I Think Because Of Missing The Barracks, I Can't Find What I Want To Be In Life.

Many people who have passed through the barracks (they are at that age) obviously do not have the effect you want. If this is your pain, there is voluntary service. And another alternative is to enroll in a sport, maybe martial arts will be most suitable for you. This is my advice.

The barracks teaches you to overcome difficulties and obstacles in life. You look back and see what you did there and say to yourself that you can do it now in reality. And most often you do it. And it's not bad to know how handles a handsome 5.65 or 7.62. Who knows, you may need it someday. There is no vain knowledge and skill.

You are in a big mistake, why are you wandering around the past and opportunities in the past? Accept that it's over and just look ahead. If you are from the last sets, you are around 32-34 years old. You are not small and you have to find out what you are good at and what you want from life. Don't bother with variations, because you don't know where you would be assigned, what people to meet and what functions to perform. Watch your life today and now.

After the barracks, you would just feel the same way. Your problems are elsewhere. Talk to a psychologist and don't worry :)

The barracks had nothing to teach you but simplicity and squabbling. But you could get hepatitis, another disease, or an illness. There are two types of people in the barracks - monsters and victims. So just rejoice.

And I don't think the barracks have anything to do with not knowing who you are and what you want. With that in your heart, why not try to become a military man, for example? It's not too late to try. I guess your torments are related to the fact that you do not have a profession and education, you are not the only one, if we believe those who share here. Think about what you would be good at, check how to acquire knowledge and skills, and act! You must be a little over 30 years old, you're a little late, so don't waste time, act! Success!

Well, since it's such a big problem for you that you haven't entered the barracks, why don't you do it now? Otherwise, to think that all other activities other than serving in the barracks are lower seems crazy to me, to put it mildly. There are so many more responsible and precise professions that it is not true, such as a surgeon, a pilot and many others, which require much more skills, precision and knowledge than serving in a barracks !? The reason you think that way, I think, is your own low self-esteem and the need to prove yourself to others in order to get their approval. I may be wrong, but please get out of the movie that serving in a barracks will make your life meaningful.

You seem to forget that all the people you described went through the barracks. And to think that the barracks would have shown you what your possibilities are is completely absurd. A boy is degraded in the barracks, with a damaged upbringing and mental distortions that may not be corrected for decades afterwards. And to realize how absurd your perception is, just look around and see the countries where there is no forced barracks, what the world is like in terms of development, economy, culture, values ​​and normalcy of the population and compare them with the countries where people are forced. in the barracks as in a prison. The barracks is the greatest simplicity in the world. It is characteristic mainly of dictatorships, communists and Muslim countries. If NATO was a person, I would shake his hand and hug him. He entered Bulgaria with tanks and freed her from the post-Soviet coercive regime forcibly imprisoning young people in these camps, kicking out the vicious communist officers from there who liked to crush the young people forced into them. He kicked out their stinking UAZs bearing the memory of that era, put on the armored Hummers, and said, "with the pork you're used to, so far."

Don't feel lost, you wouldn't get any virtues in the barracks, but you would have a more deformed psyche, which would be useful to you today. By deformed, I mean that you would be more restless, it would be easier to accept the challenges, more settled, but you would lose valuable time from your youth. These are myths about perversions, only the ankles of Sofia whimpered if an old soldier sent them to the cigarette butt or if they made them bring water. Some exaggerate things because they want to pretend to be heroes, they make up various events. I served in a combat unit, there were no inhuman perversions, but as much simplicity as you want. It really matures in the barracks, the drooling disappears and you become more balanced. Only my mother's ankles murmured, but the hardened men were interested, we had fun. We had people from Sofia who were afraid of the dark and the team took him close to the guard, they were afraid to go along the lane of the post. And as old soldiers pretending in front of the recruits at the big job, that's the nasty thing in the barracks - the hypocrisy.

He's not from the barracks, brother. Nowadays, many people do not know exactly who we are and where we are going. I'm 30 and I still feel that way. Is the world perverted or are we not well? !!

You are very much mistaken that the barracks, or rather its absence, has failed you, or derailed you. Many people who have served in the barracks are also wandering, they are also undisciplined, incompetent, aimless in life, wandering from work to work. One always likes to see guilt in another, not in oneself. -It's not going well in my life, obviously because I haven't been to the barracks. -I don't get along with women, all women are bloody. - I have no money, everything in this country is a mafia. .... You remember where I fight. If you do not impose self-discipline on yourself, no one can impose it on you. You will serve for 6 months, but then you will relax again. I set an example with myself. I was overweight, I started getting up 1 hour earlier to train. I fixed my diet and everything changes. I had stopped reading books and had to read for 1-2 hours every day. So I read one book a week. I don't know English well, I study a little on the weekends. That is, self-discipline and habit building, not going to the barracks.

No problem, you go and serve. Good luck.

@ 5 nonsense. I don't know which barracks you were in, but 60% of my sets were dudes. True, there were monsters, there were victims, but they were not so many. And yes, the barracks taught me a lot more than just thinking nonsense. I was a parachutist in Plovdiv and our training center had 6 months of tactics in the Rhodopes, shooting with snipers and RPGs and running a total of 50 km per week. I was proud to be there. I can't say much about the other divisions, I'm not, I don't know Author, you can easily get into movies. Like the ones from the barracks, as long as you want Sign up for Air Soft. Make Kom-Emine. get a job as a cleaner and / or security guard. Travel around Bulgaria on foot in the rain and snow ... it's not the same, but it will be quite similar.

Ti ne kaza na kolko si godini. A zashto mislish che kazarmata e prichinata za da ne znaesh kakvo iskash da bŭdesh v zhivota. Az byakh na 14 g. i veche znaekh kakvo iskam da bŭda. Iskakh da stana stroitelen tekhnik, da stroya apartamenti, khoteli, vŭobshte golemi stroitelni obekti. I si predstvyakh, che edin den kato ostareya i mina pokraĭ nyakoĭ golyam khotel, kakvito ima po chernomorieto, shte kazha na sebe si, a mozhe i na moi priyateli, che tozi khotel az sŭm go stroil. Zhivota mi taka proteche, che tryabvashe dosta po-kŭsno da zapochna da ucha v stroitelen tekhnikum i to zadochno. Kogato se yavyavakhme na semestrialni izpiti az byakh izklyuchitelno dobŭr, da ne kazha otlichen ot skromnost. V nashiya klas byakhme 50/50 momcheta i momicheta. Imakhme edna uchitelka koyato kazvala na momichetata che vizhdala samo edin koĭto shte stane istinski tekhnik i im posochvala men. Az tolkova mnogo iskakh da stana stroitelen tekhnik, no za zhalost tryabvashe da napusna B-ya predi da zavŭrsha tekhnikuma. A otnosno kazarmata za men tova byakha dve zagubeni godini. Da uchi te malko na distsiplina, no inache zagubeni godini. No ako ti si na 20 i nyakolko godini i ne znaesh kakvo iskash ot zhivota tova govori losho za teb. Показване на още 1170/5000 You didn't say how old you were. And why do you think the barracks is the reason you don't know what you want to be in life. I was 14 years old and I already knew what I wanted to be. I wanted to become a construction technician, to build apartments, hotels, large construction sites in general. And I imagined that one day, as I got older and passed a big hotel like the one on the Black Sea coast, I would tell myself, and maybe my friends, that I had built this hotel. My life went so well that I had to start studying in a construction college much later, and in absentia. When we took the semester exams, I was extremely good, not to say excellent in modesty. There were 50/50 boys and girls in our class. We had a teacher who told the girls that she saw only one who would become a real technician and pointed me out. I wanted so badly to become a construction technician, but unfortunately I had to leave before graduating from college. As for the barracks, those were two lost years for me. To teach you a little discipline, but otherwise lost years. But if you're 20 or so and you don't know what you want out of life, that speaks ill of you.

You didn't say how old you were. And why do you think the barracks is the reason you don't know what you want to be in life. I was 14 years old and I already knew what I wanted to be. I wanted to become a construction technician, to build apartments, hotels, large construction sites in general. And I imagined that one day, as I got older and passed a big hotel like the one on the Black Sea coast, I would tell myself, and maybe my friends, that I had built this hotel. My life went so well that I had to start studying in a construction college much later, and in absentia. When we took the semester exams, I was extremely good, not to say excellent in modesty. There were 50/50 boys and girls in our class. We had a teacher who told the girls that she saw only one who would become a real technician and pointed me out. I wanted so badly to become a construction technician, but unfortunately I had to leave Bulgaria before graduating from college. As for the barracks, those were two lost years for me. To teach you a little discipline, but otherwise lost years. But if you're 20 or so and you don't know what you want out of life, that speaks ill of you.

I think you overestimate the barracks and the army in general. I graduated from military school and it can be said that I have some experience with the military and the military. From my own experience I can tell you that the five years in school, plus the 4 after that service as an officer, gave me absolutely nothing but simplicity, learning the numbers how to imitate an activity and how to adapt to the system, to keep your job and eventually be promoted. The romance you associate with the barracks has something to do with the fact that the misery and simplicity in the army that a young man who has just come out of a cozy family nest faces is so striking that it remains a benchmark for "overcoming difficulties". and "tempering of character" for life. It is these difficulties that unite people and create long-lasting friendships, about which we have all heard endless stories, mainly at the table in the presence of women and alcohol. The lack of special life challenges related to primary survival nowadays is what creates the feeling that men were once more men, that the barracks tempered them, etc. In reality, for many men, the barracks is "the most the interesting "something that happened to them in life .... which for me is very sad as a fact. I personally developed as a character, not thanks to my stay in the army, but in spite of it. After I left the military, it turned out that I had completely wrong ideas about life and how to deal with it. After several difficult years and purposeful efforts to change my thinking, I can say that I am extremely happy that I no longer have anything to do with the army. Because I see that you are a person who needs self-proof and encouragement, I will tell you only one thing - the army is not your place. There, self-proof and precise, well-done work is the last thing to be appreciated. Rather, the ability to adapt to superiors, downsizing and imitating activity in order to remain "on duty" until retirement is valued. My advice is - prove yourself in real life through your work. Find what you like and do your best to be the best in it. Strive to be better and be an inspiration to the people around you. This is the thing that will bring you satisfaction and recognition.

I will answer your question what you are without dealing with the barracks: you are a male person / I did not read carefully, but I guess because of the topic of the barracks /, who thinks too much and tends to analyze things unnecessarily. You blindly believe in others and miss the fact that for some people the best years in the barracks are like the best years in school, ie they harass rabbits and feel significant. If you're in this group, yes, you missed a chance to ruin those with a labile psyche and feel great, I admit it! But with this ability to analyze, the barracks would probably lead you to suicide - such people can't stand the stress there, because instead of accepting that some people are freaks, they look for their guilt for what is happening and accordingly "find" it. And no one is to blame for not being drawn to oppress others, nor are we obligated to have such fetishes. To summarize: with and without a barracks, you are what you are. Accept yourself and do not dream of the miracle barracks, because it does not work miracles. What you would receive from her, you can get yourself with the necessary self-discipline and a certain desire. Otherwise, 100 barracks will not change you. This is not someone pouring qualities into you with a ladle or setting goals for you - either you have them, or you can develop them, or you don't have them and you won't have them. There is no fourth option! :

There are divergent opinions. And I often feel like you, and I was one of the last to have the honor and pleasure of not being called. Honestly, I'm so disorganized that I wish I had gone, hoping it would change me. Also, I think that every man should have some basic knowledge, as well as a woman if he wants to. There are all sorts of situations in life, the fact that we live great now, we are peaceful and all sorts of things like that, does not mean that in years to come there will be no military conflicts and we will not need knowledge. Many people do not think about it. Of course, I am against the aimless barracks for 2 years, where they give you all sorts of nonsense and subject you to humiliation. But building your routine and habits, training you, and teaching you some important things about survival, for example, would be great. But anyway, we missed it. Most people say we haven't missed much, maybe so :)

To 5. I don't think the person asks you "should I go to the barracks" or "should I be afraid of the barracks". To rejoice, you shout ... How do you judge him like that without knowing him, aman, and accept that he would have been the victim? You seem to have been a victim and you do not want others to succeed more than you, that you will be afraid of them as well.

to 6. Like I said, it's not my dream to go to the barracks. I have knowledge, I have 2 universities, I develop in the same direction as the universities, so I make a living, as well as in many other areas, for fun. Now that you know this, you might answer differently. I both want to stay as healthy as in life, and I want to be absolutely honest with sharing exactly how I feel, so I wrote "I consider myself extremely precise, skilled." to 7. You did not understand. I'm not saying that "all other activities other than serving in the barracks are inferior." Maybe if we take my sentence out of context it would be understood, but that's not what I mean. I may not have spoken well. Every time in your barracks they "slap" you in the face, and you learn something from it, and I always meet things that constantly keep their hand ready to hit me with that slap, but they just swing at me and don't hit me, and it bothers me, not I learn this thing I just stand by, instead of 1 time banging me across the face and done. I will not write to everyone what I think about his answer. Thanks to everyone for the comments, quite a few will still have something to hear. After reading most of the comments, I think that slap I was talking about is something like getting rid of some fear, as he said 9. "By deformed I mean that you will be more restless, you would be easier to accept challenges, calmer" maybe I expect people even higher are more people, instead of accepting it as a challenge and almost disciplining them if they don't treat me the way I like. To the part of the sentence to 9. "but you would have lost valuable time from your youth", it may not be from the barracks, but I think I need this slap, and it would not be a loss if I had learned it. You help me understand some things. Thanks. 11. I am not one of the people who look for the cause outside of me, that is why I am writing here to find and correct it. As for the barracks, I'm not saying it's my fault, but that I think it would fix something in me that I haven't fixed to this day. I think with your help I understand what it is! (this is the last thing I wrote, but I inserted it here) 16.: "overcoming difficulties" and "tempering of character" for life. The lack of special life challenges related to primary survival nowadays is what creates the feeling that men were once more men, that the barracks tempered them, and so on. "My advice is - prove yourself in real life through your work. Find what you like and do your best to be the best in it. Strive to be better and be an inspiration to people. around you. This is the thing that will bring you satisfaction and recognition. "- Thank you 17. "the ability to analyze too much" I'm not one to make fun of others and "eat" from it, no. But I'm not one of the extremists who tends to commit suicide, but rather in the middle. I have a character, but if it's not something extreme that unlocks me, I don't take the step. Which I think is the problem, to wait. If I can mention this "slap" again, which I came to as a conclusion, I think that he would help me in such situations. It's as if I'm not nervous enough to do something, but I'm waiting for something like an extreme to happen to show who I am. (Rough explanation to you with your example, because it happened to me, instead of showing him character from the beginning of the one who would harass me to stop harassing me, I wait a long time and finally I unplug .. you know, and if the last moment doesn't come, I always miss something I think I would have learned in the barracks, so that from the first conceivers of something I don't like to wean him off and know it. Now I understand that this is what I think I would learn in the barracks.) Thanks everyone, I think that after reading the comments I made some conclusions, and I am closer to the goal.