Hello, everyone! I am a woman of 30, with a husband and two daughters. My marriage is successful, my family is good, we are doing well. But I have been in a hole for 2.3 months, I feel lonely, not understood, not needed. I don't know if I'm depressed, but I'm not happy. I have agoraphobia from a very fragile childhood of 12.13 years. This state of panic, fear, unhappiness constantly accompanies me, for no apparent reason, I'm just unhappy. I want to be useful to my children and family and for a while I even stopped going out, communicating and I am in some isolation. I do not know how to get rid of this situation, I am currently unemployed and I have given myself home. Is this my mistake? Unconsciously or consciously I am subjected to isolation and this seems to calm me down, I feel safe, but on the other hand it ruins me because it can't ... I'm very relaxed, nothing touches me and it discourages me. I want a normal life, to go out calmly, to do my homework, to be useful to the children, and because of this phobia I don't go anywhere because I'm afraid to go out. When I go out I feel sick, I tremble, you feel dizzy and I have the feeling that I will die. This, of course, is only in my head that something very bad will happen to me, but I am afraid. I have been living with this phobia for 15 years, there are moments, years when I cope and feel very good, but there are also periods when I am at the bottom, like now. What to do, who to turn to. Please for any advice, I will be very, very grateful to you people. I want my life, I want to be well and be able to be useful to the people around me :(
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packers3498 answered · June 27, 2020
You need a psychologist or psychiatrist. I am afraid of heights and I was treated by a medical psychologist. A psychiatrist sent me to the Health Insurance Fund. I still can't look down from the 20th floor, but from 10 I manage, riding an escalator. Look for a job and when you find it you will feel better. Taking the first money even better. Go out with the children, they are your support and the most precious thing.
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mmmmnnn1 answered · June 27, 2020
Fasting and prayer. I have decided to fill a bottle with water and pray by the water. Because it has been proven and I have seen that after prayer the structure of the water becomes very beautiful. And the human body is over 80 waters. Read the Bible the New Testament and pray to God with fasting and prayer and drink water after prayer.
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dave6262002 answered · June 27, 2020
Author, the things you describe are for a psychiatrist. First 20-30 days of treatment with antidepressants, then a psychologist to gradually overcome fears and only then look for work and enter the "deep of life".
I had a similar problem when my mother died, I was 24 years old, married with a child, after the funeral I just went into my bedroom and sat sitting on the bedroom looking at one point in the wall, without lighting, all the noises annoyed me. It was a problem for me to get out of our apartment.
Doctors are there to help, it's good that you realize you have a problem, it's the hardest thing to realize, then things are easier.
Personally, I was ashamed of my husband to go to a psychiatrist, I went by taxi without his knowledge, once a week for four weeks in a row and things got better.
However, things last for 15 years, so after treatment with drugs you will need serious help from a psychologist to lend you a hand and take you out of the hole.
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chaton_mimieux answered · June 27, 2020
№1, who told you that a doctor can kill your phobia from heights? It can only drive you insane, but it's called intoxication. With two children, still 30 years old and locked in houses all day, where happiness comes from. If the husband does not bring reassurance, the situation worsens. You need the sun, a lot of sun, you lack the serotonin, the hormone of happiness. In warm weather, stay in the sun as often as possible naked, and now in winter, some very mild antidepressant will help you best. It may become commonplace, but for me, the best mild antidepressant is Deanxita - the pink pills of happiness! Success!
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missalaska1 answered · June 28, 2020
Laziness (plus winter time) brings bad thoughts to your head. Start doing something or find a real hobby. This is the solution. Extremely simple.
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rubytwinkle answered · June 28, 2020
I went to psychologists, psychiatrists, but they try to take my referral and money and until then, no one seriously understands the problem and how I can solve it. No questions, no details, no interrogations on their part. Upon entering the door direction and fee, I say to myself, wait was a man, I have not yet introduced myself, you talk to me about directions. I have no words, really. I was not lucky enough to come across a literate, human, real specialist, unfortunately. As for drugs, I have been taking seroxate for 15 years, I stopped it only when I was pregnant. My first pregnancy went without a problem, I felt good, but the second was hell. Roaring every day, depression, fear, was severe. My body is so used to this poison that if I don't drink it for 4.5 days it is a great adventure. I will probably drink seroxate while I'm alive
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luna_arianna answered · June 29, 2020
For 3 visits to a psychotherapist, I had no mention of postpartum depression. I didn't drink anything, changed my diet, got up, and listened to hypnotherapy for 1 month. I just don't know why I put it off so long ...
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2badforyou answered · June 29, 2020
Do some research on all kinds of hormones, vitamins and the like. Very often depressions are purely biochemical effects.
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seamusbear answered · June 29, 2020
I am very grateful. For years I was afraid and tormented. I went to work under duress, we needed money. My brother drove me to work, I came back with a colleague. I did not want to retire due to illness, because with a psychodiagnosis who will hire me later. One has to help oneself. Think of your children, the misery you doom them to when you stay home without money. Grit your teeth, you may be looking for work from home. Start doing anything. Knit, sew, embroider, paint, glue. You will always find a close relative, a parent to sell them. Happiness is built, only you can overcome your fears. I'll write to you again.
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przemy_muscle answered · June 30, 2020
That's right, getting up, going to bed, eating; a blood test to see if you are deficient in vitamins; physical exercises (or cleaning at home, sweeping around the block), walks with children; sun, vitamin D and magnesium additionally; you should consider stopping any antidepressants (do not start new ones, try a healthy lifestyle and supplements first, depression is also associated with a lack of vitamins and minerals); start inviting girlfriends at home, in the neighborhood; Ask some authors of novels, short stories that will intrigue you and / or movies (directors, actors), join a group where you can participate with opinions, slowly everything will be fine. With children you can do various creative projects, there are many examples on YouTube - DIY