You're entitled to happiness, but I can see your position. Maybe adoption really is the combination that unites them best. It's probably not the same happiness as a kid you created and came out of you, but maybe you'il spare another human being the feeling that it's better not to have been born just to get thrown away and then no one wants it. Otherwise, be a good person and who should appreciate it. It will make you a person with whom those who can look beyond your illness, enjoy that they can be and will also make you a good mother to a child, whether you have given birth to it or not. Be good!
Without being familiar with medical details, why don't you campaign or borrow for plastic surgery and forget about the problem, and someday if you find someone you're willing to let deep down in your soul and a relationship with a child then you're discussing it at all if it's passed down by inheritance because not everything is passed down.
Why don't you adopt? You're going to make a baby happy, and you're going to feel like a mother.
Oh, that's a very complicated subject. First, I want to tell you that I understand you. If you had schizophrenia, 100 per cent would advise you not to make children. Now there is fetal morphology before birth, which covers certain diseases such as Down and Patau syndrome (I have gone through such studies). There are no a number of other diseases there, but this one is the one. For me, your mother and father have treated your illness absolutely wrong, which I mean, it's not so scary (I read about it given pregnancy research). I'm going to advise you to go to a psychoanalyst, unfortunately you've got very deep complexes, and it's not your fault. If I were you, I'd try having kids. Work on your self-esteem first. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, and your description of your appearance is somewhat the product of the complexes that have beaten you up. Good luck to you!
Your parents didn't get it right. Everyone in this world is important, and there's a reason why he was born. But I understand you can't feel it, since your parents and some idiots have been in your life for years, that you're hardly human. If I were you, maybe I'd try to help other people in a similar situation not feel like they shouldn't have been born.
I'm sorry about what I'm going to write, but your family sucks, and you're all right. Such people do not deserve children, whether with a rabbit lip, down syndrome, etc. child is a child, however he was born. You deserve to have a husband and a family like any human being who has that desire. There are people without hands and feet who are still starting families. You're not alone, and there's love for everyone!
Without knowing you, you're an extraordinary man to me. Your life is a nightmare, and I didn't read malice anywhere. Medicine must be advanced, and I believe it will help you. Just seek a second, third opinion from a competent doctor and do not give up your dreams.
Hi. Every single person in this world was born on a genius plan, and no human life is a mistake. God has created you unique and unique. We live in the 21st century, women undergo thousands of interventions, and I don't see it being so scary to fix such a defect. It's money, as long as one really wants a change. To your question of whether to have children-of course, why would you deprive yourself of that happiness. There is a risk to children in couples without genetic encumbrance. Keep your head up and live.
Honey, I'm enjoying your good heart. If you don't want pain, grief and accusations, adopt a baby! You're going to do a tremendous amount of good! Maybe this is your mission in this world... you need to give this love to someone. I wish you a lot of happiness!
Candy
Why not adoption? There are so many unhappy children. This child will give you a lot of love, and you will always be grateful, and you will have done a good deed.
What disabilities people are born with, work and live with. You're healthy, but it's more of an aesthetic problem. It's a problem how you perceive how it affects you. Look in Russian in youtube for Greishka and Anya, this is a disability. Besides, you're sunk into narrow-mindedness and grief, and you're not looking for a SOLUTION. Did you consult a doctor about your problem? Consultations are even free as far as I know with plastic surgeons at first level crossing. Did you call the health department and ask if they'd cover an operation, did you do anything to change your appearance at all? In Alexandrovska Hospital there is a department of plastic surgery.
Face your problem, write a Facebook post that says you're looking for help, emotional advice on how and what to do, where to go, turn to people. There's a solution if you want to! I have an acquaintance whose mouth is twisted in one direction, and it's raining even. I never asked what the problem was. She's married, her husband is very cute and they have two little kids, and she's pretty chubby. In addition, do you consult a specialist geneticist doctor about the problem, whether it's attached or not, or is it just that your parents talk at home and they beat it in your head. Get out of your comfort zone and just do something.
You know, I know a guy with the same syndrome as you. He's the only one in the pedigree, he doesn't have ancestors with a rabbit's mouth. With him, the story is the same up to one moment, and then quite another. Yes, he has heard insults, suffered from his appearance and the swollenness of people, but his loved ones have not spoken to him in this way. He's been in a relationship for about five years, his girlfriend is his biggest fan, literally. He's always praising him, saying how nice he is, telling him he's the most beautiful boy in the world. He's got friends. Sometimes they ask him what's wrong with him, he patiently explains, and then everything is normal. In recent years, I seem to see his growth. Gradually, he stopped being considered different, refusing to wear a stamp. And he's really a guy like the rest of us, even better, I'd say.
I'm sorry to say this, but your parents have done a very bad thing to you. They've imputed you, they've made you insecure, they've made you feel like a freak. It's disgusting, unforgivable. I told you a story to see the difference between you and a man who was supported by his parents, not rejected. What's wrong with you? You're a man whose subject I didn't see a drop of malice in. You're young, you can do so much. Learn, work, improve if you need to see a psychologist to work on your insecurities and your emotional traumas. As for the kids... there are studies that are done during pregnancy and they detect Patau's syndrome. Separately, you can always adopt a baby. It's too early for you to think about it anyway, but there are always options.
The ones that drive people with genetic diseases to breed are mega bad and stuffed... These genes should cease to exist, respectively people with genetic diseases, disabilities and abnormalities, should NOT have children point.. To be able to do that if the child is incapacitated and suffers well, it's great advice you give... Even if he was born healthy, then his children might be handicapped, aren't you ashamed. And ugly people don't have to breed and squash, but you do. . . . .
And before some "smart guy" talks to me, I have defects, auto immune skin disease, and a mild form of epilepsy, etc. and children, and I don't want to have a big one with shoddy genes, and at least I realize it, and those who, despite your disabilities, make kids for trial and prison...
Hi. I've been digging in and looking for information about your problem, and I understand that it's really something very serious and scary. I guess it's not as easy as a rhinoplasty in people complexed by their noses.
I think before you think about kids, you should think about yourself. To start living a better life, although I understand that if there is such a problem, it will not be like the others.
And as for kids... well, my personal opinion is that it makes no sense for a man to make children if he is not in love with the person by his side. In general, the world seems cruel to me, and life is difficult. I don't think I'm going to do any good to one person if I give birth to him in this world. But that's my personal opinion, everyone sees things in their own way. Know that medicine today is much more developed than it was 30 years ago. And couples at high risk of having a child with a genetic disability have perfectly healthy children. They do genetic testing, go to an assisted reproduction clinic and there they choose healthy material for a generation. In vitro is done and pregnancy is closely monitored. In ultrasound, many of the disabilities are visible, in other cases they recommend amniocentesis (Down syndrome, for example). Already during pregnancy, the condition of the fetus is understood. If it's all right, you keep going. If there's a problem, you can have an abortion. Now if there were no such technologies, I would tell you better not to think about children. But there are already ways to avoid such disabilities. I think Bg is already quite advanced in that regard.
But first of all, pay attention to your emotional state. Seek advice from a psychologist.
13 said it best. Ama... a simple people, a weak state. I hesitate because of my kidney crises, if I ever accidentally ask a child whether to have one, they went to give themselves the great advice totally handicapped (I don't want anyone to offend) to breed.
13, I agree with you, but that doesn't stop you from adopting a child.
I first want to express my sympathy for what you had to endure. You're the only one who knows how much pain you had to swallow. I understand why you want to have a child - it's to be at least some ray of joy in your hardly so joyful life. - Since you know what this is going to be, how much pain will you have to endure every day, do you think that you, his own mother, should be the reason for this, albeit indirectly?
This decision should not depend on anyone else's opinion, but remember that your child/children, even if they have the same, you will not repeat your parents' mistake, and from there nothing will be the same as you.
Otherwise, malformations nowadays are much more often as a result of environmental pollution (mutations) rather than transmitted by parents. Healthy parents are also at high risk, the risk can be reduced only with more environmentally friendly life (healthy food, nature walks, avoiding exposure to toxins - for example, insecticides (and any "-cids"), drugs, etc.).
Oh, honey, I thought things were getting better. We're very bad people, we laugh at different people. You can always adopt a child, don't think of something ugly and less than the others. People with self-esteem, even the ugliest, the important thing is to love yourself, do not underestimate yourself. You're beautiful no matter what mouth you have.
Do your parents have these problems? It's possible you have a normal baby. Don't give it to people. Always be self-confident.
For now, you don't have to decide or make that choice. When you meet someone who loves you and values you and who you enjoy being together with, then you will make this decision: TOGETHER.
Your parents have made an awful lot of mistakes that you're not guilty of. You've been planted with compliments and a sense of inferiority. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, but you have to start cherishing and respecting yourself. Think about some kind of psychological counseling or therapy - you'il feel a lot better. And when one feels good, he starts to see many more possible choices and solutions, and does not feel in a closed circle and impasse.
I don't know if that's possible, but have you ever thought about plastic surgery? Get over your problem first. You either have to stop being different from the others or stop feeling that way. It's certainly very difficult, but it's never too late to try. Then you can think about this issue more soberly.
It's not so much a disability here, because some of you have given an idea for adoption, which is also an option. I know a woman with schizophrenia who totally thinks she wants children, not one, but a few. I don't hire myself because he's a mean and vindictive person by nature, and I don't want any trouble. Here the question is in another - ok, maybe a child can adopt. But if the author does not work on her complexes, she will unknowingly plant them on this child. That's why I gave the idea to a psychoanalyst. You might want to hide in the closet, be sick of people, hide from them and have your reasons. But when you have a child, you're going to throw him birthdays, you're going to take him to the movies, to the playground, it's good not to be with that thinking - isn't that kid supposed to be involved, how would it work if you were away from people? It's about resolving your personal conflicts first before you think about a child, because you can't put your complexes on that child one day. And if you put them over it, you'il just damage it, and it'il grow in isolation, shunned.
In my opinion, you may have children, but you need to do tests during pregnancy for Patau syndrome (and other diseases) and be ready to have an abortion if it turns out that the fetus has such a disease. Accordingly, your children should know about it and be tested.
I would accept you as you are, as you are, about the children, maybe they will be twins, by nature, and in a generation it falls to me, and i'm the only man on both sides of the first line, write me in an ABV to meet and make our desires a reality. I'il be waiting for you.
mareid
I have a cousin with this disease. She was 20 when she left Bulgaria because she felt very bad about her attitude. She was in Greece for many years, saying she felt better there, not so discriminated against. People understood her and didn't even show that she was any different. She is now 35 happily married, with two beautiful daughters and living in Germany. Unfortunately, one of her daughters has the same diagnosis, but here in Germany somehow people are more widely plotted and the child in no way feels different, on the contrary the little one is very cocky and cheerful..
Unfortunately in Bulgaria people with disabilities, people who are different are always discriminated against.
That's the reality that's what he wants to say to me!
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