Once he's raised you, he's not that bad. And the reasons you point out are not from a bad father in general. If he asks you questions, then he is interested in you, if he scolds you, then he hurts for you. He may not show love because he pretends to be a man and the older generation of men do not find it masculine to show love to your child. I have even heard phrases that a father can caress and kiss his child only when the child is asleep, so that he does not understand how much his father loves him. He probably wants you to start working, to become independent, and he gets annoyed when he realizes that, for example, you are "messing around" with friends on the streets and in cafes. Probably his way of making you human is that he understands and humiliates you. Some beat, others insult, others praise too much, etc. different people, different characters, different ways to achieve the goal. In general, there are rarely 18-year-old boys who are fans of their fathers. Even women urge their husbands to be bad so that their children are afraid of him and perform. It is an old folk psychology that a child should be afraid of his father. You probably grew up in such an environment. But one day when you become a father, when you have to give your salary to provide heat, food, bed, clothes, teaching aids, computer, internet, cable, lessons, medicines when he is sick and for many more. many other things and depriving yourself to have for the child, then you will understand how difficult it is to raise a child. So good, bad, if he raised you, then he's not that bad. that the child must be afraid of his father. You probably grew up in such an environment. But one day when you become a father, when you have to give your salary to provide heat, food, bed, clothes, teaching aids, computer, internet, cable, lessons, medicines when he is sick and for many more. many other things and depriving yourself to have for the child, then you will understand how difficult it is to raise a child. So good, bad, if he raised you, then he's not that bad. that the child must be afraid of his father. You probably grew up in such an environment. But one day when you become a father, when you have to give your salary to provide heat, food, bed, clothes, teaching aids, computer, internet, cable, lessons, medicines when he is sick and for many more. many other things and depriving yourself to have for the child, then you will understand how difficult it is to raise a child. So good, bad, if he raised you, then he's not that bad.
1 maeve_escobar answered
You don't have a bad father, you have bad parents. As a person who comes from such a family, I guarantee you that there is only one way out for you - GET OUT OF THERE. 2 weeks after I got my high school diploma, I broke down and I'm not sorry. Any other advice is superfluous - you can never change these people.