Hello! I am a girl of 17. From 9th grade I started to envy a friend a lot. Here's the story: we were best friends until seventh grade, after which she became B grade and I A grade. Then the worst happened - she found new friends, made company, started doing new things (theater, music, sports) and achieved a lot of success, she looks great, she is a very cool character, the question of good is different. her financial situation, at the moment she has a friend and in the few times we have seen each other she told me that she is very happy. As you can imagine from our friendship there is nothing left, we see each other almost every day at school, but it is not the same. We go out as much as for one coffee, probably once every two months, so as not to forget. I really care about her and I like her as a person because she is a unique person, in my eyes she is perfect and has a perfect life. Lately, I've started to envy her a lot for all of the above. I don't have company, I can't have fun like her, I have low self-esteem, it's true that I have a real girlfriend at the moment, but I feel very bad when I see her with her company having fun, doing crazy things. I went out with them too, but somehow I don't fit. I feel like I don't know how to live and have fun. I just envy her a lot for what she has, and I want my old friend. I feel bad and I don't know how to get out of this situation. Please give me advice! Thanks in advance! I hope my story is uploaded. It is true that I have a real girlfriend at the moment, but I feel very bad when I see her with her company having fun, doing crazy things. I went out with them too, but somehow I don't fit. I feel like I don't know how to live and have fun. I just envy her a lot for what she has, and I want my old friend. I feel bad and I don't know how to get out of this situation. Please give me advice! Thanks in advance! I hope my story is uploaded. It is true that I have a real girlfriend at the moment, but I feel very bad when I see her with her company having fun, doing crazy things. I went out with them too, but somehow I don't fit. I feel like I don't know how to live and have fun. I just envy her a lot for what she has, and I want my old friend. I feel bad and I don't know how to get out of this situation. Please give me advice! Thanks in advance! I hope my story is uploaded. Please give me advice! Thanks in advance! I hope my story is uploaded. Please give me advice! Thanks in advance! I hope my story is uploaded.
1 catalina_rotavisky answered
The hardest part is realizing the problem, and you've already done it, now comes the solution. Honestly, I don't know what to advise you, I've only envied a single time in my life. I'm just not an envious person by nature. But I remember what a terrible feeling it was - I was 11 and I wanted to be "Swag", but there were no such clothes in my city and suddenly I went out with a friend I hadn't seen in a long time and was dressed in my dream clothes. Then I felt very strange and I'm always nothing. I remember my stomach hurting for a few hours, I wanted it to stop, but it wasn't up to me. In the end, I told myself that my clothes were not like hers, but they were also nice. I have high self-esteem and my character and thinking are such that when I see someone more successful than me, I don't envy them, I try to pass them by, it motivates me to build and become more successful than him. Try it too. There is no point in envy, you gain nothing and only you suffer. It's even uglier for a friend, you should be happy for her. Think about what exactly she is better at than you and can you surpass her? Believe me, nothing is impossible, you just have to make an effort. If you do it one day, you can be better than her. Erika 15