Hello! I'm a girl of 22. I've already written here and now I feel the need to share again because I just don't have anyone to talk to. My mother died in August last year. If anyone has read my story, they already know how close we were, they know it was and still is everything to me. I can talk so much about her, and no one. I can write so much, and the words themselves are powerless to express my feelings ... I study, work, do housework, meet people. No one sees my pain, and those who know about it avoid talking to me about it. Even with my closest friends, when I say something in this direction, they only answer "Calm down, everything will be fine." Hell, can't someone say something else, can't they give me a chance to talk at least a little ... It's not to worry that I'm going to get sick, because my closest people know that this is exactly what I need, I told them ... I feel alone. And that's right, because my mother is gone ... I haven't had such feelings for anyone, I haven't been so close to anyone ... She's just gone ... And I don't seem to be there anymore ... It bothers me One more thing. I don't go to her grave. I just don't want to, I don't feel the need, even if the soul continues to exist, it's definitely not there. I talk to her at home or when I'm alone somewhere else. But I don't go to her grave. And I feel guilty, as if in front of others ... I don't want to go there when I go, I do it as if out of obligation. And I keep asking myself, am I a bad person Please tell ... I haven't been so close to anyone ... She's just gone ... And I don't seem to be here anymore ... There's something else bothering me. I don't go to her grave. I just don't want to, I don't feel the need, even if the soul continues to exist, it's definitely not there. I talk to her at home or when I'm alone somewhere else. But I don't go to her grave. And I feel guilty, as if in front of others ... I don't want to go there when I go, I do it as if out of obligation. And I keep wondering, am I a bad person? Please tell ... I haven't been so close to anyone ... She's just gone ... And I don't seem to be here anymore ... There's something else bothering me. I don't go to her grave. I just don't want to, I don't feel the need, even if the soul continues to exist, it's definitely not there. I talk to her at home or when I'm alone somewhere else. But I don't go to her grave. And I feel guilty, as if in front of others ... I don't want to go there when I go, I do it as if out of obligation. And I keep wondering, am I a bad person? Please tell ... I don't want to go there when I go, I do it as if out of obligation. And I keep wondering, am I a bad person? Please tell ... I don't want to go there when I go, I do it as if out of obligation. And I keep asking myself, am I a bad person? Please tell ...
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It is normal to feel this way, and it is worse when all your feelings are closed in you and you have no one to talk to, because nowadays it is so difficult to find real people to support you and lend you a hand when you need that. If we could have anything to do with you. I could try to help you.
You're not bad in my opinion. Boy of 19
You are doing the right thing - your mother is not in the grave. And you have nothing to feel bad about others - let them live according to their understandings and beliefs, if they want to go to the cemetery, if not the state - to do what they want. As far as I remember, Christ had said something like, "Let the dead bury the dead!" people who are not aware of the essence of Being to do their stupid ceremonies, looking for melancholy reassurance in them ... You are not bad and avoid reproaching yourself - you are strong that you behave! You can use the wave of your pain to study in more detail the questions of what life, death, why we live, where we come from and where we go, what we really are? Be fully convinced that at some point you will meet your mother again, and not in mental conversations, and quite consciously - face to face or more precisely consciousness in consciousness. But this moment will not be soon ... Now your task is to continue your life without her, and to become a support for someone as she was for you. Only then will she be truly pleased and tell you "Well done!" Courage! And know that it dawns after every darkness. Your mother is much better now than you can imagine - don't torture her with your sadness. When someone left this world, the ancient Thracians held 3-day celebrations so that his soul could leave peacefully, contentedly and in peace - it itself needs support during the transition. Ray Only then will she be truly pleased and tell you "Well done!" Courage! And know that it dawns after every darkness. Your mother is much better now than you can imagine - don't torture her with your sadness. When someone left this world, the ancient Thracians held 3-day celebrations so that his soul could leave calm, content and at peace - it itself needs support during the transition. Ray Only then will she be truly pleased and tell you "Well done!" Courage! And know that it dawns after every darkness. Your mother is much better now than you can imagine - don't torture her with your sadness. When someone left this world, the ancient Thracians held 3-day celebrations so that his soul could leave peacefully, contentedly and in peace - it itself needs support during the transition. Ray
It's hard for me to write on this topic .... my father died last year, I don't go to his grave, I talk to him somehow, the feeling is special .... I dream about him often, his last home, sometimes nightmares bother me. .. I am convinced of one thing and I-he is NOT in the Center. Sof. cemeteries. There are only the remains of his body. And I am reproached for not going, "it was right" ... His soul, his spirit is elsewhere. Most don't think like me and Ray ...
I feel sorry for you and I experience something similar and I understand you
It is normal for you to miss your mother and suffer. Dad got sick and melted in less than a year. Only now, three years later, can I think of him without being sad and crying. I still miss him endlessly and I will always miss him. But then something supernatural happened to me, which made the infidel believe in the existence of the soul. I was lying down and in a half-asleep state when I felt an infinitely gentle touch inside me and in my head the words "I'm leaving you now but one day we will see each other again goodbye dear father child." Minutes later, Mom came into my room to tell me he was gone. I'm sure it wasn't a dream or a hallucination. It was his spirit saying goodbye to me. A soul exists and one day we will see each other again but in another intangible world. And the pain on him remains and will always be there.
I'm sure your mother was an amazing person, the way you talk about her shows it. Do not seek comfort from your friends, you will receive understanding only from a person who has experienced your grief. Believe that she is watching you from somewhere, she is watching you and she is your guiding star.
When you lose a very loved one, the pain never goes away. Time seems to become less tangible, but it is always in you and in moments that provoke memories with your loved one, it again becomes unbearably burning. Over time, we only learn to live with this pain, put a part of us, of our daily lives and it will be completely suppressed only when some new event in our lives does not shake us with new and positive emotions. Such as the birth of a child. Only then does our whole being cling to the new and the pain subsides. But it never disappears.
The Dalai Lama says there are four poisons in the world - ignorance, greed, envy and affection. Everyone has their own path, remember the pink and live lightly. Be happy that you had a wonderful parent.
I lost both my parents. I have no brother or sister. I have close people - a man, a wonderful daughter and a sweet grandson. Sometimes I am terribly sad and often think about the loss of my parents. I tell myself, if they were alive, that wouldn't happen. I often cry for them. I can't go to their graves because they are far away. I go to church from time to time, but that won't bring them back either. The only thing left for a person to do is to cry when it is hard for him and to find a job that gives him pleasure.
As you feel, this is right! And I think that a person's soul is everywhere else, not ...! Be strong, your mother feels how much you love her !!!