I Had An Abortion Years Ago, I Want To Be A Mother

   In our country, if doctors have experience in something, this will unfortunately be abortion - here calmly, but obviously you also carry a mental trauma from the case, because you have nerve-based pain ... so hopefully more girls will read and make up their minds whether or not it is better to beware. It happened, but I don't understand now what you're worried about? Are you trying to conceive and if so for how long? As for the fact that you were tight "below" is just a stupid story, because all women are made to give birth to children and there is no vagina that is almost incapable of this "feat", and the vagina itself is surrounded by muscles, which is also the reason why your gynecologists cannot perform the examination - you tighten a lot, but it is not possible to have a mucous membrane that is too narrow or too small for birth. Most likely the reason for tightening during the examination is precisely in the abortion and you already have some fear, but you do not need to worry about births - you are like your mother and she gave birth to you, so you are capable of that. As for the ability to conceive, it does not depend at all on the width "below", but on the general health of the body and the uterus and ovaries in particular. I don't believe that the abortion in question crippled you, Escapel at all, but only if you really decide to try to get pregnant and it doesn't work, then you can look for causes and problems. At the moment you have no problem, you just invent (sorry). As well as how you will give birth you will decide after you get pregnant. You're a bit like the tale of the unborn Petko. I think that you have some mild mental problem as a result of the abortion and you have not overcome this trauma and hence your fear of natural and normal things like pregnancy and childbirth. Tip - look at your life, enjoy every day and think about the problems when you have them, not in advance. She has sex for a baby and if that doesn't work, only then write topics. Good luck and I hope you get it quickly so that you don't have to worry unnecessarily, and for the section I advise you to seek THREE medical opinions, because it is not a harmless procedure - three layers of tissue and flesh are cut, adhesions occur and you are not allowed to get pregnant for two years. with a second child. Many doctors do business with a cesarean section because it is easier for them and they spend more money than in a normal birth, but my friend died after a cesarean section (it was not cleaned well and she got inflammation and blood poisoning). and another acquaintance ruined her marriage with him because he failed to recover for a very long time, failed to look after his baby in the beginning and the man? he practically lost his job looking after the baby, and then became so attached to that baby that he didn't care. They divorced a year later, and he took the baby with him. There are advantages, of course, but let THREE independent doctors be asked - necessarily at least one of the university STATE hospital WITHOUT financial interest. Good luck but let THREE independent doctors be asked - necessarily at least one of the university STATE HOSPITAL WITHOUT financial interest. Good luck but let THREE independent doctors be asked - necessarily at least one of the university STATE HOSPITAL WITHOUT financial interest. Good luck

   Number 1, I'm so sorry about your girlfriend. Let her rest in peace. The section is a terrible thing, but because I am afraid of giving birth, I tend to it and of course even I do not agree with the cutting, I want to give birth normally, but I am worried about not tightening and spoiling the whole process and then being very scared. I think it's reasonable for me to think about things before I do them, which makes me different from primates and mongooses. Also, I don't think I have a problem. I do not think that you, who do not know me, can make such a comment. :) Thanks for the opinion, it definitely made me think about natural childbirth and the section. I will study a lot of things before I do it one day.

   This abortion ... I don't understand why people have children and then ... they kill them. Have you heard of protective equipment? Have you thought before having sex?

   I agree with number 1.

   I am also of the opinion that you have a serious abortion trauma that you need to treat. You don't have to know anyone closely to see things. In people with enough life experience, judgments are obtained fairly quickly. Until you deal with the trauma, you will not feel well - neither physically nor mentally. I gave birth by cesarean section for medical reasons and everything went well and I did not have any problems. Well, it was 15 years ago, right. If the team is capable, the probability of a problem is low.

   Go to the doctor first, to a good specialist. They will do a full examination for you, and it will be seen if you can, if you can't, and what the options are. So don't blindly suspect and ask other people - everyone is different. There are options, even such as in vitro, which did not exist years ago. But first you have to see the exact situation. Here everyone will tell you from his experience and point of view ... And about the circumstances under which he gets pregnant "accidentally" - who has no intention of having a child, uses a condom. I also have two abortions, but they are postpartum. I wouldn't allow myself to play and risk something like that ... don't take this as a reproach: it's not.

   I wrote that I use a condom but you do not read

   author, your problem is more psychological. there are many women who have had an abortion and then become pregnant without a problem and have given birth to healthy children. so I agree with number 1, if you've really tried for a baby for at least a year and it doesn't work, then you can do some research, your husband - also then to judge the story. and worries about how you will give birth are completely unfounded at the moment. I think your gynecologist has spoken out. in principle, until the 9th month you can't say how 1 birth will go, and she has already judged you without even being pregnant! many things matter - size, position of the fetus, general condition of the mother, other factors (many to list). all this you cannot know from now on, and there is no need to think about it and worry. that doesn't mean catching up with primates and mongooses, but just to look at things soberly and worry about real problems, not possible ones, because there is no way to anticipate and plan everything. I have already said, even doctors wait up to 8-9 months and then recommend one or the other option. I have 2 children, one was born normal and the other - by cesarean section, because there were problems and there was no way to be born normally. however, all this cannot be predicted in advance, much less before I become pregnant at all. so take it easy, don't get too carried away. I didn't understand if you were actually trying for a baby or not? if you have started, enjoy the process and success! and the other - with a section, because there were problems and there was no way to be born normally. however, all this cannot be predicted in advance, much less before I become pregnant at all. so take it easy, don't get too carried away. I didn't understand if you were actually trying for a baby or not? if you have started, enjoy the process and success! and the other - with a section, because there were problems and there was no way to be born normally. however, all this cannot be predicted in advance, much less before I become pregnant at all. so take it easy, don't get too carried away. I didn't understand if you were actually trying for a baby or not? if you have started, enjoy the process and success!

   My advice is when you decide to have a child to go to a private clinic. You can just come across such "specialists" that it is not true. When I went to a gynecologist recently, whom I hadn't seen because I changed my address, she said, "Oh ... you're unlikely to have children because your uterus is upside down." I went crazy! However, it turned out that many women have inverted uteruses and this does not affect pregnancy and childbirth. I don't think you will have problems because of an abortion 6 years ago! Just go to a famous specialist, not to any fictional doctors who prescribe because they are sponsored ...

   I am an athlete, narrow pelvic bones, very strong muscles, narrow vagina ... Normal birth - 2 times. The birth started at only four cm opening, as the normal is ten. In such a case, they cut exactly at the moment of tension and you do not feel the pain, after that the place is so numb that you no longer feel the stitches. If there is any danger for you or the baby, they will immediately "put you to sleep" and proceed to the section without it. Do not underestimate the Bulgarian doctors! No matter what we talk about, they are people too, but with the appropriate knowledge. Don't make nonsense, by the same logic you can start to be afraid to go out on the street, so that you won't be hit by a car, a flowerpot will fall on your head, etc. Think about the positive part! For example, I laughed with my eldest son while I was pregnant, he was tickling. When you stretched your legs, I tickled him lightly with my fingers and he began to spin. If he turned his ass, I patted him lightly and he turned in the other direction :))) The little one reacted to folk music and handkerchiefs. Honestly, I had the feeling that she was dancing inside. I took 100% advantage of my pregnancy. I wanted all the pampering and attention from my husband. And he indulged me in everything, at three in the morning I made him look for eclairs for me, then without eating them, I poked them under the pillow (so that he wouldn't eat them;) and in the morning you remember. And when the little man was born ... well, there is no other feeling like that. The second you see it, all kinds of pain pass. When he is "outraged" that he had to leave the warm and safe place, when he wrinkles and is jealous ... then when they give it to you for the first breastfeeding and he wonders what to do with what they put in his mouth ... .. you see how tiny and completely dependent on you, how nice and calm he is when he feels your smell and pulse. And as he is naked and finally he can stretch his legs with pleasure, when he starts to see they startle him first. He studies them, as do the hands. And they are both cunning and manipulative. If you react / find yourself next to him at the first cry, they will walk you away for fun, out of boredom even :))) Think about these incredible moments!

   Why are you afraid? Have you had unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant? Know that up to a year of experimentation is considered normal. That is, do not despair if it does not happen once or twice. Doctors will tell you the best about the birth. Indeed, seek a second opinion. I specifically gave birth naturally. You can't tighten up there, even if you want to. But I was in pain 5-6 months later. We women are different "below", it's true. The section seems to be fine in 40 days, I've asked a lot of women. No one has had as much pain and discomfort as I have. True, a year later you forgot it and nothing reminds you while the scar from the section is standing. The trauma of abortion ... yes, it's hard to have an abortion, purely mental. And I'm still thinking about my unborn child. Many years have passed. I resigned myself to grief to the grave.