I Have 3 Wild Children And A Husband I Can't Stand!

   Give them to the garden, at least they will be re-educated there.

   As a wife, wife and mother of grown children, I think the problem is with you, author. I will write to you quite honestly what I think, please do not take offense, all I will write is just to help you, I have no use to make you angry, and why should I put so much effort into writing just to make you angry. And so. You hire yourself to do everything you want and then you mutter, to a man, to children, that it's hard for you and you can't handle it. You make your own decisions and expect your husband to follow rules you haven't even introduced him to. You are ready to solve problems with scandals, which are either only in your head or have arisen thanks to your solution. And believe me, a problem is not solved with a scandal, you can't achieve a lasting result with a bad one, in one book something was written that more flies stick to a spoonful of honey than to a pot of mustard. The first thing that struck me was that you were against your husband on the topic of whether to work "so that he would not use it against me later", and he neither drives you nor forbids you, but you are already of the opinion that if you do not work you would use it against you. That is, you blame him without guilt for your own decision. As my opinion does not interfere at all in your decision, whether you will work is your job, I see a problem in blaming him without being guilty of the issue. Your decision about whether the children will go to kindergarten is also yours, these excuses with "unnecessary bills are", "they do not want" or "the good father does not let them go" somehow do not relate at all to your logic for proper upbringing. All children need to develop both social contacts with people their age, for the development of children this is very important, both to learn from an early age to make friends and to learn to limit their social contacts in their society, that is, to learn to decide who to play with and who not, and to learn to stand up for their decisions. Money for a garden is hardly a problem for you if your husband has money to go to bars with his brother, and if the children are in the garden you will work and the municipalities have regulations for large families with children in the same garden to have relief in fees even and in some cases the kindergarten comes for free if there are three children. As for the reluctance of children, it is completely normal, so who wants to go to a foreign place and follow the rules there, after playing the whistle at home, from your whole story it is clear that the little boys have learned to manipulate, as you do and the father. In my opinion, the father behaves properly with the children, at the age of 5 the boys need to play with their father, and you have already taken on the role of the bad policeman and this will hardly change even after the children grow up. No matter how hard you try, no matter how much you shout, neither for good nor for bad, even if you go to divorce, he will not take on the role of a bad policeman, I say it from experience and I was the bad policeman at home. So, for me, it is best to enroll all three children in a garden and a nursery, respectively, and thus free up some 8-9 hours, both for the children to accumulate experiences without you being close to them, and for you to have your time. and to arrange your desires. You will have another benefit, How will they learn to tell stories if they do not have long experiences separated from you, how will they cope with storytelling subjects at school tomorrow, if at 3-4-5 they did not tell their parents what happened when they were not together. In your place, after the children go to kindergarten, I would take the time to read a few books on raising children, there are many materials from which you can get advice on the right approach. The very fact that children allow themselves to turn off your oven while you cook, that you complain of madness and that they allow themselves to insult you in the face and crawl at the age of 5, shows that you have a problem with their upbringing, they will grow and problems they will increase from now on and if you do not have an approach now to limit their disrespect then when they become 12-14 years old heptane you will miss the end. So far, if you need it, I will write to you again. In your place, after the children go to kindergarten, I would take the time to read a few books on raising children, there are many materials from which you can get advice on the right approach. The very fact that children allow themselves to turn off your oven while you cook, that you complain of madness and that they allow themselves to insult you in the face and crawl at the age of 5, shows that you have a problem with their upbringing, they will grow and problems they will increase from now on and if you do not have an approach now to limit their disrespect then when they become 12-14 years old heptane you will miss the end. So far, if you need it, I will write to you again. In your place, after the children go to kindergarten, I would take the time to read a few books on raising children, there are many materials from which you can get advice on the right approach. The very fact that children allow themselves to turn off your oven while you cook, that you complain of madness and that they allow themselves to insult you in the face and crawl at the age of 5, shows that you have a problem with their upbringing, they will grow and problems they will increase from now on and if you do not have an approach now to limit their disrespect then when they become 12-14 years old heptane you will miss the end. So far, if you need it, I will write to you again. that you complain of madness and that at the age of 5 they allow themselves to insult you in the face and crawl on you, says that you have a problem with their upbringing, they will grow and the problems will increase from now on and if you do not have an approach to limit disrespect then when they become 12-14 years old heptane you will miss the end. So far, if you need it, I will write to you again. that you complain of madness and that at the age of 5 they allow themselves to insult you in the face and crawl on you, says that you have a problem with their upbringing, they will grow and the problems will increase from now on and if you do not have an approach to limit disrespect then when they become 12-14 years old heptane you will miss the end. So far, if you need it, I will write to you again.

   Aman ... Just tell him the next time, it's your turn to go out and leave him. I don't know how you do it, I think giving them to the garden is best, I'm even for early start. He can't call you ugly, etc., they really like the children there, but it's a different matter in Sofia. I would go crazy if I have been watching children all the time since I was 5 years old. These men are always waiting for the woman to fix it at home, to look after the children, and if you see that he went to work, it's hard for him ... My naakan diapers don't want to change, something will happen to him. are divided in half

   Well done! You are now with 4 children on your head, and without any support from anyone. Just a statement ...

   But didn't you know that everyone removes their facade after birth? !? Well, now you know your ass is cool

   You missed the upbringing of all four. How do your children know these words and how did it occur to them to insult? My son is as big as your twins, he has not heard these words and he has never insulted or witnessed insults. Why don't they go to the garden? Know that in the first grade you will have big shtrobels if you do not tighten the household from now on. And scandals will not happen, but they must have respect for you. Cooking and cleaning should not be more important than upbringing. I notice that you put a lot of effort into this and you are exhausted to deal with the children. And her father missed him. Where will he go out to have fun without you? At home, if there is no one to leave the child, and now we are waiting for the second, no one allows himself to go out and leave the other alone. We go out together, as a family, no bars, and the woman at home to fidget with tension. And you get rid of this servitude. Let everyone get involved. My son will give it as an example again, he collects his toys and wipes himself from a very young age by dripping the table while eating. When my husband sees me cleaning, he immediately turns on, and very often initiates cleaning, cooking or activities with the child while I am in the bathroom or getting ready to go out. Take it into account and stop overloading yourself. And with

   Divorce your terrible husband and calmly look after your children on your own. But give them to the garden. Once or twice a week you can have sex with different men without hiding. It will work well for you and you will not be so nervous.

   A modern 36-year-old, whether a woman or a man, does not use words like "malnourished", nothing against the specific word, but it is typical of the vocabulary of people of previous generations. It is also not at all typical for a woman to put it this way: "they start to fight", especially if she is also a mother, a serious person. This is a male expression, and that of a slightly simplified man. From these things I conclude that the topic was started by an older man. Maybe somewhere 50 years old or older. Another study? Recently, there was a series of such "cases", but in the section of love and infidelity. This time he decided to change the tab and added a "kids" element.

   You incite their problems and they become even bigger. What does "don't go to the garden" mean? You're both tired and you don't let them in the garden. Well, you do it yourself, people don't work and get tired with one child, and you want three to watch and work from home. Let them in the garden, the father no one asks him. If he does not want them to go to the garden, let him look after them, egati and arrogant. And another thing I want to tell you, that they are insulting the children comes from somewhere. Either from the father or from some other "well-meaning relative", in most cases it is the mother-in-law. Find out who it is, if you have to, take a bug for eavesdropping, because your children are ruined. This is a learned behavior and is not normal, but comes from somewhere. I recommend that you leave them with your mother at least one weekend a month so you can relax. That doesn't mean you're a bad mother. On the contrary, if you get tired, you may get up because you will be constantly nervous. Your husband is selfish and irresponsible. Tell him to stay home with the children for one or two nights, because you're going out with girlfriends if he doesn't want to, I don't see the point in putting up with him. He takes care of the children anyway, and he burdens you with his presence and destroys your authority in front of the child, maybe he has fun harassing you through them? Don't worry that in case of divorce the children will stay with your husband and he will make them malnourished, he is still making terrible efforts to ruin them. And also, if they are not 10 years old, no one will ask them who they want to stay with. and he burdens you with his presence and destroys your authority in front of a child, maybe he has fun harassing you through them? Don't worry that in case of divorce the children will stay with your husband and he will make them malnourished, he is still making terrible efforts to ruin them. And also, if they are not 10 years old, no one will ask them who they want to stay with. and he burdens you with his presence and destroys your authority in front of a child, maybe he has fun harassing you through them? Don't worry that in case of divorce the children will stay with your husband and he will make them malnourished, he is still making terrible efforts to ruin them. And also, if they are not 10 years old, no one will ask them who they want to stay with.

   That's why I only wanted one child. It's wonderful with a child.

   send them these children to the garden was to learn a little order and discipline, then all day to educate them you can see what the sofas are. and your husband to tighten his ass and take control of this family, is he a man or a teenager to go to pubs, ay siktir shit but you're guilty of keeping quiet

   Try not to punish them by telling them such things, explain to them that it is not good to speak so insultingly to anyone. That they can hurt and make people very sad by talking like that. That everyone has good qualities, and if you've hurt them in some way, you're sorry and didn't do it on purpose - you just have a lot of work to do every day and get nervous, but that doesn't mean you don't love them. If someone told them they were "very ugly / stupid" how would they feel?

   I don't know how long you'll last like that. You will lose your health from so much work. And your husband is not a commodity ... From now on they have no respect for you. It's straight for a change ...

   First - the garden is mandatory (groups 3 and 4). Second, this is half your mistake. Third - without a garden there will be stress and conflict when they go to school.

   It is MANDATORY for children to be among other children. The worst thing for a child is to be constantly around adults. Quickly to the kindergarten.

   Bad job, as you describe it, you've reversed roles. He needs to discipline and you need to be emotionally supportive. This is not how things can happen. Stop doing his duties, so you teach him carelessness. Fatherhood is not limited to fertilization.

   You chose the man, you gave birth to the children. Now you will tolerate them, because divorced with three children is something like hara-kiri.

   Number 2 explained it to you super well. My wife acts like you, but we only have one child. He bends over everything, then shouts. I say help her, no, not now. Abe, as number 2 described it in the first sentences. And since she has taken over most things (according to her everything), it must be done according to her "rules". So, when they just grumble, shout, get nervous, etc., all you have to do is "go out and live." If you don't like how everything is on you, leave it. Nothing will happen if you don't do everything. But you want to control, don't you? And that's a good way.

   Number 2 - the father does not behave properly with anyone, but is selfish and lazy, who does not care about anyone. He lied to the woman and is now living his life

   I had a grunt like you. All dissatisfied. At one point I got tired and grabbed the children and we left her. We also have three boys. I also left a note with the text: "I understand that it is difficult for you to live with us. We will not bother you anymore. We leave you because we love you and we do not want to suffer anymore. Without us you will be happier and you will find the necessary peace and balance We kiss you, don't look for us, a lawyer will contact you. " For a month we neither called her nor heard her. Our relationship was a friend of mine, a lawyer. She refused to sign all the divorce papers. Ah, I was serious, I wanted a divorce. I was staying with the children in a great place in a friend's mountain hotel. It was fantastic. The kids love me very much. I finally met her and we got along. That was 15 years ago. She never went back, she transformed and realized for herself her behavior and what family was for her. And you, the author, came to the conclusion can you live without your people?

   Abe, your wife, instead of complaining that you don't enroll your children in kindergarten, it's okay, but yours is simple, if I were at your husband's place I would take them with me. Each toad to know her bog. Your last sentence made me wonder if you really are a bad mother - here you have to answer for yourself. While it's time, tighten the boys that when they turn 12 or 15, you will have anger

   Abe, save them in the garden! But they didn't want to! Ha, then they won't want to go to school either. They will roar for 2 days, they will get used to the 3rd. As for your husband, one night he left him alone to take care of everything and went out somewhere, but before that he agreed with your mothers not to help him, so when you come home at 11 o'clock in the evening happy after a nice evening with friends I will you see how it is and whether it will not start to appreciate more what you do and will not even start to insist that the children go to the garden. If there is no effect, you leave them to him for a whole weekend and you will see if there will be no effect. He just needs to understand what it means to be a parent and that it is much more than hugging and playing with them sometimes. It may seem a little extreme,

   As a woman to a woman, I want to tell you that she misses the most important thing, namely that in order for your husband to do the things you want, he initially needs to take him home. This does not happen with more scandals, or with a decent household, but with a pleasant atmosphere at home. And this atmosphere depends entirely on you, on your good mood and calm - in short, on being pleasant company. As an educator (preschool and elementary pedagogy), I want to tell you something else. Something no teacher would say in your face. Here, I can anonymously say: children who have not attended kindergarten have significant deficits compared to others when they come to school. Standard educational requirements cannot be imposed on them at all. If a task requires to be performed independently, diligently and to the end by the children, who have not attended the SG, can be expected to at least start the task (almost never complete it), certainly individual help, even for the very understanding of the condition, and to the end result we can not make any demands - for success considers simply the implementation to the end. And low requirements can not lead to high results. These deficits have nothing to do with the child's intellect. The SG program mainly focuses on keeping the attention, following the rules and implementing to the end. In a very elegant way, through play situations and gradually the children come to the conclusion on their own that "in order for the game to work, the rules must be followed". A simple game like "Let go, let go of a handkerchief" contains requirements to be careful and fast for your turn to come, to play to the end to stay last and win. A simple examination of pictures at the age of 3 hides behind it methodical techniques for independent construction of a narrative text - this is the basis of the work on BEL. A simple association of each bunny with a carrot is the formation of mathematical notions of quantity and a precondition for inferences about mathematical operations "as much as; more, less." Every moment of the work in the kindergarten has didactic content and leads to the achievement of certain goals. It is understandable that when parents take care of their children's physical and emotional needs, they think that educators do just that, but that is not the case. The teacher knows when and why dotted lines are repeated, when dots are connected, why it is good to string beads and how these actions in general, developing fine motor skills develop speech indirectly due to the physiology of the brain and the proximity of these two centers. Most parents do not have this knowledge, nor do they care to have it. And even if they have them, they do not have the time, the right materials and the social environment to carry out the educational process. However, in the kindergarten we have support staff who cook, clean and we can focus entirely on the education of children. It is quite immature and egocentric for a parent to believe that he knows and can do more than a trained specialist. It's like thinking that we know better than the doctor how to treat ourselves, or that we know better than the rules how to drive. Although I am at home with a baby, my eldest child goes to kindergarten. I have no illusions at all that I can offer him such a varied and rich everyday life at home. Accordingly, I'm alone with the baby all day, I have time for homework and afternoon rest and this helps me not to be a ball of nerves and to welcome my husband and son in a good mood. I hope it helped you make a good decision for yourself, because it really all depends on your emotional state. Greetings

   Very accurate comment on № 2. Author, read carefully and sit down quite normally talk to your husband, you need to change things, you are even late. You just missed things and the car goes downhill. Your husband goes out in the evening, maybe because he doesn't listen to hints and nervous outbursts. If he is happy at home, he does not go anywhere else. As they get older, your children will do the same. If the children went to kindergarten, they would be more socialized, with at least a few work habits and more disciplined. And they are ugly spoiled - wouldn't they want to go to the garden? That from now on, if they are taught to do only what they want, what kind of people will they be after that? At the age of 5 they can clean and tidy the room themselves, why not teach them that? It can also be done as a game, a contest of who collects better, not with screams and quarrels. Your husband would also be more involved with them if he took them home from the garden. First think and see your mistakes, do not look for fault only in others. I have two sons with a difference of a year and a half, they went to the garden, they help at home, we took them everywhere with us from an early age and they behaved quite well. If you stay all day alone at home it is clear that they will go wild.

   Big mistake you didn't send them to the garden. There they are taught order and discipline, as well as to listen at least to some extent. Otherwise I understand you completely, mine are 2 boys with a difference of 1.5 years. I need respect from my father, I admit that even I am not listened to sometimes, but I still manage to establish order as a man. Punishments, incentives and explanations are the methods of education, as well as a slap in the face when nothing else works.

   Everyone who blames the woman - imagine them watching 5 people (with care for themselves, if any). And what kind of man will remain indifferent - a lazy egoist

   But2 is very right. I will add from myself .. Leave them hungry. Stop cleaning. Save on restaurants and go to them. And the children too. Deafen yourself and say that you cook until you see an attitude towards your work. We used to be raised that way. I have always been grateful if there is hot food cooked by my mother at home. And for cleaning, she had taught me to help her. Talk to your husband seriously

   I'll send them to the nursery, I thought. They accepted him well. The other thing is that preschool is mandatory, not the garden. I won't risk sending him to the nursery yet. And it is the meekest. I was a little extreme towards my husband, but he was too much. And what is this, which expression was female or male? I just said they contradict me in a rude way. I sat down with my husband and he admitted that he could not "juggle" like me. But we are both parents. The expression was probably heard from the neighbors, because when arguing, the man tells his wife such things. The author

   They make a lot of men to a child or a child, then they come to them and watch their lives, to be calm. How come the family will go home to deal with three children. In the evening, let him take the three, and you relax a little ...

   Ah, so that's what the job was. What is your husband guilty of, he is getting smaller and you are shouting that your children are guilty later, they are 5 years old. I'm number 24. Good, you raise them but you don't do it right. When I was their age (5-6 years) I was also a naughty kid, I ate a fight, of course, but if they had adopted me then. Now I am 26, I have 6 children, the eldest is 9 years old (I became a father at 17) if anyone is interested.

   From №2 the author paid more attention to №26, in the part about the education of the children in the garden. It seems that you need stronger words to realize that you have already crippled 5-year-olds and they have missed a lot of their necessary education and it is better not to do the same with your daughter, I mean be sure to save a little in the garden. At the age of 5, children in the 21st century need to know many things that a mother cannot teach them on her own, even if she has completed preschool education, especially if the children are twins. Your children should be able to easily cut shapes with scissors, you have hardly given your kids this opportunity to learn to cut well with scissors. 5-year-olds reach out to learn to read, if of course they have had enough time with an adult who has read a book to them while looking at the book together, that is, children are already developing their cognitive abilities. At the age of 3-4 children know and distinguish the geometric figures circle, sphere, square, triangle, rectangle and oval and be able to draw them, know, distinguish and name all the colors, etc. etc. See here what 4-year-old children know https://decatani.com/kakvo-tryabva-da-znae-i-umee-dete-na-3-4-godini/ You have hardly been able to offer such training for your five-year-olds, so now in the garden it will be very difficult for them and it is possible (most likely) for their omissions to kill in aggression, aggression towards objects manifested in shaking, throwing, the aggression may be directed at the other children in the garden. Please, as a wife and mother, do not subject your daughter to such a restriction of education. The garden is not a nursery for children, it educates children there. In preschool in just a few months your boys will be expected to know a lot more things, you should be able to answer complex questions like "A fish and a half is a lev and a half, how much is a fish?", To color complex drawings without leaving kunturi, etc., otherwise you can not expect them to learn to write quickly with ease without leaving the kunturi of the lines in the notebook, that is, to write beautifully. As for the bad words, be aware, everyone always learns them from somewhere, but it is important to learn not to use them, it is your duty not to keep your children in a cage, not to hear bad words, but to learn them. not to use them. to color complex drawings without leaving the corners, etc., otherwise you can not expect them to learn to write quickly with ease without leaving the lines of the lines in the notebook, that is, to write beautifully. As for the bad words, be aware, everyone always learns them from somewhere, but it is important to learn not to use them, it is your duty not to keep your children in a cage, not to hear bad words, but to learn them. not to use them. to color complex drawings without leaving the corners, etc., otherwise you can not expect them to learn to write quickly with ease without leaving the lines of the lines in the notebook, that is, to write beautifully. As for the bad words, be aware, everyone always learns them from somewhere, but it is important to learn not to use them, it is your duty not to keep your children in a cage, not to hear bad words, but to learn them. not to use them.

   I told you above to give the children a garden, get a divorce, and indulge in sexual pleasures with other men. This is exactly what you want and sooner or later you will achieve it, but then it will be more complicated. You do not love your husband and your life with him is a pain. A woman never spits against her husband, even if he is the blackest, if he loves him. Divorce now, because later it will happen in a complicated way, you will be old and with big children.

   Your only mistake is that you have not built a friendly, emotional relationship with your children. From the other things you have written, I judge that you are one of the people with good financial opportunities for Bulgaria. Now, no matter how single you tease me in the comment, most of these families are like that - without an emotional connection with the children, because they can't build one (just that kind of people they are). This is what I guess with a very high probability, I apologize if I made a mistake in my assessment of what I read. Otherwise, however - the case is unsolvable. Going to kindergarten would improve the situation.

   Let me guess! Your husband is either a Negro, or an Arab, or a Gypsy! At our entrance, a fat, dull tsutsulana married a Syrian. Ever since he came, the whole entrance has been constantly smelling of tallow, sheep and carrion. They have been married for three years and have three children. She is currently pregnant again. They are constantly getting used to it and screaming. Her mother and father could not stand it and moved to the village. Although she was not their real daughter, but an adopted one, they could not take better care of her than that. Only when you see them and you will immediately understand that she is not their child, not only in appearance but also mentality. They are quiet, calm people, while she is dark-skinned, short, stocky and very rude. In appearance and demeanor it also resembles a wild boar. Rude and rude, as if she had been brought up by gypsies. People tried their best to educate and educate her, but it didn't work out. Eventually they lifted their hands from her. I can only imagine what a miracle it will be when the children grow up a little more. It is already clear that they are savages, and in a few years the whole bloc will cry from them.

   My husband is a pure Bulgarian, and his behavior is not stupid or simple. He's just a little careless about everything. Even as a driver it applies. Nor are we lazy, fat, untangled. Besides everything, I train him too. He realized. We have already sent them to the garden, the interesting thing is that they are more meek in front of outsiders, but they drive us crazy. Number 36 is right. We have good financial opportunities (after years of work, of course). It is this work that often deters me. The author