Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. I'm terribly confused and that makes me very sad. I soon broke up with my friend because he went to study in Germany. A painful story for me ... I can write about it until tomorrow, but there is no way things can change, so I will write about something else. I care a lot about this boy and although we don't hear from each other now, I still love him and I will leave when I graduate. Now I am free to commit, but I do not want to for 2 reasons. One is that I am afraid of this and I understood the meaning of the words "you are too small for relationships". I want to finish and settle down to start a relationship that won't have to end because someone is leaving. The other reason is that I still love this boy terribly much. I can't imagine giving up on my dream of going to him. I can't imagine stopping him in one place or even removing his picture from my purse. What I have left of it I do not want to remove or replace with another. I believe what I say, but the problem with attention comes. I feel the need to pay attention to me, especially the boys. I don't want connections under any circumstances. I don't want compliments. I want friendship, but very close. I can't explain why, but I've always wanted to have boys as friends. I trust them more, I find them more fun and more reasonable. Now my closest people are girls, 2 of whom I tell almost everything to. But girls are what to say ... selfish with 1000 moods that change every minute. Not to mention what playwrights are. And these are the most masculine girls I know. I can't talk to others. There are two boys, with whom I am very pleased to speak. One is as much as I am and we hear and go out more often. He told me that I could share and rely on him, but I'm worried that we're not that close and I don't know what's in his head when I share something. I'm afraid of disturbing his space a lot by writing to him often, so I write to him mainly as there is something to arrange for our training, because we train in one club and sometimes go to another for more training. Often when we write to each other I want to talk more and more and I get dumb if he just sees the message and doesn't answer for a long time. I've only done this with guys I like. I'm too excited about him, but I don't have any feelings for him. He's not a bad boy at all, so I want to be close. The other boy is about 10 years old. bigger than me. He is also from our club and we write only about the trainings or if we understand something to go out in company. It's a pleasure to talk to him. I want to be closer to them and not worry as much as I write or speak to them. Now I try to get their attention and behave very inappropriately. Besides theirs, I try other people just like that without expecting anything from them. I behave stupidly and that makes me have even lower self-esteem. Give me advice on what to do. And I don't want them to be confused that I have feelings for any of them, because in most cases around us, when a girl and a boy are close, then there is something between them. Thank you for your time. I want to be closer to them and not worry as much as I write or speak to them. Now I try to get their attention and behave very inappropriately. Besides theirs, I try other people just like that without expecting anything from them. I behave stupidly and that makes me have even lower self-esteem. Give me advice on what to do. And I don't want them to be confused that I have feelings for any of them, because in most cases around us, when a girl and a boy are close, then there is something between them. Thank you for your time. I want to be closer to them and not worry as much as I write or speak to them. Now I try to get their attention and behave very inappropriately. Besides theirs, I try other people just like that without expecting anything from them. I behave stupidly and that makes me have even lower self-esteem. Give me advice on what to do. And I don't want them to be confused that I have feelings for any of them, because in most cases around us, when a girl and a boy are close, then there is something between them. Thank you for your time. that I have feelings for one of them, because in most cases around us, when a girl and a boy are close, then there is something between them. Thank you for your time. that I have feelings for one of them, because in most cases around us, when a girl and a boy are close, then there is something between them. Thank you for your time.
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The friendship between a boy and a girl does not necessarily grow into something more. You are small and still and obviously you do not have many partners for this. You sound very obsessed with these people. Relax a little, they are not the only ones on Earth. Nothing will happen if you do not become as close as you want. Write to them, go out with them even in company. Try to stand out with your own qualities, not to pretend to be another person, because it will not become a stable friendship.