Hi! My story is not as dramatic as some drugs. My friend and I have been together for a few years, living together, making some plans for children, and a common future. Sex is great, it performs all my grooves, and so am I almost all of his. He helps me in the household, we both work, we split the expenses. It's a dream man. He's very good to me, he supports me, he helps me, he's intelligent, you can always have a serious conversation on any topic with him. Where's the problem? The problem is, he's cowardly and panicking about. He can drive, but he's terribly scared. I'll pay you. But I don't want the fucking cabs, damn it, waiting half an hour, getting my address wrong, smoking in my car! I want you to come to our car and pick me up. On the side, I look ridiculous. When I go out with girlfriends, everyone takes her boyfriend later, and I go home alone. Sometimes it's a whine. And sometimes I don't need a whine, but a confident man by my side. I need a man's shoulder. I need not be strong. I want to be just a weak woman, damn it! I want him to have a problem with me yelling for two hours and saying, "Yes, it's going to be right!" At times, I feel like I'm the man in the relationship. Somehow he doesn't realize that some things are a man's responsibility - to pay him in the store instead of me (he always gives me the money afterward, but at the checkout, he stands with his hands in his pockets), or while I pay him to order the groceries. I always have to tell him, he's waiting for someone else to get things done. Somehow it's not fixed - "Move this to sit down" - "Well, don't you have hands, can't you move it?" ... He's kind of a sissy - when we're with her, his mother's adjusting everything to him, he doesn't move his finger and expects me to do that. I don't know how it's going to be in the future. I love him very much, I can't even think about parting with him, but these things weigh on me. Because sometimes I need support to say to me, I'm there for you, here, look, you can count on me. I want to be a team, be a good team, stick together, and get things done, not be a company commander: "Do that! Buy bread! Go through the hardware store! Take this to the basement." Proto, I don't feel good about being in charge. And more and more, I have to do it.
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office_online answered · June 12, 2020
These days, we are told that men and women are equal and equal. You can't not want to pay and want him to pay. Or you want to be weak and he doesn't have that right. There is no weak and strong, male and female responsibility anymore, there is equality, uniformity, bliss and everyone is satisfied. There are no screwed, unequal and discriminated against.
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mrupc answered · June 12, 2020
Honey, there aren't any men or women, so keep that up, that's his problem.
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ashleyy_ass answered · June 12, 2020
Well, how's it going to be going to be going to be? You're going to give him a spoon in his mouth, swing him to sleep, wipe his leagues and his... Hahahaha All clients here are similar images, and in their opinion women are always incapable, whores and all sorts of things. You've got a debilitating drone, you're thinking about how you're going to live with this, it's close to the mind.
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micheleohsoul answered · June 12, 2020
Looks like you're the one. If he's as hard as a man, another song will be sung. I made sure women didn't know what they wanted. That ad for the round-the-world trip proves it, the woman doesn't want a round-the-world trip, she wants somewhere else, probably on the moon!?
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kimlaurence answered · June 12, 2020
I don't think it's going to change, and if it's so important to you, your respect for him will fall and fall and at some point it's going to get ugly. I don't think this job is going to end well.
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sexyflowerbabe420 answered · June 12, 2020
Do you feel perfect? Maybe he'il put on a theme here "I love my girlfriend, but ..."
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whitteboyy answered · June 13, 2020
You either take it with these idiosyncrasies or you leave it. Such films as "I love it, but if it can change" don't work. People change extremely slowly and hard, and at will, not by the woman next to them.
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paisleebee answered · June 13, 2020
We don't like weak women. If you don't like the whiner, you didn't catch him. I guess you don't like them because you're like that, the same ones are pushing :) away. Come on, get tight.
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meppel345 answered · June 13, 2020
All right, author, answer me. "It's a dream man. He's very good to me, he supports me, he helps me, he's intelligent, you can always have a serious conversation on any topic with him." one-to-one. If he's really intelligent and you can always have a serious conversation on any topic, then it's ok to listen to you and solve the problem together? I'm even challenging you to show him your post. If he's a commodity, he'il learn a lesson. I say it from personal experience, I am a man, not just a man, I am of the opinion that problems in a relationship are solved by communication and seeking the solution together. Not when something gnaws at you, to hold it to yourself, to let it grow, and suddenly it turns into an elephant in a glass shop. And the guy across the street doesn't suspect anything all the time. Get your hands on it.
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loveyouintense answered · June 14, 2020
But I didn't feel it, I didn't feel the need to be confident, and there was no sense to me, and I didn't understand what it was like to be confident. I didn't get it from the inside, and I needed it, I had a good job, I had what I needed, I didn't understand who I needed to change and why. And it's going to be a little bit of a good time for you to be the one to do the show. Then it was time, there were some events and I became a little more confident, but it just made the circumstances and they made me like that, I never pushed to be someone I wasn't. I wouldn't feel comfortable in my skin, nor would it work, even look clumsy and artificial to play something that doesn't come from the inside. And I'd rather hate the guy who likes me to be some kind of guy to do the show than say to myself ,she's right, let me play the whistle to be a hareas." Even if I say it to myself and want to please you, how long will I last with this role and in this tension? Everyone is themselves, and that's how I have to be, or I'm going to get depressed. If any change occurs, let it come naturally and at his will and awareness, not to please someone without even realizing the need for it. No one has the motivation to rape their own self so that someone else is happy. And even if he does, he'il be sick of it.
Either accept him or leave him. And if one day he realizes himself and wants to, he'il change. But by no means do not grumble, because it will have the opposite effect. Nor does it make a copromis wait in the hope of changing and one day you're going to get sick of it and say "well I tried and hoped, but it didn't change." Then it'il be too late and there will be consequences. Either you really take it completely and love it like that, or if it annoys you so much and you can't make that compromise, the way and you're looking for a confident one. But keep in mind that if the next one is confident, there will be other drawbacks. The question is which flaw you are more inclined to compromise and are willing to do at all, or prefer not to commit.
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monicaalsopp answered · June 14, 2020
Horror. That's not a man. A man is good to be strong and alone, but he must also be the person next to him so that he can eventually tire. You're not going to see anything like that with this. You'il always be the strong one, always your responsibility, there'il be no one to lean on when you need it. Personally, I'd get rid of him without thinking about it.
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jsugar69 answered · June 14, 2020
Do you want to be taller, blond and green-eyed? If you don't like it, you leave it and you're looking for a "tomboy," only then you won't dominate and order at home, but you're going to perform, or it's bad for you. Then let's see what topic you're going to be rowing and what complaints. When you want to be weak, you're weak, change. The car thing is and showing off in front of my co-hosts. If you're very classy and you don't want a cab, drive your car and he drives home in a cab. And you're a petty whiner who doesn't appreciate what he's got. So leave the man and look for your ideal. I had a familiar, perpetually disgruntled, divorced, married a tomboy, and on the first year they spat at the slaps and the pot of food flew out the window, but she still sits with him...
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jaket24 answered · June 15, 2020
In time, he'il start accusing you of being in charge. You'il have a child, the angajimes will see more of it. You're going to fight with him, and the love is gone. I hope I'm not a bad prophet, but this example is fresh to me still with my ex, it was the same. In difficult moments, he's always panicking, inadequate, he's always counting on me, and I'm always thinking about everything. A walk at sea is a lot of pressure for me, I think about the car, about the luggage, about the child, about medication, for every detail I think, and he when I tell him to help asks with what? I tell him what you are. He's done, he's sitting on the couch waiting, and he's done his. It blew my head off, I lasted five years, and we split up. I found a real man. From the beginning, I told him exactly your words that I wanted to feel like a woman, to do feminine things, and for a man to be a man and to do the males. Well, thank God there were such men, not all of them cheated sons. But just so you know, it's his mother's fault. I've seen my mother turn my brother into the same slob.
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blairwitch_666 answered · June 15, 2020
People used to pick them up in cars, people were watching who was paying at the checkout in the store... Are you serious? To be like people, you're going to harass your husband? When I saw my title, I imagined a man with a lot of potential who doesn't believe in himself as much as you do. And what was it like, pure selfishness and complexity. Believe me, the idea that "he has to change himself to be me well" is doomed. And one more thing, the strong man you so want, whether you deserve it so much: criticizing, selfish, controlling, manipulating, unable to seek guilt in himself, but otherwise so elevated to model characters... Model yourself
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ammbaar1 answered · June 15, 2020
MEN DON'T CHANGE!
Author - the sooner you understand this and start to come to terms with its peculiarities, the sooner you will find the happiness you are looking for. It's not his flaws, it's that you see them. Because people aren't perfect, and your female mind is restless and always searching under the ox calf.
I had a boyfriend a long time ago. We had a wonderful love. She kept making me change. I've been hunched over. I smoked. We ended up splitting up because I was shorter than her. I haven't smoked in 16 years, I walk with my head proudly raised and with lower boyfriends - who don't rub me into the complexes that I'm short. She, however, followed me with one who turned out to be singable. Then he dumped him for a guitarist who was with the winds of a white horse. Then it was an alcoholic's turn. Then to a guy who cheated on her. The other hundred after that, I lost count. She now has a child of one with three other children from three other marriages. Shorter than her. 17 years older. Who didn't even step on the birth of his child. She was with him for a month. She's become the lowest whore I know. He doesn't have any friends. He has no one to rely on. You're hooked on your own and she's having mental health issues. He was psychologically harassing all his girlfriends. I've even seen one beating one with a ferocious rage of his powerlessness. Then it turned out that he started raping her. The poor child will one day treat him the same way. Social services rightly take their kids...
Do you understand what I mean and where I'm going?
Calm down. Smile when your husband does these things and love him for who he is.
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dirtylittlegirldirtylilsecret answered · June 16, 2020
What are these demands, like you're in the men's market? Her friends were all in cars.
He didn't do what you said. What kind of servant is he to do what you tell him to do?
So you can cry that you can get home in a cab, and if he has a problem playing tough.
Oh, my 20s. Batsy the claims, the miracle.
For all the men who read here:
The woman hates the man she can't control the most. Don't let nikogs women control your life in any way. A woman is just a bonus to you, not your whole focus.
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sexylipsanddick answered · June 16, 2020
Do you like Dinko from Yambol? He's confident.
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hotdstill17 answered · June 16, 2020
How come you write that he always supports you, helps you in the household, and a few paragraphs down, that he waited for everything to set up readyly? You're contradicting yourself.
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peejay66 answered · June 17, 2020
Breivik from Norway and he's very confident, don't you like it?
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hugezobxxl answered · June 17, 2020
I don't know if you look funny when he doesn't take you with your car, but with that post, you're definitely funny. For the record, I'm a woman.
Maybe you're not aware of it, but right now you sound like a whiner and a man waiting for someone else to please him and serve him. If he doesn't want to drive, he doesn't want to, period. You, since you're so confident, drive alone and drive home in your car, not a taxi. The rest do not even know how to comment (cash registers, payments, purchases). It's so petty, I'm even surprised how your head gave birth to it.
Oh, and this notorious maxim "I want to be able to feel weak, I want a man by my side" is so corny... If you want to be weak- be, every person has moments of weakness, and it's not such a sin.
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simonedunn answered · June 17, 2020
18, so the options are either an insecure scumbag or Dinko from Yambol? Or a bag of bones, or a fat guy? Or a spineless good guy or an aggressive bully? There are no middle variants, no normal people, no shades, everything is black and white. Well, such thinking has always been very interesting to me.
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sweeetjess answered · June 17, 2020
I can't get women's spathies.
I'm the opposite of your friend.
I don't know what it's like to have a grandparent, I don't have a father, I only have a mother. I see my mother once a year.
Such kisses, ligotics, advice, hugs, etc. are incomprehensible to me.
I've been fighting all my life, and overseas I've been, sleeping in caravans.
All this has made me insensitive and cool.
The other day, we were sitting with my friend in the kitchen, and I was making tea.
In front of her I cook the water, drop the heat, cut a lemon - she looks at me.
I made myself a cup of tea and started drinking it.
She looks at me with an angry look, and when it starts...
Why don't you ask me if I want tea, just for yourself, you think, well, if I want to drink, why didn't you propose, why didn't you make two glasses, do I always have to tell you... a darra-brug.
You can't stand, you can't stand it, you can't stand it, you can't stand it. It's his job.
There's a fairy tale, "You're a very good woman."
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melopupppi answered · June 17, 2020
22, it was a metaphor that if he was confident, there would be another downside. There are no perfect people. Whether or not you always have to compromise with something else once - imagine - even you're not perfect. It's better to be like that, but to be by her side in difficult moments than to snitch, for example, or beat her, or be petty and n sleepy.
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eliza_jones answered · June 18, 2020
24, then your "metaphor" is completely out of place. You identify self-esteem with a flaw of the calibre of bullying, and 20 straight with psychopathy and murder. The qualities you describe are inherent in insecure people, not to say even more.
No one is perfect, but everyone decides what they can compromise with. The author herself says she feels unsupported because her boyfriend's inconfidence leads to a run of responsibility and passivity. Quite understandably, she can't compromise on that, and if she chooses someone more confident, it doesn't mean she's going to have to compromise on something more unpleasant.
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toxic_dump answered · June 18, 2020
My driver, but he's not confident in swimming. Should I push him deep to make him as confident as other men? Basically, what are the rules of this sinister lottery of lives? You put him insecure on the roads, and if he does, great, if he doesn't... next, or? And if he kills someone else, whose responsibility is it? He's not the commander, is he? Also, I'd like to ask about the big jackpot if he gets there safe and sound. I'il be like the other chickens, I won't be funny anymore. And him? What am I supposed to give him a bone or a cheese?
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bigdckjames0 answered · June 18, 2020
cheat kids what to do
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shelovesdaddystatts answered · June 18, 2020
Thank you for the comments!
I have a wonderful man who read all my writing, we talked, and we are already aware of each other. It was also a lesson for myself.
I have a wonderful man I can always count on, who helps me at home, who makes sure we're always okay. I realized for myself that there is no need and it is pointless to exceed our limits and pretend to be who we are not. We'd better be just sensitive people. I know perfectly well that I'm not perfect (I even wonder how he tolerates me sometimes). But he loves me anyway, and he leaves in the middle of the night for me if he has to. Thank God it has nothing to do with Dinko from Yambol.
I hope to be as good for him as he is for me!
Thank you for the nice comments, thanks and for the bad ones! Be happy!
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taylorthomas_18 answered · June 18, 2020
"we're going to be a company commander" - and to say, "Yes, it's going to be right!"
All the words and phrases used in the article and not inherent in a woman's vocabulary, but rather the military. Even the word "tikwai" was recently used by President Radev - a former military officer when revealing the SSDs.
Personally, for me, the topic is Fake and was written by a man, possibly a military or an ex, for what reasons I do not know.