I will give you advice as a girl who does not go upside down in love stories. I am a difficult case - I think more than I should, sometimes I forget to live. Over time, this is nonsense that I used to blindly believe. I fell in love. It happened in a week. At the time, it seemed to me that I was in the middle of a battle between reason and feelings. I split up. I usually need time to get to know the person against me. I wanted that time, but the boy didn't give it to me. He didn't push me out, but he looked for me every day. He was making plans - where we would go, what we would do. I was never notified in advance. At the end of the week, he introduced me to his friends. Introduce me as your boyfriend. In a normal situation I would be angry with him, I had not considered it and he had not asked. Instead, I just nodded. Then we talked and he told me, that I can think all my life or just trust him and try. Now, a few years later, we share a roof. Author, trust is a big mess. You can be wary of other people all your life, so you will save a lot of pain, but you will also miss good moments. The truth is, trust is tested after you give it to someone. First you trust something valuable (feelings, information), and only then you understand whether it was the right decision. If she's not lying to you, she's already trusted you with her feelings. She can be hurt whether or not you are in a relationship because she already likes you, is already falling in love, and something is already happening between you. Tell her these things. If she's like me, she needs to realize all this so that she doesn't miss many adventures and end up with tears in her eyes again, but without beautiful memories. What annoys me the most is not the things I've done, and for those I have forgotten to do. And most of all, don't give it up just like that. It would be very convenient for her to do so. She would decide that she was right to ask for time and think a lot. And she will really believe that you would only use her and hurt her, because at the moment she is driven by her fears. Take a flower, get chocolate, go in front of her house and tell her that you are waiting in front of her to talk. Squeeze it very lightly, very delicately. In such a way that she has the option to repel you, to feel that the way out is right behind her, but to see your actions, to realize them and not want to run away. This is the secret. Women, when we like someone, we like to see their actions. Such actions made me trust an almost stranger. He was not sweet, he was not romantic, but he was honest, direct and clearly showed me that he was a winner.
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Once she has asked you for time, the problem is not in you but in her. You like it, but everyone has a past and painful memories. Don't insist because you will only startle her. That you will not disappoint her, you cannot tell her in words, you must show her with your actions. Just be by her side, show that you care about her, ask her about her past, what exactly disappointed her ... In short, the more you know about her, the easier it will be for you to understand her and to you approach correctly. I don't know what stage you are at, that is, whether there has been any more intimate contact. Invite her to do something together depending on your interests. And little by little, get closer to her without scaring her. That is, behave like a friend, but do not stand idly by. Once they send to the friend zone, then there is no way out. Good luck.