God, how many stupid and meaningless comments I read. Some people have not learned that since there is nothing meaningful to say, it is better to remain silent. Or when they need to vent their anger and complexes, it is better to work on themselves and their dissatisfaction than to spit on anyone and everything. The author was an old, overpriced commodity, the man was out of order because he was alone at 40. How did you know if you were a medium or something? The decent ones got married at 19-20. God, God. To the author. First, do not listen to any complexes, but do what you think is right. If you have meetings with this man, show him interest, but don't intrude. However, it is not really known if he is alone, if he wants to be alone. If he has an interest, let him take the initiative, if not, do not force yourself unnecessarily. My remark to you is, that you judge a little superficially whether it is perfect without knowing it. Because appearance, financial status, etc. are external signs. However, if you get to know him, you don't know if you will like them at all as views and understandings about life. You may both be ok, but you just don't like it. That's why it's good to get to know each other first, if you start going out and then draw conclusions about it. Otherwise, to generally claim that someone was almost a psychiatrist because he was alone at 40 is ridiculous. For example, I know 2-3 of these years who are ok, decent and respectable people, but for example one of his work involves a lot of travel and there is no way to keep in touch at this stage. And I can say that he is much more aware than a 25-year-old who goes to bars every other day and wonders which one to throw. To others who say that the decent ones got married early. I know more than one or two people who got married early because they were strangled like stranglers for the only woman who paid attention to them, not because they were in high demand. That is, out of despair. One I don't wish you had anything to do with such a "decent" and married young man. I just really don't wish it on you. The bottom line is that people are very narrow-minded, they judge in a very limited and superficial way, and they can't imagine that some people live very differently from them and therefore can't understand them. So author, do not listen to those who want to complex you, they do it because they themselves are a walking complex, be smart and do what you think is right, but do not fall into unnecessary delusions without knowing who this man is. Because there are no perfect ones in principle, everyone has some things that are not ok with him or he himself does not feel ok with them. The important thing is to find a person with whom you will have a real understanding, even if he is not so perfect by some generally accepted standards.
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If he's so perfect, why is he alone at 40? These ideals marry at 19-25.