Hello! So the following happened to me. My best friend and I have known each other since kindergarten. I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM. Although there was such a period. We have always been together. Even now we work together at sea. Since sleep is guaranteed, we decided to be in one room! And so. We had no problems driving because we had been together under the same roof before and even in the same bed. But something happened seven times ago that really disgusted me. I had gone to bed early in the evening. My friend was out somewhere. it was too late when I awoke to a low whisper and some moans. I was still sleepy and thought it was time for work and that people outside were talking. But when I woke up. I realized that this was not from any people but that my friend was having sex on the other bed next to mine. The lamp on the terrace was lit and I could easily see if it was true, but I dared to turn around. I felt so dirty I don't know why. I can't tell you exactly how bad I felt. You can't imagine what the hell it was like to hear them moan and what a sound was heard when he put it in. My boyfriend and I have always talked about sex and so on but I would never want to see him do it. is in this case I did not see it but heard but it was almost the same. That since then my feelings for him have changed in the sense that he is no longer my friend and someone else I don't know. It was as if it caught my eye. It sucked a lot for me. Most people will probably laugh at me, but I really feel bad. and I can't even look him in the eye. Although he very cleverly covered up the situation. But he doesn't know I heard them. Please tell me, has it ever happened to anyone Or what I'm feeling right now is just a temporary feeling. I don't know how bad I feel; (
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At the risk of one of the next commenters attacking me, I will tell you that I would not like someone to have sex in the next bed. Not that there is anything wrong - what could be better than love? Tell the boy that you know what he did to them, reassure him that everything is fine, he is human, but ask him to show understanding and discretion. But he doesn't do any dramas, okay? Isn't it worth it to be alienated from each other because of nonsense?
Hello! I've been in this situation, but the difference is that I've been on the side of having sex. It happened to me that she was there 3 times with my friend and once with another boy (I did not cheat, we were separated). In principle, we have not commented on what happened. But one night, maybe when we were drunk, she reacted quite sharply and I decided that this thing was really disgusting. She told me that my friend and I had guessed, but she hadn't heard or embarrassed her, but the other boy and I were on the bed next to her, coming out almost glued together, and he said that this thing had made her very angry. The truth is that we pressed on this bed and I felt that we moved, but the very idea in the case when we woke her up and that we do such things near her, made her go crazy. I'm so ashamed and I would never afford that again, and adolescence is over, but still. And now I remembered my other friend, she admitted to me the same night that once I was a guest (I slept on the couch next to the bedroom) with my friend and they did it. I remember that the night in question I didn't fall asleep quickly, and they started right away - I didn't seem to understand, that's why I didn't find it unpleasant, but fun. But obviously the idea of hearing / seeing what's going on changes a lot. I also like number 2 I think it's better to talk. My friend, when she shared it with me, spoke with great disgust, maybe she felt like you too, I am very glad that she shared it with me, even though I felt super miserable. Success! and they started right away - I don't seem to understand, that's why I didn't find it unpleasant, but fun. But obviously the idea of hearing / seeing what's going on changes a lot. I also like number 2 I think it's better to talk. My friend, when she shared it with me, spoke with great disgust, maybe she felt like you too, I am very glad that she shared it with me, even though I felt super miserable. Success! and they started right away - I don't seem to understand, that's why I didn't find it unpleasant, but fun. But obviously the idea of hearing / seeing what's going on changes a lot. I also like number 2 I think it's better to talk. My friend, when she shared it with me, spoke with great disgust, maybe she felt like you too, I am very glad that she shared it with me, even though I felt super miserable. Success!
In my opinion, you are subconsciously a little jealous, as much as you are "just friends" when you are a man and a woman, sexual is always somewhere in the background in the subconscious, but as long as your relationship with the man is OK, you do not need to show it. When something like this happens, you instinctively feel neglected and almost cheated on you. Even if you don't want to admit it and even if you don't really want to have sex with that person, your reaction right now is dictated by that. Think about it, if it was your girlfriend who brought a man to the apartment, would you feel that way? Hardly. The sex should be best for you as well. And I advise you to talk to him and tell him you heard them. You will be relieved by what you have shared, and if you are really that close you should have no problem talking about it.
People, if there was nowhere for the boy to have sex ... what's wrong with the room ...? where to go outside li- to appendize him :) hahahahahaha. and even if they were released, he can always join the girl if the girl on the other bed wakes up to join them :)
I agree with №4. I think there really is at least a drop of jealousy in you, even though you really don't have love for him. As far as I understand, you are extremely close since you were children and this may be a reason to be jealous of him even just as a friend. If you are constantly together and you are not used to seeing him with other women, it is normal to feel uncomfortable after this case. Maybe if you think about it a little deeper and try to do an analysis of your feelings for him, you will understand for yourself what caused your discomfort from what happened.
It's very naughty. It happened to me. My girlfriend allowed herself to have sex in the room where we slept 3 more people. I heard them about others I do not know. This happened many years ago, but I still remember it. I didn't talk to her, but I advise you to talk to your friend.
I definitely do not believe that there was jealousy, why did so many decide ??? I am also disgusted by sexual visions and I know what the author meant. The proof that she has absolutely no intimate attitude towards him is the fact that the strongest disgust is caused by sexual sounds made by people with whom sex is unthinkable! For example, everyone would be disgusted to listen to or see the erotic performances of their parents or an old, sick person, or a small child. In general, the shock comes when 100% NON-SEXUAL objects enter the territory of our sexual perceptions UNINVITED.
It's really nasty. I would never have sex with anyone if there were other people in the room. HORROR! Still, I think in time you will forget what happened.
If I were you, I would go to them and get involved!
I completely agree with the comment of №4, and about sex in a room where there are others? I wrote on another topic here on the site entitled "sex in a dormitory" but I will also write here: I had sex in a dormitory (quite often), in the room where my two roommates sleep with their boyfriends at the same time. I never knew if they felt us. What about my feelings? Well, unique, thrill, adrenaline, passion, pleasure ... and one more thing. And I don't see what's embarrassing about the situation you're describing. For both sides. This is a moment of satisfying human needs. Think more about whether there is not much truth in what was said by №4 and you just be jealous. As a student, I caught my roommate. And no problem - for me and for him. It's all a matter of discretion and understanding. And the fact that someone compares the described event with "For example, everyone would be disgusted to listen to or see the erotic performances of their parents or an old, sick person or a small child. I don't understand it at all. What is the connection between sex between two young people on a hot summer night filled with the scent of the sea and passion and sex between parents, a sick person or a small child? But it is their right to interpret as they see fit. Talk to your friend - you will definitely be relieved. But approach discreetly. And live the life of MAX ~~ Student of the 90s of the XX century ~~ sick or small child? But it is their right to interpret as they see fit. Talk to your friend - you will definitely be relieved. But approach discreetly. And live the life of MAX ~~ Student of the 90s of the XX century ~~ sick or small child? But it is their right to interpret as they see fit. Talk to your friend - you will definitely be relieved. But approach discreetly. And live the life of MAX ~~ Student of the 90s of the XX century ~~
It sucks. Talk to him directly and tell him you're uncomfortable. It's normal to be uncomfortable. I don't think he'll say it again if you tell him. Ana
Hey, there are a lot of lost people! It sucked ... what sucks? !! When you hear your mother sneezing in the toilet with the door still closed, do you feel sick? And there is nothing to do, everyone has heard such sounds. If you still feel sick, then you have something ... Number 9, you turn things around a lot, if you hear sexual sounds between people who are not of sexual interest to you, the reaction is that you just DO NOT CARE. You don't care, because it doesn't confuse you in any way that they have sex, and that fact doesn't bother you. If something in you trembles when you hear or see such a scene, then YOU care and it means YOU are not all that. And if that's not all for you, everyone should draw their own conclusions.
It's a pity you didn't join and now you're sorry, so you're writing!
It sucks because they had sex on the bed next to hers. And I don't care who does what in the next room, but a foot away from me is the fucking story. There is a place for everything and they do not need to intrude next to her - it is not enough for them to go straight to her in bed. Ana
It's like that in a room and it's so dumb so close. Did he do it on purpose to make you think how good he is and ask you to ... with him? , and this friend of yours was banging his board to know :))
It turns out awkward. When I was little I heard our and ... Abe naughty. We were in the same room then. But I pretended not to hear anything. It would be naughty to say, "Hey, Mom, when you're doing something with Dad, it's softer that your bed creaks." How does that sound to you? E. 23