Hello, I need side advice and opinions from people I don't know. I must be going crazy, but I'm starting to think I'm a victim of domestic violence. I already feel only disgust and fear for my husband. In plain text, he tells me that I must be completely under his control. I had to be crushed well enough to listen and know my place. I have to repeat every day when he decides that "I am a subordinate mouse", "I am nothing without you" looking him in the eye. This happens every day without exception. Sometimes several times a day. And in front of the child too. I can't see my girlfriends, I constantly turn down invitations to meetings during the day. Because when he is at home I have to sit with him and serve. According to him, all my friends are rubbish, even if they are family and do nothing wrong. He was angry that I was meeting them. My parents and relatives are also rubbish and miserable. Like me, I am a miserable woman who was incredibly lucky to meet him. I have taken over the whole household, but in the supermarket only he buys. I can't choose anything. That's why he mostly buys appetizers, meats, cheeses and then I fly like crazy to the neighborhood store to buy products for dishes and dishes. I clean, I cook every day. I consider myself a good housewife, I always have prepared, dessert, salad. And he just lies and stares at his phone or TV. I am afraid that if I express an opinion, shouts, insults and threats will start. At home I step on my toes and keep quiet, carefully choosing every word I say. His behavior is frightening for our child, he is small and still says what he thinks. She started telling him she didn't love him. And guess what unlocks great aggression, screams with a horse for at least an hour. It's like screaming at a man, not at 3 years old. Slaps, strong ones that knock him to the ground. Prohibition to eat, as he takes a delicacy and eats in front of him, but does not give it to him. I was horrified, I developed gastritis because of systemic screams. According to him, the child should unquestioningly listen to him and sit stuffed. The last time I shouted at him in the mall, so that people wouldn't see him, he pinched him cruelly. Whereupon the child began to roar even louder. He started threatening him that if we got in the car he would crush him in a fight. I also vomited a disorder from stress for 3 days. He doesn't believe me, he refuses to accept that I'm sick. It makes me cook at least. For these 3 days I did not touch anything. At home he turned into a pigsty, but did not touch. He just accuses me of lying down and pretending to be sick. He wants more and more perverted things from me in sex, I have no right to refuse. I also developed a fear of sex, I associate it only with pain and humiliation. Come on, don't get frigid. Women were like dogs, as you teach them. I'll break you, you'll become what I want you to be ... these are all regular words. You just have to be very obedient and humble, and you won't have any problems with me. And I forgave the infidelity 2 years ago, and I don't know if there is anything left that I haven't forgiven .. I'm afraid for the child too, for the fact that he started not loving him and saying, he says that he is afraid of him and doesn't want to there are dads. Lastly, I had to feel guilty that I didn't let him go for 3 days because I was sick. It's a hint, some kind of insults. You can't always get sick. My heart is still pounding, I lost my joy and smile. Once he slapped me, to this day he tells me that this is the fruit of my imagination and that this is a lie. But I know very well. On the other hand, he keeps telling me that "I don't want to beat you to know." Kind of like a threat and I know ... I think it's domestic violence. I don't want it to be so, but I'm afraid it is ....
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Run with 300, how do you stand with this one ??? Of course, you are a victim of domestic violence, this "man" of yours is even like a textbook. He totally crushed you, the child will also be mentally broken when he grows up ... Take your things, run to your parents and that's it. I have no idea what your profession is, but even if you become a cashier in a supermarket, you will still connect the two ends (if you do not pay rent). Literally the only salvation for both of you.