Hello, I am 29 years old and I am a single mother with two children for 10 years. I have been working in a company for 3 years and have been having sex with the boss's son for 2 and a half years. He is 2 years younger than me and is single. Tall, handsome and smart young man. In the beginning (at least for me) things were like a joke. I could feel in his eyes how much he liked me, in fact, when he saw me he immediately blushed with shame and lowered his head and could no longer look at me (he still could not look me straight in the eye). He was very worried about my presence. And I decided that there was nothing wrong with having sex because I liked him, and at the same time I thought he knew about children. Our relationship started quite normally. We went out on 2 dates, and on the third we were already in bed. Sex with him was and still is great. I want him, I want to be with him, but I know you shouldn't. I am in love with him and I love him. During this time we parted several times: we parted because of the children, we parted because of work (ie because we were colleagues and his father could understand), we parted because of my jealousy (I realized that it was there was some girl he liked) and later it turned out that nothing happened and he came back to me. He claims that he was not with another during that time. But he also says he wants to get married and have children. He says that if it is not, it will be different. He already thinks he should get married. A few days ago we agreed that from now on we will be just colleagues, and in the middle of the day we found ourselves in bed again and had insanely wild sex. I asked him, WHY IS HE WITH ME? and he answered me I DON'T KNOW. I feel that he is confused, but now I am also confused. I want to leave him so that he can get married and be happy, and I want him to be ONLY MINE for the rest of my life. I also want to add that he is ill - I do not know exactly what, but he has been treated for 3 years and obviously his treatment will continue. I am asking you for advice on how to act and what to do so that I do not lose him, given that I realize that I can not give him anything - except MY LOVE.
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Admit your feelings, but keep in mind that if he hasn't thought of you yet, they probably haven't been shared. In my opinion, as a single mother, you were simply available to him - that is, with a clear conscience to knock while he was still young and there are other, more important things to do than to make a family - education, career, life experience , and for your sex, which sucks, but you are already ruined. In our country, unfortunately, the mentality is still lagging behind, and a 19-year-old woman who gave birth as a single mother and agrees to have a relationship because of sex on the second date (relatively accessible at the same time), should not have any expectations. I think it's still good to share your feelings and let him take stock of what he wants. However, think about yourself, why men do not want to be with you officially - what is your behavior in society, for example, what is your name in society If his family is not only wealthy, but also good (with education, position, ambitions of some kind), he can't marry you anyway - the single mother. Not to mention that his parents will always be against you, because who wants his son to look after other people's children? A blessing in disguise. You better clear things up now, instead of wasting your time. Otherwise, think about your life in general and whether you want to spend it that way. Maybe for this man you are not exactly the right party, but outside it is full of men who would be interested in you - divorced, older than you lonely gentlemen who have experience in raising children, but also deprived from the delusion that a relationship is for life. This boy probably just wants a normal woman next to him who has no commitments and burdens from his past. Unfortunately the decisions which you took for your life in your youth will affect you for a lifetime. I'm your age and I have a lot of girlfriends like you who are also single mothers and have similar relationships, but no one has imagined that someone with a small child is unlikely to move. Just don't get involved with a married man! Otherwise, if you want to have a normal life and status in society, do not waste your time with different boys, but catch a mature, firmly grounded man who will be happy to be the father of your children or at least will want to be your husband, because you don't get younger, and this one will hold a wedding for a miracle and a fairy tale and will forget you until the moment he scratches it again and you turn out to be an easy tick for his libido. but no one imagined that someone with a small child would almost be moved. Just don't get involved with a married man! Otherwise, if you want to have a normal life and position in society, do not waste your time with different boys, but catch a mature, firmly grounded man who will be happy to be the father of your children or at least will want to be your husband, because you don't get younger, and this one will hold a wedding for a miracle and a fairy tale and will forget you until the moment he scratches it again and you turn out to be an easy tick for his libido. but no one imagined that someone with a small child would almost be moved. Just don't get involved with a married man! Otherwise, if you want to have a normal life and position in society, do not waste your time with different boys, but catch a mature, firmly grounded man who will be happy to be the father of your children or at least will want to be your husband, because you don't get younger, and this one will hold a wedding for a miracle and a fairy tale and will forget you until the moment he scratches him again and you turn out to be an easy tick for his libido.