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I Had Sex With Him And I Keep Thinking About Him.

By nectar_inee June 15, 2020 15 answers Last updated June 15, 2020

Hi. I don't know if I'm expecting advice or just someone who's been in a similar situation, but that's my story:I had just started working and fell in love at first sight in a boy who was my colleague. I didn't want to believe it myself because I'm afraid to fall in love or like someone at all, it's very rare, but I thought in my mind how it was different from others in my character and behavior, and I realized that I really liked them. We talked, and he asked me if I had a boyfriend, I told him I didn't have one, and so did he. I was wondering if he was asking me to be in a fairy tale or if he was really interested in me. One night I had gone out with friends, and when I came back to us I decided to call him because he lives near me, but I had never seen him around home. He came without suspecting anything like I did but we had sex but I was very inadequate and even lost my moments, the next day went to work. I was wondering what to say to him after talking, otherwise normal 2 3 times I called him to come again, but he told me he was at work because he drove more hours and didn't have time and next time he told me I wouldn't focus again. Days passed, I got angry and started calling him and insulting him, he stopped my messages. I tried to make things right, but it seemed like they were getting worse and worse. After a while, I started to see him playing and he called after me to tell me something but he was with friends and I was afraid of being mocked and I was wearing headphones and I didn't take them off because I was afraid of what I was going to hear. I texted him again after that, but to no avail. I messed up a lot but I really like it just a long time ago it hadn't happened and all the emotion became all over it/. What would you say I just want to hear from people I don't know :) Because friends are reassuring me that he's going to call me sooner or later.

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jiraya110 answered · June 15, 2020
I'm sorry, honey, but it doesn't start with sex like this. What can I tell you otherwise- it's just superfluous! Then you texted her. You're in a bad count. If you don't understand it, i hope you understand it! Is that all you can offer a man so you can start with him? I think that's what everybody has, and the light women use it the most. I'm telling you, you're clear to me, yet I hope at least 1 (one) percent of what I'm saying to get in your head.
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meowmeowmzfk answered · June 15, 2020
I didn't understand why you were inadequate when you were with him - you used something or? Usually men don't take women seriously, who offer themselves the first time. If you really like it so much and have intentions to get to a real relationship, it would be more correct to go through the flirtation phase and only then get to bed. You've been through a lot, and I can't get a few things, but so suggested, he probably thought you wanted to use him for sex from time to time, and that maybe didn't suit him, especially if he was thinking about a serious relationship with you. Either way, you're saying you messed things up - take him over for coffee or dinner, but not at your house, and make it clear in a conversation. If he gives you a chance to start over, fine. If he refuses, forget it and move on.
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isolationtreats answered · June 15, 2020
He's accomplished his, you're already his reserve for dry crises!
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azinat answered · June 15, 2020
Are you sure you're okay with your mental health? Because it's inadequacy, it's idiotic and, but yours goes far beyond any normal limit! And moments to get lost? I'il tell you one thing- if you don't change something about yourself, your behavior and your behavior, a normal person would never attract to yourself... Or at least not more than once, until he sees you what kind of merchandise you are and then flees you like a devil of incense, what has this young man done?
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lindsay_lou answered · June 15, 2020
How can you tell when grandma writes fictional stories? She can't think about anything but sex. Grandma, your time for sex is long past, you better start embroidering tapestries. Please, moderators, publish my comment.
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juiccydic answered · June 15, 2020
The road to a woman's heart is through the putaka. The way to a man's heart is through the stomach. I suggest you invite you to dinner at your place and cook him something delicious.
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loulou1522 answered · June 16, 2020
In an inadequate behavior and in an easy way, to repel someone - there is no! Don't bother there anymore - it's superfluous, even more than pathetic and stupid. You call him, have sex, and you're not just getting easy, you're uninteresting! That wasn't the point? What was it? He's accepted it so much because that's what you've been doing and it can be swallowed up and you say he was drunk/drugged, to see you ... And you're six, and you're silent and you're calling him over and over, and he's not even saying he didn't like it, and even, so he doesn't want to use you or have a good impression, and you killed him. Inadequate, then again and again you shout it like, for the same thing, and then you insult yourself forcing yourself to block your messages - you, for him you are inadequate, easy and crazy, no offense, say how you imagined yourself in his eyes. You should have talked, said you wanted to make things right, not act like ps. sick, insulting, etc. from there you got stuck not in the ground, but... (I'll save my comment)) Why? Why did you embarrass yourself so much? I don't believe that after an inadequate night it was worse than after the adequate crazy messages. First of all, you're always calling him inadequate, for... who clearly doesn't like it or doesn't want to deal with drunk and inadequate women, from there this text, to force him, to block you? the situation :) You can talk, write, explain that you messed up everything, that you didn't want to, that you're not the kind of person you wanted, you could talk about it, talk about taking it, you've accepted something that's not going on, inadequate, etc. you've offended yourself, not that there's no reason to say that you were guilty of it yourself, but for me everything from here on is unnecessary! You didn't just screw it up, you didn't have it so good to perform in the expos. You call him for sex, then he refuses again and again, and you instead explain that it was a mistake at the time, that you were in an inadequate state and it got bad, that you had sympathy, etc. you started insulting? And after that, did he say no to you, thanks, I don't want to? Then why didn't you explain, and you were even more inadequate with that text? Well, there's nothing to make thoughts and get in the way, because no one wants to do with you one night you're very literally behaving inappropriately and abnormally .. there's no point in explaining myself if you can't think... Have a good day ;)
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silverroxyfox answered · June 17, 2020
Number 7, you are inadequate - there is nothing inadequate in the behavior of the author! And no one is obliged to explain to anyone about their actions. Complex!
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assleyroberts answered · June 18, 2020
If you want to achieve something, the first thing you have to do is apologize to him. But that's not the case, let's just be sorry, but to realize your totally inadequate behavior and sincerely apologize to him. There's nothing more you can do. Then things are in his hands, if he wants to call you, and it might be more if he doesn't, drink some cold water (or bite his ass) because he's not your fault.
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bigdaddy4hungry answered · June 18, 2020
What you've done is a really bad impression. Let's make a brief summary to see how it sounds from the side. You liked it at first sight. You talked and understood that you were both single. One night you were inadequate, you must have been drunk, and you called him home. Logically, he followed sex. He's been treating you normally since the incident, but he didn't come to your house after you called him a few times, and you started with the insults. Shortly after, you start to see yourself outside, he's waving at you and yelling at you, and you're playing deaf. How do you like it? Everyone has made mistakes, and I'm far from thinking you're a bad person, but that's where you didn't perform well. I advise you to wait a little longer, let things go, and then you can discuss it normally, apologize and explain your behavior. Think of it as a confession after which nothing will follow. It's really much more sensible not to keep dealing with it, because it's not going to work out. From now on, act more logically and do not lie down with a person you hardly know, much less in an inadequate state.
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becca_brooks_ answered · June 18, 2020
Number 7, commas are not put in front of "for" and "yes." You write very chaotically.
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antero26 answered · June 19, 2020
Number 13, how long has a man have to apologize for having sex? And why you're looking for who's to blame and who's not to blame. What's this Catholic? You're thinking very limited. Don't listen to him, author. If you apologize, it'il come out that you're sorry for what happened, and you're going to come out stupid. And you can not seek guilt in a very ordinary at first glance situation. Number 14, I don't see why the author should apologize. And why he has to explain his behavior. Stop your stupid teachings. It says number 12.
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annamaytiddies answered · June 19, 2020
Dear girl, I don't understand what happened! Nothing's fatal! Call me, talk to him, set up a meeting. If not, no. So it's not for you, and it's a sex-and-beige type. Maybe you shouldn't have gone to bed so soon. - What's with the malice? The girl is asking for advice and help, and here she's insulting! Don't fall for them! What you're insulting, what an aflot! Are you normal? Where is the moderator, right, the rules say offensive qualifications are an argument. Since when is "mental illness" an insult, it's a condition, not an insult, pumpkins!
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moxie234 answered · June 19, 2020
Number 14, he's not waving at her, he's yelling at her. And on top of that, he was with friends. It's perfectly normal to be deaf, as you call it. Pay attention to him so he can make fun of her? And number four, since when is intense passion a mental illness. I have a feeling that some of the commenters here have found a victim in the author's face. It's me again, number 12. Author, you're very naïve - just because you share here doesn't mean people will understand you.
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thatonegurl20 answered · June 19, 2020
Oh, and number 13 and number 14, that's yours. The author did nothing wrong to apologize. You first don't know what her "inadequate" means. Don't get on with the word like that. Number four, you want to offend with the label "mentally ill," but it's not an insult, it's a condition... Be careful what you say next time. Again from number 12