The title says it all. For about a month now I have had something like a relationship with a girl we have sex with regularly. She is my first. My problem is that I lose an erection during sex. At first, I fell in love when I went to put on the condom. Later, this was fine, but it fell to me during the act. It doesn't happen every time, only sometimes, but it's very embarrassing. After all, I'm 25, I'm healthy, I'm not overweight, I don't smoke, I don't drink or anything like that, I walk from time to time. The problem occurs only occasionally and only in some positions. Most often it happens when I'm on top, sometimes with the first insertion and has already dropped completely, in less than a second. Another time I manage to score it, but shortly after that it decreases, only gradually. This is probably even worse, because it's not very big for me, so I want my erection to be 100%. When it has dropped slightly, she will feel it even smaller. This is quite stressful for me. Now I'm really scared to have sex. Even if I manage to score it, I constantly wonder if it will last, if it won't fall at any moment. Sometimes, however, I have no problems and everything goes well. It just happened that we pushed each other and I was stiff all the time for more than an hour, but when it came time for action, the little friend got something burned. In general, the girl shows understanding, but I know. If things don't work out soon, he'll probably dump me and find someone else. This will completely destroy me mentally and the next time I will be worried not to expose myself as now. Physiologically, everything seems normal. I know it's all in my head and it's mental, but it doesn't help me much to solve the problem. How can I stop thinking during sex if I won't fall, is it big enough for me, what does she think, etc.? If anyone has experience with similar situations, I will be happy to give advice.
1 greysex69 answered
Hello, in my opinion, your problem is really on a psychological basis and for this reason there is no approved solution. You need to calm down and not accept sex as an exam, but as an expression of love and passion, something pleasant and unloading. If you are worried that you are leaving your girlfriend dissatisfied, emphasize oral caresses and naughty hands: When you feel that you are falling, you can continue to satisfy her with your fingers (nameless and middle, no more), add a tongue. Listen to her breathing, enjoy every thrill of her body, and when you get aroused again, finish what you started. I think that when you gain confidence in sex, the problem will disappear. I hope I was useful :)