? Hi. I'm an 11-grade schoolgirl. From the beginning of my secondary education I firmly stated to myself that I want to develop abroad. I'm studying in a prestigious high school in my hometown. I met my current friend half a year ago. Our relationship is strong and consider a real future together. He's serious about our relationship. There are future plans for a common home. He needs to end his education over time and start work, which he will later take a diploma related to the craft he is dealing with. He is intelligent, sensible, loving, dedicated. Everything a woman would need. He's responsible. Circumspect. The question rests with me., I want to go to Germany to start and finish my higher education, I am ambitious in my goals and the steps I have walked to get here have been difficult. The development of man as a person for me stands far ahead. And if he's gone next year, this relationship is terminated. I don't want to lose this good man who so much loved. My family likes it, too. He has a job, wants a life together with me, it costs a lot of effort and opportunity to build a home, and he does it to keep me. In no way does he want to interfere with my decision. But wherever I look, I see him as one. And what better to live with someone you love. I'm 17 years old. I have a choice next year. I need advice Advice from someone who has experienced such a thing.
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You're too young for such a serious commitment. It's a tough dilemma. Whoever tells you the decision must be yours, otherwise you'il regret it all your life. I'm going to give you some food for thought, I hope it helps. You don't say how old he is, but the writing is probably a lot bigger than you are (at least 7-8). You're just getting into life, you're forming a personality. Now you may be super, but in time there will be differences. If he loves you, he'il find a way to come to you. Keeping you with a house (unbuilt) is a typical Balkan mentality. On the other hand, Germany is not what most Bulgarians think. No one is waiting for us with open arms there. We assume you're a smart girl and you end up with no problems studying there. And then? Discrimination has it. They're just more concealed than we are. They are arrogant towards foreigners, especially the Eastern Europeans. Do not think that by going to Germany your path will be paved and a bright future awaits you. Talk to your friend. Think about where you see yourself in five. Now that he's building a house, maybe in five. See her and a baby. And you? What do you want for yourself? I understand that you don't want to hurt him, but if you're totally into someone else, you're going to hurt yourself. You're very much in love right now, but no one can give you a guarantee that you won't regret a choice taken under the influence of emotions. Think about what's best for you. Take the right decision for you. No one said it would be easy and it wouldn't hurt.