I Don't Want A Family And A Relationship, That's Why.

   There was a story of the psychologist Ani Vladimirova, which showed exactly your case. A child raised this way finds the same man as his father. Why? Because he subconsciously wants to repeat the script. I have a girlfriend who wants a man, but so far no worthy one has appeared. Is she top? No, it's not. Such are her perceptions and this has been beaten all her life by her mother. The problem is that you have already drawn the script, the problem is what you see and no matter how much you swear, tomorrow you will meet just such a candidate and fulfill your script. . It is good to make an appointment with a literate psychologist, believe me, mine was not literate, it did not suit me, but only after 3-4 meetings I saw the situation in a completely different shade. Things are not like that, models so programmed and coded in your mind are not like yours. You can not only avoid them but they are happy.

   You're just cowardly. I know many older people who are still together and inseparable, as if created for each other. But over time, I learned that this is not pure luck, and these relationships were built every day by two smart people. People like your boss are people who are afraid to admit that they need love. They close their true selves and put a mask on the partygoer and the broker. That way they can't be hurt. Apparently it is no coincidence that they say that love is for the brave.

   And so. A 34-year-old woman from the countryside, from a poor family, a late student in Sofia, fled abroad. I wanted financial independence. I did not want to be a single mother or a maid who was betrayed in Bulgaria. I want children. When I add 2 and 2, I have no money for a child, no faith in a man, nor can I count on the support of relatives for money / time. Who is to blame? Maybe ae, maybe politicians, maybe society. How can a person get married and have children in that country in this society? At least there would be a social policy for mothers.

   Author, I sympathize with you that your grandparents and your parents have set such a bad example for you, but this is not the case with many people - they have stable and happy families. Create such a family and break this bad family tradition. Show them that you can do it another way. If you start with such an attitude, you will have the chance to create a close-knit family. It is true that family life is a difficult thing, especially in our conditions, but there are also many happy moments in it. Do not deprive yourself of the joy of having children and a partner with whom to support each other. Many "pieces" will bring you some temporary joy, but they will not fill your soul. And I have close people who divorced and harassed their son, who still goes their way and will not hear about family. I'm sorry my husband and I didn't watch it in time, when his parents divorced and he witnessed all the ugly scenes between them, but he was small. Unfortunately, at that time we had neither our own home nor financial means and there was no way to help a good child that his parents did not think about at all. Do not allow yourself to be left alone in old age, without any close people. Now you have grandparents around you, parents - albeit divorced. But one day, when they are gone and you are completely alone, be sure that you will regret it. I wish you success - I hope you have a stable partner and family one day! without any close people. Now you have grandparents around you, parents - albeit divorced. But one day, when they are gone and you are completely alone, be sure that you will regret it. I wish you success - I hope you have a stable partner and family one day! without any close people. Now you have grandparents around you, parents - albeit divorced. But one day, when they are gone and you are completely alone, be sure that you will regret it. I wish you success - I hope you have a stable partner and family one day!

   3, what does "I have no faith in a man" mean? you may not have faith in Ivancho, but it does not follow that Petarcho does not deserve to be trusted. I am very interested in such summaries of men in general. and what about women, do they deserve faith? author, the described life with many numbers brings temporary satisfaction. surely none of the boss's chicks care about him, they look at him like a walking wallet. if he gets sick or goes bankrupt tomorrow, will anyone think of him? if you like to be seen as an ATM, drive like that day in and day out.

   1 - your boss ask him after a few years squatting, how "happy" he is. Because now it's easy to hide that he isn't, but if he dies alone as a dog, he won't be able to hide it. Mityo Pishtova and he were very "happy" handing it out, but then he cried like a firstborn in front of the whole of Bulgaria in an interview about how he was ill, they performed an operation on him, and there was no one to look at him, incl. and his own son. So who would look at you, dude? When you were OK, you eat and drink with whores and don't shave anyone for nothing, then squatting down why no one looked at him. So who will look at you? Are you whores? If you want to be so "happy" and die alone like a dog, go ahead. But at least your boss has money and has sex, no matter how emotionally lonely he is. And you don't have money and you won't even have that much sex. So don't think that being alone will make you happier. Until you learn to be happy, you will not be happy, whether you are single, married or with whores. 2 - in your family it happened because your grandparents were unconscious and could not maintain a long relationship. The bad thing is that through example and upbringing this is inadvertently passed on to future generations and so it becomes a family tradition. You have 2 options - to continue the tradition of unhappiness and stay single, unhappily married, or to realize and create a successful marriage. The second will be difficult, but if you succeed you will be happy not only you but also the next generations, because you will break the tradition. There is no guarantee that you will succeed, but at least you will try. The other option is simply to be unhappy all your life and not try to fix anything. Because the lack of marriage is not a solution and will not help you to be happier. I guess on holidays you will not be happy for all your acquaintances to go home to their families, and you will not even have anyone to celebrate with and you will have to be alone or intrude on the family of a friend of yours. Because from my sets, which are now lonely at 30-40, this is exactly what happens. They explain how "happy" they are on their own, but they don't even trust themselves. It's just ridiculous how they convince you of something they don't believe.

   And when you drop this topic, what? Do you want to get support or do we want to change your mind, what exactly? The fact is that there are many divorces. This comes from weak men mainly. As your boss - 50 years old with irresponsible behavior as a teenager. These are cowardly and weak "men". Accordingly, they find cowardly and weak "women" - various juvenile leagues, for temporary use. These are not human relationships, but animal ones. You decide for yourself, you are not guided by conformism. Seeing failing relationships and promiscuity around you, you may decide to be more responsible and build a stable relationship. On the other hand, you can see stable relationships and tell yourself that you want promiscuity. You decide for yourself, bro. He is not guided by his boss or his parents and relatives.

   You are still very young, you may meet a partner, have a relationship and be happy, marriage is not mandatory. Like any young boy, you are deceived by looking at your boss with money and women, but remember - not everything is as it seems. You are the third generation now and it may be different for you. But when you don't want to - don't get married, live as you want and be happy

   Instead of inflating the heads of people who do not want to settle down - you better go and take into account some infidel family - there will at least be more meaning than your speeches, and the infidels themselves will deserve them! And as long as with this argument 'you will die alone'. No one knows and cannot predict how and when he will die, especially if he will have someone by his side. There are many examples of people who have been domesticated and yet die on their own. They even grow old for many years on their own, and their children visit them once a year, some of them don't even go that much, and their children's halves secretly hope that the 'old man' will crack sooner to release the property ... and no more money (for medicines) to be spent on him / her, because this old man is a relative, but not a family, because only the parents and their children are from the family, and the elderly are just a burden and an unnecessary expense. Well, that's what a lot of people think, who otherwise raise the idea of ​​a family on a pedestal on a massive scale ... and make every effort to put psycho-attacks on people who don't want to settle down 'you'll be left alone in old age, that's very bad' .. .

   If you don't want to, you don't want to. Nobody is forcing you. But why do you feel the need to let us know and enlighten us with your thoughts? Think about it. And it's best to visit a psychologist to help you get rid of the past and live happily in harmony with yourself - whether you have a relationship or not. F 30

   I am not the author, but I will answer 10 - because when someone says he does not want a commitment (the first time usually someone else has started a conversation in this direction) and an intervention, dissuasion, some lectures, some criticism, some psycho-attacks, some predictions of who, how and with whom would die, because he was not bound, etc. But no continuity and understanding of man. The strange thing is that there is much more continuity and understanding towards infidels than about us people who do not want commitment. At least that's what I say on the side. Those who cheat, why doesn't someone ask them: 'Why are you informing us that you are cheating' ... Well, they want it like us - continuity and understanding. But I think we deserve it much more than they do, because at least we're not lying to anyone.

   I'm 20 and I've also thought about it because my parents are separated. And I found the answer ... After a lot of thinking. I grew up with a lot of dramas and intrigues caused by IMMORAL AND PEOPLE WITHOUT VALUES. That is, I have to learn from myself where I can on them and most importantly to learn to see them in people. It is flattened, but if you manage to unfold it you will look at the world with new eyes ^^ I wish you truth and wisdom with all my heart.

   2, if my boss was cowardly, the chicks wouldn't stick to him like flies ... women hate cowards. 7 and 10 - I post the topic to share and hear your opinion, that's why the site is ... a big question, there is nothing - "why are you posting the topic" ... let me all keep quiet and no one should write. 7 and I will tell you the same as 2 - women hate cowards, so if my boss was coward there would be no women around him all the time. To the others - you say that I will be unhappy if I am alone ... yes, but I am witnessing the exact opposite - family people are constantly arguing, cheating on each other and are very unhappy.

   13, your boss is released because of the money, and you don't have any.

   14, he is not rich at all ... he wears T-shirts for 15 leva and shoes for 20. There are no expensive things - no expensive car, no expensive phone.

   13, you only see this because it has been charged to you since you were a child. This phenomenon is described in psychology. When something is stuffed in your head and you start to notice only the examples that confirm what is stuffed in you and subconsciously ignore what contradicts what is stuffed. And all to confirm for yourself that what is charged is true, because otherwise if you have to refute yourself, there is confusion and discomfort. It's just a convenience. You know something and you "notice" only that and you confirm it yourself. For example, I notice the exact opposite - namely, that lonely people are super unhappy, no matter how hard they try to hide it. Whores are a good thing, but they get bored too. When you're young, ahu-ihu, life is a song - OK, but when you start to settle down, things start to look different and whores don't make you happy anymore. Marriage is the greatest happiness of anyone who wants to tell me anything. Another issue is that people just don't know how to build one and start cursing marriage in general or man, but they don't admit that they just don't know how to maintain it. It's just that your parents haven't been able to build it, not that marriage is generally naughty. 15, it is not necessary to dress expensively, just women know it, there are rumors, talk to each other, etc. And paid women don't look at what you're wearing, but how much you drink and what you buy them. Just don't tell me he doesn't drink them and they let him go because of his black eyes. not that marriage is generally naughty. 15, it is not necessary to dress expensively, just women know it, there are rumors, talk to each other, etc. And paid women don't look at what you're wearing, but how much you drink and what you buy them. Just don't tell me he doesn't drink them and they let him go because of his black eyes. not that marriage is generally naughty. 15, it is not necessary to dress expensively, just women know it, there are rumors, talk to each other, etc. And paid women don't look at what you're wearing, but how much you drink and what you buy them. Just don't tell me he doesn't drink them and they let him go because of his black eyes.

   16, why do you call them "whores"? I don't know if you're a woman, but if so, double the standard. So when a woman walks left and right - "we are free, we will do what we want, my body is" and so on. And when a man says he doesn't want a commitment - "wow, then you're a whore." No, I don't go after whores, I go after "free women who do what they want" :) It's not about the money, they say he's a good lover, but I wasn't interested because I'm not a homosexual.

   16, well, obviously you somehow managed to get in your head that lonely people are super unhappy, and the tied ones are not. It's not just you, but most people obviously. Maybe that's why there are so many unhappy relationships, infidelities, lies and dramas between people involved. Everyone pushes to commit, ostensibly because this is the model of happiness, but in the end few are really happy, albeit committed. If you are one of those few - well done, great. Otherwise, I definitely do not advise the author to draw a conclusion for himself based on his observations of an uncle (his boss) and indeed whores know how to smell such uncles, even if they are wearing a T-shirt of clothes per kilogram. However, not every person is arranged for marriage and commitment, and this neither makes him a little normal, nor less worthy of respect, nor bad, etc. negatives.

   18, that's right, but the truth is somewhere in the middle.

   Better alone than badly accompanied. But better well accompanied than alone. To commit for the sake of commitment and fear of loneliness is, to put it mildly, stupid. In my opinion, when you meet the right person for you, bonding with him is the smartest thing you can do. Because you will no longer be lonely (not ALONE, but LONELY) in this already difficult life.

   Dude, divorces come about for several reasons, such as the wrong choice of partner, putting one's own interests above everything, lack of compromise and refusal to consider partners with each other, and also some people are simply not for marriage. This is not inevitable as you think, the bad thing is that this is exactly what is stuck in your head. As you were told, good relationships are built and maintained every day in order to be such, and for this purpose it is necessary for both of them to make efforts in this direction. When you don't like not getting married, try to live like your boss. Keep in mind, however, that when the money runs out and the years accumulate, all these whores will evaporate, and your boss will become a pathetic picture. You are still young and you have not seen much of life, but I have seen enough of such people graduating. After a certain age (somewhere over 50, maybe around 60) these people start to realize that they have wasted their lives and then you can see a lot of drama around them. After all, your life is yours and you can live it as you like. However, do not expect to receive approval or applause for your insights, because they apply to too few people, not all as you think.

   Author, You didn't understand me correctly. Not because of the readers, I asked you why you are releasing the topic, but to focus on yourself. To answer for yourself what provoked you. Not to tell us, but to turn to your inner world. Number 10 - F 30

   21, they are a lot of people somewhere over 50 with the feeling that they have wasted their lives, then this is a kind of age crisis ... what was going on there on average. And the interesting thing is that most often they suffer because they did not follow their dreams, did not try to do something bolder and more interesting with their lives, but spent it in a routine, following the expectations of the local society, in order to receive one dirty approval. And you can see a lot of dramas around them, but in their homes, in their 'healthy families', which dramas are of course carefully covered up, of course not like someone's uncle-coin, which in fact I also do not approve, and if you are from a generation with him - most likely you and he are quite similar in temperament, just with him some things are suppressed, others more - developed, and with you the opposite, of course. But the Diet is shit.

   Author, it is normal to be disappointed and with shaken trust in marriage, but things are not exactly as they seem. First, there are many people who love each other, do not cheat on each other and live happily ever after. Secondly, the fact that everyone around you is divorced or with a thousand connections, means that you urgently need to change your environment. In such an environment you can not meet a normal woman and you will constantly have a negative attitude towards marriage and relationships. I didn't believe such stories before, but they turned out to be true. I had a period when I considered all women to be light and muffins. I had started looking for only pieces and easy sex. My faith in love had evaporated. At one point, however, the Lord took pity on me and showed me that I was not right at all. He showed me really normal and responsible women enjoying family happiness. At first I couldn't even believe it. Then I felt super stupid and bitterly regretted wasting so much time in false illusions. As for your boss - don't envy him at all. I'm sure he's not happy at all. He has sex but no love. I have been in such a situation and I assure you that there is no happiness in it. On the contrary, there is a huge, empty hole in which you sink more and more. Look for a decent girl and you will see life from a completely different angle.

   21, I can't think what will happen to me when I turn 60 ... wait a minute, tomorrow a car could hit me and kill me, people die every day in such ridiculous ways, and you make me think what would happen happens after 40 years ... come on, this is not serious. I can think at most for 10-20 years ahead, and without that from the age of 40 a person grows old and is no longer the same, that job stops working for you, etc. (Well, there are exceptions like my boss, but these are exceptions).

   Reading the comments, I see that the voice of common sense is almost non-existent here. And it doesn't seem to make sense in such forums. There is only day-to-day thinking here, not for a longer period of time, as is the case in our entire country. An underestimation and disrespect for the family, which is the basis of society - as the family, so is society. Author, there are two types of people: smart and stupid. The wise learn from the mistakes of others, and the foolish from their own mistakes. And until the fools get smarter, learning from their own mistakes, life has come to an end. I wish the author and all the participants here to learn from the mistakes of others, not their own, and to have more stable families and a better life! I wish them with all my heart! Every one of our harassed people deserves it!

   Man, his boss may not be rich, but he's free with his money. Why do you think you often see him with 18-20 year olds? Because they are young, beautiful, free and "he eats lamb"? Yes - And because of that, but also because only a girl would be impressed by her uncle paying for his coffee. A beautiful, young, single and experienced 30-year-old woman (or some sensible divorced lady with a child / children) just wouldn't be tied to a guy like your boss. They are a high target. For him, it is the experienced girls or the desperate middle-aged and over-middle-aged women. This in the general case. There are always exceptions, and man is not static. Things are changing. Number 10 - F 30

   There is research on the subject, easy and simple. https://ifstudies.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/IFSMenandMarriageResearchBrief2.pdf 40% of married men say they are happy with their lives. 20% of unmarried people say the same. So much. Statistics are this, research. Ie almost every second married man is happy, unlike one in five for the unmarried.

   They are very funny to me, like the author, who did not know what would happen to them in n years and therefore live day by day. My mother and father the same. They spend 2 days here all their lives, they spend 2 days there. They have no insurance, they eat, drink, today they have BGN 5, they spend them and do not think about tomorrow. I told them that this was not the case and that they should think a little about their old age, that they would not be forever young. They laughed at me and, like this author, argued that there was no point in thinking so far ahead and that they would burst anyway and why think. Well, yes, but years have passed, life has rolled away, the traitor is gone, there was no more work, because they turned 60 and no one wants them, and they are super irresponsible and alcoholics. There was no one to rely on, because their own relatives played irresponsibly, and even then they had no trouble, right, life is life was everything. And now they writhe like dogs and do not have BGN 5 in their pocket. And they pray to this and that for a slice of bread. But I will not help them either, because when I was little and we had BGN 10 to eat, my father then went and bought beers with them, because beers were more important than not staying hungry, incl. and I, where I was a child. Let everyone be responsible. And people like the author will see them as the skin. And his boss will see him only after 10 years. But the author will not have the courage to admit and come here to write the truth. Now that you are young and strong, everyone is a kurnaz, but then it becomes a pathetic picture. You are very naive, author, very much. But I justify you, because that's how they raised you, since everyone in your family has 3 wives and lived day by day. When you are impressed by the miserable life of your boss, it becomes clear to me how much your upbringing is. And they pray to this and that for a slice of bread. 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   29, I'm sorry to tell you, but I'm honest and straightforward - 18-20 year olds are more beautiful, tighter and prettier, they even smell better than 30 year olds and older. And men are most impressed by this - beauty and youth. These are the main qualities of a woman. As women look at a man mostly courage, leadership, money, career - are we not judging you? When women start liking bums, then we will start liking ugly and old ones. At 30 you're not old, but you're far from young and you're entering middle age ... I'm sorry to tell you, but it's true. Imagine a male general worker with a salary of BGN 500 - the same as a 40-year-old woman. 31, a miserable life of a man whose smile does not fall from his face ... I imagine what a happy life should be like then! I didn't say I was thinking day in and day out, but even if I think about in 40 years ... that's enough. The truth is in the middle. Come on, as long as you love me for happy families, every day someone here posts a topic about how they cheat or they cheat on him, and you talk to me about happy families, come on! It is impudence and hypocrisy, but it is too much.

   "Come on, as long as you love me for happy families, every day someone here posts a topic about how they cheat or cheat on him, and you talk to me about happy families, come on! That's rudeness and hypocrisy, but that's too much." We who are with happy families to post topics, are we happy? Of course, they will post topics that are not happy. What's the point of posting the topic "I'm very happy with my wife". Another proof that you have eyes only for the things that confirm your thesis. Porsto does not want to accept that there are happy people with happy marriages. Not bad, but you lose. As you are so "happy" yourself, why did you post the topic at all. Be alone and that's it. But I still think you're not so happy yourself, but you're trying to make the marriage even more unhappy to make you feel that you have chosen the lesser evil. And to feel at least a little satisfaction. Come on, put your hand on your heart and say you're super happy alone. Say it wouldn't be great if you had someone to really love and trust and support. Say that marriage does not depend on whether you make it good for yourself and that it absolutely always fails. If you say that, then you are lying to yourself and you are blind to the truth. Judging by your post, you are not happy alone at all. And you didn't write that even light women lined up with you. And what do you have left? To beat legs and from time to time when you manage to set aside some money from the salary to go to a companion. And without any love and emotional support for life. Fortunately, I envied you. And as for your boss's smile, there are people who just pretend to be happy.

   32, I'm not 29, but I'm direct :) The same goes for us women. Another is a young man of about 25, however, this applies to sex. And we prefer a young, tight, fragrant "spring / lamb" don't think that only men are concerned. For a relationship, however ... we look more than This, common sense is involved here. And for the future, and then people like you (way of thinking) roar from the sites that women do not staff you - well, it is clear and simple why! The answer is in your comment!

   34, I'm 33 and I would say the same. The women of 18 smelled and I don't know what. This is pure consumerism. When you love a person, his scent is not the most important thing. Well, the author claims that love is nothing and we just have to sleep with this and that like his boss and this should be some kind of supreme happiness. Okay, let's assume this is true, although only a very unconscious person can accept this as true, but let's say it's true. In this case, the question is already how many women a week the author sleeps with. Because the post says about his boss, but nothing about him. And even if happiness is in the many young women, what good is it for the author, since he has neither the money nor the courage there, or what was wrong with his boss. Because it wasn't because of the money, but because he was a very big "dude" - there was a brave, smart, cheerful, confident and don't know what's best. So which of all these things is the author to attract a different 18-year-old whore every night to be happy? Because I don't see who will be tied to him, and if he wants to be 50, not 18. If they don't tie 5 18-year-olds a week to him, I don't see any sense in a discussion here. Unless, for him, beating checks is a great happiness.

   Again, what is the purpose of the topic, author? Do you want advice or are you trying to impose your opinion? I have a family and I'm happy about that fact because I like it that way, not because of any expectations of society or some people there. I will tell you something from personal experience when I was 20-22 years old and I was very pleased with this way of life - pubs, discos, alcohol, going out with companies, friends .... However, the student years passed, work began, serious girlfriend and things were no longer so. After 5 years of relationship and separation, I was left alone and started the same way again, only it wasn't the same. Already at the age of 27-8, alcohol, pubs, disco bars, countless outings, but you come home alone like a dog, wake up in the morning with a headache and face your own loneliness. Whores, it's true with them in the beginning, sex without any responsibilities, however, knowing that yesterday she was with another, today she is with you, and tomorrow with a third just for * bi. After more than a year of living in this way, I found a decent girl, with whom I am still today, and I can say that I am happy. Sometimes when I get tired of my family and work responsibilities, I miss that carefree time, but I would never go back there. People like you often come to this conclusion too, but when it's too late. Otherwise, as I told you, your life is yours and live it as you please. However, there are things that if you miss now, years later, you just don't want to ..... from n.21 Sometimes when I get tired of my family and work responsibilities, I miss that carefree time, but I would never go back there. People like you often come to this conclusion too, but when it's too late. Otherwise, as I told you, your life is yours and live it as you please. However, there are things that if you miss now, years later, you just don't want to ..... from n.21 Sometimes when I get tired of my family and work responsibilities, I miss that carefree time, but I would never go back there. People like you often come to this conclusion too, but when it's too late. Otherwise, as I told you, your life is yours and live it as you please. However, there are things that if you miss now, years later, you just don't want to ..... from n.21

   32, That they are tighter - they are tighter! There is no dispute! Especially if the 30-year-old gave birth. With a good gene and maintenance, however, up to 30 there are almost no changes. If you want, believe me, if you want, don't - I don't care, but 2 years ago, when I bought alcohol, they asked me if I was 18! Ha ha! How do I tell them I'm 10 on top ?! Not to mention how many young boys fall for mature ladies. You say what you want, we women know who and what offers us. But it's all a matter of taste, of course! Men and their preferences are far from the same! However, this for the scent killed me! :) I will not comment on it, because it is simply unnecessary. :) So we talked about the body. Body, body, but the pleasure is in the overall contact. It is no coincidence that there was comprehensive training for geishas. And some things that a 30-year-old can give you that a 40-year-old and a 20-year-old can't give you, because he is still learning. By the way, since I was a teenager I thought that women around 30 (/ - a little) are the sexiest. Look - if your goal is shoved and bye - true, it doesn't matter! :) And in the end, don't think that you don't grow old either. And your body at 40-45 is not like a 25-30 year old man. And we see it too. Number 29

   Yeah, you started with personal attacks, even though I didn't allow myself to offend anyone. When I catch a chick we usually see each other several times a week for sex, and so a month or two, after a while I change her with another. She gets the same as me - sex, no damage or injury. I spend most of my time at work, what more could I want? That's enough for me and I'm happy with myself, I'm not captivated by the thought of taking off chicks. Aloo, the commentators, I said that I do not want to get married, not that I will set a record for the most numbers. I gave my boss as an example in this regard because he is the typical countman.

   I personally will not deny that there are many beautiful people among 18-year-olds, but it's really up to the gene, not so much to the years! A person who has really good genes, with very little effort, looks great at 18, 30 and 50, even later. But in general, about 30 people are the coolest in my opinion, if we are talking about the 21st century and of course the urban type of people, because they are already independent people, if they have developed normally, of course, no longer have influence from their parents for this and that , which in many cases is super harmful and most importantly - have the money to maintain their appearance.

   38, well, after you're super happy and I ask what was the point of the topic? A. Convince us how happy you are so If you were happy, you would hardly see the point of writing here. B. To convince us that marriage is nonsense and in 100% of cases brings unhappiness, and its absence necessarily brings happiness. At least you can't convince me of that, because I myself am happily married, and I am surrounded by such. Tell me how to believe you? C. To ask for advice. Obviously you don't want one. So what's the point, you say? The very fact that you are writing here means that something in you is bothering you and something is not OK with your life. Just don't tell me you're just writing to clarify things in life, because I won't believe you. One does not write just like that.

   Number 37, what nonsense did you say ?! I am a man of 47 and my best sex was years ago with a 20-year-old Russian woman, and I still remember it. I had a corpse in bed with a 30-year-old woman, I felt like a necrophiliac and I fell. Nothing depends on age, but on passion ... we understood that you are 30, but don't be mean to young women! No one is to blame for you getting older ... and don't forget that girls in their 20s already have more numbers than women in their 50s.

   40 - The site is called Share. Everyone is given the right to share whatever they want, be it good or bad. Not everyone wants advice and opinion.

   Thanks to number 40. I support.

   Absolutely agree with Number 40. My thoughts 1: 1. Yes, the author will deny to himself (in the first place) and to us (as a consequence and self-belief) the words of 40, but this will not change the facts. No way! And the very fact that it "binds" to the comments is another proof of the words of 40. Author, as I told you above - do not answer us. This will neither warm us nor change our lives and views. Look for the answers for yourself. In good faith - seek the services of a psychotherapist. Really. Number 10 - F 30

   "Come on now, add 2 and 2 and tell me - which is better ??? And if I have at least 2 brain cells, which lifestyle will I choose?" Come on, now correct your spelling and explain what exactly you are asking !? "WHO'S BETTER ???" Who is the "who" in your question? The boss - the countman and WHO else do we compare? You have described ONLY one way of life, with what other way do we compare it !?

   "And as long as this argument is 'you will die alone.' No one knows and can predict how and when he will die, especially whether there will be anyone next to him. they die alone. ”Correct! You love math, and you have more than 2 brain cells! Well, to harness them with a slightly more difficult task: What is the PROBABILITY of a person with a family and children to die alone and what is it like for a person who has never had a family! ?? Only I doubt you can answer, obviously SEVERAL (maximum dozens) examples around you are more decisive than the STATISTICS (quoted by another commenter here), based on a much larger statistical sample .... Well, a matter of brain cells is this comparison ...

   Author, you have 2 problems. The first is that you confuse the cause with the consequence and draw wrong conclusions from it. Marriage / celibacy is not a cause of (un) happiness, quite the opposite. If a person has not learned to be happy on his own, then there is no marriage in the world that can make him so. In your family, you simply have not learned to be happy, and quite naturally this has reflected on marriages. Why do you see marriage / celibacy as a cause of (un) happiness? I don't know why many like you think that marriage / celibacy is a miracle pill for happiness. Your happiness depends on yourself. Your second problem. You don't want a serious relationship, not because you don't need one at first, but because your parents traumatized you with their quarrels, because your boss was happy with the whores, or as he called them, and because the LITTLE (as he said, but you made a general conclusion from a young age) family members you know were unhappy (if you didn't need a relationship, you wouldn't look at all who was happy and who wasn't, you would just know you didn't want one). Yes, but you yourself said that you did not have a serious relationship and you do not know this from personal experience. You really don't know how a serious relationship would affect you. It's just that your parents have traumatized you, and now you're afraid to go through the whole circus, as you call it. Ie you don't want a relationship out of fear, not that you don't need it. But the fact that your boss is "happy", why do you think he is clinging to celibacy? Maybe a person is happy at first. And why do you think that since he is happy, you will be like that, since you have not tried and have no experience with a relationship? You say that people get married because it is so ingrained in them by society. Well, you're the same - you don't want a relationship, because your boss does this, your parents do that, and you don't really know from experience how you would feel and whether your expectations for divorce will really be confirmed. And of course, after you have been traumatized, you have looked for enough examples among your acquaintances to confirm your own thesis and convince yourself that you will be so happy. Or the other option is just to be in a nasty environment, because my observations are exactly the opposite of yours. So it is not true that all families are unhappy, but it is a matter of consciousness and environment. But you are right about one thing. You will not be happy in a relationship, but not because relationships are bad at first, but because you yourself have not heard that you are happy and build a relationship, which is understandable given your family environment since childhood. You just made the wrong conclusion. And I don't blame you, I understand how hurt you are and I realize how painful it is for parents to fight all the time. But why do you lie to yourself and not admit the real reasons? Look, it's not bad to be alone if you're happy. But you really aren't and I don't see the point in lying to yourself. You are just traumatized by a child and you were afraid of ending up like yours if you get married one day. At least be aware that you do not want fear and trauma, not happiness. Because for miles you can see that you are not happy and I do not know why you are trying to convince us otherwise. I don't know if you don't want to admit it to yourself or if it will be easier if people think you are happy. By the way, your boss plays a big role with his artificial smile and, like you, he doesn't want to admit to himself that he is unhappy and wants to convince the world that he is super happy with schoolgirls with whom he has nothing real to say. That's why you're so impressed with him, simply because you recognize yourself in him, namely that you hide from yourself how much you are hurt by parents / relationships. Your boss, I'm sure he either had a nasty family as a child, or was severely injured by a woman and now "proves" to himself and the world how "he doesn't care" and how "happy" he is. A smile does not mean that deep in his soul he does not feel pain. But because you also hide pain and recognize yourself, you do not want to understand it and admit it on a subconscious level. If you don't learn to be happy, at least be honest with yourself. You can't convince us because it's obvious for miles. But at least don't lie to yourself. In psychology, this is called a compensatory mechanism. Ie you subconsciously spare yourself by not acknowledging the truth. BUT unfortunately that doesn't change her,

   By the way, I will allow myself to publish a video from TED TALKS with bg subs, where it tells about the longest (decades) and large-scale study of happiness, health and life expectancy. I don't want to convince anyone of anything. I just think it will be interesting for everyone to draw their own conclusions. I will only add that according to the study, lonely people like the author and his boss start to age faster, get sick more, die earlier and are more unhappy. And loneliness is the main factor in these things. And unlike the author's "study" with "not many people who are more than 30-40 and are married", this is a little bigger.

   Well no. I'm sick. I will not answer you again. I will take a T-shirt for BGN 15 and go to work. Wooden philosophers. Turkish delight extenders.

   Number 41, Where did you see me getting angry with young women? I'm just saying they have to learn and gain experience. In every way! I'm not just talking about sex. Like I have to study. You, too. And everyone! But everyone understands the words of others, based on their "nailed nails". It's fun to read other people's interpretations of my own words. They talk more about the person who interprets them than about me. It's really interesting! :) Number 37

   And the funniest thing for me is when someone tells me I'm old or I'm getting old. It's very interesting! :) But. 37

   "I won't answer you anymore" So, how can you answer when you can't tell what the point was? I'll tell you - to say "yes, dude, all marriages are shit and make people unhappy", to calm your own conscience. And seeing that no one agrees with you, "I will not answer you any more," because your beliefs have been shared by no one. Admit that there are people who are happy in their marriages, which is contrary to the beliefs instilled in you as a child. Life is not just black and white, author. And until you realize it, only you lose. The fact that yours have quarreled and your boss has failed to keep a decent woman by his side does not mean that there are no happy marriages. Open your eyes a little.