I Have Defiled My Marriage With Infidelity

   Legally, I can't give you any advice, but regarding infidelity, I don't think it's wrong. Of course, marriage is sacred, but it is contracted by two people. And there is the most important thing - from a legal point of view, because it is concluded by two, it can be broken only by those same two who freely choose that they want to separate as a family, but from a moral point of view the marriage is concluded by two, but it remains true and sacred only if these same two still share the magic that bound them together. I'm sorry, but from what I've written, I don't think your wife feels the conjugal love that made her marry you and the coldness of her family, as well as your sense of invaluability, have cooled yours to the point where you are morally you're not even married, you're so out of sync with what you want out of your lives, that they have not been the same for a long time and you remain hanging, hung only by the legal shackles, which it will not allow you to break easily. Don't whip yourself for the woman from work. I'm Nobody and my opinion means Nothing, but you're here to read it - I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Don't stop working with the woman.

   It's a marriage ... A miracle and a story. You defiled it. Haha. You do not have a child. What kind of support is your wife talking about? If you are not divorced, stay married and have sex with your colleague. So the wolf is full and the lamb is whole. Your wife obviously has no respect for you. You had to beat her for respect. Now she thinks you're a mold and tells you how insignificant you are.

   Big male. :) He was defiled. One mouse hides in the holes only. One so small, cowardly and lustful. It's not masculine to hide. When your marriage is not going well and the woman does not appreciate you and upsets you. There are ways, dude. Divorce and who from where. Infidelity is the coward's answer. Let the woman find Rockefeller and be happy, and you find a modest and respectful partner. You weren't for each other and that's it.

   These are not normal relationships, but unhealthy and insincere, that is, unnecessary and meaningless. In general, the arguments why you will not stop cheating are one ....

   It hurts, itches, I'm glad it's yours. ;)

   Author, you are the typical victim of a girl who is painfully close to her mother and father. Notice what you say, "My wife's family." No one is her family except you! The others are her relatives, even her mother and father. But your situation is inescapable, without wanting to despair. Infidelity is not an option, because if he finds out, they will blame you for everything. In fact, such people are egocentric, and even if you try to explain, you will not be understood. I wouldn't commit to giving specific advice, but start thinking about a new woman over time, opening your mind that you need to get out of this trap. Because over time it will get worse. Don't deal with married women, don't cheat to make it easier for you, just open your heart to a new love, and it will come. The other - you can not pay maintenance for life. Child support is paid up to 18 years and is in the amount of - 200-300 BGN according to your income, maybe 130 BGN - the minimum, the court decides. But you don't have to do anything else unless you want to give it yourself. Many families are like your mother-in-law full of her daughter's head, she in turn does not respect her husband, and how to be happy?!?!?

   If you do not have children, for what maintenance does the woman sing? These threats are made only by weak natures, perhaps because she knows that she will not find another to tolerate her so much. I am sure that if she finds another, she will immediately beat your jester and she will not be tormented by the same dilemmas as you.

   I am 39 and I am in a similar situation with the difference that my work is quite hard and I work alone. I have no colleagues. My wife is 39 too, but 5 months older than me. From there I am younger and I do not understand anything. We have a 5-year-old child who developed psychosis from her screams, screams and nonsense. He refuses to talk, to do things like other children, and lives in his fictional world. I push, I tear my gut. I can barely cover my expenses. My wife does not work because the child has to be taken two or three times a week to speech therapists, psychologists, etc. I listen to such nonsense and nonsense from 18.00 to 22.00. and it's every night. Saturday and Sunday is a scary thing. When it was warmer, I left home so as not to strangle her. But now that it starts, I run to the other room. From there to the kitchen. Then again. I explained how nasty life is and that no one will come to help us. It's just the two of us. If we don't help each other, we are lost. "-I don't understand anything"! I'm smaller. We haven't been intimate for 5 years. I look at absolutely every woman on the street. This mental harassment and my hard work have probably crushed my appearance and no woman pays attention to me, let alone a normal conversation. Mentally, my wife is not there at all. I have recorded her several times how she behaves and what she makes scandals about. I can't handle it! I know my child is not stupid. It's just that his mother keeps harassing both of us. The nasty justice system is 90% behind mothers. I don't have extra money for lawyers and cases. And she firmly refuses to change. I don't want anything else from her. I don't make her cook. Yes, wash. Yes clean. I push all day to go around the shops and figure out what to eat. In the cold I run to the garden to pick up the child. I rent and start washing dishes. Then feed the child. And pay attention to him. And during this time he doesn't stop: "- Your mother is like that! Your mother is like that! She did magic!" Where was my wage money ?! Why did I smoke? I had gone to bed to rest. What have I been so busy eating ?! I also left crumbs of BGN 5-6. How tired she was that she started the washing machine and wiped the dust! And again from the beginning. You haven't cheated on talking to another woman about your problems. I envy you that at least you have such a person. I'm alone. I have a similar friend, but he is extreme. She keeps telling me to break her head and kick her out. Then feed the child. And pay attention to him. And during this time he doesn't stop: "- Your mother is like that! Your mother is like that! She did magic!" Where was my wage money ?! Why did I smoke? I had gone to bed to rest. What have I been so busy eating ?! I also left crumbs of BGN 5-6. How tired she was that she started the washing machine and wiped the dust! And again from the beginning. You haven't cheated on talking to another woman about your problems. I envy you that at least you have such a person. I'm alone. I have a similar friend, but he is extreme. She keeps telling me to break her head and kick her out. Then feed the child. And pay attention to him. And during this time he doesn't stop: "- Your mother is like that! Your mother is like that! She did magic!" Where was my wage money ?! Why did I smoke? I had gone to bed to rest. What have I been so busy eating ?! I also left crumbs of BGN 5-6. How tired she was that she started the washing machine and wiped the dust! And again from the beginning. You haven't cheated on talking to another woman about your problems. I envy you that at least you have such a person. I'm alone. I have a similar friend, but he is extreme. She keeps telling me to break her head and kick her out. I also left crumbs of BGN 5-6. How tired she was that she started the washing machine and wiped the dust! And again from the beginning. You haven't cheated on talking to another woman about your problems. I envy you that at least you have such a person. I'm alone. I have a similar friend, but he is extreme. She keeps telling me to break her head and kick her out. I also left crumbs of BGN 5-6. How tired she was that she started the washing machine and wiped the dust! And again from the beginning. You haven't cheated on talking to another woman about your problems. I envy you that at least you have such a person. I'm alone. I have a similar friend, but he is extreme. She keeps telling me to break her head and kick her out.

   It sounds almost real until I read "otherwise her family will be hired by the best lawyers and I will pay lifetime support". Are you a 16-year-old pickle or pickle? You watch movies and learn about the "best lawyers". I will explain to you that in UK  the best lawyers can sentence an ex-husband to "maintenance for life" ... for example for  150 / month. In American movies, similar things happen in the amount of 2-5-10 thousand dollars a month. But here the maintenance is a parody, so whether until the end of the year or for life is the same. Now, if  100-200 per month are able to destroy you, then you are in trouble (and without a divorce).

   If the family was holy, you would not cheat, but leave regardless of the consequences and then do what you want, as a MATURE man would do! She has to compare herself to her cousins, NOT you, but she's right about one thing - that you're not successful and maybe you won't because you don't have the motivation and you don't even think before you act. You didn't marry for love, I understand, you "liked" the shortcomings from the very beginning. You married this woman for security, you yourself said that you were alone for a long time, and it is not done because you lose yours, you lose her time, and this is a time that will not return, especially at this age is even more difficult, and this colleague of yours is a light woman who clings to her husband because she can't support herself and has done nothing in her life to feel CONFIDENT in herself. I think

   Do you want to have children? If not - all this. If you want - drop them both and find a woman up to 35 for children. Success!

   What kind of family if you have neither marriage nor children !?

   I am a woman of 30 years. I have a lover I recognize him in you with small differences and exceptions. His wife is just like what she described to you, eternally dissatisfied, grumbling and frigid, very arrogant. At least your wife has a reason, her family is wealthy and his was from the lowest stratum of society, now she is one only because she is his wife. I don't know her well, I know everything I say from him and her relatives. Like you, he works and bears all their expenses, saves some money and comes to Bulgaria / they live abroad at her insistence, here we have all died of starvation. He asks for tenderness and attention from her and she always finds an excuse not to give them to him. In the summer we started dating me, supposedly just for sex, but we both liked it and we didn't stop. It is now miles away, but we know at any moment where it is and what the other is doing. He wakes up at five for work and I wake up and keep him company from here with writing and photos drinking coffee together, and his poor wife is still tired sleeping like the world. They sleep in separate rooms. He sends me a picture from time to time, just by looking at it and I understand if he is well or angry about something for a few months I got to know him very well, he told me that she does not know how to understand it. At first he convinced me that he loved her, but then he admitted that he was with her only because of the children and only because he thought of marriage as something sacred, like you, Author. He also admitted to me that for several of our brief meetings I had given him much more tenderness and attention than she had for their 10 years of marriage, and admitted that she also avoids his kisses and intimacy and he no longer bothers to look for them. . I don't know what to think and how to help him. Have we agreed that we do not want to ruin our families and I have problems in my marriage, otherwise I would not have a lover at all. My lover and I are both afraid to admit that we have found something in the infidelity that was not given to us at home, I don't know how long everything will last and how it will end. My advice is to gather strength and part with your wife, regardless of whether you will be alone, with your mistress or find someone else. In my opinion, no man deserves to live as you describe, no woman has the right to crush a man's self-esteem. I hope things work out in your favor. Success! I don't know how long everything will last and how it will end. My advice is to gather strength and part with your wife, regardless of whether you will be alone, with your mistress or find someone else. In my opinion, no man deserves to live as you describe, no woman has the right to crush a man's self-esteem. I hope things work out in your favor. Success! I don't know how long everything will last and how it will end. My advice is to gather strength and part with your wife, regardless of whether you will be alone, with your mistress or find someone else. In my opinion, no man deserves to live as you describe, no woman has the right to crush a man's self-esteem. I hope things work out in your favor. Success!

   Lots of comment, lots of things waiting for approval. Come on, I'm in the pot: Alimony for what? Do you have children with your so-called a woman? The so-called, because I do not see what is her family behavior. That her colleague is more family-oriented towards you than your own wife. If you don't have a child, the easiest thing is to beat the jester of the official half - if a lawyer with golden balls is going to find her family, they can't do anything to you if you don't have children. At least your conscience will be clear when you see your colleague. :)

   Male, this one number 13 even made me laugh ... She was also the mistress of a man with an eternally muttering and frigid woman ... Are you serious ?? Is that what your lover told you? Is that the excuse? Pretty banal, huh? People like you are not called lovers, but a second whistle ... In most cases, the woman at home is tired and the man is looking for variety. Of course, he will tell you that, what do you expect? However, divorce is not because the marriage was a sacred thing ..., how logical .. I stop that when I read 12 comments before yours are blocked, they will block mine, and I do not want to, because I have to tell the author (and all like you) that you are pathetic and looking for an occasion and excuse to break !! Be worthy and leave instead of lying to your partner.

   So far, I have not heard of any mistress other than the lover's wife being "eternally dissatisfied grumbling and frigid." Logically - there is no information from anywhere except from the lover. Naturally, he will make a sacrifice that his wife is grumbling and that she finds solace only in her mistress. And yes - and the eternal cliché that he does not have sex with his wife, even sleeping in separate rooms, that you see to keep only for the mistress. I have heard these tales thousands of times and they are still the same.

   Author, something unspoken seems to me in this whole story! You are silent about something! Why will you pay alimony? Maintenance is paid if you have a child! Otherwise, there is no reason to want her (I think I'm not a lawyer)! Is your wife currently in maternity leave? If so, do you help her when you get home from work? Or in front of the TV and then she's guilty? Why did she become "frigid" as you put it? Is it because of pregnancy and motherhood? If so, it is perfectly normal. This condition will pass! Why did you put up with her taunts and not tell her in plain text, if she wants a richer one to divorce and look for her, you will not stop her? My advice is: talk to her when you are both calm and have time (for example, you are not in a hurry to work), tell her what worries you, what you do not like, what you want to change. Let her tell you what things look like from her point of view. Think about them, then talk again! The truth is usually somewhere in the middle! I did not read that you talked, clarified relationships, etc. I read your accusations and your wife's desire to make an effort for a normal family life! And does she know what you mean by "normal", as well as what she means (apart from money)?

   Up to 9 If you are on the minimum wage and do not have a penny of foreign income - YES! If you have a 2500 salary and earn 7-8000 from investments per year, you will be paid 600-700 per month.

   Up to 13. How naive you are. I went this way with a lover, a marauder and not from abroad. These tales about the bad wife and the poor man - the victim who stands by her in the name of the children - are so worn out, but at the expense of working flawlessly. Life shows that sweet talk is one thing and action is another. I thought, if I get sick tomorrow - who will take care of me: my lover * with his failed marriage * or * my bad husband *. At one point, I realized that I, as a mature woman, needed to show a little more self-respect and end this masquerade. That's what I did! I decided for myself either to put my marriage in order or to divorce because I have no right to waste my husband's time. Most likely, a woman more worthy than me is waiting for him. Well, things worked out, we are currently close to our husbands and closer than ever. Tip: fix your marriage and don't look for excuses. Just as you find reasons to cheat, so your husband will find it, it's the easiest. You are very young, you can't cheat all your life. If the situation at home is so hopeless, just divorce and find someone who is right next to you and truly loves you. We women tend to blame our husbands for everything, but especially when I looked at my marriage, I realized that I also have fevers to cut. Let's be a little more realistic and not pass the ball to just one person. Success, F45 If the situation at home is so hopeless, just divorce and find someone who is right next to you and truly loves you. We women tend to blame our husbands for everything, but especially when I looked at my marriage, I realized that I also have fevers to cut. Let's be a little more realistic and not pass the ball to just one person. Success, F45 If the situation at home is so hopeless, just divorce and find someone who is right next to you and truly loves you. We women tend to blame our husbands for everything, but especially when I looked at my marriage, I realized that I also have fevers to cut. Let's be a little more realistic and not pass the ball to just one person. Success, F45

   Clearly, you have come across an evil mother-in-law and a mother's child. Drop it, there is no way to support you if you don't have children. They are pathetic. Don't let these peasant sticks crush you. Clearly, all the nonsense they tell you at home is poured out by your mother-in-law, and your wife is stupid enough to listen to her. Let him go and live with his mother without realizing that you are the family.

   I don't understand one thing, injured women, but stop going and pushing the family. The ideal for a woman has gone to hell.

   I'm 13 I'm glad I'm laughing at you .... The author shared the same thing about his wife, didn't he laugh at you or didn't you read the story? It's good to believe that there really are eternally grumbling and frigid women, if it weren't for them, we wouldn't have the "second whistles". I'm very interested in what your exact definition of the word "mistress" includes, looking deep inside. Even if my lover told me that, and this is the excuse, it may sound banal, but at least there is some excuse, unlike many of the infidels who share here. And I'm sorry, but if you paid attention to what I wrote, I have already ended my affair, there is no need for me to comment on this, it will not help the author at all. This is not about what I wanted to hear. Logically, I didn't think of number 16, that he did not have sex with his wife, they certainly did, but out of obligation not with desire and passion. And I'm not a fool to get caught up in his empty talk, I learned these details later after sleeping with him, I knew very well what I wanted and what I was doing. I did not say that he would take care of me, if they did not sleep in separate rooms, how would he write to call me at any time. I've heard them a thousand times, too, and I didn't believe my lover, but after reading the author's story, I thought they might have been true. You chased me The author left him in the background, since you are so outraged by infidelity, what are you looking for in the category of "love and infidelity"? I learned these details later after sleeping with him, I knew very well what I wanted and what I was doing. I did not say that he would take care of me, if they did not sleep in separate rooms, how would he write to call me at any time. I've heard them a thousand times, too, and I didn't believe my lover, but after reading the author's story, I thought they might have been true. You chased me The author left him in the background, since you are so outraged by infidelity, what are you looking for in the category of "love and infidelity"? I learned these details later after sleeping with him, I knew very well what I wanted and what I was doing. I did not say that he would take care of me, if they did not sleep in separate rooms, how would he write to call me at any time. I've heard them a thousand times, too, and I didn't believe my lover, but after reading the author's story, I thought they might have been true. You chased me The author left him in the background, since you are so outraged by infidelity, what are you looking for in the category of "love and infidelity"?

   Why would she compare you to her cousins, if she had married her cousin? How long have you been together, do you have children? Her relatives say that you are not successful if you don't have money, but in my opinion, the most important thing is to be happy first. In Bulgaria, men do not support their wives.

   I'm 13 again. By 19, I've realized what's important to me, I just haven't shared everything in detail. I have decided to end my lover, I realize that it is something temporary and his sweet talk does not excite me, I just wanted to share with the author that he is not the only man in this situation. I sat down and thought, like you, what will happen to me in the future, and came to the conclusion that I do not want to be alone. I didn't even mention that I would get a divorce or that I was madly in love with my lover. In the interest of the truth, I can't fall in love, you need a heart to fall in love and I don't have one anymore, thanks to my husband. It's I can't understand why everyone attacked me, I know I was wrong as long as you laughed and insulted me. Hey, if I had posted my story separately, there wouldn't have been so many comments and opinions.

   What expenses and to whom? Children? I didn't mention them anywhere ... I'm sorry, I don't believe your story. And even if it's true ... just as you can talk to your helpful (obviously in many respects) colleague, so you can talk to the woman next to you, if it hasn't occurred to you before. The mouth is given not only to eat, drink, swear or blaspheme, but also to share.

   Man, are you okay ?! Stop this parody now? Don't you have your own dignity ?! He was going to pay alimony ... Stay unemployed for a year and live on your savings, and let's see what alimony you will pay? What will they do - will they put you in jail? I have not heard of anyone being sent to prison for unpaid maintenance ... Or go abroad and start working there. Who will find you there? All you've been blabbering on about are just excuses not to do exactly what you know you have to do, and which no one but you can do ... "and so on ...

   Your wife is a terrible man

   13, he did not make me laugh, but disgusted me. Why do you always find excuses, damn it? Admit that you are like that and that's it. There are breakers and there are literate people, I'm sorry, but in my definition of a literate person you don't fit in as a mistress ... Yes, well, I know it brings thrills, you feel somehow significant . See how much I am wanted, I secretly hide to be fucked and my self-confidence flies to the sky !! She is my lover's wife, she's terrible, that's how she likes it ... All this was spinning in your head as an excuse for getting into an extramarital affair. However, the truth is, even is the bottom and the point! And yes, I have experience. When I was very young and stupid, I cheated. I know what it feels like and I know the ugly collision with reality after that. And I'll tell you that now at 33 with two children and a stable marriage, I believe we need to work within the family to make sure not to look for a solution in the arms of another man. For myself, I realized that there is no ideal man, and the lover quickly becomes annoying sloppy once moved the affair to another level, namely the lover to become the man next to you. Everyone has flaws, and do you imagine your lover to be worse than your husband? !! I have been on the other side and I know that many men cheat on flawless women who are kind and caring wives. My point is, this is just an excuse to get what he wants from you. Everyone judges for themselves. To me, the author is immoral. One always has a choice, and it is the decision to take the difficult, but usually the right, or the easy and often wrong, path that sets us within certain limits. In this case, an immoral and hypocritical author who prefers to lie and cheat instead of fixing his marriage, if not just leave his wife and move on with his head held high. You've heard a good thought - "Honor is that invisible bone that keeps your head upright." Come with health and happy holidays !! From № 15.

   I hate these "colleagues", authors, who do not pay attention to their own men, but admire your colleagues. When you judge, when did you understand who you are, do I live with you? And I sipped the potpourri of one who he made his own idiot, he didn't care if he was washed, ironed, ate, and prepared gala dinners for my husband with barbecues, grills and special desserts - you guessed it, he was a colleague, a lover, and I had the status of a family friend. Do you like it when you read it from the side? Whatever your wife is - ankle, lazy - this is not the way, believe me, it is not .. An infidelity deepens the problems, it does not fix them. man and behave like a man - do you stay with her, do you separate - only you can solve it. Ah, ah .... and I haven't read anything about feelings here ...

   abe enough nonsense, what support ??? do you know anyone who pays such to his ex-wife? what kind of good lawyers to hire, don't get involved in stupid blackmail. make it 1 check with a good divorce lawyer to see what he will advise you for BGN 30-40. Not to mention that you can go abroad and if they want, look for you

   Alimony for ex-spouse after divorce is due only in the cases specified by the Family Code. Here they are: Art. 79. Only a person who is incapable of work and cannot support himself from his property has the right to maintenance. Art. 83.

(1) Only the spouse innocent for the divorce shall have the right to maintenance.

(2) The maintenance shall be due no more than three years from the termination of the marriage if the parties have not agreed on a longer-term. The court may extend these terms if the ex-spouse receiving the maintenance is in a particularly serious condition and the other can give it without much difficulty.

(3) The right to maintenance of the former spouse shall be terminated when he enters into marriage. Your marriage is terrible and gives you nothing, you are not a slave to your wife and you are not obliged to look after her and her family, you did not say if she works. Go to a lawyer and discuss divorce options. Rent accommodation, if the apartment is yours, tell the women to rent it. If you are alone you have a chance to meet someone and be happy.