The story is a bit long and complicated, so thank you in advance to everyone who will read it to the end. I am a 15 year old boy. At the beginning of the year, several of my friends and I met two girls by accident. We went out 2-3 times with them and it was a lot of fun, but then somehow we stopped going out. One of these two girls (let's call her Sofia) impressed me from the first time I saw her that she was super cute. I've liked her a little since then, but she was nothing. I had almost forgotten about Sofia, but about 2 months later, one evening, she waved at me in messenger without wanting to. From there we wrote to each other a little and after a while, I started writing to her from time to time and she suddenly started talking to me about her problems. Her problems weren't that serious, but the way she reacted was pretty serious. She told me that I was one of the very few who understood her and I tried to help her as much as I could. Somehow we developed a strange relationship. I wrote to her from time to time, and she often told me about her problems, and I tried to help her. From time to time we "flirted" (mainly me) telling her that she was cute and things like that. I often called her "cute" or "candy" and she also called me that sometimes. Every time he uploaded a new photo he wanted to write some playboy comments under the photo. It was fun, but I felt it was all just piranha and fucking. She told me about all her boyfriends. Basically, I planned to act sooner or later because I thought I had at least some chance. We talked about seeing each other quite often, but he didn't mean just the two of them, well she and her friend with all of us.
The problem is that she recently became an 8th grader and generally started hanging out with a very different company. Before her boyfriends were her age (I know it sounds like it and she doesn't know what she wants and it is somewhat so), and now she moves in a company where there are 5-6 girls 04, 03 and about 20 boys 02, 01, 00, etc. He started smoking a lot and all sorts of things like that. The problem is, she became one of those girls I hate. The problem is that these girls fall for some "cool" boys who are really just whores. We last wrote to each other 2-3 weeks ago, when he was talking to me about all these things with the new company and how she had a boyfriend, but he dumped her without even explaining why. We also talked again about seeing each other, and she offered to see me soon, but I told her, that we have some plans in the coming weeks (I really just didn't want to see each other because it's pointless, and she doesn't mean to see only me). We haven't written to each other since then, but yesterday she wrote to a friend. He told me more or less what they wrote to each other, it's not who knows what, but I was still a little dumb that she didn't write to me. Of course, she didn't have to write to me, but I just felt sick. Anyway, I just don't think I'm one of those "cool" guys she likes. I don't have many friends and I don't like meeting a lot of new people because I have no common interests with almost anyone. I'm interested in science, and people think science is dumb and boring (I think it's just the opposite). I'm also a little shy, and considering all these things, I understand why girls don't like me. So I want to ask you, do you think I have a chance at all. It would be wise to give up, but I don't want to give up just like that. I want to try even if I have a minimal chance. What to do?
1 repkarenbass answered
You have to try it, I'm a girl and I know from experience that we have a hard time deciding to take the first step. If she offers you out again, don't refuse and ask her if she just wants you out. There is nothing shameful about liking someone and acknowledging them. And if your girl refuses, don't despair, it means she doesn't deserve you.