Hi, I'm a 23 year old girl. In my life I have had a single serious relationship, more than 7 years ago, a teenage story that lasted 2 years. When I was 20, I had real and strong feelings for a man a little older than me. In general, with everyone I fell in love with ... it didn't work out for me. The first was constantly cheating on me, the second was lying to me about his feelings and giving me empty hopes. After these two men, especially after the second, whose feelings were much more conscious and strong, I became depressed. I refused to contact men, I hated them, I began to think that everyone was like that, that I would be hurt again, I was scared, I was afraid. I don't lack male attention and I took advantage of that, I played, I made money for others, because I didn't get along with those two gentlemen. So, I've been alone for 4 years now, still afraid of men and of commitment. But I'm tired of being lonely, I'm trying to trust someone else, to forget how they hurt me, but I still have doubts and prejudices, I always think that someone is lying to me, that he is taking advantage of me, I have the feeling that they want to deceive me and leave me, to play me. No matter how hard I try to relax, I can't be as happy as I used to be, because I set barriers for my feelings, I am always haunted by some thoughts that I will be deceived and hurt. I really want to love again naively, to give love and receive love, to have a relationship full of passion and thrill, but how can I relax? I always think that someone is lying to me, that they are taking advantage of me, I have the feeling that they want to deceive me and leave me, to play me. No matter how hard I try to relax, I can't be as happy as I used to be, because I set barriers for my feelings, I am always haunted by some thoughts that I will be deceived and hurt. I really want to love again naively, to give love and receive love, to have a relationship full of passion and thrill, but how can I relax? I always think that someone is lying to me, that they are taking advantage of me, I have the feeling that they want to deceive me and leave me, to play me. No matter how hard I try to relax, I can't be as happy as I used to be, because I set barriers for my feelings, I am always haunted by some thoughts that I will be deceived and hurt. I really want to love again naively, to give love and receive love, to have a relationship full of passion and thrill, but how can I relax?
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For me, things are exactly the same, except that I've never been committed. But the insults of the boys over the years have convinced me that most of them hate me, so I have refused to communicate with them, with the exception of two, but we have known them for a long time. Even if someone compliments me or pays special attention to me, I always take it as a mockery and for me there is no other way. Maybe I will never let a boy / man by my side because I don't want more offensive qualifications in my own address, and I have suppressed this longing for love and tenderness. But you make a big mistake in communicating with men when you take revenge on them. Don't let yourself fall to the level of your exes and play men who haven't hurt you in any way. They also carry a soul and a heart, and they are not to blame for being hurt. Tomorrow, precisely because you have hurt them, they will decide to take revenge and play another naive and in love girl. For her part, this girl will decide to take revenge on others and thus a vicious circle of broken hearts will form. If you have a little common sense, don't let it happen, and if you decide to take revenge, at least make sure it's the people who hurt you, not the innocent ones. Black Sabbath