Hello. my questions are more to women, because for several years I have had a serious problem and I am looking for the cause in myself. Why and where is the reason to perceive normal good men with status in life only as friends and not want a relationship with them. Honestly, I started to get the same thoughtful phrases like "You're so dear to me and I can count on you for everything, I don't want to lose you." Then the scenario is the same to see the object of my feelings as he is in the arms of another unambitious and punctual man who can't even offer anything to a family or is a mother's son. I consider myself a normally successful man who with a lot of work and savings has achieved everything in his life such as a good education, a good job, his own new home, a new car without credit or from mom and dad. I don't drink or smoke, I play swimming and cycling. I love animals, I have a dog and a kitten, which is my family. I turned 39 and as a normal man I need a family, children to which I can devote myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm not lonely, I have friendly relationships with women, I'm wanted by females, but in most cases it's only when they need advice, to complain or cry to someone or need help, because according to them, they can count on me for everything and I am so dear to them. But I like it, because I'm not to blame for the fact that over time spent in communication, my feelings have changed towards the object. And when it comes to an open conversation about a relationship, the answer is "I don't want to take risks because I won't forgive myself for losing you."
It is clear to me that this is complete nonsense, because if a woman wants to be with a man, nothing can stop her. Judging myself, I wonder if I'm ugly what's wrong with me. Last time I even asked the woman who turned from my best friend in life into everything for me and I gave so much of myself without asking for anything in return, what the hell is wrong with me, what I don't like about myself. The answer was that I was wonderful and there was nothing she didn't like about me and no one treated her like that, but she didn't want a relationship with me and went to Bai-ganyo after she broke my heart. I also left a car, an apartment, I don't want anything back when something came out of my heart. I know how to give because I am strong and positive. I know there are many decent men and women in this world, but why is my luck running away from me. I think the problem is in me, because from the very beginning I can't press the erotic pedal and create physical attraction, I radiate confidence, accuracy, responsibility and for me the word is the law. My physique is normal - a tight body, but something is missing. I'm tired of this attitude because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way. "You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you" and they go to Ganyo -bye. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem.
Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy. because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way '' You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you '' and they go to Ganyo-bai. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem. Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy. because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way '' You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you '' and they go to Ganyo-bai. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem. Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy.
1 hanna_bellen answered
I am a woman and I do not want a relationship with a man who gives a car and an apartment to any enchanted user. That one day you will leave your children hungry so that you can buy the love of a carousel. What you offer, you attract. Obviously you can't give them anything intangible. You are so poor, I feel sorry for you!