Hello, I will try to spare you, not to flood you with emotions and bad moods that have overwhelmed me. I had a long relationship with a boy (now 27 years old), whom I loved very much. By long relationship I mean more than 4 years. There were difficulties, but we did well. We broke up because our plans diverged. He had a great desire to travel and explore the world. I would be happy to accompany him to the most crowded place. Unfortunately, unpleasant things happened in my family. My loved ones needed me, and my mood for a "great adventure" disappeared. I told my friend I didn't want to stop him. We broke up, and although I knew it would happen, it came to me like thunder from a clear sky. He called me sometimes, like that ... To tell me how it was going. One night I told him I was in a hurry because I was going out with a friend. And now we see him, but purely friendly, I have never felt him for him. I did not give this explanation to my ex because I do not consider it necessary. It's as if I feel guilty or accountable to him. So a few weeks later we heard from each other again and he told me that he has a new girlfriend and he is not very sure if it is appropriate to talk to each other (and I loved it so much!). And I told him it would be best to stop (first shoot). So we stopped all contacts. Until he called me a few days ago ... on the pretext that he needed our friend's Skype, and he deleted it somewhere. He later asked me if I was happy now. I replied that there had been far happier moments in my life. He started to say something, and I interrupted him unintentionally (shoot number two). Then I fell silent, and there was a long silence. I asked him if he would say something, and he said, "What do you want me to tell you?" I paused again ... and then I asked him why he was looking for me after we got along. I don't think he expected to hear that (and I didn't expect to say it, but I blew it a third time). He answered simply "you're right, sorry", then hung up and I haven't heard from him since ... and that's what I want! I love him very much, but something keeps me from calling him. I don't want to be the desperate ex looking for him because he can't forget him. It's almost like that, but I'm really afraid I'll look a little pathetic. I made a mistake with this infantile behavior and I will apologize to him, tell him how I feel about him, but if he calls me. The thing is, I doubt that will happen. He made it clear that our separation was a mistake, but he must be tired of being so withdrawn. I don't know if I should call him, really. Let's say you have very, very strong nerves and you are in his place - how would you react ... and how would you act if you were mine?
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I would call him and tell him that I miss him very much. I think you should give yourself a chance, not ask yourself all your life, what if ...