I Feel Like I'm In Prison

   At 26, I don't really know what fears you have. Women your age are already mothers and have families, and you are still under the influence of your father. It definitely doesn't seem normal to me. I think that your relatives scared you too much with this pregnancy, as if you are stupid and you can't protect yourself. Take your life in your hands and think for yourself. You are not 10 to be run by your parents. * Syndrome

   You must have a friend. I am 27 and I have a child of 1 year and 3 months. The man doesn't have to be nasty. There are many good men. You have to get out of it. Your mother can tolerate paint, but you don't have to put up with it. You have a choice. To go to the apartment. You have to have a big family now. The more you procrastinate, the more nervous you will be and you will not do well with a baby, you will just scream at him. While you are young and strong, it is time for a child. I also had problems with ours but moved out with my husband. We were just boyfriends then. It's true that I'm only with a Bachelor's degree so far, but it's never too late to continue my studies. You have to take your life into your own hands and not tolerate what they tell you. Find a friend and you don't have to tell them everything.

   Find a job if you don't have a place to live after that and move out of you because no matter how rude these people may sound, they will poison your life, they have even poisoned it after so many years of harassment. Rebel

   How much do you have left to complete? Wait until you're done and start working to make ends meet. I want you to know that they will interfere in your personal life even then. They will complicate them with unreal and distorted problems that revolve only in their heads. That's why it's best to find a job very, very far away. Don't listen to them at all, because only you will suffer. Lock yourself in your room and pretend to study. And its the number of days until graduation. Unfortunately, your father, as the main model for a man in your life, has played an extremely destructive role. There are very few like him. The day you break away from these people, you will see that there are actually a lot of positive people and in time you will kill all negative thoughts from your mind.

   You have the right to a friend, you are still 26 and there are many decent ones, just so someone can find them. Now is the perfect time for you to catch one, and it is not normal for your father to beat you all - he has no right. And another thing, your grandmother and aunt are very, very bad. I don't want to offend you, but realize if your future friend needs to protect you from your father.

   Dear friends, thank you to all who respond and will respond. I have another semester to a bachelor's degree, but then my parents will ask me for a master's degree, then work and time for personal life will never allow me. I'm terribly depressed, I'm on antidepressants, I cry every day, but no one cares about me.

   Get out of this "home"! What are you waiting for to happen? It is clear that if it depends on your parents and relatives, you will die alone. They ruin your youth, and you sit and probably last! Show a little character and take your life in your hands. It may sound a little harsh, but I will say it - mom, dad, grandma and aunt will not be eternal and will not always be with you. One day, when they are gone, you may be alone and with a broken psyche! I don't wish it on you. I understand that you will be 16 - you will be small, but 26 years old. to be a prisoner is unacceptable. Get out as soon as you can and start living! Good luck

   Bass, I'm just amazed at the total lack of will you show at this age. Tighten up and stop allowing your parents to control your life, you have to have character, to stick to your own. As it turned out, one day they will marry someone of their choice. Be tougher! * Syndrome

   My father beats me and bullies me how can I be tougher? Where to go without money? It is true that I am a coward.

   When your mother doesn't happen to be a good man, she thinks that you will find a husband like hers, only that you have to prove to her that this is not the case, not all men are rude or like your father. After all, you are not young at 26, do you have the opportunity to support yourself? Apparently you don't have this, it also affects you to be commanded, you have to be strong and think a little about yourself. :) :) :)

   You urgently need to take your life into your own hands. After they bully you, move out, support yourself until you graduate, and then find a job in your field. As you calm down by moving away from these morons, you will begin to notice that there are also many valuable, smart and good men. I managed on my own by studying, staying and working at 23, not at home, but abroad. At 26, you ruin your youth with these "loved ones."

   I feel like I'm going crazy. I do not know what and whom to expect. I don't know what to hope for. There is no set deadline for my unhappiness to last, and after everything is over, everything will be fine. I feel like I'm going crazy every day. When I talk to my mother like that, she just pushes me with pills. It doesn't encourage me in anything. I am completely alone and crushed at home. If my father finds out that I am being exported, such a dyak will pull me, he will beat me, as he has done many times with impunity. She's just crying. Hell, these are my loved ones. I am completely destroyed as a woman. I don't have the will to act and I sink slowly, but surely.

   I am younger than you and I sincerely sympathize with you, my parents also try to control me even for what I put in my soup and then I hiss something against them. It's just awful. Then I'm sorry that I was nasty, but I'm not a child ... if one day I get married and my husband behaves the same way, I'll throw myself under a train during my honeymoon. As a teenager, I was not impressed, I was still small, and they were older than me and I listened to them, but this is no longer the case. I even began to regret not opposing them earlier, now they would treat me like a big man, not like a 14-year-old girl.

   Your father and aunt were against having a friend ??? Are they abnormal? Do you want to die alone with 30 cats ... for me they are freaks, I don't need to know them to say that they are like that. They don't want you to have a family so you can watch them peel, change their diapers and spoon them, bathe them ... serve them all their lives, that's what they want. You are an adult !!! Find girlfriends while studying and move to a permanent residence, all the time a girl will agree to share a room. Don't let yourself be a puppet all your life, fuck them. Tomorrow they will get sick and you will have to watch them, people, because of which they have trampled you all your life, you will waste the rest of your life !!! Run while it's time. Morena

   Morena took my words from the keyboard. Good luck to the author and head up! Laura

   Your aunt has no right to interfere in your life, do you interfere in hers and her children? To look after her children. Are there any children? ... if she doesn't, she can want you to remain an old and unhappy girl out of malice ... what if she is a relative of yours, she can also wish for the bad. Stop listening to them at all and start listening to your own inner voice, comply with your own needs, not those of others! Morena

   Yes, my aunt is a single woman and has no children. You're right, but I'm probably too weak, I can't fight these people ...

   When do you plan to start living? When do they die? There is no way to know if your character is weak when you were like a puppet in their hands. In general, I wonder how you allow your aunt to interfere in your life, when she herself has failed to build something in her own life ... Morena

   They will not die soon. They eat healthy and exercise. They interfere a lot in my life. They are very impudent (my grandmother and my aunt), they dig in all sorts of ways, they tease the person, they don't leave him alone. My father is the scariest because he beats her. I am silent to him now, but to no avail.

   I appeal to all parents! Please pay attention to what, to put it mildly, the wrong upbringing leads to. I am a mother of grown children and I cannot say that I have not made mistakes related to upbringing sometimes. This is a long and continuous process, starting from the birth of the child and directly related to the relationship between spouses, relationships with relatives, friends. Very often the site has topics about the lack of self-confidence of young people. It really hurts me for these kids. I think the mother is to blame in the first place. I'll tell you why. Whom my son walked, like any child, he began to scribble with his hands everywhere and I followed him and told him not to go here, not to touch there ... My grandmother gave me very valuable advice. He told me - Let him explore the world, don't stop him, talk to him, be by his side, he must try FOR HIMSELF. She taught me as a mother to give confidence to my child that he would succeed. I will tell the author the following. Dear girl. Here you will get a lot of good advice. BUT! Remember that you have to make your life the way you want. No one will come, take you by the hand, talk to your relatives and take you out of you. YOU have to do it yourself. Have faith in yourself. It would be nice to have at least one boyfriend or girlfriend next to you. ACT !!! Ina ACT !!! Ina ACT !!! Ina

   Is there really no girl to share a room with ...? It is clear that your relatives do not get up, but do you not have outsiders to help you in the beginning? You are an adult if your father touches you. SENTENCE HIM. You are 26 years old, you have the full right to protection from the law against abusers. ps: In what city do you study? Morena

   HOW TO "EDUCATE" OTHERS You will teach others how to treat you by showing them what you are willing to put up with. flock. This theory is not particularly complicated. If you send the message that you simply will not tolerate being abused and support him with effective behavior, the manipulator will not receive the expected reward - to make you helpless so that he can manipulate you. But if you just agree to be pulled by the strings, or if you pro-willingly and remain under someone else's control, teach others to continue to use you as a dump. Gail was my client. She came to me because she felt ruthlessly bullied by her despotic husband. He complained that it was like a doormat for his insulting language and manipulative tactics. She had three children, none of whom showed much respect for her, and she was on the verge of depression and hopelessness. When he told me about the past, it turned out to be a classic case of a man who allowed himself to be manipulated since childhood. Her parents always spoke for her, insisting that everything be reported to them. Her father was extremely tyrannical, not losing sight of her during all the years of her maturation until marriage. She had chosen a marriage partner who "happened to be" the same as her father, so the marriage put her in a sacrificial position again. She was always used to someone else speaking for her, telling her what to do, and she suffered in silence. I explained to Gail that she had diligently taught people to treat her in such a way that it wasn't their fault at all, although she loved to blame others and the whole world for her misfortune. She soon learned that she had put herself in the position of a victim, enduring the insults all these years, without ever seeking an effective counter-strategy. Gail realized that she had a responsibility to find solutions to her problems. Then the sessions helped her learn new ways to teach people to treat her differently. I first passed on my theory to her, which I call "karate kick." Here's what it looks like. Be the master of your life Dr. Wayne Dyer Morena Then the sessions helped her learn new ways to teach people to treat her differently. I first passed on my theory to her, which I call "karate kick." Here's what it looks like. Be the master of your life Dr. Wayne Dyer Morena Then the sessions helped her learn new ways to teach people to treat her differently. I first passed on my theory to her, which I call "karate kick." Here's what it looks like. Be the master of your life Dr. Wayne Dyer Morena

   Honey, it seems to me that a possible ally could be your mother. Talk to her, push these freaks and start a new life together. You are just very scared. But know that bad and aggressive people are actually very cowardly. Don't be afraid! Get out of there as fast as you can. Life is wonderful!

   My mother is a very weak character. He doesn't want to go anywhere. How many times have I asked her to get away and go somewhere. She does not want. I am alone in this situation. She won't go out with me. I stopped talking to my father on New Year's Eve. He's just threatening me. I'm better off not talking to him. I feel better. But how long will this last? From time to time he calls me a fool, a simpleton for not talking to him, but I remain silent. What to do I do not know where to go too.

   I went to a psychologist. I was advised either to move out of the house or not to share my personal life with my father. I really don't know what to do. I also have a fear of men that I have to fight.

   Listen to him. When you are younger, you have to take the first step, then you will take your mother with you when you settle somewhere. Otherwise, congratulations on the courage you have shown. Not everyone would dare to share their problems with a stranger. :) Morena

   I don't know, the psychologist told me that my problem is mine and I have to solve it myself. That neither he nor anyone else can do anything. I will soon turn 27 and another year has passed without anything, without any progress. Sometimes I think about suicide, I go to bed early in the evening to get out of depression to make my day shorter. Loneliness weighs so much on me. I'm tired of teasing my mother. The truth is, I'm afraid of men. I feel deadly anxious when I meet them. I want to change, but I can't. My relatives have brainwashed me to such an extent, and this, together with my father's abuse, makes me the perfect loner. I was just born among bad people. My father is bad, my grandmother is bad, my aunt is bad. They are allies. My grandmother is 76? Why should I listen to such an old woman who, with everything, which says it drives me crazy. But her two children, my father and aunt, think like her. Two identical people (my father and my aunt), born by one mother. How to change when my fear of these three is so great. Where to go as to go to the apartment you need 100 leva at least a month. How other people encourage their children to find someone, not to be left alone, and at home I am told the exact opposite: "Stay alone". How not to go crazy, how to stay healthy, I do not know. I fight with myself every day and no one is on my side at home. Because my mother, although she is better than the three of them, she doesn't care about me and my psyche. Tell me, why is he my father? Why wasn't I born somewhere else? How to change when my fear of these three is so great. Where to go as to go to the apartment you need 100 leva at least a month. How other people encourage their children to find someone, not to be left alone, and at home I am told the exact opposite: "Stay alone". How not to go crazy, how to stay healthy, I do not know. I fight with myself every day and no one is on my side at home. Because my mother, although she is better than the three of them, she doesn't care about me and my psyche. Tell me, why is he my father? Why wasn't I born somewhere else? How to change when my fear of these three is so great. Where to go as to go to the apartment you need 100 leva at least a month. How other people encourage their children to find someone, not to be left alone, and at home I am told the exact opposite: "Stay alone". How not to go crazy, how to stay healthy, I do not know. I fight with myself every day and no one is on my side at home. Because my mother, although she is better than the three of them, she doesn't care about me and my psyche. Tell me, why is he my father? Why wasn't I born somewhere else? how to stay healthy I don't know. I fight with myself every day and no one is on my side at home. Because my mother, although she is better than the three of them, she doesn't care about me and my psyche. Tell me, why is he my father? Why wasn't I born somewhere else? how to stay healthy I don't know. I fight with myself every day and no one is on my side at home. Because my mother, although she is better than the three of them, she doesn't care about me and my psyche. Tell me, why is he my father? Why wasn't I born somewhere else?

   With each passing day I accumulate more and more malice and hatred, hatred for the world and people.

   They are afraid of leaving them, so they put fear of men in your head. But escaping is the only way to have the life you deserve. I am 23 years old, I live with my parents, but I really, really want to live alone or with a roommate to share the expenses. Unfortunately, I do not have any permanent income, and even with this high unemployment I will not be able to find a job soon :( in my city they offer the minimum wage of BGN 240 and it is extremely insufficient.; (; (; (I think to work again this year at sea, but in three months at sea they still won't have enough for accommodation + expenses: / it's awful to want to separate from your parents and not have the funds.

   I know, but this with the escape how to do it as I am still dependent on my parents financially. I was just born into a nasty family. How can I oppose my father? He is a stupid and misunderstood man. A man who will never put himself in my place ...

   Everything I read is so sad and difficult and only people who experience or have experienced something like this can understand you. Everyone here gives you advice, but they all have the support of someone, so it's easy for them to talk, and you're alone and there's no one to help you, they ruin your psyche every day and you're already starting to think about the worst outcome. Gather strength and find a way to start your life on your own, if you have to abandon this learning for the moment while you organize your life. I am about to be the same at the age of 23 and I am experiencing the same but I am tired of living under stress and violence, I am losing my self-confidence and the meaning of life, but this must stop and if I do not stop it no one will help me, no one will you lend a hand, just tighten up and help yourself, you see you don't get help and support from your closest ones, so don't expect such from others. Show them that you can, that you are worth something, it will be difficult for you, but you will have to cope. Gather strength! SUCCESS, DEAR