I was terribly bored with this, and I don't know what to do. I haven't seen anything from him in 4 years. He doesn't even remember to give me a flower for the occasion. He shows no respect, does not surprise me, does not take me anywhere, and when I offer him no desire. There is no gift for a birthday, for Christmas, for March 8, but what about an anniversary, so he doesn't even remember when it is. He has no desire to visit new places, to meet new people. I don't live in his apartment, I drive my car, I buy everything myself, clothes, shoes, jewelry, watches, food expenses, bills, restaurants. He has no desire for any entertainment, variety, rest, thinks only of work and money, and in the end is no better financially than I am. I want variety in a relationship, I don't care about expensive gifts, but I do want to be remembered and respected. And a card and a flower catch me. I want us to go to different places, to have memories and good moments together and to keep the flame of the relationship. After all, we live together for a long time and it is normal at times to get bored of each other. I don't know what to do. How can I hint to him Or just think about taking another path.
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If you expect change, you will not wait for it. Talk to him and break up. Beauty does not happen by force, the person is with you out of convenience, obviously, because if he really appreciated you, he would want to make you happy with something. You are alone in this regard.
You're just roommates having sex. Are you sure you share your bills? Maybe only you think you have a relationship? None of what he listed is normal and testifies to the above.
I've been in such a relationship and it doesn't get better in the future. If he doesn't make simple gifts or doesn't guess at all, don't expect it if you become married. A person doesn't spend a penny for you, and you're still with him. Finish with one ..
Cut it chick
Where was your mind for the first 2.3 months when you made the connection? Did you only think about between his legs? People take the time to get to know each other, but you didn't have that. I'm sure he showed what he was like for the first few months, and what did you think then that you didn't make a decision in time. Four years until you find out who your partner is. The mistake is in you.
1. You talk 2. You act It's so simple. Brother.
Not all men are like those in books and movies - most, like your friend, can't think of giving things away. For example, my husband only gave me a flower once, because I wanted so much. For other gifts - he just gives me money and tells me to buy what I want. He hates shopping and wandering around, I guess your friend does too. Don't be angry about such nonsense, it's just that some people "like grains more slowly". I love my husband and the gifts are not important to me. If he doesn't pay so much attention to you and annoys you, separate. F, 27 .
Leave him alone, distance yourself from him for a while. By his reaction you will internally feel what you will do from there. Keep in mind that tight-lipped men who don't give anything away aren't good for relationships, just like blown-up men. Good luck. And don't take things too seriously
It is best to look in the mirror. I guess you are not the first beauty and you have at least 10 kg of excess. I wonder how many watches you bought, that you are talking about watches.
And I'm not into romance, but elementary gestures can be made! Try to speak openly, not to hint, but nothing will happen. And what killed so much time with him that you still suffer? This is a tumbler. It must be the same in sex. Find a man like you and he's like a woman and that's it. Jen
Oh, no, number 9, it doesn't matter what it looks like. She's even more likely to be pretty. I know a girl who won a beauty contest and her boyfriend didn't buy her birthday presents either. My boy was selfish and selfish. She dumped him and is now with another who is behaving quite normally, an ordinary boy and their sense of tact, unlike the previous one. It's up to the person. And I don't think you like the author enough, some people aren't able to love you. He lives with you out of habit and that's it. Take it away, it won't change.
Why are you still standing with him? If in 4 years he has not done anything for you, he does not care even a little what you feel and what you want, do you think it will change? No, this will never happen. The only thing that what you can do (and what any woman, I think, would do) is break up with him. There's no reason to stay a minute longer with this man. But I wonder why you put up with him for so long?
find another, it does not become obvious and you know it
I am the author. Yes, it is true that I was in a hurry and lived with him. I never lacked the attention of men and I always had a choice and I would easily replace it. The problem is that I had a special character and it was difficult for me to relax and trust Someone. So in this person it was as if I saw myself, I could share and talk to him for hours, I also had some emotional security. I never looked at money and gifts, I used to support myself and if I wanted something I always had to I work for him because my parents don't have such great opportunities. And maybe that's why now I have taken such a role in my relationship. I'm thinking of taking a break by separating from him and rethinking things.
Even if he doesn't buy you anything for your birthday, that's rude. That I take something symbolic even from not so close people, what is left for the closest ones. I think you can guess how much he appreciates you and how much he thinks about you and how you feel. I don't think you can expect anything more from this relationship.
"I'm thinking of taking a break by separating from him and rethinking things" ... - a classic in the genre. The author has just cast an eye on someone and is now looking for an excuse and an excuse.