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I Love Her, But I Can't Forgive Her Infidelities!

By omega997799 July 01, 2020 12 answers Last updated July 01, 2020

My wife is different in character from the typical woman, she has a little masculine thinking. She loves her freedom, she has more masculine interests, she is a practitioner, not particularly emotional. I'm trying to explain to him that it's not because of feelings and all that he did ... but maybe out of boredom. In the beginning, when we were boyfriends (2015), I persuaded her to be officially together at dawn, usually, men are supposed to run away from a relationship, but I'm a conservative type, alas, I fell in love with the exact opposite.

 

I feel like I'm a masochist because she constantly ignored me and has always been a colder partner, I've always thrown myself at her feet. Believe me, she's like that to everyone. We don't have a child yet, because we didn't feel quite ready yet, but soon we were thinking of starting the experiments (I'm a year old anyway, he's 28, I'm 27).

 

Honestly, maybe she didn't cheat on me physically, maybe she did, I can't know for sure. But they weren't chatting with other men, they weren't dumped with colleagues, there was a period every day that surprised me with something, she didn't pay attention to it because she was trying to hide, but I was digging because I suspected something, I admit.

I don't excuse myself, but I don't excuse her either. I love her so much, I only think about her and I'm even a little obsessed, and she rolls her eyes at everyone who looks nicer with a richer vocabulary. I take care of her carefully, but I don't suffocate her, and I'm not jealous for no reason. I support myself, I think I look good. We both work and we both take care of the household that even I do more. She is not deprived of anything.

 

Gifts and romantic dinners regularly for no occasion. It's always hers at the end. I don't even argue with her (call me a mold, but I want the woman next to me to be happy and stay with me). At the same time, in life, I have succeeded according to my own goals and a strong man. We had sex, I fulfilled her every wish.

 

She has said more than once that I am the perfect man. But several times he hints that even with Brad Pitt, sooner or later everyone gets bored and love becomes a habit. Am I the only one who doesn't think so? I love her more with each passing day. However, how can I trust that when he turns, he will not turn another? Before me, she had not a few, not many, yet a number of relationships, varied in appearance. And I've only had 2 serious ones. But I don't miss the thrill, I don't know what she's missing. And it's not that she needs a powerful man, because she herself is a powerful woman and she tells me that some time ago she had such a friend who allowed himself to hit her, she then not only got into a fight with him but called her father and friends. his, these are rural stories, but some will say that he needs a more authoritative, believe me, he will not tolerate it, nor her. She does not tolerate authorities.

I love her, I can't let her go, I don't want another ... but? This annoyance annoys me, I just can't. I agree with everything else, I just want it to be true to me. How will she be the mother of a child if she continues to live as a teenager herself?

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_ashleyx answered · July 01, 2020
It will not be yours. When you ask yourself such questions, this is the beginning of the end.
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tiffany_joness answered · July 01, 2020
Dude, you're not small, you're absolutely obsessed - it's not love. The things that happen to you usually happen to women who point the finger that they want a man and suffer all kinds of humiliation because of the mania in question. However, true love is much more than what you feel, and the most important quality is reciprocity.
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elfiiyka answered · July 01, 2020
Love does not become a habit, but Respect. If it becomes a habit it is not love.
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mcflurry18 answered · July 01, 2020
Well, doesn't it come to your mind ??? Get rid of her and find an 18-20 girl. They are real angels, I tell you from experience. If you want a baby so much, find a 23-25-year-old, this. It is absolutely unacceptable and abnormal for a woman to be older than a man. I am speechless.
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koledipeok answered · July 01, 2020
Your poor wife, how she tolerates you. I fully understand her and sympathize with her. You are absolutely obsessed with her, to such an extent that it seems to me that your condition is already yours. Seek a psychiatrist, I hope he can help you.
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bumser79 answered · July 01, 2020
There is nothing good waiting for you, this one will suffer a lot. The others have told you so.
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dreambound answered · July 02, 2020
Hi, I understand you, because I was like that before. But this model of yours just doesn't work. When you constantly please a woman, when you make her the center of the universe, when you neglect yourself for her sake, she loses respect and attraction to you. And this is not about what he wants. Maybe your wife WANTS a man to please her. But this does not mean that she is ATTRACTED by this type of men. There is a difference between what we want and what attracts us. And if she can't have a relationship with a strong man, then she has a problem. In short, I can advise you to focus on yourself. Sports, career development, friends. And if things don't work out for you, each in his own way. Better alone than in a toxic relationship. It's not about being an asshole and beating her, it's about being a man. It will be difficult to explain things in one post, I will share several books. After I started applying them, my love life changed a lot, for the better. "No More Mr Nice Guy!" - Robert Glover "The Way of the Superior Man" - David Deida "Attraction is not a Choice" - David De Angelo It's not about cheap pickup tricks. Serious science-based psychology for personal development. But it is important to change your attitude in order to have a happy relationship, either with your current wife or another woman. Good luck and don't give up! Just because you've made mistakes so far doesn't mean you can't be a strong and confident man in the future!
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c0llegeguy13 answered · July 02, 2020
Just dump her. Without giving her any explanations or excuses. Just disappear from her life and erase her from your own. Get out of your home or apartment one day and don't come back, block her number, block her on social networks and that's it. No conflicts, no confrontations, no explanations and no excuses. You may feel bad at first, but in time you will see that it was the right decision. You don't need people like her in your life if you want him to be normal. It may seem extreme, but remember the saying, "Measure according to measure" and think about whether she deserves a different treatment. If you are a man and not mold as she told you, you will treat her exactly the way she deserves. Act decisively. It's for your own good in the end. Good luck author and write what happened in the end
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106601 answered · July 02, 2020
Dude, take my advice and just drop it. I had this type of relationship some time ago and I tell you from experience that this thing is very toxic and a huge stress. Wondering who he is with every moment, where he is, signals in the middle of the night, text messages, etc. You just relaxed for a while and hop comes another text message in no time or a call, which she rejects. I was crazy - I couldn't sleep, I couldn't work calmly, I was always on thorns. When I finished this thing, it was as if a mountain had fallen from my shoulders. Believe me, it's not worth doing something like that for a moment. If two people don't love, appreciate, and respect for each other - I don't like that.
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sexycanadianbitch answered · July 03, 2020
If this is true, then I will write the following: for a successful long-term relationship, both partners must look in the same direction. This is obviously not the case with you. So much!
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imperiasnow answered · July 03, 2020
It's a pity I'm not like her. I like dominant men. You're exactly the mold and I don't like them. First, she is a pragmatic woman who went with you to have a boyfriend, not for love. She's probably dreaming of a cool man, too, but no one has offered her anything serious. She's cool because she doesn't love you. You, in turn, pushed her. I don't know why you think you can make someone want you. You obviously made her leave, but you can't make her love you. These things don't happen that way. She's obviously a cool chick and you love her more and more every day, but why don't you catch a worse-looking and crazier one, I'm aiming for the coolest chicks. I mean, the dog jumps according to the stick. I don't know what you look like, I don't know what she is, or anything. From what has been written, however, it is clear that you are targeting a person who does not think you are cool enough. I wouldn't say he's lying to you. These are your theories about infidelity. After hanging out with you for years, she has serious intentions. She's just not in love with you. Now, if you say you're going to cut it off, that's too much. Sorry, but you want cool chicks, then they were cold to you. Me and I may want to be with Brad Pitt, but he's not with me. Getting a connection is not an option. You said yourself that you are more conservative and looking for a relationship. I'm bored with one. Find a boring woman like you. Where did you go to push who doesn't want you? If I were you, I would cheat on her. As she is not in love, what is the problem with sleeping with others. I'm looking for happiness. If I find it, I change it. And you think she's sleeping with someone. It's pretty dumb. Come on, stop being a loser. If you go again with the old morals and attitude, then do not complain. Since she does not show love and gratitude to you, it means that you do not need to be faithful to her. You will seek your happiness. When you find him, you will leave her. Be as pragmatic as she is.
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wiithlilya answered · July 04, 2020
Your friend is not in love with her. You are in love with the mania to be trampled. People like you one day end up like puppets licking other men's semen, straight from their wife's fuck. Yes, there is such porn. I bet you'll be super excited if you watch it.
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