Hello, I want to share with you what is happening to me and I want you to write me your opinion. I met the boy in question a little over a year ago, quite by accident, through a friend of mine. We wrote to each other after that, a little later he asked me to go out again, but I cut him off, no matter the reason, I didn't have a friend then. So, everything disappeared, he caught a girlfriend after a short time and we never heard from each other again ... Until Easter, when I met him by chance in a store. We started writing to each other again almost every day for a little over a month before we went out. I found out later that he broke up with his girlfriend, he was very hurt, I saw him in his eyes. We started seeing each other very often, he was looking for me, as I was looking for him, it's nice company, I can't deny it, over time we became something like friends with privileges, because every time we go out we press and kiss, even twice we almost had sex, but I stopped. I had the feeling that he was trying to forget his ex through me. I decided to step away from it a bit, just because I don't think it would end well for me. I realized that since the two of them broke up, they continued to go out in a friendly way, and when he went out, he asked her to get back together, but she cut him off. / Just to clarify that she infected him, having previously cheated on him / We wrote to each other from the rain in the wind until last week, when one night he called me to hear how I was and started talking to me about how I was. missing, etc., things I don't believe in, of course. We saw each other at night, the familiar scenario, a few days later he called me again on the phone to hear me, and when I called, I asked him to see me a little later, to talk. I told him that I no longer wanted to see each other when we kissed and pressed, I wanted to be friends in the true sense of the word, and he started telling me nonsense like that he thought it would happen between us, but he didn't want to. relationship at the moment not just with me, but with any other, which is not true, because I know he wants a relationship with his ex, so my question is: Which man would like to reunite with his ex-girlfriend, who has she abandoned and cheated on him Men are supposed to find it harder to forgive infidelities, in my opinion, trying to get together again is like spitting on yourself, but I want to hear your opinion as well ... and he started telling me nonsense like that he thought it would work out between us, but he didn't want a relationship at the moment, not just with me, but with any other, which is not true, because I know he wants a relationship with my ex, so my question is: What man would want to reunite with his ex-girlfriend, who dumped him and cheated on him? Men are supposed to find it harder to forgive infidelities, in my opinion, trying to get together is like spitting on yourself again, but I want to hear your opinion as well ... and he started talking nonsense to me like that he thought it would work out between us, but he didn't want a relationship at the moment, not just with me, but with any other, which is not true, because I know he wants a relationship with my ex, so my question is: What man would want to reunite with his ex-girlfriend, who dumped him and cheated on him? Men are supposed to find it harder to forgive infidelities, in my opinion, trying to get together again is like spitting on yourself, but I want to hear your opinion as well ...
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Do not believe general conclusions such as "men find it harder to forgive", "men love more", "men always cheat" and the like. There is no such thing for me. There may be certain similarities in the behavior of the two sexes, but each person is different and experiences what happens to him in his own way. If this boy had real and very strong feelings for the girl, it is quite possible that he is ready to swallow everything to be with her again. Sometimes everything can be forgiven and forgotten, as long as the person in question is willing to compromise. If your information is reliable and he really wants to reunite with his ex, do not interfere with him in any way. You've rightly felt that maybe through you he's trying to comfort himself and feel better, so don't let this happen anymore if you don't want to be the victim of the whole situation. It is possible that the person is confused, does not know exactly what he wants, but this is not your problem. It is obvious that you also have sympathy for him, otherwise you would hardly have allowed him to yourself, but in this situation, it is better to keep your distance. It's not right for you to be his second choice, and if his ex cuts him off again, to look for you, right?