Hello! I am a woman, 26 years old. It all started two years ago. Then I met a man I didn't like at first. I had no attraction to him. He was very stubborn and did not refuse to court me, despite my many refusals. It became interesting for me for a short time, because the time spent with him was fun and we got along. He lived in another city and returned there. We wrote to each other all the time. He became my best friend. I felt very close to him, but I still didn't want a relationship or any intimate relationship. As I mentioned, that didn't stop him. He came to my city, made romantic gestures to me. He bought me presents. We went on vacation. I felt very good with him. At one point I said to myself that maybe I should stop thinking that way and give myself to this person. He had won my trust and my heart. He often explained to me how much he cared about his health and how he visited a urologist regularly to make sure he had no problems. He had even told me where he was going and when his last checkup was. I trusted him and he managed to convince me to have sex without a condom. The problems started shortly after. I just wasn't on my own. It turned out to be a bacterial infection. Lots of doctors, pills, money and nerves. He helped and also treated himself, claiming that it could not be from him. I decided that it was possible that my ex had cheated on me and with what else I did not justify the situation. I continued to believe him. We were healed. I knew he used to take drugs regularly (cocaine, amphetamines, weed, ecstasy), he told me.
Explain to me how sorry he was for this period and how he hadn't taken it in a year. He said he didn't want to go back to that under any circumstances. I trusted him. I will not go into too much detail, I will just say that there has never been a period in which not to take. He is not a drug addict, but when he went out he did it systematically, under my nose. I accidentally understood him and made him confess. It took a long time and insistence on my part. We have been living together for several months. I recently found out that he lied to me about these things. I feel like a complete fool. He doesn't consider it something. There were also financial problems. I try to understand it, but things get slower with each passing day. Don't respect my birthday or Christmas. He always reproaches me for not understanding him and not appreciating anything. No more romantic gestures, no relationship, we're not going anywhere. Scandals are commonplace. I start them. I can't live with the fact that he pretended to be human, which is not real and has lied to me for so long. I no longer feel courted and loved. I don't feel like a woman. All the time she lived in another city, I was not with another man. I am monogamous and I was faithful to him. I waited for him to come to me. It turned out that I was waiting for some illusion. We used to laugh together, go out, party. Now we're just fighting.
You will wonder why I am still with him when it seems that I will not forgive him. I am a very loyal girl and I am extremely attached. Every separation is a real tragedy for me and I experience it very hard. I loved this man and imagined the future with him. I am currently betrayed, lied to and hurt. He risked my health and lost my trust. I made a lot of compromises to be with him. In return, I received lies.
Neither am I a flower nor is he a bad person. I am a difficult character and I know it. He has qualities that are not to be underestimated. He knows how to cook, he is hardworking, he is not lazy, he has a sense of humor, he is good-natured and not conflicted. When he had the opportunity, he always pleased me. My question is whether it is worth sitting in this relationship and waiting for it to change. Have you had similar experiences? Is this a period we have to go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment. Is it a must we go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment. Is it a must we go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment.
1 babe_saget answered
give him more time, at least a few months. meanwhile he changed his difficult character