I Don't Want Children!

   People with limited thinking cannot understand you. It was the "meaning of life" Who said that? Most of them didn't even think about it, but it's just accepted and blindly follow the herd.

   If you are really convinced that you do not want and will never want children, I think it is right to either break up with your boyfriend or to understand that your relationship will not be serious. You look in different directions. I do not see a future without compromise. And the compromise is too great. Look for a person with your desires, but clarify them at the beginning so that you do not find yourself in the same situation. Otherwise, everyone has the right to want different things from life :) not bad. But think hard so you don't lose someone you love in vain.

   And I don't want to have children. If you don't feel it, don't do it. That children are the goal of some people's lives is their vision. Birth is a natural process and having a higher purpose in your life creating a generation is a bit silly. As you say, whoever wants children, let him have them. But no one has the right to condemn your choice. In my opinion, children are a burden and they drink your emotions and life. There are wonderful things that can make a person happy without having multiplied. G30

   Everyone decides for themselves what to do with their lives. If you don't want a child, don't give birth. Only, I can advise you to break up with your boyfriend, because he obviously wants children, but he thinks he will persuade you in time. Just find a man who doesn't want children either

   I can't get into your situation, but I understand you. If you don't want children, don't have them, it's that simple! As for your friend, in theory you give it well, but are you able to really break up with him because of his desire to have a child?

   Don't worry, you are not alone, we are very much like you. And as for your friend, if he doesn't share your beliefs, then it's just not for you. Look for someone who understands you. You will not be able to convince him, just as you will not allow him to dissuade you from your principles. In general, the majority of men do not want children, and those who say they want is only out of a desire to prove themselves. Once you give birth and they don't care about anything. They neither help nor give money. That is why they want children more boldly, because nothing changes for them.

   I'm looking for a girlfriend who doesn't want children and I can't find such stories here regularly. I'm a man and I don't want children and I don't think there's anything strange or shameful about that. Regarding your problem, I don't think you have a future with this man. The child is not something to compromise with, but a responsible decision. If you are 100% convinced that you do not want children, and he wants, then I do not see how it could happen between you in the long run.

   I will not judge you. Who wants to have children, let him. Who does not want, but ok. I will not live your life, it does not affect me. However, this is a serious decision that is for life, and you will have to live with it. Now, the options, in my opinion, are 3: Option H1. : He compromises with himself, and decides that he will please you and will not pressure you for children. However, as time goes on, the years go by, and he starts blaming you for not wanting children. Quarrels, disputes begin. At some point, he raises the issue of children again, but you are still adamant. The situation is heating up. You feel the tension between you ... Well, at least you don't have kids to keep you together, do you? Option H2. : You give birth to 1 child, as long as it is not without anything. However, you never learn to love him. You take it as a burden you have borne for your husband. You have to take care of him, to be non-stop together. Every single care will weigh on you as soon as you feel your mother's instinct. And we get there again, quarrels, lack of sleep. You start to hate him because he gave you this child you don't want. You start making fun of him, he, God knows how he would react. And, then you either separate or stay together, "for the sake of the child." Well, there is another option. As soon as your child is born, you love him more than anything, than yourself, even, and you live happily, the three of you, like in a fairy tale. And option N. 3: You both sit down and talk about your views. What do you think about the family, about the children. How do you see yourself in 5 years, but in 10-15? What do you want from life, what expectations do you have for each other. What can you put up with, what can't ... You say everything to yourself, honestly and openly, anyway, these things come to light, sooner or later. And you decide that you are not for each other, you have big differences, on some issues, and you separate. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity these things come to light, sooner or later. And you decide that you are not for each other, you have big differences, on some issues, and you separate. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity these things come to light, sooner or later. And you decide that you are not for each other, you have big differences, on some issues, and you separate. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity And you decide that you are not for each other, you have big differences, on some issues, and you separate. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity And you decide that you are not for each other, you have big differences, on some issues, and you separate. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity on some issues, and split up. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity on some issues, and split up. In all three variants, almost, there is a separation. However, in the first two, it is after a time when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity when you have already lost years with each other. In a third option, the separation is in the near future. In this way, you will be able to meet people who will be able to give you what you want. To him - a woman who loves and wants her children. And you are a man who has the same opinion about children, or one who already has children, from another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity who already has children, by another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity who already has children, by another woman. You decide. You choose which option to follow. And, hopefully, there are other options, and to be happy together, but I do not know ... I, at least, do not see them. It will be difficult for you, for sure, whatever you choose, but you must act while there are no other injured ... Depravity

   Calm down, there's nothing wrong with that. However, not every tree makes a whistle. I'm 27 and I don't want children either. I warned my friend a long time ago and I also told him that if he wanted offspring, he would have to turn to another. I don't feel ready, I don't care, I don't see the charm of motherhood, etc. Otherwise I am very happy with others and I like to play with them, but they are not in my house. My advice is not to "sacrifice" for the sake of others. As much as you love someone, as much as you want to make them happy, this is too serious a topic to experiment with. There is nothing worse than an unwanted child. I don't know why people think it's like "giving birth to me alone", like buying a sack of potatoes. They will grumble, they will call you selfish and stupid, all this is regularly explained to me, but I haven't paid attention for a long time. This is a personal choice, you will wear it, give birth and look after it, and if you do not see yourself in such a role, defend your position clearly and firmly. You are still young and there is still time to change your mind, but until then do not give up. You acted wisely, warning your friend.

   Let me tell you ... you don't love him ... and that's why you don't want children. You will grow up and things will take on a different meaning for you.

   I'm a liberal, and if you don't want to, I accept that it's no more questions. Your will, they cannot force you to give birth. By the way, that day I was thinking about this very topic, I remembered conversations with my grandmother and how she told me that there were 6 brothers and sisters, a grandfather and he was from a large family. Back then, it was considered normal to have so many children in the house! How I wish it were so again! And in the small towns in the countryside to be born many children, Bulgarian children! Grandparents, although they had so many siblings, have only 2 children. However, I am ready to give birth to 6. Since you don't want children - there's no point in having children, I, on the other hand, long for many children. Your problem is that you won't be able to keep the person by your side for a long time, my problem is that hardly any man will be able to have so many children.

   You have orientated yourself correctly. Just like you said, let your boyfriend and another woman make him happy. And you will not die alone. Find someone like you who doesn't want children either. But in this case, when you grow old, it is good to have someone to support you. So another great solution is to find a divorced man who has one child from his previous marriage, but has grown up. Good luck and whatever happens to you, be happy with or without a child.

   Hello, author! I am a woman of 32 years. Everything you said, it's like I said it. At the risk of being attacked by others involved, I will say that I fully understand and support you. I fully admit that I have never dreamed of having children since I was a child. I don't even want a relationship. I feel completely satisfied with my life and I have jobs and occupations that I love and I do not see at all how I personally would make such a radical change in my life and over the years I do not see how I would want it. I feel that this is not my calling and I do not see how I would ever change my mind. Everyone has an understanding of life and has the right to live it as he likes, without taking into account the opinions and intrusions of others. Especially having or not having children is something absolutely personal, for which no one has the right to be confused. And the people who don't want children for me are as many people as they are. I don't pay any attention to the worn-out cliché that children are the meaning of life. This is not the case at all. One can make one's life meaningful in many other ways. Parenting, in my opinion, is one of the most responsible things, and as you say, she is an author for life. This is not something to try and, if you don't like it, just give up. It is a crime for me to have a child and abandon it, and I find nothing wrong with not wanting to have a child. So for such a thing, as for many other things in life, everyone feels whether he has a desire or not. Don't let everyone with children misunderstand me. To be alive and healthy. I just respect everyone's choice equally - whether to have 1, 2, 5, 10 children or none. Parenting is something that has to come from within, not out of obligation, because that's how,, should,,. As natural as the decision is to have a child (children) (whether own or adopted), so natural is the decision to have no one and no one has the right to judge and interfere in this very personal matter - neither parents nor relatives, neither neighbors nor friends, etc. I also disagree with the fact that always having children is a guarantee of happiness, as well as the absence of unhappiness. I personally know people of quite mature age who do not have children, even a partner and are happy and satisfied with their lives and are very good people. I don't see anything abnormal. Having children is also not always a guarantee of old age care. The children grow up and go their own way. They cannot be prevented from separating. There are elderly people, whose children very rarely have the opportunity to visit them because they are engaged in their own care or have settled abroad and these people, although they have children, rely on the care of neighbors or have been forced to go to nursing homes. And there is still no guarantee for the continuation of the family. They may not want to have children and the family may break up somewhere, but that will not be the end of the world. Perhaps many writers will attack the fact that if no one wants children, then humanity will disappear. This will not happen because there will always be people to have children. It's just not for everyone and I feel that way about myself. I just don't have any mental or physical strength for wear and tear, childbirth and a bunch of other motherhood responsibilities. So, dear author, I fully understand and support you on this issue. You say that you love your partner very much, but if it is impossible to make him understand you, you just have to tell him that you are not the woman who will make him happy. There is no other way. If you keep a partner close to you, you may need to start a relationship with someone who has the same opinion and also does not want children. This is from me. I wish you courage.

   It's your choice, but ask yourself deeply why you don't want to have children, it will answer other things in your life, believe me. It is good to talk to a psychologist about this, not because it is your decision, but what prompted it. Being a mother is wonderful, but what are you afraid of. Some women have a panicky fear of childbirth because their mothers, grandmothers, and aunts have told horrors and therefore do not want children. It is good to answer this question, otherwise everyone has the right to choose.

   I did not understand what you want from readers actually?

   How many times will you chew on this topic? No one forces you to give birth when you don't want to, it's your will. Why are you looking for understanding, what depends on people? Don't you want to form a movement of children, or does your guilty conscience torment you? I don't see the point in writing such topics, they sound silly to me, they are meaningless!

   Well, if you don't want children, stay like that ... They didn't need, they didn't want ... Who will give birth to children in this country, Bulgarians, were people ... Those gypsies have already conquered us.

   I am like you, author, and I fully support you. Look, it's good that you're aware of yourself and your desires - the fact that you've posted such a topic, however, tells me that you feel under pressure and need approval. This is a wrong step that leads nowhere. Stop looking for understanding or approval from people and look at your life. Even if you stand on the front stand, you can't please them - there will always be someone to grab something. They will not live with the consequences of your choices - you will have to. Admiration for being honest with your boyfriend. You said things the way they are, you didn't let him down - from now on he is a great man and can make his decisions. If, in time, you become convinced that he will not accept your decision, it is better for both of you to part ways. So each of you will have a chance to find the right partner.

   Some world evil forces have changed the value system of people. On the one hand, this is humane, because without wars it will regulate the reproduction of humanity. While 50-60 years ago, the earth managed to feed its living creature, life was calmer, there was food for everyone. With the growing population of the earth, food shortages have caused a global crisis, many countries are unable to provide food for their people. We felt this and in practice, a wave of migrants flooded us. These are not war refugees, but economically migrating masses. There is no gap in nature, where there is a reduced birth rate, the territories are filled by migrants. Across Europe, the population is aging and the birth rate is declining. Quite naturally, it is flooded with migrating waves and no one can stop this process. The only salvation was in the birth of children and the non-creation of empty spaces. It has already been rumored that large depopulated areas in the Strandzha region have been planned by the EU to be populated by incoming migrants. This will happen in our depopulated villages, ie, in the absence of birth rates, we give Bulgaria to foreign nations. In the past, the high birth rate caused relocations and the search for new territories, now the lack of birth rates will free up territories for new nations. Too bad for such young people without a value system. They will be forced to accept a foreign culture. we give Bulgaria as a gift to foreign nations. In the past, the high birth rate caused relocations and the search for new territories, now the lack of birth rates will free up territories for new nations. Too bad for such young people without a value system. They will be forced to accept a foreign culture. we give Bulgaria as a gift to foreign nations. In the past, the high birth rate caused displacements and the search for new territories, now the lack of birth rates will free up territories for new peoples. Too bad for such young people without a value system. They will be forced to accept a foreign culture.

   Everyone is different and we don't need to want the same thing and like the same thing. If you don't want to, you don't want to. You are honest with your friend, let him decide what is more important to him. I don't feel good among children, but I've always wanted to have and I'm fine with mine. I have two girlfriends with five children each. And this is not for me. I have even more without children, about 40 years old. they are and it is good for both of them. Accept yourself as you are and close the topic, for yourself and in your relationship. Make a decision and stop singing to your boyfriend.

   Вчера пуснах тема, която, гледам, още не е одобрена от модераторите. Препоръчвах една книга, която много ми хареса. Казва се "Светът е пълен с чудеса" на английския журналист Тони Парсънс. Мисля, че на всяка цена трябва да я прочетеш. В читанката я има. Това е книга, която казва много истини за живота, с някои от тях докато сме млади, може би не се съгласяваме, но с годините, подобно на героинята Кат, дали помъдряваме, дали гледаме под друг ъгъл на нещата? Не е грехота човек да не остави потомство, нали много светци са били монаси и монахини. Има и светци, които са били семейни, но са нямали деца - като св. Йоан Кронщадски, например. Всички те, обаче, не са живеели плътски. Контрацепция в миналото не е съществувала, тъй че живеещи като мъж и жена, но без деца са били само бездетните двойки. Те обаче са считали това като Божие наказание и много са страдали. Днес обикновено казваме, че са други времената, но.... това е поредното клише. Казвам го като професионалист - нито един вариант на контрацепция не е с 100% успеваемост. И какво правят хората, живеещи полов живот, но не искащи деца в случай че се окажат не при групата на деветдесет и деветте, а на единия процент? Някои от тях се осъзнават, казват си, че явно така е трябвало да се случи, че така е по-добре, пренареждат жизнените си приоритети и стават родители, но други? Други не могат да превъзмогнат егоизма си и стават убийци на собствените си деца. Това вече е грехота. Моля те да помислиш върху това. Сещам се за друга хубава книга във връзка с феминистичната съвременност и майчинството - книгата се казва "Черно мляко" и е на талантливата турска писателка Елиф Шафак. "Ние сме врата, през която децата ни навлизат в живота"- казва в автобиографията си майсторката на криминалета Агата Кристи. Като се замислим колко деца стават добри хора, не поради, а въпреки възпитанието, което са получили. Това не трябва да ни спира да се опитаме да бъдем добри родители, но отговорността да бъдем родители не бива да ни изглежда като непосилно бреме. Ако мога да се изразя фигуративно - преди да станем родители, в много случаи, особено за по-информираните от нас, отговорността ни изглежда като огромна канара. В процеса на родителството обаче канарата се оказва разбита на хиляди малки каменни парчета, които любовта ни прави да изглеждат по-леки, а и сам Бог ни помага да ги носим.

   A thinking and self-evident woman appeared, and she was immediately referred to a psychologist. Aren't humans different from animals, aren't they doing things like killing and mating out of primacy? Aren't we the intelligent beings on the planet? The human being processes information with the brain! We are not programmed like animals to multiply in periods and raise a generation. The human being does not have sex for a generation, but for pleasure. And if China and India thought that way, it would be much easier on earth. The author is free to think. One accepts, another refuses to become a parent, the important thing is that we do not all go in the same direction, that we should or should NOT have children, because it suggests destruction in the thinking of the crowds. I think that birth is a great thing, but it is also a great RESPONSIBILITY!

   She didn't want children ... okay to be alive and well and others like you. There is nothing more valuable and beautiful than the offspring ... that's all I'll tell you ... and if you don't want to, don't give birth. How much trampling is waiting for you is not true ... instead of sitting on your buttocks and giving real meaning to the things of life you will have fun and rest from the "burden". Certainly, the attitude towards your men is the same as an accessory or a burden that you will get tired of over time. And yet ... won't you stop playing the same thing a hundred times ???

   17, well, and why, to become more abuting than them, so that we can "beat them by points" and not stay behind them? !! That is why our country is in this situation, it is overcrowded and there is not enough money in the state treasury to feed so many throats! Make your bills and don't take them so much that then on our backs, the taxpayers !!

   Abe number 17, are you going to tell people what to do? When he doesn't want - he doesn't want and that's it!

   You do not want children and there is nothing wrong, no one is obliged, everyone decides. However, it is important for your friend and he hopes. If you really love him, break up with him. Mother - 29 years old

   Hey 26, you shouldn't bother with a coffee maker ... the state has become depopulated, there are no young people, and people of working age are running out and shrinking, and with your greatest impudence you say that it is overcrowded. It is overcrowded with people who take benefits and do not want to work. And they multiply en masse. Our state and nation are dying. The birth rate is the key factor for the development of an obscurantist economy !!! Without it, the human economic factor cannot exist.

   It's good where number 28. How many times will they repeat the same thing to her friends. She told him: "I understand him too, I even told him that if he wants this child so much, to be with someone else to make his wishes come true." - from now on the problem is his.

   Wait a minute, wait, 29, stop with the insults, I'm not an obscurantist. I'm just saying that there are some people who are incapable of caring for a child, do not take into account their financial capabilities, do not have a parental instinct by nature, and therefore doom their children to poverty and misery all their lives. Would it be better to give birth to 10 and then not be able to feed them and throw them on the social to look after them, than to give birth to 1, but to raise him well, without depriving him of money for textbooks, food , water, clothes, shoes, essentials ?? Quality, not quantity, people! When will you finally understand it? These people, who you call taking benefits and not working, but look at the gypsies, that's exactly what they do - they tickle 10 of them, just for the sole purpose of sucking children out of them, without having to work for life - well, it is the parasite of society. They live on the back of the state and do not move their ass, but complain that they do not have enough money for the Chaavets ... Here they must now be banned for the 3rd child, and without them they will not become professors , neither astrophysicists nor chemists, and it is hardly up to them to change humanity with some new invention - it's just their mentality. I am not against humanity and I am not against the birth rate, has it not led to such progressive technological and architectural progress on a global scale ?? But my thought is that not quantity, but quality is important, I say again, an intelligent, educated man, raised with good manners and manners, and with a high general culture, is valued by society 1000 times more than 10 braziers, which grow up. ,, they will take to steal rails and other melting irons and will build even more so that there is someone to suck children and not work - tell me, what is the point of all this money that we make with the labor and sweat of forehead, instead of staying for us, to go for those miserable people who can not use them at all, nor do their business, nor invest them in their children's college, but only in picking seeds in the park and in drinking brandy? Very wrong logic, №29. But you are obviously on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the more". So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee. who can't use them at all, or start their own business, or invest them in their children's college, but only in picking seeds in the park and drinking brandy? Very wrong logic, №29. But you are obviously on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the more". So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee. who can't use them at all, or start their own business, or invest them in their children's college, but only in picking seeds in the park and drinking brandy? Very wrong logic, №29. But you're obviously on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the more." So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee.

   Dear author, I understand very well how you feel. So am I. I have nothing against children, but only if they are not mine and not in my environment. I'm 98% sure I don't want my own. Parenting is not for everyone. With each passing day, I am increasingly convinced that it is not for me. Number 8 and others above have already said what I wanted to tell you. If you compromise and have a child just to please your partner and keep him, you will most likely ruin two lives. That of your child and your own. Taking care of him will cause you dislike. This will be felt by your child and at some point he will realize that it was not wanted. If you shake the word Child free on Google and Facebook, you will be surprised how many people there are like us. It is full of community, forums and groups. There are just people for whom children are not the ultimate goal and meaning in life. I'm telling you again. Don't do anything against your will just to please someone. Not only you will suffer after that. Good luck,

   A child can always be raised alive and well and brought up in a normal way if one has the necessary moral values. In my opinion, people who are driven mainly by their selfishness would find it difficult to take care of a child. When you become a parent, you start thinking mainly about your child and not about yourself, the one who is not able to do it, then his time has not come. Author, I'm not blaming you, but don't swear, you can ask for it when you least expect it.

   Number 30, The issue with the author's friend is that he hopes things will change over time, and by staying with him despite the constant conversations on the subject, she nurtures his hopes, albeit involuntarily. And so it practically hangs him, because he will have a child when it matters to him. I'm not saying she's guilty - no one is guilty. They are just too different in important respects in life and therefore not for each other. However, it will be sad for both of them, if staying in this relationship for a long time, they miss the chance to meet the right partner for them, to be really happy in a full-fledged relationship with a person with whom to go in the same direction. And this applies as much to him as it does to her! Number 28 - a 29-year-old mother of 29, who wanted her children and did not "miss the herd": D, who has other goals and development in life

   "a 29-year-old mother of 29, who wanted her children and didn't" miss the herd ": D, who has other goals and development in life" - well, calm down, what are you explaining, nobody tells you anything you? !? I just wanted to say that the author has already told him that she does not want children and from now on it is his choice whether he will stay with her to hope or look for a woman who wants children. He is not a little boy and has to tighten up and make the best decision for himself, and if he doesn't (provided she has already told him she doesn't want children), then no one will be to blame. for his own indecision!