop conforming to anything and to look at myself to be well - but I can't ... I probably haven't matured enough in terms of emotional intelligence, I don't know. I often feel different and somehow out of place in such a world where everyone wears a mask, in which hypocrisy, lies and use are tolerated ... It makes it easier for me to write and read on this site, somehow I feel less lonely and misunderstood. Mia I often feel different and somehow out of place in such a world where everyone wears a mask, in which hypocrisy, lies and use are tolerated ... It makes it easier for me to write and read on this site, somehow I feel less lonely and misunderstood. Mia I often feel different and somehow out of place in such a world where everyone wears a mask, in which hypocrisy, lies and use are tolerated ... It makes it easier for me to write and read on this site, somehow I feel less lonely and misunderstood. Mia

   19. Dear Mia, It is not appropriate to write more in this topic :) Obviously you are not the author and I will not be surprised if they make a remark to us already. I wish the author to shake off this person as soon as possible. This is not love, but some ancient sodomy, where it is not known who is who ... this differs drastically from my notions of love and intimacy ... I am not so "modern" and "liberated" to understand such relationships. Whoever accepts them, does them and finds them normal ... I'm sorry. People who profess the idea of ​​"just sex", "sex partner", etc ... for me are insolvent as individuals. As an intellect it can, qualities, etc., but as individuals they are insolvent. Sex is not fitness, dancing, nor tennis, massage or a game of chess or a pleasant time spent with a "partner" that refreshes us, tones us, adjusts our hormones, thrills, antics, emotional entertainment combined with physical pleasure, pleasure that is worth the risk, adventure ... This is disgusting. Many people do, most I would say. It is even so "natural" that it is associated with freedom, values ​​... The result is as follows. Broken psychic people. Sex should be something very personal, intimate, intimate, a unique experience between a man and a woman ... Something that happens only between them ... There is no place for another. The very idea of ​​having other people, distort this intimacy, turn it into something mediocre and insolvent ... violates the whole idea of ​​normalcy, sincerity, trust ... There is a disfigurement of personality, madness, abnormality, pathology ... Destruction of the personality. It is no coincidence that all mental illnesses have as a behavioral deviation reckless and indiscriminate sexuality, the so-called promiscuity. Sexuality affects our psyche. We are not animals, we have feelings, deep, pure human feelings. When we get out of the normal, natural boundaries of the couple, starting triangles, quadrilaterals and all sorts of unimaginable geometric shapes ... even phenomena unknown to geometry ... Then chaos ensues. Complete emotional and mental insolvency and degradation. I have no intention of arguing with anyone. This is my opinion, but there is also a lot of scientific evidence for it. Proponents of free sexuality, who with whom, when and how he likes, as long as it is by mutual consent also have their arguments and also "scientific" evidence. Everyone has the unique opportunity to live their unique life as they see fit and right. Age and youth will never return, mistakes remain, hopefully they will bring at least lessons. Dozens or hundreds of forgotten "partners" from youth will not give you a glass of water when you are sick or old ... Your loved one will do it if you have it ... if you have not driven it away ... Normal things are natural things, and only the normal ones can be natural ... Author, don't waste your time with this person. He is married (sorry for his wife), he has found a solid and respectable man. Shake off this psychic enchantment ... This is the modern scourge of the new age, which cripples and disfigures people. It's called addiction. Addiction. I will write to you about this if you are interested. About addiction. Author, I sympathize with you with all my heart. Because you're hurt. Because they did not respond to your feelings. But believe me - there are people who are not worthy. Sincere feelings are for sincere people ... Mia, write me in my story. You'll find her, I'm sure.

   Comment number 34 - I'm sorry that people find it so difficult to find each other, the time we have in this world is too short .. I wish I had met a woman like you in my life.