Hello, I saw this sharing site and since I am very confused, I decided to share my slightly strange story and ask you for advice if you can. I will try to be as short as possible and at the same time descriptive so that you understand the essence of things and give me the best possible advice. I will start with the fact that I am a young and single 29-year-old man who lives not far from Sofia in another big city and often visits the capital. In fact, it all started and that's how it happened shortly after the New Year. On my next visit there for a few days (on a good occasion), we arranged with this friend of mine, who is one of my best friends, to return together to our hometown. We have been friends with him since childhood, we have known each other literally since we were 10-11 years old. So besides being with him as a driver, it turned out that we were going to go home with his sister, which is 5-6 years smaller than it. I know from him that she graduated from school last year and is now a second-year student in Sofia. Until now, I just knew her around him, but I had never had any other contact than "hello, hello" in the extremely rare cases when we met. I just knew her as "little sister" (I use another name) and that's it, nothing more. Because she is much younger than him, she has never been in our company, she has never dated us, just her interests are different because of the age difference and her circle of friends is completely different from ours. I spotted her by chance in the neighborhood of our city, but nothing more than "hello, hello" as I never imagined different things or I was trying to do something or she gave me a reason for something. I wouldn't see her for more than 2 years even. We waited for her for a while at the place where we had to pick her up, and she showed up. I noticed that she had become extremely beautiful. Blond hair, very beautiful blue eyes and a great smile. Things that, as I said, have absolutely never impressed me, for a number of reasons.
She had already become a woman, not just the little girl we had known since childhood. All the way from Sofia to our city, which lasts a little more than 3 hours, we did not stop talking to her on absolutely any topic that came to mind, and quite naughty isolated my friend (her brother). Neither she nor I said a word to him. But on the other hand, we talked to her in a way that is like being great friends and knowing each other very well. Which, in fact, is far from the case. We found a lot of similar things between us, we realized that we are the same zodiac sign, the difference in birthdays is only 4 days (although a big difference in age), we have similar tastes for many things like music and movies, even the things we love and our views on communication, etc. We didn't feel when we arrived in our city, we were so engrossed in fairy tales. As soon as I got home and started unpacking, I received a Facebook friend request. It was her. So far I haven't had her, which is another proof that we just knew her. I added her and was a little disappointed to see that she had a friend from Sofia her age. There were a lot of pictures with him and it was obvious, at least according to them, that their relationship was serious. However, as soon as I accepted her invitation for friendship, we started writing to each other. In the beginning again such common things as our stories in the car, but over the days we started deeper and longer chats and although I knew it was not right, I slowly felt like I was sinking. I don't know if she fell for her, but after a while she started coming to our city more often.
Later I realized that this was very uncharacteristic of her until now and she came very, very rarely, until now it started every week and her boyfriend began to suspect something. We started going out secretly around the neighborhood and at various cafes, without telling anyone. At one of these meetings, late at night, we kissed for the first time. I was both naughty and I didn't want him to leave. I don't know what she told her friend about all these frequent returns to our city, but she told me that everything was fine between them and that it would not happen again between us. Honestly, I was not disappointed and understood the situation that it is better to stop while it is still time. But, as you might expect, we didn't stop writing to each other on Facebook. At one of her return to our city, she called me and invited me to visit them at a movie. She was alone, her parents returned to the village for the weekend, and her brother stayed in Sofia. At first I refused, but after 5 minutes he called me again, arguing that he needed me and had no one else to turn to in this city. I went. It turned out that she had an argument with one of her best friends, but she wanted to share things with me, not with her friend, who was very superficial and thought only about sex and where to go to a disco (they don't like much this, but walked because of him).
After telling me everything, he told me, that she felt much better and was sincerely grateful to me for everything, we made a movie. I don't remember his name, but he was kind of romantic. We watched in her arms in bed and she started telling me some things about connections and relationships, but I heard her less and less with each passing word. I couldn't stand it and kissed her again and there was no going back. It was then that she told me that she was not at all experienced and was only with her boyfriend, but in the interest of truth she did very well and there, against the background of this film, we did it. It was great! She told me she had never felt this way with her boyfriend. He offered me to stay with them, but I refused and left. The next day I invited her home and we did it one more time, although this time it was a bit faster and we put less effort. And this is where the bad situation begins.
I'm in love with her, I confessed to her. She seems to be in some form too, because we keep writing to each other and last week, when she came, we had sex again. Her boyfriend never knows anything because they are still together. Nobody knows anything. I know her parents. They are good people, but they are slightly of the "big Good Morning". Their financial situation is good and they want the best for their daughter as well. They will never let her go with an ordinary average hard worker like me, who, on top of that, has known him since they were a child next to their son, and they would never have thought of what he was actually doing to them. Moreover, we have a significant difference in age (8 years). Moreover, she has a boyfriend and I know how they will react to the whole situation when they find out that we had sex with her while she is still engaged to him. And her brother won't react well, because we know each other very well and he is so to speak "keep his sister" and he will not be very pleased that perhaps his best friend regularly sleeps with his sister while she is engaged in another city.
One hundred percent I will totally ruin my relationship with him, and I appreciate him as a friend (as cynical as it may seem to some here). Really nothing good will come out of this situation, I just know them all well and I know it. I really want something more to happen between us and her, and I just know I'm doomed. I really don't know what to do. Thank you in advance for the advice. and I value him as a friend (as cynical as this may seem to some here). Really nothing good will come out of this situation, I just know them all well and I know it. I really want something more to happen between us and her, and I just know I'm doomed. I really don't know what to do. Thank you in advance for the advice. and I value him as a friend (as cynical as this may seem to some here). Really nothing good will come out of this situation, I just know them all well and I know it. I really want something more to happen between us and her, and I just know I'm doomed. I really don't know what to do. Thank you in advance for the advice.
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You write so meaningfully, pleasantly and competently that all your worries about being an "ordinary hard worker" should evaporate. I don't know who this girl's boyfriend is and whether they'll spend much more time with him (hardly after she's attracted to someone else - in your face), but I think she definitely likes you. Go with the flow, whatever happens. After all, life is short. It's too early to tell everyone now, but if she breaks up with her boyfriend and things go well between you, she'll have to. It shouldn't be a problem for her relatives that she didn't tell them right away. However, in the beginning, everyone keeps the fragile new relationships a secret. And it's too early to think about the consequences ... Yes, her brother will probably be angry with you for a while, but isn't it more important that his sister and closest friend are happy. What's better than that?