Hello dear readers of this nice site. I just want to share, maybe to find some comfort. I went to write my story several times in recent months and kept giving up. Well, already after the latest events. I finally made up my mind. Like others today, the story unfolds in the workplace. It all started a little over a year ago when I started a new job. I saw her for the first time in my interview and even then she made a good impression on me - beautiful, intelligent, responsive. For the first two months I approached carefully and did almost nothing, I was still new and I got to know everything and everyone. Shortly afterwards, I gained confidence and began to communicate with her at work and in chats. To my surprise, she was also interesting to me, but out of pure curiosity. Time passed, the chats became more and more voluminous and we got closer (I forgot to say that I am 27, she is a little older than me). I also found out that she had a husband and a small child, and that turned me off. I didn't want to interfere in other people's relationships and tried to reduce my interest in her. It did not work out. And I wrote to her, and she was looking for me, things got complicated and I couldn't explain it. I accused myself of wanting another woman, I tried to shake myself, but I couldn't. Towards the middle of last year, I had a conversation with her about where all this was going, given the complex situation. She told me that there was nothing between her and her husband and that they were together only because of the child. To this day, I'm not sure if that's the case, because judging by the little I see on social media, it doesn't seem to be true, but these are personal things and I dare not ask. He also told me that it would not be easy for her and that she would need time to trust me and let me in. I didn't want to press her, I was ready to wait for her, I liked her a lot and I still like her. Time passed, we continued to communicate, to court her, and at the same time the feeling of guilt kept hovering in me, but I also liked her and wanted her still very much. Due to the nature of our work and given its situation, it is very difficult for us both to steal even half a day. Autumn has come. Nothing had happened between us yet, I got nervous and decided to end my relationship with her (except for business, of course). I stopped looking for her, but after a few days she wrote me that it was very difficult for her without me and she could not do without a simple "hello, how are you today" or "how was your day". We continued as before. About two more months passed in the same way, I told myself again that I was done with her. I wanted to see her live (out of work), to tell her that I couldn't finish like that anymore. She didn't want to. We continued again in the same way - at work purely collegially, in the chats - normal communication for what not. At the beginning of December we found a place only for us, we went out on a date (not for the first time), but he had to go home immediately after that and I was left empty-handed again. I was already ruined. I stopped looking for her and became interested in her once again. About a week passed. I didn't communicate with her at work at all, only as a last resort. This week passed and she called me. She wrote me that she missed me. that she can't do without me, that she loves me (which I don't believe and I don't know why she wrote it) and that she is ready to give me what I want. Emmy, in love and lost are very close, right I felt that I had nothing to hope for, but I kept going. And at the end of last year, she told me that it would be better to limit everything, that I was wasting my time and that I had to separate from her. In general, I wanted this to happen back in September, but even though I thought about it, I didn't do it because of her renewed interest in me and the nurturing of hopes. I accepted that it was all over. About ten days passed during which we communicated only officially. I deleted her from Facebook so I wouldn't see what she was sharing and when she was online. Literally two days ago another "if you know how I miss you" followed ... Well, I'm a human being after all, I carry a soul. After the next chat of the revelations he told me that he wants me, but it can't / shouldn't happen. Do not get me wrong. If it was just for sex, I wouldn't have to wait that long. I want her for me, I don't want to be just a lover for a short time. Even if a more serious step had been taken, in the next one / two years I could not offer her financial stability and housing to come to me and she knows it. I don't know what will happen from now on, I don't know if she will look for me again, I only know that I don't want to suffer anymore because of her. I still like her and I want to, I can't get her out of me. In principle, time heals and will show. Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I still like her and I want to, I can't get her out of me. In principle, time heals and will show. Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I still like her and I want to, I can't get her out of me. In principle, time heals and will show. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
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Man, are you crazy? If one thing doesn't happen the first time, it doesn't happen the tenth, don't you understand it? Ignore her completely! This will keep you spinning for another 10 years. She just likes someone to pay attention to her. To know that someone will run as long as she calls him only ... Probably her husband doesn't shave her plum at all, nor do they communicate with him. However, now - he fucks her, and you replace everything else. If you have to quit your job! Women in the world are over ... Come on, please!
This one plays you hard. He uses you as a trash can and scratches his ego with you. You don't even get sex from the whole thing. If there was something about you, you would have consumed the relationship a long time ago. It is very bad that you work together. Various things happened to me with a colleague years ago. I became convinced that it is absolutely true that you should not take off your pants where you take your bread. It is almost impossible to break away in such a situation. Your best move is to leave and cut off all contact. And in your case, this one will drink you for years if you let her. F, 30
I came to: "I wanted to reduce my interest in her, it didn't work out." Well, if you take the beats more, it will work. I don't have a family or I'm engaged, but I personally don't have her guilty, he is innocent. Under the knife both, a strong fight and see how it turns out. I wonder where you went to deal with a MARRIED woman who, on top of everything, has a child? Dude, not that anything, but if that had happened to me, I would have killed you without blinking an eye, and no one would know what happened to you. My advice is not to bother, because that way you will both ruin a family and be a male whore. M24
Everything written by you shows that you are reasonable and prudent, even in love with the woman in question and you understand the negatives of a possible relationship with her. It is best to block her in all social networks and maintain only official relations with her. I have the feeling that she is manipulating you and caressing her ego with you. She loses nothing - she has a child at home and a husband and you as a suitor, and you are tormented and have some hopes. You can do much more - go out, communicate with other women and you will forget her. The sooner the better. F 46
That's how you tell it, so beautiful, how weak your character is and that you don't have a drop of dignity and self-esteem ... What do you expect people to tell you? You saw that you had a husband and a child and you went on ... That says enough about your character. I didn't even read the rest. And you keep pretending to be a victim and describing so beautifully ... I just hate such people, with whom our society is full.
This one is just playing with you to scratch your ego! Your wife tells you! Be a man and pull one and catch a cool and real girlfriend. This one is nothing for you, it won't be for you! You're wasting your time, for what ?! Everyone loves to listen to good stories, but look at things realistically! Ж.25г
You're wasting your time. A person who cares at least a little about you wouldn't play you like that for months. But you know that. Once you make a compromise, be prepared to do countless more. Compromises are sometimes a good thing, but not when it comes to being happy yourself. Just stop this story once and for all. Five or six months will hurt you, the seventh will be better if you understand me.
Hi, your story is almost entirely like mine. But I'm the woman who's in a dead relationship. I was going through exactly the same things, but he soon gave up on me with the words, "I can't take it anymore, it's best for everyone." It hurts like hell. If he had gained courage, if he had told me to be together, I would have done everything. But he is a good man, decent, he does not want to spoil something that is spoiled. Do not hesitate, do not torture her. Either leave forever without looking or fight for her. If my lover was ready to fight for me ... You will receive many reproaches, she will also suffer a lot, but remember that we do not live for others.
That's how families break up! You do not have a gram of dignity because if you have you will not interfere. If she is divorced, it is different. You become the reason for separation! For her uses (takes advantage of her husband money housing, etc.) Which you can not give her. Even if she comes to you after another year, you will be on the other side, someone else will turn her head ... Didn't you say anything about the child, ready to take care of someone else's child? Or will he stay with his father as has been the case in recent years? And for the men you do him a favor, you take his hedgehog.
"I don't know what will happen from now on," - her husband to learn and break his teeth. Are there so few whores that you dig into families, think of her child, why do you want to ruin his life because of his stupid mother?
I lost the number of your tabs and restarts. Be a man, not a toy of some kind, use you to polish your ego. When you say end, it means END. Ignore her completely, block her, don't you see that she's playing you? There are so many single women, don't deal with a married woman if you don't want problems.
Thanks to everyone for the quick answers. I will learn a lesson and change some things in myself. I wish you health, happiness and success in the new year.
Up to 10 The opposite happened to me ... I beat the man because he was a troll 1.70m 80 kilos, without any physical training ...
For a hundred months he played at least a tsunA li babe, was deeba ... Bro.
Until 13. Come to Sliven to break your helmet ....
Hi author, I read your story. It's like it was written for me. I am a woman with a partner of 10 years and a child of his who is almost 3. I accidentally met on business with a man who behaves just like you, with the difference that he does not want to sleep with me because I am engaged. She tells me that she wants to leave her husband and separate alone so that we can have a normal relationship and that she does not want to separate me. Exactly the same story. I don't trust him completely and I think he will get enough of me and leave me. I'm just about to leave my boyfriend and he disappears as maybe, as you write, he's trying to end his relationship with me. I'm very much in love with him but I know it's not right. My child needs security as well as a family. And for these very reasons, I cannot take the big step. Maybe things will go by themselves and we will break off the relationship, but I will never forget it because I have not had such a thrill and love. I share my story with you so you can understand my point of view. A beautiful woman always gets attention. If she responds to you, then you are special to her, but I think she just can't afford to be alone with a child in love and without security.
Until 13 and are you proud? A piece makes you or made you both fools, you went to jump from x .. to x .., and you ran to beat the man and that why are you fighting, she is fighting. If you had more intelligence, firstly, you wouldn't be dealing with a woman who is engaged or married, secondly, you would pull her one and wish him healthier little horns with this k ....;) Not to mention that you as a man with dignity you have nothing to do with such a woman and to ruin a relationship or family, and if you have taken her, it is happy that you are already horned.
Say STOP, and if she keeps drooling, just tell her two words - I'll tell your husband. It will evaporate.
13 - everything comes back You are not the most prepared on this earth. There is also someone to beat you
Until 17 I was not looking for anyone. He tried to attack me. "and if you took it, it's probably safe to be horned already." Yes, I took her for Friday night with acquaintances, and then in our country I chased her for lunch. I didn't even know he was living with someone, because I paid so much attention. She caught up with some granddaughter restitute for money. It's not my problem. I'm just looking for sex with a beautiful woman and nothing else. She may have mentioned a man, but who's listening to you? D 19 Hraun mraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaUUKUAUBUHIUAU ... KUYA ... Everything came back, but in the movies and in the fairy tales. Are, go, look at the woman, that she may have gone to someone more seductive, unlike temertuxia, he stabbed you in the back ...
This is what they call "Come to me, come to me" ... Ah, I miss you, but no, but yes ... Probably she and her husband have some problems and they bother you to feel wanted and loved. However, she hardly loves you, she is not even in love. Because she sees very well that you are involuntary (weak) and susceptible to her manipulations. Well, women rarely fall in love with such people. They usually play with such men and do not respect them. That's why fucking hardly shines with this one. Let's say that from the reserve you qualify as a starter ... It's unbelievable, but just look at her husband's attitude or infidelity, and you agree ... She will use you as a donor, to feed and look after another's child, yours will not give birth to you, because it does not love you, and from time to time it will fuck with the former, or with someone new ... reveals.