Hello people! I turn to you for opinions and advice and I will be grateful if I receive such. I have been a student for three years now. Until 3 months ago I had a friend. We are the same age as him. We were together for more than half a year. He broke up with me. We kept in touch from a distance because we are students in different cities. First he said he was tormented, that we didn't see each other often, and as he wanted to dump me, the next moment he told me how much he cared for me and that he still wanted us together. We saw each other, spent time together, showed each other that we loved each other. Everything was perfect. We lasted another month and he said again that he wanted to separate, but this time he was adamant. Like thunder from a clear sky, he said that things were not working out for him and that he could not keep in touch at the moment. I have to make it clear here that we didn't fight, we have not cheated and we have not done anything wrong. I put my education first, then him and our relationship. He, for his part, also put his education first, me and our relationship second. This is not just my view of things, we have said it several times. I still have feelings for him. This is the boy who made me feel wanted and appreciated. We both have problems and we tried to support each other at all times. I had another serious relationship before the one that lasted a year, and I can say that I didn't feel so good in it. My ex's most serious relationship, however, was no more than 3-4 months. He had 2 or 3 of them. And this is not because he is a womanizer or frivolous (as most people would think), he is just naive and has come across various gold diggers. I dare say that I am intelligent, good-looking and pursuing my goals, he also described me as such, and I am far from money, gifts and expensive cars. Since we broke up, I've tried to talk to him 5-6 times, but he doesn't pick up the phone and doesn't answer me if I write to him. He doesn't even open his chat anymore. From mutual friends I understand things about him and I know that he has not found another so far. I wanted to go to the city where he lives and talk to him directly, but I don't know how he will react and whether I will stress him even more. I don't know what to do. Well, here come my torments and questions. Did he think I wasn't for him because I was too ambitious and showing it Or have I offended him with something insignificant to me that he doesn't tell me about? Is distance really the reason he doesn't want to be with me? This, that he has not had a serious relationship so far is an obstacle? Or did our relationship affect his success at university? I currently have no desire to start a relationship with another. I love my ex and I'm willing to do anything to be with him, no matter how desperate it may sound to some people. I ask for advice and opinions on the whole situation.
1 c__l__o answered
I have no desire to start a relationship with another - do not. Tip - clarify. What advice do you expect? Give him medicine to make you like him? It either wants it or it doesn't. Go and find out. "Better a terrible ending than an endless horror."