Hello! I am a girl of 23 from a big city. You may have all heard the classic story of the good girl who falls in love with a bad boy. It all started 3 months ago. I had a friend then, but our relationship did not develop as expected. The boy in question and I started to write only friendly at first. Then things got worse. He told me that he had feelings for me and wanted a relationship. I also liked him a lot, but I was afraid because I think he is a womanizer and I knew I would suffer. He looks very good - perfect body and beautiful face. I didn't believe he really liked me, even though we were constantly chatting and talking on the phone and he was looking for me most of the time. However, I was prejudiced because of his appearance and because many women were looking for him. After 1 month I decided to give him a chance and go out. He counted the days until we met. I didn't want to fall in love, but when I saw him it was too late. He is the most beautiful boy I have ever seen. He was very nice to me when we met. Then we talked on the phone all night. I know I didn't do well, but I hid from him that I was committed. At first I didn't think it was possible for anything to happen between us and I didn't tell him about it, and when I saw that he already had feelings it was too late and I didn't want to hurt him. I broke up with my boyfriend and then the other boy and I continued to see each other. Everything was wonderful when suddenly he stopped looking for me. I looked for him a few times after that, and he was cold and withdrawn, as if he were a different person. I asked him the reason, he told me he was confused and then I stopped looking for him. A few days later, he removed me from Facebook. I don't know what the reason is and whether it is possible that he found out that I lied to him. There's not a minute that I don't think about him. I never believed that it was possible to fall in love so quickly, and now I suffer and it hurts a lot. Even if it was my biggest mistake, I wanted to make it happen. I miss him terribly, but I don't know if it makes sense to look for him again, although I really want to. I hope my story is published because I can't share it with anyone and I really need advice.
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Honey, hello! I want to tell you first to calm down, whatever happened - happened. I guess there will be people who will attack you now, but absolutely ignore them! Unfortunately, this is one of the possibilities that can happen. You drop one for the other, and then the other stops looking for you. And you wonder if it was worth it? Why did this happen? First, if you have a friend, but someone else manages to get your attention, it means that you missed something in the relationship. You may not even be sure exactly what, but inwardly you were not well with this person. Don't regret what you made as a choice, because life is one. And believe me, you are currently in your most wonderful age !!!! The sweetest age in which one has to live, try and make mistakes, because this is life! Secondly, despite the development of everything, you felt that feeling ... Waiting for someone to call you, to write to you, to see you, this thrill that turns everything upside down. The emotion ... Third, darling, be strong and move forward! I don't think he backed off because you didn't tell him you were committed. If so, I guess he would tell you, ask you why, and so on. There is a chance that he secretly had a boyfriend or had several and at the moment she "tied" him another. I just guess ... Or he really only wanted one sex. Even if he has spent a lot of time communicating with you, this may be his strategy. He felt that you would "give in" to him ... It was only a matter of time before that happened. Fourth, don't look for him anymore. Have dignity !!! Don't be weak. You asked him, he was confused, he removed you from Facebook ... That's not how it's done! You behaved well, and if he did everything like that for no reason - then it doesn't happen !!!!! No matter how much you sink into it, to be in love, chick, time heals everything! As cliché as it is, this thought is completely true! Another will come, another will go, and you can be cheated on, you can cheat ... Well, we are young people! Fifth, if you happen to have the idea to return to your ex ... Don't, if you haven't missed him even for a moment. But when you think about it, sometimes these "fleeting connections" help you understand what you had next to you, what is real. However, right here on this site I read a very clever thought that I forgot, but it was something like - if you understand and love yours - you would never look and be with someone else, but if that happens - never go back to the first one! I don't know how much I helped you, but your topic touched me. I experienced something like this ... abe, not exactly, but .... Be healthy and happy! Be yourself and love yourself! :) F, 26