I will try to be brief. I am 39 years old, married with a small child. Nearly two years ago, I started an innocent flirtation with a colleague who is 20 years older than me. I didn't have a child then, I was freer, my husband traveled a lot. I've had a lot of boyfriends, but I've never experienced such an incredible attraction to a man. Even when I saw him and felt that something was happening between us. I'm sure he felt it too. And so, word for word, we began to hear each other often on the phone, in the evening we had long conversations, in the morning we drank coffee, etc., but only so much that we did not have sex. Then we stopped talking for a while, he was busy, we heard each other less and less. A few months passed and I realized that I was pregnant (from my husband, of course). I tried to forget about him, I forced myself and I almost succeeded, but at the same time he called and invited me to their place, something I wanted so much. I refused because I was 4 months pregnant and then I actually decided to end it once and for all, I still have a family, I'm expecting a child. Time passed, I gave birth to a wonderful child who filled my time completely. He called me once and told him that I had a baby and since then I have not heard or seen him. So until I got back to work and saw him again. I shivered like a leaf, my heart would leap. No man has ever made me feel that way. I started thinking about him again and again, looking for opportunities to see him and so on to this day. For his part, however, nothing. But I am convinced that he is not indifferent to me and if I am more persistent we will get to bed, and this is what I want a lot. On the other hand, I have a family and I care about it, I don't know if it won't entangle the threads at all. I do not know what to do He is divorced and lives alone.
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And we have to support you I guess?
Hello dear...!!! I am a 26 year old woman who is also funny and I have two wonderful children. 6 months ago I met many. interesting man and so I sank .. there was such a lure that even sparks flew ... We wanted so much, and mine had a mistress then ... and we had a lot of problems at home, but alas, after thinking and thinking for a long time I decided to I keep my family ... that's what I advise you now. Be strong .. seven is the most important thing ... Good luck !!!!
He's obviously a man on the spot. He liked you a lot before, that's why he was so insistent. But believe me, there is no man who can keep to himself, respect himself and catch running on your ass like he did before. You are selfish, you want your whole family, you want him and in general everything is limited to the request. Don't think of him, he will find another, and you will forget him, because he will no longer bind you to security.
Hey, life doesn't give you many chances and if you get one again - take it! Just do EVERYTHING POSSIBLE for your husband not to understand !! You need to be aware of yourself from the beginning and set emotional boundaries in order to return to your family one day without leaving it. And it will probably have a refreshing effect on relationships at home.
Number 5 meant alienating, not refreshing.
Don't cheat. It was a lot.
Abe, scratch her scabies and that's it.
Another ... who fucked up because she's afraid to take risks. Are you okay to be in love with one and get pregnant by another? Because you signed somewhere? Now explain to us in more detail how you felt when you were pregnant by one and in love with another? Are you happy to betray yourself and your feelings? I'm very interested in how he still talks to you and how he pays attention to you. Do you know that you broke his heart? Do you know what advice I'm going to give you, huh? Live in delusion and lie until you go crazy with pain! Hold on to your fake family until you freak out and figure out what you did.
Yes I agree with 9, in love with one, you get pregnant by another. A little confused work. Listen to your heart, the mind does not always give the right signals. Do not live in delusion with yourself. In love you have to be a little crazy. Good luck and don't give up another chance if fate gives it to you. Enjoy your life ... Mom Thani
Apply a little willpower and step back a little! You have already decided to have a family. Such relationships are refreshing, but often lead to drama. I am a woman, I have a lover and I am so divided that I do not want others to experience it. I'm sorry but who says that extramarital affairs are without feelings is very confusing.
Author, how did the story with your colleague develop?